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@Judy2 I would really love for you to read this 🌹

Thank you for sharing ✨

Yes, at the end of the day, they are running a business. I know people who go to therapy and nothing changes. It is truly difficult to find a good therapist, one who is effective, has your best interests at heart, and can provide the exact guidance you need. Many are surface-level. Also, talking therapy alone isn’t always that effective. Really good therapists use more holistic methods that include the body. Luckily, I never had enough money or trust to go to therapy. I tried it once, and it didn’t feel right. You are right. We are responsible for our own healing. I’m an introvert. I look inside myself often. I do shadow work and inner-child work. When I’m alone, I’m more than fine. I also feel good with a few trusted people. Regarding the rest of humanity, I don’t feel safe around most people. I feel it in my body, something is off. I am so sensitive that if I’m stuck in a room with toxic or traumatized people, I absorb their pain and end up angry, sick, or triggered. Past wounds get reopened, and then I need to rest for a week. This is why I can’t work with most people in person, only remotely or with animals/children.

@VioletFlame Thank you ❤️

This is beautiful and inspiring. I think that people who realize they are traumatized and "give up" on healing often do so because they lack resources, can't find good therapists, and lack support (mainly emotional and financial).

Unfortunately, most people don't do trauma work. I believe that fewer than 5% of people do and that would be a really gross estimation. There is not much awareness, most people don't even realize that they are functioning from trauma. I'm sorry for what you went through, and I'm happy you healed. I am curious, what is your occupation in life? Are you a functional adult? I also went through a difficult childhood and life, including SA and lots of misunderstanding and hate from people because I am a truth-teller by nature. I have always had controversial ideas and, as a result, I receive a lot of negativity and still do. I did a lot of work to heal my trauma from humans, and at times I believe that that's it, I’m done. But then life happens, and I realize that I still have so much to do. And part of that is not because I am inherently flawed (though I'm an HSP, which many people perceive as a flaw), but because society as a system is very traumatizing. We have a responsibility to heal our pain, and it really works to some extent, but there are also systemic issues that affect us too, especially when the majority of humans in this system act from trauma and pain that isn't healed because it is even not recognized.

The Epstein case is indeed not an isolated case. This is a systemic issue (patriarchy and all the other things intertwined with it, like capitalism, imperialism, colonialism, foundalism, white supremacy, materialism, rationality, etc.). There is child abuse and trafficking of children across the globe. Children are indeed the most oppressed group of humans. Childhood is like a prison, as Teal Swan said. No wonder most adults have childhood trauma and grow up to be traumatized adults who transfer their trauma to their children, and so on, resulting in a society of traumatized people. This is not a healthy society. This is why society should be centered around children (life) and not possessions/money (death), like in the more matriarchal/egalitarian era of humans. This is why we are on the path of self-destruction. Because this system is not sustainable. It is easier to blame women and feminists for pointing out the issue rather than questioning the system’s values. This requires more brain cells. It is easier to ignore, demonize, and kill the messenger than to swallow the hard truth.

This is low-conscious, unloving, and untruthful behavior. We share the planet with other species, and we should treat them with dignity and respect. I don’t eat meat and never will. This way of treating animals is unsustainable.

This man-child behavior has a term. It’s called “Weaponized Incompetence” and it’s a form of abuse and exploitation. “Weaponized incompetence” refers to the tactic where men intentionally underperform at domestic tasks or childcare to avoid responsibility, causing their partners to take over. It is a form of inequity that creates unequal labor, resentment, and “shadow management.” While some argue it stems from poor socialization, it often manifests as a power imbalance that can lead to the end of relationships and divorce.”

Thank you! I appreciate your curiosity and open-mindedness

Hahaha this world is hijacked by delusional men. They are the real problem.

Maybe men just don’t want to listen. Maybe it’s easier to call women crazy and delusional rather than seeing them as human beings worth listening to. Maybe they act crazy because they don’t feel seen or listened to enough. He took naked pictures of her without her permission. She didn’t consent to that, and he didn’t respect it. He wanted to sell those pictures or share them in some group of nasty men. This is very violating behavior. Imagine if someone did it to you. They are not doing it because they are going to lose, but because they don’t see a point in it. Most women see men as human beings. In order to dominate and objectify someone, one has to strip the other of their humanity. This is what men do to women. Men don’t care about truth or love. They would destroy women to death if they could.

Yes, if a man does something to a woman and another man holds him accountable, it neutralizes him at the moment. Basically, the abuse thrives because of men who don’t actively abuse women but remain silent and don’t hold abusive men accountable.

