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Short answer: patriarchy. Longer answer: society punishes motherhood, underestimates it, and underappreciates it. There is no incentive to be a mother, only cons. It takes a village to raise a child. But now one woman is expected to do it alone, in addition to working in a regular job.

Thank you for sharing. What a tiny world. I wish safety for your family and hope that the war isn’t troubling them too much.

Hi Niv, good to see you too. I go to a shelter (a shared shelter for building residents), similar to yours. I feel mixed feelings (stress, numbness, anger, peace) for various reasons. I live in the north, so we got missiles and drones from both Iran and Hezbollah. While the repulsion of the ballistic missiles can sometimes shake the windows and walls, for some reason the protection feels more hermetic than in the center, maybe because it’s more crowded there.

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Be transparent. You are dating, she may have more serious intentions. Let her make an informed decision before she sleeps with you. Don’t try to control or manipulate the situation to get your favored outcome. This strips her of her right to make an informed decision. Otherwise, she may get hurt/traumatized. Sex is a very risky, intimate, and vulnerable thing, do it consciously. There is nothing masculine about sleeping with women by deluding them into thinking that you are serious when you are not. This is low-conscious behavior. For your information, we are humans, not objects or toys.

I respect whistleblowers. It appears that most of the famous spiritual gurus are famous because they are complicit with the system. I have noticed that they usually gaslight their audience into believing that all their issues stem from a personal failure that they can fix if they only follow their teachings, and that any critic of the system is seen as unwilling to take responsibility for their own life. This is actually what the system that raised those gurus to the top wants us to believe. Many, if not most, human issues are due to systemic failures like poverty, inequality, politics, corruption, patriarchy, capitalism, greed, etc., which those spiritual gurus fail to address deliberately.

Ok. Do you have their contact details? I do want to learn how to communicate with the dead. But in order to communicate with Epstein, I would need to go through an extended course of communication with dead PDF files. Any resources?

Yes, I skip the stuff that I don’t understand or feel comfortable with. There is also a urine therapy technique, which I find weird. There is a yogi in my country who has been using urine therapy for 20+ years (by drinking it and applying it to her skin like a lotion). People mock and criticize her. She looks healthy and good, though.

I’m safe, thank you. This is much appreciated. Luckily, I have a protective space to go to. I also do yoga and breathwork to calm my nervous system down.

@bazera Same. I discovered this book accidentally, didn’t actually expect much, and now my neti pot and I are BFFs.

Sure. https://www.amazon.sg/Yoga-Kriya-Systematic-Ancient-Techniques/dp/8185787085

That’s really kind of you. I wish I had the patience to be so kind. Due to so much trauma from men, I don’t have the emotional energy to explain myself to a stranger. I just say that I’m a lesbian to brush them off. Funnily enough, they believe me. This is not very honest, but it’s amusing. Sometimes I say that I’m married, but it doesn’t always work. They judge me for being too prudish and for not cheating on my fictional husband with them lol.

I agree. Sitting on a chair is not natural and can even be harmful in the long run. If someone can’t sit cross-legged or in natural positions, this is a sign that they need to work more on their flexibility and practice more asanas. This can also protect the body from injuries, especially as we get older. I don’t know if it is mentioned in the Kriya Yoga book Leo has on his reading list. I have another Kriya book which is more comprehensive in my opinion, and it emphasizes the importance of doing yoga asanas prior to meditation because it prepares the mind and body by making it easier to enter a meditative state, unlike directly entering a meditative state without any asanas. Doing so is like running without warm-ups. This only shows how the mind and body are connected and how ignoring this connection negatively affects the meditation practice.

On the other hand, I am also annoyed by both Trump’s and Bibi’s governments for exploiting wars cynically as a way to distract people from the flaws of their governments. So annoying.

I hope that it will be worth it and that Iranians will succeed in returning to the pre-authoritarian regime. I hate wars, but I like how everyone in Israel is more connected now, and it allows people the opportunity to take a pause from fast-paced life, forget all the nonsense, and have one shared goal: survival.

