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If men held other men more accountable and authorities punished rape more seriously, then I believe it would be quickly reduced. Rape is more a crime of misogyny and violence than uncontrolled lust. But authorities are not willing to punish rapists more seriously because many of them are rapists too haha. The fact that no one implicated in the Epstein files is in jail, and that the president of the US is a rapist, is a huge indicator of how society protects rapists. Feminism at least is a watchdog for these crimes otherwise, things would have been the same or even worse without feminism. This is why there is so much hate for feminism.

Yes, but they also never question patriarchy, which assigned that role to them, and are the biggest supporters of nuclear families and capitalism. In the past, pre-patriarchal communities and pre-industrial societies, labor was distributed among many people. But many men see this as something too feminine and communist.

In modern life nuclear family, most men cannot financially sustain their families alone, so obviously it is reasonable for women to take part in providing for their families, and women do that. Women do that in addition to doing unpaid domestic labor and childcare. Men need to step in and help women more in domastic labor and childcare. And ideally, they need a community.

People make mistakes; men also chase baddies and then suffer, so what? Intuition is something that can be developed and is a great tool for filtering people. Women are often told to give a chance to men just because they are a bit shy or nice, even though their intuition says otherwise, and then they get involved with those guys, and they end up being abused because, guess what? Just because a man is shy or nice doesn’t mean he is not abusive. Just because someone appears to be non harmful on the surface doesn’t mean that they are emotionally safe people. And regarding open-hearted and ethical men, they are unicorns and they do have success with women. So I don’t know what you are talking about.

Still women do unpaid domestic labor and childcare. Those things take a lot of time from women and are undervalued and underpaid. Women do their paid work and then go home and do the unpaid work. Society judges men for not being providers, and being sexually successful is tied to patriarchal expectations of men, which most men support and uphold. You want a system in which you have control over women’s bodies and power, but you don’t want to work for it or be accountable. You want it to be given to you on a plate and never be punished for your behavior. And yes watching porn is predatory. You watch women in a vulnerable position in life, who are there because of systemic oppression of women, and get pleasure from it without consequences.

Yes, but as I said, sex is not the same for a woman as it is for a man. For men, sex is proof of their desirability and manhood. For women, romantic relationships and being “picked” for marriage are proof of desirability and womanhood. Below-average-looking men have higher chances of getting sex and a loving romantic relationship if their character and social skills are good. Below-average-looking women may have more chances to get sex, but it is more likely to be degrading and humiliating (this is well portrayed in the show Girls in the way Adam treats Hannah. There are explicit sexual scenes, and it is based on the writer’s life experience), while their chances of having a loving romantic relationship are very low regardless of their social skills or character.

Women expecting financial support or protection from men in a society that judges unmarried women harshly, where women often have to work twice as hard for less pay, and where they are more vulnerable to gender-based violence and abuse, is reasonable under this opression. On the other hand men brag about how many women they’ve slept with, how easily they were able to get them into bed, how they were able to manipulate them into sleeping with them and complaining about women not wanting to sleep with them, harrasing and raping women including underaged girls, watching porn of women being degraded and humilated is predatory and super entitled.

These studies apply to some women, not all. Some of those women may even have dark triad traits themselves, even if they are covert or were raised by parents with dark triad traits. This is not something the average woman is attracted to. Using science to justify rape culture and the abuse of women is sick.

Women don’t feel entitled to men’s time, money, resources, or labor in the same way that men often feel entitled to women’s.

Women don’t value sex and physical attractiveness in men the same way men value them in women. Men often project onto women what they themselves desire, but women don’t necessarily prioritize those things. Women tend to value romantic relationships more than sex. Most men are medicore/bad at sex anyway, and it is also much riskier for women, so having sex doesn’t feel worth it for them as romantic relationships. Society often places a high value on women’s looks, and women are judged harshly based on appearance. Since girlhood. For a woman who is considered below average-looking, this can be fatal regardless of her character. Her chances of finding a man, even a below-average-looking man, who genuinely loves her and treats her like a human being are very low. If it can be difficult for a conventionally attractive woman to find a genuinely loving partner, it is even harder for a woman who is not seen as conventionally attractive.

