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Let's team up? I've managed to get up to a max of 1,5 month. Drop me a dm if you're up for it

Step 1: just think, fuck it and have fun, be weird. 2: just think, everybody likes it to get compliments, hit on or if a random person starts a chat. It's an ego buster. So nothing can go actually wrong.

I've eliminated a lot of things in the meantime to just get the load of my plate, which worked well. ?gym: still going steady 4x p/w. I'm getting bigger aswell ?? ?Eating habits: eating more healthy. A bit different though. ?Porn: stayed off it for 1,5 month. Craving got me to watch some images though. ?Burnout: lot of headaches Business: good, when i'm able to be there (employees need more attention). ?General mind status: pretty good ?Business: better than ever, flowy Feeling more peace with it aswell. Random addition: Still having some trouble detaching from my ex.

It's a lot at the moment. Battling through trauma, dealing with a burnout, a (short but intense) relationship that ended and keeping my business running. And offcourse the constant struggle with addictive tendencies, of which my main escape is porn. gym: steadily going 2 or 3 times a week (win) Eating habits: overeating most of the times Porn: manageable, but like to eliminate. Burnout: lot of headaches Business: good, when i'm able to be there (employees need more attention). all the rest; feels like a lot. current status: it feels like it's going off the rails. I've got to get on top of things. Made a checklist for the upcoming week to get my days in check. Everyday i want to exercise, do IF, meditate and not watch porn. I don't know if i should try this, because is another thing in my bucket. But it feels better than nothing. I hope it will fix my energy levels and mindfullness a bit.

That's a seperate thing for me. You can be alpha and be a crappy lying douchebag and in that case. Not high value. But the whole definition of high value is dependent on the viewer. One person (or better: one set of traits) can be highly "valuable" to one and less valuable to another.

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It's more about what you think of valuable yourself when looking for someone. But here would be my list: Truly confident, at peace with himself (and his feminine side) Can take care of himself, no pushover & financially stable Funny Intelligent (IQ/EQ) Kind, empathetic Open mindedness Good looking or charismatic Obviously loyal, honest, etc. But those are basic traits you should have as a human. I now realize these are (almost) exactly the same as what i regard as highly valuable in a woman. But for me I like a stronger woman who is more in tough with her masculine side. Maybe that's different for others.

Checking in a couple times a year isnt harmfull. If you feel the need now, just check ut. Of you have ut again in a week, you may want to do some soul searching, meditate on the feeling (try the focusing technique by gendlin) or write out your thoughts and feelings a couple of times.

Don't doubt yourself, try to get out of your head and into your body/emotions regarding woman and intimacy. If you feel like it. Do it. Just not with anybody.. Especially your first time experience is a very special occasion and can be an awesome moment or crap. And if you have a connection with a person who actually cares for you. Go with the flow. If they see you as a body with a dick, fuck them (and figuratively :), so don't actually fuck them). After that, An occasional meaningless hookup is fine if you feel like It. And if it's enough, you'll notice. If you long for connection to be there before sex, just see where connection happens. Take it as you go.. I'm over 30 and I can tell you. Good sex with a girl you have a connection with can be fucking mind blowing and invigorating it doesnt drain your life energy.

Don't worry about the jerking off for now. Every day isnt healthy but fuck that, your young. For now, porn is your main enemy. And just feel lucky. PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) is a fucking scary monster who is probably coming for you. The only way to get him away is to quit porn. My advice. Try to quit porn. Keep on the fapping but without digital material. Just your mind. If you master that. Then you can take the next step. And if you can only last a week. Once a week is a lot better than once a day. So if that progress sticks your on the right track my man. I've said it to others aswell, but the book your brain on porn is a great insight for this.

Porn addiction is real.. It's basically meth in its natural form and because your "high" (orgasm) isn't as long as a meth high, you can keep in craving it. Or delay the high with edging. Read the book 'your brain on porn' it wil explain A LOT.

agree on this one and a lot of others. The thing which is crazy, crazy important: A very, very high locus of control and the willingness to adjust yourself to anything. No excuses why something doesnt work or that it's because someone didnt do it. You ALWAYS could have done something better or different that would have made it work. Keep your focus internal, what could you have done to make it work? Keep those incremental improvements during the years and you'll kill it. (disclaimer: i'm a business coach and this single aspect is where i see a lot of people missing the point)

The combination of the tips is spot on! I'm basically in the right place, just have to change some stuff. I'm dancing (and teaching) salsa, bachata & kizomba for some years now, am in a pretty good place with my business and don't really want to change my personality since i'm happy with my genuine confidence and sincerity. I just have to be more open/alert for these women to even spot them at events and have the balls to spot them. (normally encounters just happen everywhere, but with these "normal" woman who don't cut it for me on the long run). So basically take matters into my own hands. oh yeah, and heal some trauma which is limiting me to actually be able to have the feeling of safety while attaching to someone.. To reply on some comments: @aurum my list is actually a lot longer. But there's no way to use that subset and try to find those in a specific place. @Leo Gura approaching is the secret sauce where i'm dropping the ball i think. @Jannes i've made a critical typo there. I don't like basic money driven people. @petar8p got that covered :). But good to remind me of it. It's right in front of me and i don't do anything with it.. the current list: Yoga events, charity events, acting class, book seminars. Thanks for the reply's!

Where do i find "high value" women? You guys got some ideas? I got this far? Yoga, Business events (in sectors women are highly represented), high class parties (i don't like basic money driven people though)? Some context: I'm 33, have no hard time to "get with girls", live in a city where there is an abundance of women, had some steady relationships, but... I'm looking for the one. Beautifull, charming, high IQ an EQ. 27 y/o or older. These random "girls" on the street (a lot of girls study in this place) don't cut it for me. Any tips?