Rafael Thundercat

i would add Shame as a blockage to Authenticity. How many time I stop myself from acting from my values because I feel ahshamed for some reason. Again there is always the component of "Other" or the "Other who sees me" and I restrain myself from being myself from shame of what other will think, act of feel about it. Some points on Shame: Shame is a profound disruption of human being, fundamentally altering how a person experiences existence, time, and reality itself. While psychology treats shame as an emotion, philosophy and metaphysics view it as an existential crisis—a sudden, painful exposure of the self's vulnerability before the universe.Here is a breakdown of the metaphysical dimensions of shame:1. The Fragmentation of Being (Ontology)In a normal state, your conscious mind and your physical body exist in harmony. Shame violently shatters this unity.The Self as Object: Shame forces you to instantly see yourself from the outside. You cease to merely be; you become an object of judgment.The Desire for Non-Being: The immediate metaphysical reaction to intense shame is the urge to disappear, shrink, or cease to exist ("I wanted the earth to swallow me up"). It is a temporary flight toward non-existence.2. The Trap of the Present (Temporal Distortion)Shame fundamentally alters how you experience time.The Frozen Present: While anxiety looks to the future and grief looks to the past, shame traps you in an agonizing, eternal now.Immobility: The moment of exposure feels inescapable, paralyzing your ability to move forward or imagine a future free from the stain of the shameful event.3. The Power of "The Other" (Intersubjectivity)The French philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre famously analyzed shame through the concept of "The Look" (le regard).Loss of Universal Mastery: Before being seen, you are the center of your own universe. When someone looks at you with judgment or pity, their consciousness re-centers the universe around them.Alienation: You realize you cannot control how you exist in the mind of another person. Your identity is suddenly held hostage by an outside observer.4. Cosmic Disconnection (Alienation from the Whole)At its deepest level, shame carries an existential weight of unworthiness.The Broken Threat: It whispers the metaphysical lie that you are fundamentally flawed, broken, or a mistake.Exile from Belonging: Guilt says, "I did something bad" (a mistake of action), but shame says, "I am bad" (a mistake of being). This creates a sense of cosmic exile, convincing you that you do not rightfully belong to the fabric of reality or the human community. https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wmi9o7PQB8ikytGk8LVvO?si=gVe3puHSQYuN_NZSjjrw6w&utm_source=copy-link

Somehow Vunerability match with this topic. From the context of this video I can see that in some situations with some people I simply cant and dont want to be Vulnerable. Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are. Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable; exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of strength and struggle; and nurturing the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we believe that we are enough. Authenticity demands Wholehearted living and loving—even when it’s hard, even when we’re wrestling with the shame and fear of not being good enough, and especially when the joy is so intense that we’re afraid to let ourselves feel it. Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy, and gratitude into our lives. Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

@Natasha Tori Maru This connects directly to the self-deception work I am working with for a mentorship — same shape, different word. "Shrinking the gap between what I experience and what I understand myself to value" is functionally identical to reducing bias toward unbiased self-knowledge. Authenticity may just be what that process looks like when it's aimed at a partner rather than at truth in the abstract. A few pushes on your definition: The paradox dissolves if you separate congruence from disclosure. Your definition already has the seed of this in "as the situation deems appropriate" — but I'd make it explicit as its own axis. Congruence is internal: do I know what I feel and own it. Disclosure is relational: how much of that do I reveal, to whom, when. Most "authenticity is overrated" complaints are actually disclosure complaints wearing a congruence costume — people conflating "I withheld something" with "I was fake." You can be fully congruent and still strategically silent. That's not inauthenticity, that's discernment about timing, which your definition already gestures at but doesn't name. Overrated/underrated — both, at different layers. Overrated as a permission slip: "I'm just being authentic" has become the socially sanctioned excuse for low emotional intelligence, exactly the four bad definitions you listed. Underrated as an actual practice: almost nobody does the harder version — the "background practice" you describe, which requires tolerating the discomfort of not yet knowing what you feel, rather than defaulting to the nearest available impulse and calling it truth. Phases of connection matter, but not the way people usually mean it. Early courtship rewards curated congruence — showing real but selected slices of yourself, calibrated to a trust level that hasn't been built yet. That's not deception, it's pacing. The mistake is thinking authenticity means maximal disclosure at minimal trust. It's the opposite: authenticity early on often looks like restraint plus honesty about the restraint ("there's more here, I'm not ready to show all of it yet") rather than either full unloading or performance. On attraction specifically — here's the actual paradox worth sitting with: what reads as magnetic is often decisiveness, not congruence. Someone who's genuinely wrestling with ambivalence (real internal state) reads as less attractive than someone who's confidently wrong about themselves. The market selects for the appearance of your definition, not the practice of it. That's a genuinely uncomfortable fact if you're actually doing the work. Ps: I am using AI to help me write since it helps me to organize my thoughts better because english is not my mother language.

