My guess is that a significant portion of dating and relationship advice that’s geared towards men is counterproductive. I’ve heard some things and known right away that the guys who take the advice will struggle with forming relationships with women.
Like the Andrew Tate kind of stuff… it’s not actually going to get you success with women. It will actually chase most of them off.
And many PUA type entrepreneurs want to create a revolving door where they can rile men up with stories about how they can be so successful with women with their methods.
And they share this with a dose of misogyny to make the man feel better about himself just for being a man. So, it becomes a self-soothing echo chamber.
Then he buys some course or product and tries it and is unsuccessful.
But he returns to the Andrew Tate-like guy to grouse about women rejecting him and to self-soothe. And he buys another product, attends another seminar, etc.
Then he goes back out and is unsuccessful. And he comes back to the self-soothing echo chamber.
And eventually after all that failure, he ends up in some Black Pill entrepreneur’s funnel who will convince him that he’s hopeless and worthless.
And he’ll then pay money to have these Black Pill entrepreneurs rate his face for signs of ugliness and other such monetizable trauma responses.
The whole thing turns into one big grift to extract money from men and to continue extracting money from them by keeping them purposefully unsuccessful.
If men actually became good at talking to women, these guys would go out of business.
So, they convince men that their methods work when they don’t. And they brainwash them into believing things about women and relationships that aren’t true or helpful.
And if a woman tries to warn this guy that his paradigm is off… these entrepreneurs have those bases covered. They’ll say, “Don’t ask a fish how to catch it.”
And this inoculates the victims of these schemes from ever questioning their paradigm… because the paradigm (though unsuccessful) weaves a story for them where they can feel superior and better than. It gives them a shield from their soul sickness.