The same goes for women with below-average looks. Just read posts from these women on Reddit, the way men treat them is heartbreaking. Most of them have never been approached by a man, have been harassed about their looks, or have never been seen as a romantic interest. For some of them, men pretended to be romantically interested only to sleep with them and then block them or mock them with their friends. The difference between men and women in these groups is a sense of entitlement. Men often feel entitled to women’s bodies, attention, and time because this is how they were socialized. Misogyny is the deeper issue because it is deeply ingrained in the system. Not only men with below-average looks hate women, men can be very good-looking, successful with women and still hate women.

https://lovettejallow.substack.com/p/when-men-fail-in-a-world-optimized When Men Fail in a World Optimized for Them, They Don’t Blame Patriarchy—They Blame Women The Incel Mindset, Male Entitlement, and the Weaponization of Resentment Men Want Women, But Despise Everything Women Represent Men struggling to connect with women isn’t surprising when society teaches them to reject anything associated with us. Yet, paradoxically, they still desire relationships with women. So how do you reconcile wanting something you’ve been conditioned to despise, devalue, or feel entitled to? You don’t. Instead, you project. And when failure feels unbearable, men don’t blame the system that created this dysfunction—they blame women, the victims of that same system. This is not a personal failure. This is a structural issue. How Patriarchy Conditions Men to Self-Destruct I’ve always maintained that patriarchy—like white supremacy—doesn’t truly benefit anyone, least of all those it claims to uplift. Men are raised with the idea that masculinity equals dominance, control, and emotional suppression. From an early age, they internalize: Women are beneath them Emotional intelligence is weakness Relationships should serve their needs first But here’s the problem: those are the exact skills needed for love, partnership, and human connection. Men are set up to fail at intimacy—but instead of questioning why, they double down and blame the women who reject them. ETC’s Investigation: When Rejection Becomes Radicalization The incel ideology has moved from self-pity to violent resentment, and it thrives on one thing: blaming women for male dissatisfaction. ETC’s report on Swedish incels revealed how rejection mutates into rage, fueling lone-wolf attacks and extremist communities. One man, Paul, a 28-year-old self-identified incel, embodies this cycle of despair and entitlement: "I have not been able to choose my life." "I hate women. I really hate them." "I want to do what everyone else does. Go on vacation with someone. Take walks. Maybe have kids. That was my dream. But it won’t happen." "Maybe I am dangerous. That’s for others to decide." Paul, like many incels, didn’t just see himself as unlucky—he saw himself as robbed. His frustration wasn’t just about sex, but about status—the belief that men deserve access to women and the comfort of a relationship. When that didn’t happen, he saw women as the enemy. This is the core of incel ideology—men convinced they are victims, refusing to acknowledge that their own beliefs about women are why they can’t connect with them. The Data: Incels and Rising Violence in Sweden and Beyond Sweden is no exception to the growing trend of incel-driven violence worldwide. 2014: Elliot Rodger (USA) – Killed six people, wounded 14, left a manifesto blaming women for rejecting him. 2018: Alek Minassian (Canada) – Drove a van into pedestrians, killing 11. Declared it an "incel rebellion." 2022: Malmö School attack (Sweden) – Researched incel violence before carrying out an attack with an Ax. 2015: Trollhättan School Attack (Sweden) – Anton Lundin Pettersson consumed incel and far-right content before targeting students. Swedish intelligence agency Säpo has now classified incels as a national terror threat—on par with Islamist extremism. This is not just a subculture. It is a growing, radicalized movement fueled by resentment, misogyny, and white supremacy. Women Adapt to Survive—Men Refuse to Evolve If marginalized people and women—who face the same societal conditioning—can upgrade their tools to survive, then men can too. Yet, while women are told to self-improve, men externalize their failures. Women must navigate unsafe dating environments, workplace discrimination, and social expectations, but they still find ways to thrive. Men claim