Women as a collective are not interested in dominance over men. If they were, they would have committed serious crimes against men on a large scale.

Because she said so, and that is enough. Very few women do false accusations. It is not easy. Besides, this is a famous case, and when the police checked his phone, he really did have naked pictures of her.

Because we are too intelligent to seek power for the sake of it. True leadership is not about dominance but service.

Very sad and not rare, unfortunately. And then those men are praised by other men, never held accountable, and free to commit more rape, while women carry trauma and shame for their entire lives and are slut-shamed. In my country, there is a recent story of a woman whose partner took naked pictures of her without her permission, which is illegal and she went to the police to complain. Then they came to her partner to hear his story, who claimed that she was crazy and lying and that she hit him in an attempt to take his phone. It ended with the woman being arrested for attacking her partner, while they didn’t even search his phone. They automatically believed the man. Even when he actually was the one who committed the crime. Policemen hate women.

Mothers can be ruthless when they protect their children. Women can be very ruthless when they are pissed off. There are many women in prison for killing their psychopathic, abusive partners.

Women don’t choose who they birth. Patriarchy which is build on toxic masculinity reward monsters. Men collectively protect this system more than they protect women and children.

Because of whom there are wars to begin with? From whom men protect the babies?

Moving towards a more matriarchal structure is not a fantasy. It is just a matter of time. Things that today may seem impossible can be the new reality tomorrow. People in the past couldn’t imagine a reality without slavery and without human rights, but now people are taking this for granted. People also couldn’t imagine that one day we would all carry a small computer that is also a camera and calculator and many more things, which connects us to the entire world. But here we are. It all started from a fantasy, from someone who was crazy enough to imagine a better reality. You don’t have the solutions to the systematic oppression of women and femininity because you are too biased and too unloving to care.

True. I appreciate this mindset. This is a good read. I’m glad that there are some men who are talking about the flaws of hierarchy, the forgotten ancient wisdom, and the healing of the nervous system. Because when the same information comes from women, especially feminists, this is easily dismissed by men. Some men would rather stay stuck in a toxic, unproductive, untruthful and harmful mindset than listen to a woman.

I was about to respond to your previous message, but it disappeared. There is archaeological and anthropological evidence that humans were more egalitarian for most of their history and that we evolved because of our ability to imagine and cooperate. This is not to idealize pre-patriarchal cultures. They were very collectivist and conformist, and they were brutal in their own ways, but they also appreciated motherhood and fertility. For example, after women gave birth, they rested and were taken care of by the family and tribe while others took care of the infant until she recovered. A child was raised by many adults and received a lot of attention, which helped to build a more rounded and healthy psyche. This is in comparison to the nuclear family, which is a more recent and patriarchl sturcture, in which only two people are taking care of the child, mainly the woman. She has to take care of the infant as soon as she gives birth. No wonder there are so many mothers with depression after they give birth. Giving birth takes a serious toll on the body and the soul. My mother had depression too and also had suicidal thoughts. This is very common among new mothers. They don’t have the support system they used to have, they are dependent on the mercy of a man, basically hoping he won’t leave them. Also, for a child raised in a nuclear family, childhood can feel like a prison, especially if both parents are traumatized or toxic, which many parents are. On top of that, there may be a lack of attention because both parents are working, fueling the capitalist machine, while the child undergoes a kind of ongoing indoctrination from childhood to become a submissive follower who maintains the artificial order. If they were raised in a community, having unhealed parents wouldn’t be such a big deal because they would have access to various other healthier adults and role models. But not every community is healthy. It requires conscious individuals with integrity, green and above.

Is that something that we need to just accept quietly? Like, you talked about how corrupted society is and how untruthful it is, how power works, and how men systematically don’t believe women. What do we do with that information? Aren’t there better ways to organize and resolve the problems we deal with? Socoety may not be collectively conscious enough or thoughtful enough to give up on the current structure yet, but at some point it will get to a dead end with it. It is already touching that dead end, and we will have the choice to evolve and do better or to collapse or regress. Harari said in Sapiens that humans evolved because of our ability to imagine and cooperate, and we lived like that for millions of years. The violent turn is something relatively new in our history, starting in agriculture, when we adapted a scarcity mindset due to the increase in population. But now we have resolved the scarcity problem through all this brutal journey of building civilization, and we have abundance, but we are still stuck in the scarcity mindset. It is masochistic and sadistic to actively support it or turn a blind eye of it.

Of course, this is very unconscious. But they are dealing with people who are no more conscious either. I mean, Christianity and Islam are the largest religions in the world and have been responsible for the killing of millions.