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But anger should NEVER affect other people. Go boxing or whatever to get loose of your emotions, but NEVER goddamnit hit someone you love. @Uchira You should read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" - Robert Glover

@Lynnel You can't judge someone from just one video And just because he's begging for money, doesn't mean he doesn't have knowledge that you can have a use for in your interactions with women. Read his book and then you can give some critique which is not about him "begging for money" on his videos

@Lynnel Well reading at 20,000 WPM is bullshit. If someone can read in that speed he/she NEVER has a high comprehension. However, you can read in 1000-2000 WPM and keep a high comprehension

I would never recommend anyone to go to RSD when starting. That will just set you up for a negative way of thoughts early on. Read "Models" - Mark Manson, "3% Man" - Corey Wayne and this should set you up decently without getting any weird shit in your brain, to begin with. And before going into any PUA forum I also recommend reading "David Eschenlohrs" books. He was a former PUA/Self Development follower and then he had some realizations he decided to write about. Which caused him to leave everything of that behind.

@SaynotoKlaus "Rich Dad Poor Dad" is (in my opinion) a quite ok book to start with. It's not about "how to get rich" book, which most of 'em are not. However. it will change your opinion a little on some basic stuff that can help you get rich. But then again there are many books whom are way more into it and more educational as well. This thread has basically the same question and has already gotten some tips I wish you luck

@Wouter Well, it all depends on what you decide to do or what you need to do. Do you need to learn how to program websites? Because that would increase the time by A LOT. I am quite sure Leo bought the "web-base" however maintains it by himself which requires time and certain knowledge. You can obviously hire someone to create a website for you or just someone who "creates the base" and you will continue to make changes/improvements on it by yourself.

Well, the basic thing's are always eating healthy, sleeping etc. For me personally, I never get tired "when I'm there". In a social event or such, but when I get home I am kinda dead for 1-2 days after a tiring event/week.

@dboyle Well, first of all you should realise that neither doing pickup or getting a hooker will solve your "problem" by itself. Try working out your limited beliefs first of all, and then move on. Else these beliefs will still stay there even after you've lost your virginity. I would recommend you to read "Awaken The Giant Within" - Tony Robbins in order to get ahead of your own mind, and get rid of limiting beliefs that most likely will limit you if you eventually get into pickup or something. Once you have read that one and made the exercises these books should be a good read for you "No More Mr. Nice Guy" - Robert Glover "Models" - Mark Manson "The Way of The Superior Man" - David Deida.

Hey all! I am getting kinda lost in thoughts and everything. The latest 2 week's I haven't really done anything and I am just wondering what I should do. Need to get back on my path. So I am soon 17 years old, I dropped out of school earlier this year (January) and since I have been doing self-development. I deleted every single video game and limited the time I was watching TV. I've read about 50 books so far this year on stuff I've been interested in. But ever since everyone at school went on vacation, it felt like myself also got school vacation. I started playing some games again, watched more movies than I should. I've screwed up the daily rhythm I had, I'm not being healthy and I don't know what to continue doing, even if I have an idea I kinda need a push and I don't really have anyone around me into this stuff. I have around 700 courses on subjects I wanna get into. All of these are at least 2 hours long, but some are definitely longer and requires some exercises. Then I have a list of like 70 books to read + Leo's list, on top of that I also have a lot of youtube clips to watch (self development related). I also wanna view some "dating courses" (not counted into the other courses), and it's just so goddamn much. It doesn't get better that I am not doing anything useful the latest days as well. I have gotten into contact with a investor who's agreed to become my mentor, as well as I've become a member of a canoeing club in the area, which is pretty much all I've gotten forward for me now the latest weeks.

@Salaam You are completely right! The hard thing is figuring out how to do it however

@cirkussmile @Leon Bell I really like this video. It's the guy who eventually got me into self-development, he got some other good stuff on his channel as well, but maybe not "advanced stuff"

@Black Flag You said your goal was running faster, set a exact time you should achieve (being specific). Explain how you shall achieve it. What problems might occur? Is it possible you get an injury, that one day you will have a setback and not train? Prepare for these situations, prepare for every single outcome before it happens. Instead of saying you should own your own place in 5 years, where should this home be? Should you have a mortgage on it or is it paid off already? Is it a big fking house with an outside pool in one of the most wealthy communities. Is it a place for your family (in the future) or is it just for you personally. How many rooms/bathrooms does it have etc. This is more about goal-setting and not necessarily on how to be more strategic.