@Natasha Tori Maru the theme of my last relationship was Authenticity. We both are Leos, she actually have birthday one day before mine. So we somehow were mirrors to each other. Both able to detect fakery, very subtle fakery, but the thing is that we both fail to be out of integrity with ourselfs so I could notice when she was not being herself and she noticed me too. Even without words being spoken we knew when we were not being real. And was hard to deal with it. So autethicity plays a big role in relationship because is easy to play small, hide, people please and other ways to avoid being in integrity with who we deep know to be ourselfs.

Cell Biology is hallucination https://www.instagram.com/reel/Dc6JCdFxLeQ/?stkn=NzhhaG82endvNHA1

Check the IG page of Wisdom Economy. Is about being a Guide or Mentor. In the end is all one can offer. Like Leo, he cant give the territory, he only can show bits of the map or pointers. The real deal happens when who listen do the work. https://www.instagram.com/wisdom.economy?stkn=a2ZmZnljdnRsOHB2

How do you know that Omniscience was reached?

Imagine you are lucid dreaming, you meet a hot woman there, you desire her and become intensily focused on her form, you are basically desiring a figment of you own mind that you on the lucid dream mistake as being other than your own mind. Normaly for me when I become deeply attached to any part of the dream I wake up, lucid dreams at least for me have this feature of ending when I get to much focused in one aspect of the dream. Now in the daily dream one may keep attached with several aspects of the dream for long periods like desiring the same woman for years and the dream keeps intact. Consciousness is able to desire. If it would ot then we would not even be talking about it.

I am watching a lot of the videos of this guy nowadays. He deal with relationship dynamics, attachment patterns etc.. In this one he have very counter-intuitve insigths on Shame. A recent break up of mine made me realize a bit of how shame was involved on my dynamic. Also one can make the connection of how Shame and Psychological Survival are connected. Without Others one cant fear being Ashamed. Overall, where do one learn shame,from who? From others ( he explain how in the video) but you must know that started with your parents, siblings,relatives and so society later. So shame have a big grasp because in certain cases it can mean to be expeled out from the tribe or the relationship that can be seem as a sort of Death. This gives some insights about early conditioning. Humans brainwash each other into this shame game for eaons. If one can be ashamed and be fearfull, one can be controled. Who was the kid that was not manipulated with shame to become more like whatever the adults in their lifes wanted them to be. If you was born in a Evangelical Family you may know how shame is used to you accept mindlessness the beliefs of the family.

Remember, try not enter in Saving the Danzel in distress dynamic.