they are "failing," despite living in a world optimized for their success. If they can build entire incel communities out of resentment, they surely have the energy to engage with therapy, self-reflection, and unlearning. But one requires accountability. The other avoids it. Men Aren’t Failing Because of Women—They’re Failing Because of Patriarchy Men claim society has failed them, but who built it? ETC’s investigation makes it clear: the men who feel most abandoned are the ones clinging hardest to the system that isolates them. Patriarchy teaches them that their worth is in dominance, control, and emotional suppression. When they fail to meet those expectations, instead of questioning the system, they turn their anger on women. This is why we see: Men radicalizing when they feel unwanted Men demanding access to women rather than building emotional intelligence Men resenting women for their loneliness, rather than examining their role in it This is not a women’s issue—this is a masculinity crisis. Instead of questioning the system, men turn their anger on women. And women? We’re done carrying it. Thanks for reading The Lovette Jallow Perspective! This post is public so feel free to share it. Women Cannot Keep Doing This Work for You Men have built entire online communities dedicated to resentment, yet refuse to engage with healing, self-reflection, or real accountability. Instead, they expect women to do that work for them—while continuing to receive their disdain. I have said it before: women are not your emotional rehab centers. We cannot be in friendships, relationships, or even casual social spaces with men without taking on the emotional labor of managing their feelings, soothing their egos, or explaining the most basic realities of gendered existence. Yet when men struggle—when they feel lost, rejected, or stuck in systems they themselves uphold—who do they blame? Men Are Failing in a System Built for Them—Yet Blaming Women The irony is glaring. Society is structured for men. Patriarchy rewards male dominance and punishes anything associated with femininity. Yet when men realize that this model makes them lonely, disconnected, and emotionally stunted, they don’t turn against patriarchy—they turn against women. Instead of self-reflection, they choose: ❌ Bitterness ❌ Resentment ❌ Entitlement Instead of learning emotional intelligence, they call women "shallow" for rejecting them. Instead of rethinking masculinity, they demand that women lower their standards. This is why women are opting out. The Unspoken Truth: Women Are Tired We are tired of being the default therapists for men who refuse to do their own inner work. We are tired of being expected to coddle egos, manage emotions, and soften realities while receiving nothing in return. We are tired of men who: Want intimacy but refuse to unlearn harmful beliefs Demand love but resent everything women represent Expect patience but offer none for our realities At what point do men take responsibility for themselves? Women Have Already Done the Work—Men Need to Catch Up Many women have spent decades unlearning internalized misogyny, rethinking relationships, and building emotional intelligence. We have gone to therapy. We have read the books. We have broken generational cycles. And men? They have built entire incel networks, rage forums, and misogynistic ideologies, all to justify avoiding the same self-work that women have done. If women can evolve despite a system working against us, why can’t men evolve in a system built for them? No One Can Heal You But You Men, if you feel lost, start asking the real questions: Why do I struggle to connect with others? What narratives about masculinity have shaped me? How do I build self-awareness and accountability? Stop expecting women to fill the emotional gaps that patriarchy has left in you. Stop demanding love from the very people you refuse to respect. Because the truth is: we are no longer waiting for you to catch up. This is not about women rejecting men—it’s about men rejecting the work needed to unlearn what makes them so entitled to resentment in the first place. It’s Time for Men to Take Accountability The police must investigate incel connections in crimes like Örebro. Society must stop excusing misogyny as “loneliness” when it breeds violence. Men must unlearn their entitlement before it manifests as harm. If women can deconstruct centuries of oppression to build something new, men can too. Because the only way forward is unlearning. And that is something men have to do themselves. Women will not do it for you.

