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🟢 GATEWAY EXPERIMENT - Advanced Focus 10 21/09/2024 23:50 DAY 6 part 2 I just ended the third tape. This was somehow more intense, but still, I know I can get greater levels of relaxation. I felt again that tension behind my knees, so that was not nice. Tomorrow I will re-do it at least twice!

From the existential level, no. From the mind level, yes. From the mind level yes you do experience differently than me. I try not to believe to things.

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🟣 Online Course: Beginning of a Journey I am not sure what I want to do with my life. But what I know for sure is that I want to help people somehow, and meditation has helped me a lot in the most difficult moments; so one idea would be teaching and guiding meditation and breathworks. I am 23, and still a student (just started a Master in the Conservatory - classical guitar), so I want to start with some basic groundwork. The plan is to share free videos, exercises, and info on Instagram and YouTube about those topics. I will already create videos for an online course that I will publish on my website, and all of this will also be part of my master's project, if possible. I watched a great video about how to make an online course, I found it really valuable.

🟢 GATEWAY EXPERIMENT - Introduction to Focus 10 21/09/2024 17:11 DAY 6 Yesterday I skipped the practice. I was emotionally and physically tired, I was really not in the mood. I had time to do it, but I preferred taking a nap instead. Today though I didn't skip the practice. I re-did the second tape of the first Wave, and it was great. It was for sure the best experience I've had with this tape. I kept my mind super focused on the sounds and voice of the audio, and even though sometimes I lost focus, I almost immediately put my attention back to the audio. The experience was great, I clearly felt what the audio said that I would feel: my mind sharp and awake, and my body relaxed and asleep. I Imagine this state can go even deeper since there are three or four more tapes for this specific state, called Focus 10. I am confident and happy to say that tomorrow (or even today) I will continue with the third track!

🟢 Spirituality in my life In general, I feel I am more conscious than other people. But it's also true that I fall into deep unconsciousness many times, and that happens especially when I am around unconscious people. It happens that I am never with more conscious people; unfortunately, I didn't meet this kind of people, not many of them. And if they are conscious, they are not my friends. I cannot see them on a weekly or monthly basis, and they are adults. I need people who can be my friends, and help me and teach me how to grow, to deepen my consciousness, overcome my mind, and be selfless. But it's difficult. I moved to the Netherlands and I met people that are more open-minded than in Italy. But still I cannot find people who are into spirituality or who are conscious, or if they are, they are on a "lower level" than me. I always feel like I need to teach how to be more conscious. And if I don't teach it, I fall into unconsciousness. It's pretty tough. Just to be clear, I don't want to look like I put myself on a pedestal or that I'm better, or above others.

🔴 Family Fight Yesterday was my 23rd birthday and my mom organized a gathering with my family. My grandparents came, cousins, aunt and her boyfriend whom I will call C. Everything was nice until we started talking about immigration and politics in general. The problem started with my grandpa and C. My grandpa is traumatized from WW2, and you can't have a different opinion about some things that he's really attached to or convinced about. C. had different ideas and he was really trying to get a reaction from him, so they all started screaming like mad people. I'm a certain moment I decided to stand up and telling everyone to get the fuck out of the house. My mom wasn't happy about it, cause it's not polite, but the truth is that what is REALLY not polite, is them, who got invited, my mom prepared and cooked for 2 days in a row, and then had the courage to scream in our house. And they are aware of the fact that our lives are really difficult after the accident, and we don't need madness, it's already difficult enough like this. I don't feel guilty of telling them to leave; eventually after some drama they didn't leave, but I told them that it's super unpolite to act like that, when they know that we suffer enough, and we don't need more of this bullshit!! Today I feel a bit nervous, my mind keeps talking and thinking about it, I will try to relax and let it go. I just hope that C. doesn't keep with this story.