A man who has the goal of sleeping with as many women as possible has a low-conscious and ignorant approach, in my opinion, and I will soon explain why. First of all, men with this view are very irresponsible and don’t consider the risks they put women into. Most of the time, they spread sexually transmitted diseases because they don’t do checkups. Additionally, they don’t consider contraceptives, and all the burden falls on women. Secondly, it ignores the power dynamics and the differences between men and women. It is not a secret that most men (and women) learn about sex from porn, in which women are objectified, and this view makes hookups very mechanical and lifeless (non-erotic). Women participate in this, mostly young and inexperienced women usually as a way to discover their sexuality. Some women, mainly in the West, feel pressure to participate in hookup culture in order to feel empowered because this is what women were told empowerment is to be like a man, to work like a man, to sleep like a man which is just liberal nonsense that is still rooted in misogyny. What is wrong with doing things like a woman? Secondly, it is an anti-feminist view, even if it is disguised as feminism, because it doesn’t question patriarchy, which is a system that favors men and masculinity; it only tries to cope with it, which is not beneficial to women. Regardless of the reason, in an ideal society they could be doing that in a safe way if men were safer and didn’t view sex as a tool to dominate, humiliate, and control women. But in reality, unfortunately, sex involves more risk for women. Women are more vulnerable in hookups, and they gain nothing from it. Men at least gain some orgasm, higher self-esteem (because manhood in our society is tied to how many women you sleep with), and acceptance from other men. Women in most cases gain nothing only risks and they are less likely to orgasm from a one-night stand with a man who likely doesn’t care about her or her pleasure, but only his. Why is sleeping with as many women as possible a low-conscious goal? Because it doesn’t benefit women, puts them at unnecessary risk, and given the power dynamics in our society, is exploitative and predatory. Additionally, many men use sex as a tool for validation and approval and as a form of distraction from inner unresolved trauma and insecurity. Usually, men who sleep with as many women as possible don’t feel fulfilled either. A more conscious approach would be to work on trauma and approach sex more seriously and consciously, as a way to heal both participants, to transform, to reach mutual pleasure, and to connect to another human being. In such a case, there is no compulsion toward quantity, but rather toward quality and intention. I think that while we live in a very sexualized society, it is still very ignorant about sex and approaches it in a very low-conscious and harmful way. Since we live in a capitalistic society, which is basically a death cult that values material things more than humans, this materialistic approach is poisoning sex as well, causing humans to ignore their humanity and see both themselves and others as objects and masturbation tools rather than living human beings. Our society lacks eroticism (life) in a very fundamental way. Patriarchy, porn and capitalism killed it.

Beautiful soul ❤️ I’m studying her.

Do you really care? Go to there and fight aginst the Zionits. If I'm Nazi for being fearful of a manipulative Nazi terrorist group near my home, then you are Nazi for supporting Hamas and justifying Oc 7. Bye.

