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Exactly. Everything is so distorted.

Strength in men is attractive, especially when used in positive, prosocial ways like building, protecting, or carrying things. It is also includes mental and emotional strength. But from what she said in the video starting at 11:18, no, this is disturbing. I don’t understand how this can be attractive to a woman unless she has internalized misogyny or trauma. When survival conditions are harsh, it is better to have a strong man than a weak man, even if the weak man is nicer. But ideally, strength without kindness and kindness without strength are not ideal. The combination of both is perfect. I also want to address his implication that women don’t know what they want or hide their true desires. Of course we do, because it is often not safe for women to express desire. This was controlled and demonized for the last thousands of years. Our sexual desire is frequently suppressed through socialization. We are taught to view sex and sexuality from a male perspective and to fit ourselves to male standards. We internalize objectification, which can leave us disconnected from our bodies and desires.

Believe me, women have very good reasons to be angry because it involves their lives and safety in the world, about which many men don’t seem to care. “Nice” women don’t make change. Without some angry women there would have been no feminism and women would still be considered the property of their husbands or fathers by law today. And no don’t reduce it to some romantic kitsch. It has nothing to do with online misogynists. We women don’t have to go online to experience misogyny.

Feminism is really much more advance and also more rooted in reality.

A Deep Explanation Of How Women Mate The girl with the sword in his video likely has internalized misogyny, social conditioning or unresolved trauma. This is not something a healthy woman would truly desire. I find his choice of her as an example offensive and misleading. How can brutality and force against a woman, who is not a physical match for a man, be seen as attractive? It is disturbing. If a man threatens me with a sword, I will definitely make sure he regrets it. Even less harsh things that men do make me angry. Because of their nerve and entitlement. He also ignores that many men are perceived as unattractive to women because patriarchy represses traits women value most, such as strength of character and kindness. Patriarchy gives men privilege and entitlement rather than encouraging character development. Unlike ancient tribes, which had rites of passage (and were more egalitarian and matriarchal), in patriarchy many men remain emotionally immature until death. Patriarchy also discourages basic human kindness that independent of the outcome toward women (or anyone who is not a powerful man) because such behavior threatens its structure. This is why so many men are oblivious and indifferent to women suffering. They were conditioned to. He overlooks that the “dating market” is shaped by a patriarchal, individualistic, neoliberal, and capitalistic society, conditions that are not natural for humans. Therefore, any claim that his theory is somewhere the ultimate nature of dating or mating is wrong. Regarding chasing. This is not the woman's role to chase. In general, chasing on itself is very controlling, lacking in self respect and unhealthy behavior regardless gender. Traditionally, before patriarchy, men were the ones who put in the effort to impress women and prove themselves, not vice versa. For example: This shows how distorted it is that, in our society, women are the ones expected to perform for men. Think about how little respect patriarchy has for women. She not only has to bring children into the world, and do all the unpaid labor, but also spend so much time and money performing for men only to be treated like an object.

Yes, it requires constant and radical awareness. I don't know how doable it is to transcend our tendency for beliefs (as well as biases and assumptions, which are in the same family). Maybe the transcendence is part of being enlightened, which is rare. Or we can access temporary states with no concepts in mind, including beliefs, through various spiritual practices (meditation, yoga, drugs, nature etc). I agree. There must be many undiscovered truths, the same as for anyone. It depends on how open one is to the truth and how attached they are to their beliefs.

I agree with him that the elites are generally those who are responsible for this gender war, but who are the elites? Mostly rich white men, patriarchs. Patriarchy is built like a pyramid scheme, with rich men at the top (capital, money, possessions), the rest of the men below them who look up to them and try to imitate them, and then women, minorities, children, animals, and nature. Rich men at the top harm everyone in the end, but on different levels. He presents this as if women are angry at men because of social media, but this is not true. Women have real lived experiences of being hurt by misogyny (both personal and systemic). One in two women have been sexually harassed by a man. We don’t need to open social media to realize that men can be unsafe for us on many levels. This is how feminism started, long before social media. Just because the elites who own social media profit from the gender war doesn’t mean that women’s hurt from men as a group is not real. In some cases, the internet (which is mostly monopolized by social media) can be a lifesaver for women who are stuck in toxic relationships or are in danger, because women around the world, including in 3rd world countries have more opportunities to educate each other and share valuable information that can be life-saving. This is why I can’t equate the manosphere and the men participating in it on social media with women commenting about it on social media, because women’s comments are not fueled by the same ideologically driven hate, but rather by caution and safety precautions in response to real danger.