🔴 Family Situation - Update: In the last week, the situation with my dad is going pretty well. Some months ago he started a particular therapy with a Chinese doctor, and we see that it helps a lot. After some time he told us that he should take two kinds of Chinese medicines: both are a mix of roots, herbs, etc., and said that they will make miracles. One kind is for the low chi, energy, he has, and the other one is for the arms, legs, and brain. Unfortunately, he said that they are pretty expensive, and the only way to buy them is from him. We did some research and, indeed, these plants can't be found in Europe (or at least we didn't find it online or in Chinese shops). Eventually, we did some calculations, and we understood that the therapies + the plants would be more than 1100€ per month, which is crazy. Apart from this expense, we have to pay so much more for dad's medicines, physiotherapy, speech doctor, psychologist, and more (my parents have some money saved, but their income is really low, just enough to cover these expenses and food). It is obvious that it was really too much, and we started thinking that he was probably scamming us. Well, my brother has a Chinese classmate, and a month ago she was in China, so we asked her to check in the pharmacies for those plants. So yes, the Chinese doctor was scamming us. He wanted 600€ per month, while the classmate bought 600€ worth of plants which will last for a YEAR. Apart from this scam, the doctor was right. Already after two weeks of taking these medicines, my dad is better. He is more mentally present, and slowly starting to walk. Let's see the progress he makes in a year! For next summer I hope that my dad walks fully alone, and starts to talk, at least a bit.

🔴 Family: general situation For those who don't know about me yet, here is a brief explanation of what is my family situation. In July 2022, my dad and brother had an accident with the motorcycle: a deer jumped right in front of them, and after hitting it they hit a tree. My brother had many surgeries, and now he is fine, but my dad is still recovering. He has a bad brain injury, and we are all working to make him better, trying to bring him back to normality.

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Imo nothing is manly, that's just a label we created in and for our society

@OBEler how is a drug manly?

🔴 People in my life I'm so grateful for all the people present in my life. I am so grateful for the decision I made years ago to spend time only with quality people. Deep people. I don't have mamy friends, or people around me, but all of them love me, and are real. I don't need to party, I don't need more irrelevant things in my life. I am satisfied with a great deep conversation with my girlfriend or friend on a random Thursday night.

⚫ Just a thought I love life. Problems come just from the mind. How nice would it be if we all could overcome the mind. And just live and love life.

🟢 GATEWAY EXPERIMENT - Introduction to Focus 10 19/09/2024 16:49 DAY 5 Today I fell asleep. I do not recall listening to almost the whole second half of the tape. Should I do these exercises sitting? But then I don't want to be disturbed by back pain. I've been meditating for 4 years, but I almost always have pain. Maybe I don't sit properly, but I can't fully relax like that. But how to relax fully and not fall asleep? Probably I am also lacking sleep, that's why I can't stay awake. I have to sleep more in the next days, sleep earlier.

🟤 Eckhart Tolle "Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose."

🟠 Allergy In the last week/ten days I've been struggling with allergies; I've been having allergy to dust mites since I'm a kid (more or less since I was 7 I guess), and in some periods it gets really bad. When I am in the Netherlands (most of the year) I never have it, except for 2 or 3 times a year, but when I go back to Italy I have it most of the time. I really feel the difference of quality between the Italian and Dutch air: in Italy is so polluted, and since I live in the centre of the city many cars pass by my house, so it gets pretty bad. Dust mites are present in mattresses and pillows, and even though I have special ones for the allergy, many times I still can't sleep properly. I got used to this kind of "suffering", but sometimes when it gets bad I feel like going crazy. Covid helped me realize that face masks help a lot with the allergy, so in the last week I've been spending most of the time with one on my face, sometimes even while I sleep. I do so cause I don't want to take pills that help just a couple of hours and make me dizzy or my mind foggy.

🟡 Investments I am kind of new in the world of investment, I don't know much about it. Moths ago I found an interesting company (CYBN) that works with psychedelics, and in my opinion they will do good and interesting things in the world of mental health. As now I have a lot of money invested and for some reason the price went down a lot, I think it's simply due to random fluctuations and not because of some news about the company itself. So I am down a lot of money and waiting for the company to publish the results of the trials (they said end of 2024, beginning 2025). I am positive about the outcomes, but for now that I am in negative I feel pretty frustrated and a bit anxious.

