Sincerity

I can and I do 😈

Tangible changes are approaching. Moving elsewhere at the end of April. Will no longer have a daily companion in the form of my ex. Going on a 1-day trip to another city on Sunday. Rent prices are low there. I've been expressing my views more on the forum lately. I'm happy with that. I had a surge of energy in the last days to do things in my life. I did quite a lot. Now I feel lower energy since yesterday evening. I'm fine either way.

Lol. 😆 Maybe. Or maybe not. We don’t know. His students could be reached out to and asked.

I think he has too much baggage with politics now. He’s not that popular or liked anymore.

I think these fools like Mr. Beast or Jake Paul might try to run sometime, but they’d never get past the primary. I hope so. I really have a disgust reaction when thinking about them.

Here's another AI-related idea. Leo mentioned in his Traps for Online Content Creators blog post how reading all the positive and negative feedback corrupts the mind, and that the feedback you get is extremely noisy, biased, and low quality. Youtube creators should have the option to get an AI summary of feedback from comments under a video. This would make it so that if a creator wanted, they could only read the impersonal summarized feedback, instead of having to read through every biased personal comment, positive or negative, to get a sense of how they're doing. It'd be nice if the creator could also query the AI deeper about some aspects of the feedback, whatever is of interest to them. @Leo Gura What do you think?

@Scholar Might respond to you later. I have a few points in my head but I'm too tired to lay them out. Haha. Possibly

@Carl-Richard Okay. I’m done with the topic - thanks again.

Thanks! Well, I think in the majority of true emergencies the rescued would be aligned in will with the rescuer, so still unimposing. Let’s say that someone starts jaywalking on a red light while I’m next to them waiting for the light to switch, and suddenly I grab them by their shirt and pull them back forcefully because a car would run them over in a second which they didn’t see. That’s still „unimposing” love to me, because we’re assuming that the person’s deepest will is to live. So we’re aligned in will. On the other hand, there’s also the possibility that eg. an overprotective parent will see a choice his teenager wants to make in their life as a „grave danger” to them („an emergency”), and forcefully try to stop the teenager from making it. In this case, there’s high chance that the love would be imposing. Judgement is tricky, isn’t it? I think challenging is still done best from an unimposing love. When there’s imposing, the other side is more likely to close off even more. Yeah, it’s all complex. Love matters are not for the faint of mind!

I think I agree. A powerful thing for (some) parents to realize - that they never really loved their child, they just „cared” about it. That is, loved them only in the limited way they could. I guess with love, I have a standard of it embedded in my definition. Which I acknowledge might be not correct on one hand. But on the other hand, there’s something true about that. Keep in mind, everything I was saying was mostly in reference to your statement „My wish for Leo to go to therapy is out of love”. In my replies, I was pointing to my belief that this is „imposing love” - meaning that you think you know what’s best for someone. Also, since the word „imposing” can be understood in different ways (and I should have cleared this up earlier), I’d like to propose a distinction between soft vs hard imposing. In short, hard imposing would be you applying pressure on someone to do the thing you think is best. And soft imposing is even thinking that you know what’s best. All this to say, I’m not saying you were hard imposing. But when you say „my wish for him to do the thing is out of love”, I see that as soft imposing. So still imposing. In my honest feedback with my friend, after he described his situation and I felt like I more or less understand it, I’d say something like: „Given the circumstances that you have, personally I’d go to therapy. But I acknowledge that I don’t have the full picture, and also this is your path, so the „advice” might not be valid”. I mean, first and foremost, notice that you don’t really know Leo, you don’t know his circumstances. Also, in the exchange with the friend, the assumption is that the friend is interested in advice. But okay, you’re already saying you don’t know what’s best. So nevermind. This whole thing might be about minutiae at this point. 😆 I was just saying that I think „imposing love” fundamentally lacks respect in general. Even if it’s soft imposing. But again, nevermind. I think we basically cleared up everything. Thanks for the discussion - we went on a tangent, but it was interesting.

Hahahahaha. Brilliant exchanges. I’m Jar Jar Binks. 💀

@Leo Gura You’re on fire with these essay-like blog posts these last days! Thanks for them

Listened to this yesterday and thought about posting it as well! Ngl, this professor might be a teeny tiny crackpot and I’m trying to be careful with believing things he’s saying. But he does have a unique perspective, that’s for sure.

Sorry then. Seemed very relevant to the discussion I’ve had with Carl.