Okay, who gets to define what a risky job is? Being pregnant and having children is also extremely risky, not only to a woman’s life and health, but also to her time and career opportunities. But mothers are rarely supported or paid. They are penalized, despite doing the most important job of bringing people into the world. Why is this taken for granted? Because we live in a patriarchal society that doesn't value women’s labor. Tech is not a risky job; there is a majority of men in it. And to be honest, it is currently doing more to ruin the world than to change it for the better. Why is it considered more important than taking care of children? It is so difficult to raise children—mentally and physically healthy children. This is a constant stress. Children are the true future of society, not technology. Technology is a tool, just a tool. When you say that the wage gap is largely a choice gap and a motherhood gap due to biological reality, not discrimination, that is exactly what discrimination is. Why isn’t motherhood valued? Mothers bring life into the world. Why should they be penalized for this? Fathers, on the other hand, get bonuses at work because of their fatherhood status, while mothers get penalized. Why, if not because of sexist bias? If motherhood is invaluable, prove it with actions, not words. Everyone expects women to do free labor that benefits all of society without properly helping or supporting them. I don’t care how the economic system is designed. Design it for the benefit of everyone, not only for rich men. Because of unfair things like that, there is feminism. And don’t tell me that there isn’t enough money to pay mothers when there are billionaire men making money from doing questionable tech work like Facebook. Childless women still experience discrimination due to misogyny. Society is very patriarchal and misogynistic. If you don’t understand this, I’m sorry, I don’t know how to help you. What is reality? We grew up in a patriarchal society; this is the only reality we know. Just because this is all we know doesn’t mean there are no other options or other possible realities. Those with power in society are the ones who dictate the narrative of what reality is, the story of reality. Feminism, especially radical feminism, believes that justice can happen only if we dismantle this reality and build a new one. Yes, feminism has variations and disagreements, but they are not a reason to reject it altogether and support an oppressive and patriarchal system. Capitalism and the porn industry exploit feminism and its advanced ideas of women’s sexual autonomy to actually benefit men and the male gaze. The flaw is not within feminism itself, but within the same patriarchal system that exploits feminism, marketing self-objectification and hookup culture as something “feminist,” when in fact this does not benefit women and therefore is not feminist. Feminism is about choice, not self-objectification. Patriarchy has sneaky ways in which it keeps women oppressed. Of course. When women demand freedom is not about freedom to be an abuser without concecenses. This is just a male projection because men feel free enough to be abusers without concequnces, they enjoy this privillage so they think that this is what feminists want as well. Feminists want freedom out of male dominance, abuse, control, mistreatment etc. Yes, I appreciate Sam, but he lacks an understanding of feminism and what it truly stands for. He hasn’t read feminist literature. Women “fucking around” and “girl-bossing” at work is just a shallow and capitalistic manifestation of feminism, feminism is broader than that. But I do agree with him that women are more “men-like,” not because of feminism, but due to survival necessities in patriarchy and the capitalistic exploitation of feminist ideas. And yes, there is a rise in narcissism among women, because we live in a capitalistic, individualistic, and patriarchal society. With masculine values, narcissism is the natural outcome in such a society, regardless of gender. So the problem is still not feminism, but patriarchy and capitalism.

I agree that people like Leo are rare, but he is also human and may not fully live by what he is teaching. Abstract and advanced ideas and understanding of society is one thing; surviving in society is another. He also may be trapped in human bullshit he isn't aware of yet. We all are, to some extent. All we know about him is what he shares, we don't live with him as closely as we live with our family or friends. I disagree with the statement that society fits women better. I don't think so. Society is still very patriarchal and capitalistic. Even in progressive countries where there are more equal rights, its framework is still patriarchal and capitalistic, driven by masculine values. It actually has to be, because the world is a global village with the same capitalistic and patriarchal values. If it were matriarchal, it would be centered around mothers and children, community, creativity, rituals, and living more in tune with nature rather than fighting it. more open to accpet chaos rather than figting it. Patirachy loves order, artificial herarchy, submission at the expense of expression, hates creativity that isn't profitable. Even the most advanced countries still value work and endless growth. Women still do unpaid domestic labor and childcare, which keeps them poorer than men, very orange, very masculine still. Yes, capitalistic marketing exploits feminism to sell. They use green ideas to manipulate the youth and sell products, and it appears like women are controlling everything, but this is not the case. Women are still oppressed by narrow beauty standards and unpaid labor. Women work more than men and get paid much less than men. Most of the wealth in the world is held by men. There is still a lot of misogyny, especially among the youth. Most health studies were done on men, so most medicine suits male anatomy and physiology rather than women’s. Women are more mistreated in the healthcare system. Society suits male anatomy and hormonal systems more than women’s. The highest-paying jobs are considered masculine and have a majority of males, as opposed to jobs with a female majority, which are usually low-paying. The porn industry is objectifying women, training men and women to see women as objects rather than human beings. Older women are treated worse than older men. It is very difficult and dangerous for a woman to be truly feminine in a patriarchal society. We have to become like men to survive. Actually, I would argue that there is a war on femininity. The problem is not that men became more feminine, it is that we all became men. Men are men with privilege because they have male genitals, and women are men without the privilege. Women are now better at being men than men themselves. they have no other choice. Being a truly feminine woman, not in a shallow and performative way but in true embodied way, is a privillage that most women can't afford. Maybe only those who are wealthy. When everybody is a man, no one is a man, because society has killed femininity, which many people still perceive as bad. Even you, as advanced as you may see yourself, appear to have some underlying prejudice against it, because you were socialized this way. I, as a woman, was socialized that way too, that femininity is bad. When there is excess masculinity in society, wihtout femininity to balance it, there is also no masuclinity. Just some gray weird thing in between. This is where we all are. The solution is to weolcome the feminine with open arms. Who dares? No the coward men in this society. They are so coward that they will never do that hahaha. Too bad. This is funny, that you men here usually present yourselves as authorities without anyone asking you to. You are self-proclaimed experts and coaches. You also like to repeat the same sentences you hear from Leo, like “contemplate this,” as if you have said something so profound and beyond regular people’s understanding. This approach ironically closes you off from the truth. Maybe you should contemplate this if you are such a contemplative guy? Even if you and I contemplate this and come to different conclusions, who said that your conclusion is more truthful than mine? Just because Leo said so? Those who haven't deconstructed patriarchy are ignorant, privillged and conformists. They can be machos, nice guys, conservatives, or liberals, body buliders, soy boys, soy boys who are body buliders, they can be young or old, gay, trans etc etc. They can be everywhere and everything, they are the vast majority. Why are you calling incompetent men “pussies” as if this is something bad? You actually came into this world from a pussy. Pussy is actually a compliment. Delivering babies is difficult labor. Men who have truly deconstructed patriarchy, not only for virtue signaling, are rare, because this is very difficult work for a man. Even Leo didn't do that. It is inconvenient for the ego. If it is difficult for a woman so for a man is hundred more times difficult. Most men don't do that, even liberal men. Even men who call themselves feminists, many of them do that only to access women but deep down they are still very mysogenistic. The men who truly deconstruct patriarchy are very rare and are usually at peace with both their masculinity and femininity.