This is horrible. Women are not safe with men, even if they are “happily” married or seem like “nice guys.” So many men take an active part in this rape culture. Women need to have very high standards, be radically picky, and trust their instincts and intuition before ever settling down with a man. Most men don’t see women as human beings worthy of consideration, they put their ego and lust before our well-being and safety.

A good read about when incel and red pill content is covertly promoted by influencers who appear to be "conscious", "balanced" and “objective": https://substack.com/inbox/post/186623062 The Diary Of A(n Undercover Incel) CEO You know how we’re always wary of those podcasts or speakers that are unambiguously misogynistic? Like A**rew T*te, the guys on Whatever Podcast, Fresh and Fit. The ones that are blatantly, loudly and proudly hateful. I don’t know about you but I would NEVER have a friendship or even an acquaintanceship if I can help it with anyone who listens to and follows those guys. They’re violently disrespectful and they don’t hide their disdain for women’s autonomy and ways of thinking. I wouldn’t even deign to pay attention to someone who says ‘but they make great points sometimes.’ What great points? Please run away from them. But what happens when there’s one that is hiding in plain sight? Enter Diary of A CEO, hosted by Steven Bartlett. It launched in 2017 and on paper, the podcast looks harmless. It features conversations with “successful people” about hardship, growth and resilience. Sounds reasonable, and the type of thing a TikTok page called Goated Quotes would post multiple clips of (I kid you not there is a page named exactly that and they post clips of the podcast constantly). But underneath the motivational and seemingly profound front is a recurring logic pattern that isn’t just about self-improvement. It subtly reflects ideas about gender, purpose and societal structures that align with right-wing, reactionary and red-pill narratives, packaged as “brutal truths” for men. It’s also known for misinformation, especially on health. If you’d like to know more you can read here, but my main focus is on why it’s been called a ‘Trojan Horse for the manosphere’ and why that description is terrifyingly accurate. What makes Diary of a CEO dangerous isn’t that it’s openly hateful. It’s that it isn’t. The men who listen to Andrew Tate know exactly what they’re signing up for. The misogyny is loud, aggressive and obvious. You can spot it from a mile away and decide, very quickly, that you want no parts. Not this guy. Steven Bartlett speaks softly and uses language and tone that sounds like self-reflection, vulnerability, growth. His guests talk about genuine self-improvement in a way that sounds profound or even compassionate. That’s exactly how it sneaks in incel and bioessentialist propaganda without you knowing. For example, the recurring fixation on “men’s loss of purpose” or the perceived “mating crisis.” I watched some podcast episodes so you don’t have to and I will never do it again but here’s the gist: Steven had Dr. Alok Kanojia, or Dr. K as he’s mostly known, on his show in July last year. In that episode, the conversation starts with statistics that sound neutral and alarming in equal measure: rising sexual inactivity among young men, men accounting for nearly 80% of suicides, increasing reports of hopelessness and lack of purpose. All of these are real, verifiable issues. That’s part of what makes what comes next so sinister. Dr. K frames the situation as something close to an evolutionary crisis. Young men, he suggests, are being left behind by modern dating dynamics, economic shifts and social changes. Women, he notes, no longer need men in the way they once did; they can earn their own money, choose not to marry and even have children without male partners. This, according to him, creates what he repeatedly describes as an “extinction event”: a cohort of men who will never find partners, never reproduce and effectively “die out” of the gene pool. He ends up floating the idea that society should intervene to make sure men can pass on their genes, as if sexual access is a public utility like water or electricity. And, get this, he compares a man’s inability to find a partner to cancer, a deadly virus and genocide. I know damn well- Now, to his credit, Dr. K is careful to say that no one is entitled to sex, relationships, or reproduction. He acknowledges consent. He explicitly rejects coercion. But by casting male loneliness in evolutionary and biological terms like natural selection, genetic dead ends, extinction, it turns social alienation into destiny. He’s essentially suggesting that resentment and aggression towards women are not choices, but inevitable responses to being biologically sidelined. This mirrors almost exactly how incel and black-pill communities already talk about themselves, and the podcast instantly becomes a recruitment tool for the most radicalized corners of the incel movement. By suggesting that society has a responsibility to “course-correct” the fact that some men aren’t chosen as partners, Dr. K validates the dangerous idea that men are biologically owed the bodies of women. The same logic appears in Steven’s conversation with clinical social worker Erica Komisar. When asked about the “plight of young men” and rising suicide rates among them, Komisar argues that men have lost their purpose because society has dismantled their traditional roles as providers and protectors. Yes, she actually said that. I was