Found this text that match the blogpost about Spinosa The video talks about Explicatio and Bohm talks about the Implicate "WHAT A QUANTUM PHYSICIST FOUND AT THE EDGE OF SCIENCE David Bohm and the nature of reality." "PHYSICS MEETS ANCIENT WISDOM In 1980, one of the most significant physics books of the 20th century was published. Not about particles or equations alone. About the nature of reality itself. And what it described, arrived at through decades of quantum research, sounded remarkably like something written thousands of years before physics existed." "WHO DAVID BOHM WAS David Bohm worked alongside Einstein at the Institute for Advanced Study. One of the most rigorous and original theoretical physicists of his generation. And he spent the latter half of his career asking a question most physicists avoided. What is the relationship between consciousness and reality? Not as a philosophical aside. As a scientific question he believed physics could not afford to ignore." "THE PROBLEM WITH FRAGMENTATION Bohm observed something that troubled him. Modern science had become extraordinarily good at studying fragments: particles, forces, fields. But it had lost sight of the whole. And this fragmented way of seeing reality was producing a fragmented understanding of existence. One that was spilling far beyond science..into how human beings experienced their own lives." "THE IMPLICATE ORDER His answer was the theory of the implicate order. Two levels of reality. The explicate order: the visible world of separate objects, separate events, separate selves. The implicate order: the deeper, undivided wholeness from which everything arises, unfolds, and returns. 'The unbroken wholeness of the totality of existence, as an undivided flowing movement without borders.' The fragment is not the fundamental reality. The whole is." "THE HOLOGRAM Bohm used the hologram as an analogy. In a holographic image, every part contains the whole image within it. Not a piece of the image, but the whole. This, he said, is how reality actually works. Every apparently separate part contains the whole ..enfolded within it. The part is the whole, expressing itself locally." "WHAT THE VEDAS SAID FIRST The Taittiriya Upanishad describes Brahman as the ground of all existence, that from which everything arises, within which everything exists, and into which everything returns. The implicate order, the undivided ground from which everything unfolds, is what Vedanta calls Brahman. The explicate order, the visible world of apparently separate things, is what Vedanta calls Maya. Not an illusion, but an expression of something far deeper." "YAT PINDE TAT BRAHMANDE The Vedic tradition encoded this into a sutra. Yat pinde tat brahmande. As is the individual, so is the universe. As is the microcosm, so is the macrocosm. The same patterns, the same principles, the same consciousness, operating at every scale. What Bohm arrived at through quantum physics, that every part contains the whole, the Vedas stated directly." "ATMAN AND BRAHMAN And the most significant parallel of all. Bohm's hologram: every part contains the whole. Vedanta: Aham Brahmasmi. I am Brahman. The individual consciousness, the Atman, is not a fragment cut off from the whole. It is the whole expressing itself through a particular point of view. As is the microcosm, so is the macrocosm." "WHY THIS CHANGES EVERYTHING The fragmented worldview ..is not just a scientific problem. It is a psychological one. When you experience yourself as a separate self, cut off from the world, from others, from the source of everything, fear and anxiety are the natural result. The endless grasping for what might make the fragment feel complete, that is the natural result. The root of suffering is the belief in separation." "David Bohm arrived at the edge of what science could show him, and found waiting there the same recognition the Upanishads had described from the inside out. That beneath the visible, fragmented world, there is an undivided wholeness. That consciousness and reality are not two separate things. That the whole is present in every part. Yat pinde tat brahmande. As is the microcosm, so is the macrocosm. As is the individual, so is the universe."

Actualized Quotes #737 https://share.google/66LJ5POAlZcHltsaI Anyone will test this chainsaw contemplation of Hallucination? I am joking, but i love this quote. Today I was looking to candy in the supermarket, aware that in that moment due to the state of my consciousness I could not see that as an hallucination, but also aware that is possible to experience not only candybars as hallucination that but everything as hallucination. Anyone that think that this is easy to grasp is underestimating the power of the trick. For me is not about convincing myself that is an hallucination, is about knowing 100%, otherwise is not valid. Either I realise the Lucid Dream directly or better to not fake that I realized.

Sincerly I would prefer to see the book being published much more than any other video.

It match with your last quote https://www.actualized.org/insights/actualized-quotes-736 I was watching again the Self Deception series and appaled with how pratical it is. Trully, when we think we got it, we just find out new levels of devilry in ourselfs or to be clear inmyself

https://www.actualized.org/insights/actualized-quotes-736 Read this. By this metrics you cant talk yourself into anything. How do you know you are not fooling yourself?