Dude, no matter what, you never call women trash! I don’t care if it is a figure of speech, literally or you are just insecure incel. I don’t care that you had a predatory phase in which you manipulated young women to sleep with you. You and your pick up cult should be held accountable for your shitty behavior towards young women. I hope that karma will do justice with people like you.

Yes, I agree. All the points are surprisingly shared by both: (The "Predator" Mindset, The Suppression of Empathy, The Rejection of Modernity and Equality, The "Secret Knowledge," Scaling Women, Alpha/Beta Hierarchy [The "Führer" Principle]). Especially the predator mindset, sleeping with as many women as possible while providing them no value in return and scaling women. They have no idea how traumatizing and humiliating this is for women, and they don’t care because they don’t view us as human. I am traumatized from men’s objectification for my entire life and from men who coldly approached me in public in my most vulnerable years and states, when I was eating, when I was waiting at a bus station and couldn’t leave, when I worked as a cashier, when I was in a new city and needed guidance (some creep actually followed me).

I smell low-key misogyny from you. In the other thread, you called women trash. This says a lot about you. You are one of those men who act like nice guys but actually harbor tons of resentment toward women. You consume content from women who cater to men’s biases and what they want to believe about dating. I don’t know what her intentions are, maybe the same as Pearl’s. It is totally untrue that women don’t have accountability, I hear that all the time. Statistically, women are very successful in academia and in leadership roles. Single mothers and mothers are accountable enough to hold an entire household together while working and never being properly paid. So saying that women are not accountable is just gaslighting. Yes, both genders suck at dating these days but men are obgectively more awful at it. I would like to share more from the women's perspective because it is not often shared here.