baffled too. According to her, while “raising women up” had positive outcomes, it also involved “denigrating men.” She goes further, describing modern feminism as having taken on something “vengeful,” no longer about balance but about diminishing men, pushing them out and taking over. What’s next is she points to the fact that women now make up over 60% of university students and graduate school attendees, and cites studies suggesting that men tend to marry across or down educationally, while women marry across or up. The conclusion of all she’s saying is that women’s educational and professional advancement has effectively stripped men of their purpose, leaving them discouraged, diminished, and lost. What’s so funny here is not that she’s concerned for men, but the assumption beneath it: that men’s purpose is fundamentally external and relies on women’s dependence. When women no longer need men to survive economically or socially, men are said to lose meaning. That is not a feminist argument, it is a deeply patriarchal one that has been quietly repackaged as sympathy for men. Instead of encouraging men to find new, more empathetic ways of being, the podcast encourages them to look back at a patriarchal past with a sense of stolen entitlement. This pattern becomes even clearer in Steven’s interviews with former Love Islander Chris Williamson, and the language moves from therapy speak to market logic. Dating here is called a “mating market” so now, we’re talking about relationships in a transactional manner. Sounds awfully familiar… Chris describes women as hypergamous, inclined to date “up” in education, income and status. According to him, as women achieve parity or outpace men in education and early-career earnings, the pool of “eligible” men shrinks. The result is a large group of men rendered invisible, while a small group of “high-value” men accumulate options and avoid commitment. He called this the “tall girl problem.” Hmm. You mean the tall poppy syndrome? Here again, women’s independence is treated as the destabilising variable. By focusing on reliable contraception and socioeconomic autonomy as the “disruptors” of dating, he is essentially saying that women were easier to deal with when they had fewer choices. Structural issues like economic instability, job insecurity, housing crises, the collapse of community spaces suddenly fade into the background. The problem becomes women’s standards, women’s choices and women’s fear. Over and over again. Even MeToo is folded into this logic (of course it is). Chris acknowledged it as necessary to hold powerful men accountable for their crimes and misconduct against women, then he makes a hard right and describes it as having gone “too far,” leaving men afraid to approach women and women afraid of men, which therefore produces an epidemic of loneliness and sexlessness. He flattens fear of violence and fear of being accused into moral equivalents, so the asymmetry of power disappears. What’s left is the suggestion that women’s safety and boundaries have produced unintended “externalities” for men. Taken individually, any one of these conversations might sound like a clumsy but well-meaning attempt to understand modern relationships. Taken together, they form a consistent worldview: men are suffering because women have too much autonomy; equality has created imbalance; and social progress has left a generation of men behind. The problem is not that Diary Of A CEO talks about men’s pain. Ultimately, it functions as a bridge. It meets young men where they are; looking for health tips, business advice, or a sense of direction, and then slowly leads them toward a worldview where women’s autonomy is the root of their misery. Over and over again, the podcast returns to the same conclusions: men are purposeless because women no longer need them; men are invisible because women “date up”; men are angry because feminism went too far; men are lonely because women are afraid; men are being selected out of the gene pool because society has changed too fast. The villain is never collapsing social infrastructure, or the monetisation of dating, or the hollowing out of community, or an economic system that strips people of dignity and stability. It is, consistently, women’s autonomy. That is red-pill rhetoric. What’s missing from these conversations is the reality of femicide. The fact that men’s feelings of entitlement to access do not exist in a vacuum is rarely ever discussed. Women exist in a world where we are killed, stalked, assaulted and harassed by men who believe they have been wronged. What makes this especially dangerous is the tone. Steven Bartlett is not shouting or calling anyone a h*e or B-word. He is nodding and empathising. He is letting his guests spin narratives about extinction events, hypergamy and vengeful feminism with minimal pushback. While he has released a statement saying he doesn’t necessarily hold the same views as his guests, I call bullshit. He platforms these people, give hums of approval when they speak and eggs them on. He only released said statement because it was becoming obvious what was happening. So no, Diary of a CEO is not harmless self-help. It is not neutral, and it is certainly not just “motivational content.” It’s time we stop treating Steven Bartlett as a harmless motivational figure and start seeing him for what he is: the manosphere’s most effective public relations officer. That podcast is a pipeline that feeds young men a story where the social progress of women is the reason for their pain.

