Rafael Thundercat

Right now, rape culture is being exposed. Your body holds an accurate awareness of the violence and the blame placed on women who report sexual assault, but your mind probably rarely lets you acknowledge it until, of course, something exposes it the way this case is doing now. If you can't stop reading about Cornell, it's because this case has made rape culture impossible to deny. Every woman lives with her body under threat, and most of the time we manage by pretending otherwise, pushing that knowledge far enough away to get on with our lives. We have to, or else a lot of us would be paralysed in a trauma response all day long. Right now, many of us can't push it away. The phrase rape culture came out of American feminist organising in the 1970s. In 1993 the editors of Transforming a Rape Culture defined it as "a complex of beliefs that encourages male sexual aggression and supports violence against women." Since the psychologist Martha Burt began measuring them in 1980, researchers have called those beliefs rape myths. Most of us grew up hearing them as common sense, such as the idea that a woman who drank too much was asking for it, or that a woman who didn't fight back must have wanted it. Every one of those beliefs places the blame for rape on what a woman did with her body, so rape culture teaches women to manage their bodies as if their safety depended on it. It also leaves us less safe, because men who share these beliefs face fewer consequences, and women who are assaulted start doubting themselves before anyone else has the chance. Girls learn these rules years before they have words for them, and by adulthood the rules have become part of how a woman moves, which is how rape culture comes to live in the body. Rape culture is mostly made of assumptions that people would never say out loud, which is part of why women find it so hard to name. But in a case like this one, those assumptions appear in text messages and legal filings, and they read as bluntly as women have always suspected. Rape culture puts forward the belief that her body doesn't belong to her and that her no is meaningless in comparison to his desires. Women have always known this belief was there, even when nobody said it, and we have organised our lives around it. We watch our drinks, and we share our location with a friend before a first date. The sociologist Fiona Vera-Gray calls this safety work, the effort, much of it habitual, that women put into never becoming the woman who can no longer say no. Because we've done it since we were girls, most of us file it under being sensible. Then a story like this one puts that threat into plain language, with names and a screenshot of the group chat. After years of bracing, you finally have the thing in front of you, written down. That's usually when the anger comes, often with a need to keep reading that you can't quite explain to anyone. Many of us feel it because it has happened to us. The CDC's latest national survey found that 45.1 per cent of American women have experienced contact sexual violence in their lifetimes, and 21 per cent have experienced completed or attempted rape. For a lot of the women reading about Cornell, this goes beyond a somatic reckoning with rape culture. It brings back their own experiences of violence and violation, experiences that never received justice either. By @AileyJolie

Some points brougth up by Toi Smith, @toimarie on IG Patriarchy lacks an ethos of love and care. It does not socialize men to tend, be transparent, anticipate, be accountable, repair, or show deep regard for women as full subjects rather than resources. Women struggle to receive these things from men every day inside monogamous relationships. So I remain underwhelmed by the idea that expanding a man's access to more women is, in itself, particularly liberatory. Patriarchy has never had much of a problem with men having access to multiple women. Of course, what makes ethical non-monogamy different is that everyone is consenting, and that matters. But consent isn't enough for me because it doesn't undo our socialization inside patriarchy. It doesn't erase what men have been taught to expect from women, what women have been taught to accommodate from men, or the relationships to power, care, and entitlement that we carry with us. We can change the agreement and change the structure. We can make the whole thing consensual, but that doesn't necessarily change the people entering it. And I'm far more interested in whether men have interrogated the patriarchal man they bring into relationships than I am in how radical the relationship structure appears to be. I was going to say that most men haven't done the work required to be in responsible, caring relationships with multiple women. But actually I think it begins further upstream than that. Most men haven't developed a sufficient analysis of their own formation inside patriarchy, particularly in the intimate and relational realm, to even recognize what the work is, let alone begin doing it. And we know this because so many men struggle to develop the transparency, accountability, tending, reciprocity and standard of care required to be in relationship with just one woman.