If you are interested in teaching philosophy, isn’t it about teaching people how to think critically, first and foremost? From my view, teaching philosophy is more about teaching people to ask the right questions and letting them arrive at answers through more questions, rather than serving them ready-made answers, right? This is how philosophy was originally practiced. And, of course, not with just anyone, but with people who are genuinely interested in philosophy. Do you have an issue with being challenged? Regarding the truth: Isn't it impossible to access truth if one is selfish? People are selfish, but I would argue that men are, on average, more selfish than women. I believe I confronted Leo about this earlier. The masculine doesn’t care more about truth than the feminine; it is just that they have different paths. If the masculine seeks truth through questioning and logical pursuit, attempting to be as detached from emotions and bias as possible, then the feminine seeks truth through knowing, intuition, the body, and direct “downloads” from the source. Ultimately, the perfect philosopher masters both. Just because most philosophers historically were men (mainly white men) doesn’t mean anything about innate ability. They had the privilege to be alone because they were surrounded by women, if not a wife, then a mother, sister, or other family relative, who met their physical needs. This saved them significant time. Those women may have been brilliant, with great lost potential, but they had to do domestic labor because of strict gender roles and systemic oppression, at the expense of their personal pursuits. I belive that the epidemic of what you call “men-pussies” (men who havn't deconstructed patriarchy, in my jargon) exists because many men refuse to embrace their feminine side, which includes their humaness, their eros (life energy), they are too attached to the masculine energy (logos). Even the stoics were more in touch with their eros. They were socialized to believe that everything related to femininity or women is bad and opposite to what it means to be masculine. So if there is a majority of women in academia, suddenly men dismiss academia as “bad” or “not masculine” simply because women are there. Everything women do, some men do the opposite, believing it will make them masculine, which ironalicaly, makes them more passive, when in reality, they should look up to women in order to become their full selves, they should be open to integrete their natural combination of feminine and masculine energy, which is what women usually do more.