I have no idea what you are talking about. Why do you bother me? Please leave me alone and don’t diagnose me.

Huge side eye I am concerned that you are too obsessive with me and my posts, and apparently they don’t make you feel very well. This is too unhealthy for you dude. I kindly and wholeheartedly suggest that as a recovery you put me on your ignore list for your benefit. I know it’s difficult for you but please try.

Men don’t understand that feminists are not fighting against men. They are fighting for your soul, because society is trying to break it. Men are not inherently aggressive. This is a myth. Research shows that infant boys are often more emotionally reactive and sensitive than girls. Patriarchy works very hard to “harden” men. (Book recommendation: Why Patriarchy Persists by Naomi Snyder which explores how boys and girls are socialized under patriarchy and how those forces shape relationships, behavior, and identity). Patriarchy promised men a throne and told them that being a man means dominating, possessing, and being “alpha.” But at what cost? Isolation, higher suicide rates, and detachment from the soul and the community. Men feel unloved because the system wants their labor, while the community once wanted their soul. Only within a community are men valued for who they are. For most of human history, men were not lone wolves but deeply integrated into their communities. They were protectors of the tribe, not submissive soldiers of hierarchy. The patriarchal and capitalistic system stole their village and gave them a mortgage. This is not their fault, but it is their problem. Patriarchy and capitalism benefit when men are lonely and starving for power. Lonelier men are easier to control and easier to send to war. The lone wolf idea is a capitalist fantasy. In nature, a lone wolf is often a wolf that is close to death. Real wolves, like real humans, thrive in packs. Alone, you are easier to break. When communities were destroyed, boys lost their mentors. They were left in a system that values only what they can produce, not who they are. This is why so many men feel empty and unloved inside. When feminists and women speak about feminism in a passionate, even provocative way, it is meant to shake men awake, so they can see that what patriarchy presents as their “best interests” are actually the worst interests for their hearts and souls. When feminists speak about matriarchy, they do not mean a reverse patriarchy. They mean bringing men back into the fold. A circle where you do not have to be “alpha” in order to feel safe. You have a pack that has your back. I don’t want young boys to grow up and inherit a world in which they must “conquer” in order to be seen, or be “alpha” in order to be treated as human. I want them to inherit a village, a community where their sensitivity is their greatest strength. Sensitivity is human. Being able to read the room, feel empathy, be intuitive, and connect with other human beings is what fulfilled men before patriarchy took over. We are taught that testosterone is the “aggression hormone” that makes men naturally want to fight and dominate. But this is an oversimplified and patriarchal version of science, often used to justify oppression. In communal societies, testosterone functions differently. It is not only for fighting, but for seeking status through contribution. In a healthy group, a man gains status by being helpful, generous, and a good protector. When a man becomes a father and is deeply involved in childcare, his testosterone may actually decrease to make room for oxytocin the “bonding hormone.” His biology can shift to prioritize nurturing over competing. Patriarchy takes that protective energy and distorts it. It tells men that the only way to protect is to own and control. It turns men’s biological strength into a weapon. Before the Industrial Revolution, men worked in guilds, tribes, and communal groups. They had deep emotional bonds with other men. They were not lonely, they had a village of brothers and sisters. Capitalism needed men to be efficient units. It broke those communal bonds and turned men into competitors for a paycheck. It forces men into a lonely, nonstop grind where rest feels like weakness. Are you exhausted? Of course you are exhausted. There is also the patriarchal nuclear family trap, which can become a pressure cooker for men. They were told they must be the sole providers, which is an impossible and unnatural burden to carry alone. The nonstop pace of modern life governed by the solar rhythm of 24/7 ignores the human need for cycles of rest (wintering) and renewal. This constant “on” state leads to high cortisol and chronic stress (and more aggression as a result). Men’s bodies long for rhythms of rest and restoration (moon rhythm) just as much as women’s bodies do.

In some cases, it's good; in others, it's dangerous. Our feelings are messages that fuel our intuition. If you hear a person and he gives you an uncanny valley feeling, this is for a good reason.

