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You are always going to find young hot women attractive. But, do you think that when you are 40+ you are ging to atract them? So if you are banging a lot of hot chicks now I get it. Dont get into a relationships now. But if you find a special one in a few years? Why not? Everything is a tradeoff, and like I said, when you are old, even if you find young hot women atreactice, they wont feel the same about you.

You didnt like coaching? Or it just took too much time? It seems you could coach 'high level' people, which could have great impact if their have a big following.

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Here is the thing. He said that a 10 day solo retreat will cure your lonleliness. Not true. And this is the problem. The problem with isolation is that is quite easy doing it for short periods of time. Or doing it knowing you have people that love you, and when you finish your period of solitude, you will be back with your loved ones. There are periods when we want to be alone, we enjoy it and we hate to think about having to socialize. But sooner or later is going to hit you. Most people need connection. Even if its with just a couple people in your life.

This resonates hard: The shallower the mind the more value socialization has. The deeper the mind, the less meaning socialization has because your own mind is more rewarding and profound than anything a human could say to you. What are you really going to talk about with a human? But at the end of the day is about give and take. Balancing. Going deep in solitude and spiritual practices, and then let go, relax, chill, small talk. Mixing with people. I feel that when I do that, I create space for more spiritual and philosophical work. If not I reach a point where is just to much isolation and I feel my mind is melting. We also have to define solitude. Solitude is more a matter of the mind than of body. You can go for a 5 day hike listening to music and reading some books. Thats not real solitude. Many people say: 'i spent the weekend alone / by myself. mmm false. You can be physically alone, but not mentally alone. This person spent his weekend at home, but he listened to music, texted friends and family, facecalled his gf, whatched 6 episodes of a show, watched porn and spend hours on social media. Thats not being alone. Being alone is being free of input of other peoples mind. Leo loves solitude? Im sure about it. But how would he feel if he quits the forum for a year? The forum is a form of escaping solitude without real socializing. (pseudo-socializing)

On a side note: Leo is right when he said: Pick-up will corrupt you. I fell for the trap. I hurt people. Lied, manipulated, and cheated. And even felt good about it! I was the man! I was lost in the validation of sex and intimacy and feeling worthy. In pickup if you are not a bit conscious, even when you win, you lose. Thats the worst kind of trap. You win in the beginning, but at the end you have to pay the receipt. And you are not going to like it. You hurt others. You waste time that could be invested in better things. But hey, if you are in your early-20s, virgin, no social skills, what can you do? Maybe some of us have to go thought this phase, and once we want out, we must heal that part of ourselves and move on. An this is for the students. Imagine the ego trip for the instructors, which aside from banging tons of girls and the validation they get, they become rich while doing it. I imagine is hard to stop.

This kinds of videos... https://www.instagram.com/p/DGfJrKvsJnE/ The poetry. The music. The paintings. Automatic shift of consciousness. I filled my ig with this kind of accounts: https://www.instagram.com/shams_of_tabrez/ https://www.instagram.com/razispoetry/?g=5 https://www.instagram.com/mewlana_rumi_poetry/ Enjoy. Also check out this long playlist for reading, contemplating or just being.

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Of course I feel Im in a better position than them. I could be wrong, there is no way to measure that. If I see a homeless guy, I feel bad for him. Or the guys in AA. I feel bad for them. I didn't want to be in that situation. So yes, I think Im in a way better situation now. That doesn't mean I think Im a better human being. The same as watching Leos videos. I watch them and apply them beacuse I want to improve my life and try to be in a better situation than I was before. The same with meditation, gym etc... Comparison is inevitable. I also felt bad for myself, when I was lonely, broke and weak. Thats how things are. their decision to do what they choose. Free will aside... do they really chose that? Or is a default pattern (unconsciosness)? Or is an addiction? If thats the case, is not a choice. Is a trap. Is @TruthFreedom, the guy asking here choosing to drink, or is he being trapped? Is not that simple. Its a real struggle. Not drinking is a higher perspective/consciousness than drinking (specially when you want to quit and you cant)

Digital detox is one of the best things to try. If you enjoyed yours, check out Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. He talks about how to implement it long term. Can be a life changing book for the people who takes it seriously.

You can reframe everything as slavery. If you quit alcohol for 1 year, you are a slave of alcohol. Or with sugar. After I went to AA, I didn't quit cold turkey. I still drank from time to time, and I even got drunk a few times having a great time. Just the last 4 months I went to 0, since my gf and I decided to quit indefinitely. spiritual people think they're any better than those who aren't Again, is not feeling better than. Is just being able to cut through the unconsciousness of drinking. When I see people drinking they remind me of my past self, and I feel grateful for being able to quit and live life on my terms. ''I'm any better than'' There you go again haha

Which addiction? I live a pretty normal life now. Of course Im making a distinction! How could I not? I have a mind, and it rates my life now higher than when I was drinking solo at home almost every day. Yes. Is a bias? Yes. Totally aware of that. ''people who drink beer and are enjoying life'' how do you know they are enjoying life? ''not being free to do what the hell you want'' I do what the hell I want. I chose to have some daily/weekly rituals which make me feel great. And I do them. Easy. ''spiritual people think they're any better than those who aren't'' I didn't say anywhere that Im better than anyone. You said that. Careful with your interpretations