I see. There are inherent biological differences between the sexes. I.e., different genitals (no further explanation needed), different physiques (one has more muscle tissue while the other has more fat tissue), different hormonal cycles (women have a 28-day cycle in which energy changes during the month, some days energy is stable, some days energy is high, some days energy is lower, and some days energy is very low, while men have a daily cycle in which energy is high during the day and lower at night every day), etc., etc. This is widely agreed upon by feminists. no feminists claim that this is not true. One would need to be very detached from reality not to see it. There is no argument about this, correct? The issue is that the system, which is patriarchal, yes, even in “the most egalitarian countries” in Europe, is still tailored more to the male physique, which still discriminates against biological females. Labor performed by males is more rewarded and valued globally than labor performed by females. Male-dominated professions like engineering, tech, and science are considered more valuable, while female-dominated professions like nursing, teaching, and social work are considered less valuable and therefore less paid. While we all want educated children (the next generation) and healthy people in society, we value those professions less when they performed by women. Why? Additionally, women do more unpaid labor by doing more household chores than men and raising children, which affects their careers, and as a result, they remain poorer than men. When women attempt to succeed in male-dominated careers, they are very likely to receive more hostility, sexual harassment, and sex-based discrimination due to biological factors such as motherhood and the menstrual cycle. If we are talking about a truly egalitarian society, it can never be tailored to a male physique alone. It should be tailored to the physiques of both sexes and, in general, any group other than white men - like disabled people, for example. So, the article doesn’t prove anything about the unsuccess of feminism. It only proves that patriarchy persists, and the solution is deeper than just law-level equality. Also, for true equality, we need men to want to be equal to women. It’s not enough for women to strive to be equal to men. Men also need to develop more emotional intelligence to be able to share the burden of emotional labor that women do. Men also need to be able to take care of children and do house chores. If women can work, raise children, and do house chores at the same time, men can too. If men don’t strive to be equal to women, no matter how many laws there are, it wouldn’t work. We need two to tango. "Equal rights" doesn’t mean becoming a man. It means receiving the same human rights as men: the freedom to vote, to choose, to receive an education, to possess property, to earn, etc. It started with the first wave of feminism, which didn’t necessarily want to destroy patriarchy. It just wanted the right to compete with men in the patriarchal system in order to spread privilege more equally, if that makes sense. First-wave feminism did a lot of good for women, but it was mainly white women wanting the same freedom as white men. However, it doesn’t fully work because the problem is deeper. The issue is deeper, and the solution must be more complex than simply granting equal rights by law. It is a nice beginning, but not the end. This is why feminism continued through four waves. Each wave developed feminist ideas further and added more nuance to the previous waves. Feminism evolved over time and adjusted itself to reality with constant backlash. The First Wave The goal: Legal equality, the right to vote, property rights, access to education. The backlash received from patriarchy: Claims that women are too emotional or irrational for politics (funny when it comes from men), mockery in the media, and portraying feminists as anti-family or unnatural. The Second Wave The goal: Workplace rights, reproductive rights, protection from domestic abuse, and opposition to pornography (arguing that it sexualizes inequality, normalizes violence, and trains men to see women as objects). The backlash received from patriarchy: Rigid beauty standards, which were promoted and monitzied by capitalism; the porn industry further develops, which alienates women from their bodies and objectifies them for the male gaze, for mere comsumption, women internalizing this and not feeling connected enough to their bodies, constant stress, eating disorders, and mental health issues among women. The Third Wave The goal: Body positivity and sex positivity (emphasizing women’s agency and sexual autonomy), rejection of narrow beauty standards, rejection of the male gaze, and recognition of how race, class, and sexuality affect women differently (i.e., women of color are more oppressed than white women, LGBTQ women are more oppressed than hetrosexual women). The backlash from patriarchy: Claims that feminism is no longer needed because women already have legal rights. Claims that feminism has gone too far. Sexualization and commodification of feminist messages by capitalism in order to sell products, culture wars, and red pill/manosphere backlash. The Fourth Wave The goal: Bringing awareness to how widespread sexual harassment is in workplaces and powerful industries, shifting the shame to the attacker rather than the victim, accountability for abusers, believing and supporting survivors, body autonomy, reproductive rights, equal healthcare access/treatment, critique of porn expectations and unrealistic beauty ideals, critique of the “motherhood penalty” and “fatherhood bonus”, unpaid care labor, concerns about femicide and gender-based violence, which are seen as systemic issues. Backlash from patriarchy: The manosphere (Andrew tate alike alpha bros), claims of “cancel culture” and “feminism gone too far”, political pushback against women’s reproductive rights, increased online harassment and misogyny targeting women, framing feminism as anti-male, promoting rigid gender roles, dismissing structural inequality. Why is there always backlash to feminism? Note that feminism has valid goals. None of them involve killing, raping, controlling men, or harming men for no reason. The most “horrible” thing is holding men accountable for their bad treatment of women. It is more about freedoms that men receive without question and take for granted, while women do not. When women request the same form of freedom, fair treatment, and respect, they receive massive backlash. Why? This is because the system, which is patriarchal, wants to preserve itself. The men (and some women) in this system work to preserve the system, because of various reasons: socialization, survival, conformism, fear of change, privilege, lack of critical thinking, ignorance, etc. I would argue that the pickup and red pill movements emerged as a backlash to feminism, as an attempt to regress and revive the past, to preserve the gender roles of the past simply because they served men more than women. This is anti-evolutionary. Historically, marriage has always served men more. They made a bargain with the devil. The patriarch is a corrupted and inauthentic individual. He sold his soul for privilege in this hierarchy of power, where his freedom is guaranteed and his lineage continues, regardless of his character or genes. He sold his humanity, his femininity, his compassion, his humanness, his eros, his intuition. Today, after 4 waves of feminism the trurth is very obvious: men who follow patriarchy are not attractive to women, especially women who have deconstructed patriarchy, aka feminists, and see through its BS. These men are not attractive not because they are bad-looking or not rich enough, but because they lack eros, which is life energy connected to feminine energy. They have too much logos (connected to masculine energy) and so little eros. This is boring. And it make them so dumb. If you read male characters written by women, they have lots of eros because they are at peace with both their feminine and masculine sides. No internal conflict. Regular men in the patriarchal system lack it. They are boring conformists and submissive to other powerful men. This is not attractive, I’m sorry. Feminine and masculine energy are not uniquely possessed by men or women, both have them, and in women both energies are intertwined. When you repress your feminine energy and force the other gender to repress their masculine, you end up with toxic and codependent gender roles, which are unnatural and inhuman, even if they are called “traditional.” And if they are set to benefit only you while oppressing the other gender, don’t be surprised when you receive backlash. You deserve it! Therefore, the solution for all young men who struggle with dating is to deconstruct patriarchy, learn how it it hurts them and women, connect to both their feminine and masculine energy and reclaim their full humanity: stop watching porn and objectifying women, talk to real women, learn leadership and organization skills from women, develop emotional intelligence, cultivate real relationships with people, and cultivate some eros.