Rafael Thundercat

Right now, rape culture is being exposed. Your body holds an accurate awareness of the violence and the blame placed on women who report sexual assault, but your mind probably rarely lets you acknowledge it until, of course, something exposes it the way this case is doing now. If you can't stop reading about Cornell, it's because this case has made rape culture impossible to deny. Every woman lives with her body under threat, and most of the time we manage by pretending otherwise, pushing that knowledge far enough away to get on with our lives. We have to, or else a lot of us would be paralysed in a trauma response all day long. Right now, many of us can't push it away. The phrase rape culture came out of American feminist organising in the 1970s. In 1993 the editors of Transforming a Rape Culture defined it as "a complex of beliefs that encourages male sexual aggression and supports violence against women." Since the psychologist Martha Burt began measuring them in 1980, researchers have called those beliefs rape myths. Most of us grew up hearing them as common sense, such as the idea that a woman who drank too much was asking for it, or that a woman who didn't fight back must have wanted it. Every one of those beliefs places the blame for rape on what a woman did with her body, so rape culture teaches women to manage their bodies as if their safety depended on it. It also leaves us less safe, because men who share these beliefs face fewer consequences, and women who are assaulted start doubting themselves before anyone else has the chance. Girls learn these rules years before they have words for them, and by adulthood the rules have become part of how a woman moves, which is how rape culture comes to live in the body. Rape culture is mostly made of assumptions that people would never say out loud, which is part of why women find it so hard to name. But in a case like this one, those assumptions appear in text messages and legal filings, and they read as bluntly as women have always suspected. Rape culture puts forward the belief that her body doesn't belong to her and that her no is meaningless in comparison to his desires. Women have always known this belief was there, even when nobody said it, and we have organised our lives around it. We watch our drinks, and we share our location with a friend before a first date. The sociologist Fiona Vera-Gray calls this safety work, the effort, much of it habitual, that women put into never becoming the woman who can no longer say no. Because we've done it since we were girls, most of us file it under being sensible. Then a story like this one puts that threat into plain language, with names and a screenshot of the group chat. After years of bracing, you finally have the thing in front of you, written down. That's usually when the anger comes, often with a need to keep reading that you can't quite explain to anyone. Many of us feel it because it has happened to us. The CDC's latest national survey found that 45.1 per cent of American women have experienced contact sexual violence in their lifetimes, and 21 per cent have experienced completed or attempted rape. For a lot of the women reading about Cornell, this goes beyond a somatic reckoning with rape culture. It brings back their own experiences of violence and violation, experiences that never received justice either. By @AileyJolie

Some points brougth up by Toi Smith, @toimarie on IG Patriarchy lacks an ethos of love and care. It does not socialize men to tend, be transparent, anticipate, be accountable, repair, or show deep regard for women as full subjects rather than resources. Women struggle to receive these things from men every day inside monogamous relationships. So I remain underwhelmed by the idea that expanding a man's access to more women is, in itself, particularly liberatory. Patriarchy has never had much of a problem with men having access to multiple women. Of course, what makes ethical non-monogamy different is that everyone is consenting, and that matters. But consent isn't enough for me because it doesn't undo our socialization inside patriarchy. It doesn't erase what men have been taught to expect from women, what women have been taught to accommodate from men, or the relationships to power, care, and entitlement that we carry with us. We can change the agreement and change the structure. We can make the whole thing consensual, but that doesn't necessarily change the people entering it. And I'm far more interested in whether men have interrogated the patriarchal man they bring into relationships than I am in how radical the relationship structure appears to be. I was going to say that most men haven't done the work required to be in responsible, caring relationships with multiple women. But actually I think it begins further upstream than that. Most men haven't developed a sufficient analysis of their own formation inside patriarchy, particularly in the intimate and relational realm, to even recognize what the work is, let alone begin doing it. And we know this because so many men struggle to develop the transparency, accountability, tending, reciprocity and standard of care required to be in relationship with just one woman.