You asked me what I think about this interview. I answered that I don't agree with him that women and men are equally powerful, and I explained why. This doesn't mean that I don't acknowledge men's suffering. Both can be true: they suffer and are oppressors. If you can't see it, I don't know how to help you. And no, I didn't give my consent for debate. I just shared my opinion. Class and patriarchy are interwoven. Why are there poor people to begin with when there is such abundance on earth? Because there is a system built on hoarding wealth and power (mostly by men) at the expense of everyone else. But as long as it gives you the tiniest privilege over women, you will blindly support it and never question it. Men made a bargain with the devil. The same goes for women who uphold the patriarchy. The world is not the unnatural, human-made civilization. I can think of many good things about life and existence. But I need your help to understand what is good in patriarchal and neoliberal civilization. If you believe I have a blind spot, then please enlighten me. Why can’t you say anything good about it yourself?

What exactly in this is my blind spot? Can you elaborate on it?

This is about the manipulative way he uses this soft, spiritual voice. It feels forced, and I sense a lack of genuineness. Who is at fault of homelessness? Why there is homelessness?

Men don't control everything, but men have more power. I genuinely want to know what are the advantages of this system? Who it benefits? From what I see, the male perspective is often very entitled and misogynistic. They often view things in a such distorted and selfish way. Yet, I see men as human beings more than they see me as a human being. My level of compassion toward men and all living beings is something that most men will never grasp or feel about women.

What are they? Can you please elaborate? No I don't agree with him and I honestly don't trust him, and his soft voice sounds not genuine. He claims that he studied feminism for 10 years, but if he truly studied it, he would have understood that women experience gender-based oppression worldwide. No need to open cards or read coffee grounds. This is clear to anyone who has eyes and ears. Patriarchy is a cult of masculinity at the expense of femininity. It sees masculinity, and men who symbolize it, as superior to femininity and women. There are homeless women (even with children) too. Women also experience mortality due to pregnancy complications and violent men, addictions and drug use, prostitution, and on top of that, unpaid domestic labor and a greater lack of safety than men experience, more chances of abusive and controlling relationships, rape, sexual harrasment, policing of our bodies, predujedies, the government can take the rights on our body at a whim while men rights on their bodies are never questioned. Women have to work twice as hard as men to get half of what they get. Women experience more symptoms of depression and anxiety and mental illness. Women are taken less seriously by medical authorities. He tries to equalize the suffering of men and women to make men feel better so they buy his book or something. This is not the same. The issue is the repression of femininity. As long as society represses femininity and feminine values, psychopathic men will keep ruling society. Women can also be psychopathic and narcissistic, but those traits are more common in men, and even men who are born without those traits are socialized to imitate them and are punished by other men when they act in a more considerate and prosocial way. I also recall that he clearly said that technology benefits women more than men and gave the washing machine and the vacuum cleaner as examples of technology that benefits women. Yes, it makes domestic labor somewhat easier, but it is still labor, unpaid labor. Men would never do labor without getting paid. This is why men hate doing domestic labor and look down on it. Technology has always benefited, first and foremost, the men who created and sold it. And the rich and the privillaged, which are mostly men. He also said that women now have more options because of the pill, while men do not have any pill. This is very inaccurate because a pill for men was created and tested. Since many men complained about depression due to the pill, it was decided not to sell it. The pill also causes depression and other health risks for women, yet it is still offered and sold to women. This shows how society values men’s lives, bodily autonomy, and health more.

I don’t agree that men and women have equal power in society. He downplays the advantages men have. They hold much more political power and wealth than women. All the issues he describes men suffering from are because of patriarchy. Patriarchy represses the humanity and wholeness of men so they will be submissive to it and maintain its structure, while at the same time giving men enough privilege to never question it. I also don’t agree that society treats men as uniquely disposable. In a patriarchy, everyone is disposable except the rich and the powerful. He also presents it as if a woman marrying a rich man is some kind of cheat code and a privilege men don’t have. Do you know how difficult it is to marry a rich man? Rich men usually marry women from rich families. Also, the average age of rich man is 60 years, which is neither relevant nor appealing to most younger women. Even if a poor woman marries a rich man, he is very likely to treat her poorly and cheat on her because he can. He knows she is financially dependent on him. Men complain about divorce and paying alimony because they lack accountability and basic care for their families, not because their families are irrationally angry at them due to feminism. If a man’s wife and children angry at him, it is probably because he is a jerk to them.

From what I read, Our Blood by Andrea Dworkin and The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf made the biggest impact on me.