This is good "Your brain created a God". No. God is hallucinating your brain. "The danger is your brain created the god and you forget that your brain created the god." No. God created your brain and you forget that you are God"

From my part I will be posting the words of many woman on the topic. " It's wild to me how much work & investment the women in my life put toward nervous system healing to feel more safe But who TF is working to make the actual world we live in more safe for women? Where are the Protectors we keep hearing about? When I look around, I see mainly women protecting & providing. And most men in timid submission. The burden of healing (and often outright blame) is on individual women, When the problem that creates the need for this healing is SYSTEMIC. Just witnessing the news of the Cornell 7 is sending ripples through the feminine psyche and nervous system. We SEE all around us how rape is perpetuated, encouraged, and continually demonstrated as not worthy of justice. Colonizer consciousness - Take what you want, no matter how much harm it causes, even if it kills you in the end. That's what happens when we rape and pillage the feminine... from our Mother Earth, to individual bodies. No wonder some of the most AMAZING & beautiful in every way women I know are choosing to be single right now. We have to respect someone to be in true partnership. Real talk - I'd rather be alone literally forever than be with someone who wouldn't speak up and stand up. I need to respect & admire a man to be attracted to them, an unfortunate fact of life these days where too many people are numbed out, hyper individualistic, unwilling to be uncomfortable, and repressing emotion to toxic degrees. Men - can you imagine how it feels to walk around knowing in any given room, you may be in space with rapists, or the bystanders who would enable them? The way that taxes us body, mind, heart and Spirit? I was once at a retreat, chatting with 5 women, all diff ages and from diff places in the world. I was the only one who had not been raped. I've known several men who had been SA'd as children. All of them, by men. They never reported it, this is not reflected in statistics. What is the domino effect? White women - Now imagine the reality for women of colour. From slavery to residential schools to enforced marriages to ICE centers, WOC are less shocked by the news. We've been knowing. I pray for all victims of SA. I pray for the Souls of humanity. I pray for a new way - that actually honours Life, not as a concept, but through ACTION. I pray for our fire to awaken, so we draw the line and stand for what Humanity could really be. One Earth. One Family. To the men who do speak & stand - Thank you. You help heal my belief systems, you are living evidence of real masculinity, You are the real leaders in a world where many are playing make believe. To women & femmes who are hurting right now, Tend to your sweet systems, Call in the Divine Mother to nurture you, And don't suppress your rage. It is Holy Fire that burns illusion, and lights the way forward. From IG : @oath.oracle ---‐-------------------‐---☆☆☆☆☆

Some Israelis did the deconstruction work. An example that is possible to get out of a system to see the system for what it is or something like depropagandize oneself https://www.instagram.com/reel/DdMPynjuQqE/?stkn=MTU0YmticDQ0eGxqMQ==

I pit this one here because is a fiction book, but at same time it explore the topic of Romaticizing the past and the video explain how the story can be used as a way to see Bias

And Dan Koe Eden System made it even better to reverse Enginner using other Creators Content.

This one is a Retreat All about Anger Release. https://www.ashleyvelvetfrost.com/shop?ss_source=sscampaigns&ss_campaign_id=6abcd34d9b36612617f566c6&ss_email_id=6abcd6433614046d1036387a&ss_campaign_name=Going+inward+for+winter!+&ss_campaign_sent_date=2026-09-30T09%3A28%3A51Z Yes, the retreats are in Euro so I guess most of it happens in Europe. But also there are online Materials. Ashley Velvet Frost is someone worth following on this Topic.

I decided to open this since I keep finding many crazy retreats that even if I dont plan to do now, maybe some of you may have the money and time to do. i will start with the last one I found. Called Los Ninos. Maybe this one have a mix of Hippie Vibe and Paradise Escape. But one never know. I worked as part of a Retreat team so I can say that when Retreats are marketed there is always a little bit of turning all into magic, so people create a expectation. In the end what is deal with inside the retreat can be very sublte. If there is Breathwork, Meditation, Yoga involved there will be for sure transformation.

I dream with Alien words. Rare to happen but I ready got some that have no explanation in terms of earth reality.

That Thread would be a kink.

Reading all the comments above I think this video down here give some points

Still in the Empathy Thread. this is important for me because being to much empathizing to much is something I am dealing with.

Well, if you guys want a bit a Doomeritis and Melancholy here is it Something big is always about to come.

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