This is good "Your brain created a God". No. God is hallucinating your brain. "The danger is your brain created the god and you forget that your brain created the god." No. God created your brain and you forget that you are God"

From my part I will be posting the words of many woman on the topic. " It's wild to me how much work & investment the women in my life put toward nervous system healing to feel more safe But who TF is working to make the actual world we live in more safe for women? Where are the Protectors we keep hearing about? When I look around, I see mainly women protecting & providing. And most men in timid submission. The burden of healing (and often outright blame) is on individual women, When the problem that creates the need for this healing is SYSTEMIC. Just witnessing the news of the Cornell 7 is sending ripples through the feminine psyche and nervous system. We SEE all around us how rape is perpetuated, encouraged, and continually demonstrated as not worthy of justice. Colonizer consciousness - Take what you want, no matter how much harm it causes, even if it kills you in the end. That's what happens when we rape and pillage the feminine... from our Mother Earth, to individual bodies. No wonder some of the most AMAZING & beautiful in every way women I know are choosing to be single right now. We have to respect someone to be in true partnership. Real talk - I'd rather be alone literally forever than be with someone who wouldn't speak up and stand up. I need to respect & admire a man to be attracted to them, an unfortunate fact of life these days where too many people are numbed out, hyper individualistic, unwilling to be uncomfortable, and repressing emotion to toxic degrees. Men - can you imagine how it feels to walk around knowing in any given room, you may be in space with rapists, or the bystanders who would enable them? The way that taxes us body, mind, heart and Spirit? I was once at a retreat, chatting with 5 women, all diff ages and from diff places in the world. I was the only one who had not been raped. I've known several men who had been SA'd as children. All of them, by men. They never reported it, this is not reflected in statistics. What is the domino effect? White women - Now imagine the reality for women of colour. From slavery to residential schools to enforced marriages to ICE centers, WOC are less shocked by the news. We've been knowing. I pray for all victims of SA. I pray for the Souls of humanity. I pray for a new way - that actually honours Life, not as a concept, but through ACTION. I pray for our fire to awaken, so we draw the line and stand for what Humanity could really be. One Earth. One Family. To the men who do speak & stand - Thank you. You help heal my belief systems, you are living evidence of real masculinity, You are the real leaders in a world where many are playing make believe. To women & femmes who are hurting right now, Tend to your sweet systems, Call in the Divine Mother to nurture you, And don't suppress your rage. It is Holy Fire that burns illusion, and lights the way forward. From IG : @oath.oracle ---‐-------------------‐---☆☆☆☆☆

Some Israelis did the deconstruction work. An example that is possible to get out of a system to see the system for what it is or something like depropagandize oneself https://www.instagram.com/reel/DdMPynjuQqE/?stkn=MTU0YmticDQ0eGxqMQ==

I pit this one here because is a fiction book, but at same time it explore the topic of Romaticizing the past and the video explain how the story can be used as a way to see Bias

And Dan Koe Eden System made it even better to reverse Enginner using other Creators Content.

This one is a Retreat All about Anger Release. https://www.ashleyvelvetfrost.com/shop?ss_source=sscampaigns&ss_campaign_id=6abcd34d9b36612617f566c6&ss_email_id=6abcd6433614046d1036387a&ss_campaign_name=Going+inward+for+winter!+&ss_campaign_sent_date=2026-09-30T09%3A28%3A51Z Yes, the retreats are in Euro so I guess most of it happens in Europe. But also there are online Materials. Ashley Velvet Frost is someone worth following on this Topic.

I decided to open this since I keep finding many crazy retreats that even if I dont plan to do now, maybe some of you may have the money and time to do. i will start with the last one I found. Called Los Ninos. Maybe this one have a mix of Hippie Vibe and Paradise Escape. But one never know. I worked as part of a Retreat team so I can say that when Retreats are marketed there is always a little bit of turning all into magic, so people create a expectation. In the end what is deal with inside the retreat can be very sublte. If there is Breathwork, Meditation, Yoga involved there will be for sure transformation.

I dream with Alien words. Rare to happen but I ready got some that have no explanation in terms of earth reality.

That Thread would be a kink.

Reading all the comments above I think this video down here give some points

Still in the Empathy Thread. this is important for me because being to much empathizing to much is something I am dealing with.

Well, if you guys want a bit a Doomeritis and Melancholy here is it Something big is always about to come.

😂 Get Rich Quick

unless you use it intelligently

@Olaf https://www.instagram.com/reel/DdwQ-UuMkhU/?stkn=enZuZTIyNjdrbmZm

Yeah, keep the good delusion. You dont tell you have millions. You radiate it through your vibe when you have it. You behave different, you move different. Dont kid yourself

@BlessedLion good points.