@Fello Well there's a difference with being mature and self-developed, just because they aren't into self-development doesn't mean that they ain't mature, just wanted to put it out there hehe. Finding a girl who fits into EVERY of those things you want is not quite likely to happen, even if it might happen. So just write down the values/things you want a girl to have, whether or not it's on the inside or outside. Make a circle on the things you think is most important when you meet a girl, these will be your priority and the rest is not quite as important. Now you have a special girl to look for, and therefore it will be easier to find her. And this is important. If you want a girl who is fit, works out regularly, you can't be a 200kg guy yourself. You are what you attract pretty much, if you don't like what you attract change yourself. If you want a girl who is self-developed going to clubs ain't maybe the best thing. If you want a girl who is fit, go to the gym etc. Change your venues to meet people who think/do things like you :). Most girls who are "a bit smarter" doesn't always go to the clubs. If you want more cultural girls, go to museum or something like that. Go to the same places the people you wanna meet are going to.

@Kazman I am diagnosed with Light-Azperger. I do believe your brother can work on getting better with communication with people. I had a lot of problem with that when I was younger but now it's better. However, something he will never get "rid off" is how much we analyze everything, I was out for 8h yesterday, and the day after (today) I am like a walking zombie and I don't wanna do anything.

This is my thoughts about these subjects I've quoted you on. Well, to see any sort of positivity you have to see some negativity, else you don't truly see what is negative don't you? However life has a way of throwing obstacles our way without asking for it, so you should not surround yourself with negative people just to see some negativity. There are multiple ways to see different sorts of negativity that doesn't necessarily affect you in person. So have to say it's important, but I would never call it valuable. People do a lot of time tend to seek faults within other people, but they aren't necessarily aware of having the same problems in themselves, so I guess you could say that people see mirrors of their own faults in other people, however that is obviously not always the case. But like you said yourself, you wanna be successful and therefore should surround yourself with successful people, this does not necessarily cutting out every person who isn't successful, but rather the people dragging you down (toxic) should be cut out. I can't remember who said this, but "The books you read and friends you hang out with today, defines who you become in 5 years". So if you wanna be successful it is DEFINITELY a good idea to hang out with people who've made it or likely will make it. Besides this, have you taken any action on the above subject? Have you talked to J or are you still figuring out what to do?

@Ajax Hey Ajax! Sorry to hear all of this, but I'll do my best to help you I'll post something of a book (Tao of Badass bonus) which might help you "Cheating only happens when someone feels that their partner in a relationship isn’t supplying something they need. The problem is that instead of simply asking for it, they seek it out in someone else because they are afraid to bring it up with their partner. A woman cheats because she’s not getting something from you that she needs, and you lack the awareness to figure out what it is. You are the man and responsible for the direction in the relationship. Don’t be a pushover and forgive her unless major changes are made to the relationship. You can’t say ""It’s ok, let’s just start over and try this again."" Cheating is not an issue that is easily fixed. You both have to be willing to put in the effort to completely overhaul the relationship, and you both have to be interested in learning how to improve yourselves."" These are some snippets from the book. First of all, go get some good sleep before you take any decisions. Second you have to decide whether or not you wanna work thing out with your wife, and why. If you only wanna do it because of your kid and "nothing more". You'll both end up miserable in this relationship and your kid will be affected negatively by this. I would then recommend a divorce as your kid might be happier if she sees both her parents are happy, even if they don't live together. If you love your wife, and can accept that she did cheat on you, but still want to work this out (and she feels the same way) I would say you can work out this out. When you know what you wanna do in this relationship, I believe the answer on inviting her to the funeral for you becomes clearer for yourself, and you'll know what to do. I would tell you to read "The Way of The Superior Man" - David Deida and "The 3% Man" - Corey Wayne, both these books contain Multiple good explanations of the man's role in the relationship. Another book that I think both of you should read if you decide to wanna work out this relationship is "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" - John Gray I wish you all luck man!

@Heart of Space Well, I don't think there is anyway that you can make sure that she does not hook up with another guy. However, if you Alone can satisfy this certain girl needs. Sexual/Emotional etc. she doesn't need to find another guy. I have not read this book, but one of my "mentors" recommended it if you're looking for multiple relationships. "Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton

@carlo Leo told you that the problem was that you didn't want the threesome, that doesn't mean you should just blindly accept what he said and tell your girlfriend you wanna have a threesome, when you in reality don't want a threesome. Instead try and fix that barrier that makes you NOT wanna have a threesome in order to satisfy your girlfriend. I am not saying she will Only be satisfied by a threesome, but if she told you she wanted a threesome You should WANT to make that happen. Manliness is not defined by having sex with as many women as possible or by having a threesome. Manliness is defined by your actions and thoughts, please read "The Way of The Superior Man" by David Deida. Once you have read that, and gotten a clear look on what manliness is and what the mans misson is in a relationship. I want to ask you to read "Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" by Nathaniel Branden.