I would never have sex with a prostitute because I would never use a person to satisfy my sexual needs. But still: you are free to do whatever you want with your body. So if you want to sell it then you better do it in a country where it's legal, regularized, safe and controlled (if you're not forced into prostitution, and if a country has regularized: health, safety, licensing, worker rights, protection, control on exploitation, etc)

🟠 Overall Health I am feeling frustrated because, in the last blood tests, I had a couple of things out of balance. I texted the doctor to see what I could do about it; he will probably respond today. I am not happy because I know I am not having a healthy diet, but I can't do much about it, every time I'm with my family I can't cook, if I tell my mom that I cook for myself she gets offended, or simply she doesn't allow me. Result: I eat pasta every day. And above all that, I am super stressed because of the family situation, and at night I overeat whatever bs I find in the fridge, mainly ice cream. I don't know how to stop myself when I'm with my family, often I feel helpless. In general, I accept this situation cause I tell myself that stressing about it will not make it better. But I have to say that in the last 2 or 3 weeks I'm not overeating, but still I don't feel great. The situation will change drastically when I will go back to the Netherlands. I'm planning to do a 24-hour fast. Then in the future I might do even longer.

🟢 MEDITATION I have been meditating since 2020, it's been more than four years now. But I would say that the real serious meditation practice started two years later, in 2022. In this long journey, I understood that my practice is never going to be the same: sometimes I can go deep quickly without any problem, but at other periods I can't sit for more than two minutes without getting distracted or without moving. Lately, my practice is not good. I am happy because I consistently meditate daily, some days even twice; but the sessions are never good. I let my brain talk and talk and talk, there is no end to it. What I find interesting is that I don't have concrete thoughts, or concrete sentences in my head. It's always mainly random words or concepts that have no real flow or connection between them. I find myself in an unconscious state where thoughts exist and I'm almost asleep, or simply blinded by this fog. Right now that I am journaling I am reminding myself and re-realizing that it's fine. I should not be harsh on myself; also, I'm super overstimulated since this summer I'm with my family. Once I go back to the Netherlands where I live alone it will be better. Also, I have never really used a specific technique; usually I just block my stream of thoughts by focusing on my breathing, then when I feel my body starts to feel numb I try to expand that feeling, so I expand or try to let go of the body.

🟢 GATEWAY EXPERIMENT - Introduction to Focus 10 18/09/2024 08:05 DAY 5 Today was probably the worst day: I was almost fully asleep, I didn’t listen much of the audio, and yes, I did relax, but not because I was actively doing the exercise. I know I shouldn’t be doing it when I'm tired (and I do it almost right after I wake up, so I'm pretty zoned out and sleepy), but I wanted to do it in the morning since there is silence, and I am not disturbed by noises or other things. I am in Italy with my family, but next Monday I go back to the Netherlands where I live alone, so then I can set the practice properly with all the other things I have to do during the day. Until then, I will still do it at least once a day, but not in the morning right after I wake up.

🟢 GATEWAY EXPERIMENT - Introduction to Focus 10 17/09/2024 16:10 DAY 4 part 2 I just ended the second track for the second time of the day. Now it was better, I didn’t have allergy anymore (I've been using the face mask the whole day), and I managed to swallow only once, just at the beginning of the exercise. The downside was that I was a bit tired, and I thought that it would be good so after I ended it I would be refreshed; in fact, I do feel refreshed, but since I was tired in some moments I lost focus. Now, I don’t know if I did everything properly; to some extent, I feel that I really rested, but I don’t know if my body was really asleep and my mind was awake. But overall it was not bad. If the quality stays like this or gets better in the next two days I will continue with the next track.

I fully agree with everything you say. Also,@SageMind I can tell you that I also thought I was super picky (and it was true), and I never found anyone. Then I understood that my behavior came from a family situation where most of people fully criticize other for how they look, and I was doing the same. I understood that beauty is present even beyond "imperfections", and now I know that there's no such thing as imperfect look. I told you what my experience was, but idk what you mean when you say you're picky, maybe it's different for me.

Never really tried it so I can't give you any important suggestions, but there's plenty of info about it in this forum! Just make some research