On Empathy I think the Blog post is open for reflection. How much empathy you show can depend on whether you expect it to cost you something. Research on motivated empathy found that people regulate empathic effort based on perceived cost. Psychologist Jamil Zaki's research challenges the idea that empathy is a fixed trait some people have more of than others — people chose to avoid empathy-inducing situations when the cost felt too high, and leaned in when it felt manageable. Motivated Empathy: Empathy runs through active regulation, rather than an unlimited, automatic supply. It gets weighed against expected effort and expected payoff before it even fully engages. The brain's empathic-response regions are gated by prefrontal cost-benefit appraisal, a kind of upstream filter deciding how much engagement is worth allocating to the moment. This is why you can feel deeply empathetic with one friend and strangely distant with another going through something similar. It doesn't mean you actually care less about the second person. Someone avoids checking in on a friend going through a hard breakup, rather than from indifference, because part of them expects the conversation to be emotionally costly. The avoidance isn't coldness. It's cost-avoidance wearing a colder face than it deserves. People in caregiving roles — nurses, parents, therapists — often show reduced empathy over time. It's rarely because they've stopped caring. The perceived cost of full engagement has simply become unsustainable. Chronic high-cost empathizing without relief is one clear route to burnout. The system was never built to run at full engagement indefinitely. Lowering the perceived cost of empathizing, rather than forcing more empathy through sheer effort, is what actually restores engagement. Support, rest, and boundaries change the cost side of the equation more effectively than willpower does. Name the cost honestly before a hard conversation instead: "I want to be here for this, and I need ten minutes first." That beats pushing straight in while already running on empty. That honesty protects both people. It keeps you engaged instead of quietly checked out while technically present in the conversation. What you actually want is to show up for people without it costing you everything you have left. Sustainable empathy, rather than maximum empathy, is what actually keeps you present for the people who need you. ‐------------ Also, what if empathy could be seen with spectrums like any other trait. Of course it can reach God Love levels, what we know most of the humans cant reach, or lower levels where a being have no empathy or just say he dont care for it. I found this in my research: EMPATH ARCHETYPES Which one did your survival build? 1. THE OPEN EMPATH You feel the room before you feel yourself. You absorb moods, track every shift, and call it intuition. You give too much. You over-explain. You make yourself easier to bear. Your shadow: You call it empathy when it's really self-abandonment. You don't just read the room... you disappear into it, or get crushed by it. 2. THE EMBODIED EMPATH You can feel someone without becoming responsible for them. You recognize what's yours, what's theirs, and where you end. You don't need to rescue someone to prove you care. Your shadow: Boundaries can turn into armor. Discernment can turn into distance. You can become so committed to protecting your peace that no one is allowed close enough to disturb it. 3. THE SHADOW EMPATH You've lived through the fire and learned how fire moves. You recognize manipulation, power games, and the people who feed on access to others. You know how to disarm an energy vampire, expose a narcissistic dynamic, and hold your ground without begging to be understood. You're powerful because you can walk into the dark without losing your sight. You see what others avoid. You protect fiercely, confront cleanly, and refuse to let harm hide behind charm. With discernment comes the strongest shadow. You may be drawn to conflict, because the battle is where you feel strongest. Your hunger for justice can turn into punishment. You can crush someone while convincing yourself you're protecting everyone else. And when strength becomes your only language, loneliness follows. No one comes close, because no one feels strong enough to stand beside you. You know how to fight monsters, but your work is to remember that you don't have to fight alone. So, if everything is survival, empathy levels may be different depending of what certain people had to face during their development. Like @Emeraldsaid in another post about being stoic. I relate with that because when experiences we have may harden us for being empathizing with everyone, since it is energy draining and biologicaly, nervous system wise we may not have capacity to care about all suffering of everyone. Sometimes is just lack of capacity. --------- On Capacity: The deepest feelers don't need to learn how to feel less. But we do need the capacity to feel deeply without disappearing into everything we feel. Sensitivity without a deeply rooted connection to yourself can make every emotion, interaction, and change in someone else feel like something you must carry and experience inside of yourself. Emotional capacity isn't how much you can tolerate and carry before you finally collapse. And it isn't how many people's emotions you can hold while continuing to function. Capacity inside of sensitivity is your ability to remain in relationship with yourself while something moves through you. To feel deeply without automatically absorbing, merging, fixing, managing, pushing or abandoning yourself. When you're highly sensitive, you may notice the slightest shift in someone's voice. Feel tension before anyone names it. Sense disappointment, fear, or grief that isn't being spoken. Your attunement is probably absolutely extraordinary. But without energetic differentiation, what you perceive in another person can quickly become what you carry for them. Your sensitivity doesn't need to become smaller. It's not something to have shame around. But your relationship with yourself needs to become strong enough to remain present inside everything you feel. That way you can recognizing what is moving through you, but doesn't actually belong to you... I can feel you without becoming you. I can experience your disappointment without feeling like a disappointment. I can care deeply without carrying all your pain. I can stay connected to you without leaving myself behind. Still on Capacity in more nunaced and the complexity of it.