@chris_crunch I don't think that you as a person is the correct person to question her and her negativity if she barely responds in a positive way to you. Rather bring it up to J and let him think about it a little. If he is "in love" it might be hard for him to see this, and he might even get mad at you. I would approach it by first and foremost talking to J personally, and if he doesn't seem to catch it. I would move out. In the conversation with J this is what I would say based on the information I've found out "Hey J, I don't know if you've thought about it so much, but have you noticed your girlfriend is sort-of negative? I have noticed it quite a lot and whenever I get home it seems like a negative atmosphere here at home, and I don't like it. So I am gonna start looking for other places to live unless she gets a bit more positive, or (even if I don't want it to happen) she moves out. I don't know if you would wanna take this up to her and maybe that she might want to change, and if so is the case I will gladly wanna help as well. And I know you might not take this quite good man, but I'm just looking out for you, and I want you to be happy man. I personally however, can't surround myself with negative people and expect myself to be positive and get things done when it's always this heavy atmosphere at home. I hope you understand and can think this over man." You should however also consider if this truly is your problem? Perhaps it's J who has limiting beliefs that's making him settle with this current girlfriend, even though he truly doesn't love her. Their relationship doesn't seem very healthy and I would be surprised if it would last a longer time, and if it does I am certain there will be occurrences of cheating. Unless they together can get better and improve themselves together but first and foremost - personally. So that can also be an aspect to think about and approach and eventually talk to J about. But I don't think there's much you Personally can do to help this girl out and stop being so negative. Personal-growth can only come from within and if she feels like she's forced to stop doing something, it won't necessary work. This is obviously something to consider if J also brings this up to her as well. I wish you luck!

It's different from person to person. I personally dropped out from school this year (17 years old) and I believe it was the right choice for me. And even when I enjoy having dropped out of school it IS NOT something I would recommend for everyone. It sometimes might need you to work harder than your friends who decided to continue study. I have been out from school for 7 months now, and I'm currently looking for others way to make a living instead of going to a 9-5 job. This way I'm looking at getting into is Real Estate investing, and depending on how it goes. I might feel motivated to go into school "part time" again. Since I already have something to get me money every month I would only go to school to "get through it" and be done with it for the rest of my life. And even if I believe this is a way for me, I would not necessary recommend for you to drop out. I had multiple reasons in order to make me drop out. I was depressed through high-school, had 50% absence, switched school 3 times and during the summer I moved to a new city 200 km away. All of this together with the fact I didn't like school or my classmates I dropped out seeing there was no other alternative (was looking to get distance study as well as switching school, but was no possibility) made me drop out.

@Anton Rogachevski Being needy is not good. Personally I don't think you should look for someone special to engage in an relationship until you are Happy with yourself, So that you don't NEED to be in a relationship to feel good, but rather Want to be in a relationship. We should not feel a NEED to satisfy our partner, but we should feel a will to do so, relationships are all about giving. I am currently single (and happy) and I don't wanna get into a relationship where my partner NEEDS me to be around to actually feel good. Then that relationship would not work. As I am only giving and not receiving anything; My partner is just taking. Obviously it's not fun to hear that "we are not needed" by someone we love, but it's also something, at least according to me that should be clear from the start, we don't NEED each other. But we still love each other so damn much we want to be together

@Presty The most important is obviously the photos. Your "main" should be ONLY on yourself and just be a great picture of you having a good style and looking good, a face picture kinda. 2nd picture should be a Full-body picture including your face. The other pictures should be Either where you are social or doing an adventure - Climbing for example? The Bio can just be something such as - Be careful, I'm trouble.

@Lynnel I've had a quick look at Pimp/Shift/Tengame and I have to say I am disappointed at all of them haha, I must say I REALLY prefer "Models" by Mark Manson, even if a book can't always give a so good explanation as videos can, but I feel like most of my knowledge actually comes from there. Only sad thing is that Mark doesn't have any programs anymore... I am gonna check out blueprint and possibly some of the other RSD guys stuff, I don't seem to like Julien's stuff so far, even if we seem to have same type of humour haha

@Lynnel So I am gonna have a look at Juliens products now Have you checked out Tengame, is it worth getting? What else do you recommend? I have Blueprint, Shift, Pimp and going like this Shift > Pimp > Blueprint