Society if Fakery and No Empathy no God are interesting to make a meta analysis. Reading both together and reflecting on the paradoxes between both. I am still in process of doing it. Using AI do built the argument, but recommend people here to contemplate and question personally. I mean, the writing is great, but still one can see some paradoxes.

Ironicaly this is a good Definition of the Undefined Nature of Everything.

Getting Annoyed with dogs barking help nothing in stop dogs barking. And if you complain that dogs are barking, now you are also barking, with more grammar but still barking, or Yaping.

" A bigoted Spirit denies its Unity with all the things it has demonized. An open Spirit sees that it is One with all things. The bigotry of science is just a recycling of the bigotry of religion, tribalism, and racism, but at a more subtle level. That bigotry never disappeared, it just evolved into science. Did you really think that bigotry would disappear after you realized religion is stupid? Of course not. Bigotry is a much deeper problem than religion. Of course scientific bigotry exists." Today I was listening with a friend a brasilian intelectual who do deep research on racism,sexism,classism. And the term stereotype came up. And them I linked with Bigotry and remembered that nature is energy efficient. So we all know the amount of energy we spend in self-reflection, and trying to unravel our bias constantly. It came to me that to be a bigot is easier, I need to be otherwise we would not have this among us. This part bellow I used Claude Racism The category (race) is highly visible and fast to process — skin color, features register in milliseconds, faster than most other social cues. That perceptual speed makes racial stereotyping especially "cheap" to deploy compared to slower-to-detect categories like religion or class background. Historically, racist paradigms also came pre-loaded with institutional scaffolding (segregation, colonial hierarchies, media tropes) — so the individual doesn't even have to build the stereotype themselves; it's inherited fully formed, which is even less effortful than constructing one from scratch. Dismantling it requires not just individuating a person you meet, but consciously working against a schema reinforced by decades of media, law, and inherited narrative — which is why anti-racist self-work tends to require sustained, structural learning, not a single insight. Sexism Gender categorization is even faster and more automatic than race in most cognitive-bias research — people sort by gender almost instantly and rarely question the category itself. Sexist heuristics often get an extra energy-saving boost because they're wrapped in "common sense" or pseudo-biological framing ("that's just how men/women are"), which feels like an observation rather than a bias, so it doesn't even trigger the self-reflection alarm. That's what makes it sticky in people who'd readily disavow other prejudices — the schema is camouflaged as description rather than judgment. Undoing it requires noticing the invisible baseline (e.g., "assertive man" vs. "bossy woman" — same behavior, different schema-triggered label). Classism Class is less visually instant than race or gender, so it leans more on secondary cues — accent, clothing, vocabulary, neighborhood, job title — which the brain still processes fast, but classism carries an additional psychological payoff: it lets people justify hierarchy as earned ("they didn't work hard enough") rather than structural. This is a particularly efficient shortcut because it resolves a potentially guilt-inducing question (why do some people have less?) with a low-effort just-world narrative, protecting the perceiver's sense that the system — and their own position in it — is fair. Dismantling classism therefore requires not just correcting a perception of a person, but revising a belief about the fairness of the whole system, which is a bigger identity/worldview cost than correcting a single stereotype. The common thread In all three, the "energy saved" isn't just perceptual (fast categorization) — it's also moral labor avoided: not having to sit with complexity, structural guilt, or the discomfort of revising a story about who deserves what. That's why surface-level awareness ("I know stereotypes are bad") is cheap and common, while the deeper work — noticing your own automatic reactions in real time, tracing them to inherited paradigms, and tolerating the discomfort of updating — is rare and effortful.

This one here is actualized