This reminds me of Osho, who talked about trusting existence rather than having faith in some divine figure, guru, or caricature of God (which is more of a concept). Existence is here and now, we are interwoven in it, in our breath and heartbeats, inseparable from it. It takes care of us. There is no need to guess, open cards, read coffee grounds to know what it is, or make efforts to be a better believer. It is here and now in our very being, in what is. We have a direct connection to the source.

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Ok, dude. Obviously I would be less kind to racists, but equating attractive women with racists is delusional. I said what I had to say for your benefit. If you dismiss it entirely, I don’t know how to help you. Only you can help yourself if you want. Apperantly you don't want to.

Yes, unfortunately. I hope they will be genuinely open to therapy or at least some self-introspection. Now this behaviour may hurt only him, but too much unresolved anger and hatred for a long time has the potential to explode and it may put other women at risk.

I felt relieved and validated when I read about your experience with weed. Thank you for writing about it 😊

I consume weed in a ritualistic way when I feel the inner calling, usually once or twice a year. Every trip is so intense and insightful that I get so tired of the intensity that I can’t touch it for a while. I write my insights in a notebook, and review them later but the words do no justice to the experience itself.

That’s a good idea. I love fragrant plants and dreams, and the combination of them sounds exotic. My favorite fragrant plant is Night-blooming jasmine (Cestrum nocturnum).

I feel that you are just upset because you desire them so much but don’t get them, so you cope by hating them and reducing them to nothing basically devaluing her in order to cope. A very common trap men fall into. The problem is not with beautiful women, but with you. Can you acknowledge it? This poor woman that you project all sorts of things onto has nothing to do with it. She may be the kindest and sweetest lady, but in your corrupted and selfish mind, as long as she doesn’t unconditionally admire you and doesn’t throw herself at you to sleep with you, she is the devil. You don’t have to treat all beautiful people better than others (I too don’t understand why people treat beautiful people better than others, and I find it silly ape behavior) just have basic respect and neutrality toward everyone regardless of their looks, and don’t be an asshole for no reason. If you desire a good-looking woman, acknowledge it rather than suppressing it, because you will keep suffering from rage, hatred, and a sense of victimhood until this is addressed.

I was diagnosed with BPD twice by two different psychiatrists (though I don’t identify with it much and am pretty skeptical of it), and I have no tattoos. I know women with tattoos who are the last people who can be called unstable. And considering that tattoos are very common today, this is definitely not a sign of “emotionally unstable women”. In general, the obsession of the manosphere with “emotionally unstable women” is so funny and ridiculous. They see any liberal woman as emotionally unstable or as having BPD just because she is more individualistic and more expressive (whether emotionally, artistically or in her style and fashion), which is something their fragile egos can’t handle. This is, in my opinion a sort of modern witch hunt a modern way to mark “bad women” which is in itself toxic. Of course, this is not to deny that there are women with mental illness who do cause harm to their surroundings, but the enthusiasm and obsession with emotionally unstable women is so cringe, considering that most of the crimes in society, including gender-based crimes, are committed by men. In the bottom line, if you meet a woman, take the time to get to know her and then see if you are compatible or not. Very simple.

This is beautiful and exciting. I both admire and envy them for this adventure. I just wonder why they didn’t actually land on the moon. It’s been 50 years since a human being landed on the moon, and I wonder what the reason for that is. There are theories about NHI on the moon that frightened the hell out of astronauts who landed there, but those may be speculations that fall into the realm of conspiracy theories. I read about it in a book by Ingo Swann. He is a famous remote viewer, but I don’t know how credible he is. I feel deep awe at the possibility of a human traveling through space, but at the same time, I am deeply annoyed by the purpose of this, which is basically to settle on the moon in the future. This bothers me because the thought of some rich people making it their luxurious vacation space or something disgusts me. I don’t want the moon to be controlled by humans, especially the worst kind of them. We barely can get rid of them on Earth and now they want to settle on the moon!

With your sexist and misogynistic attitude, no self-respecting woman, let alone a spiritual one, would ever tolerate you because your character is immature and awful. You are welcome.

When I think that I have seen everything in this forum, it never disappoints me with its myopic ignorance and stupidity. It delivers it every time.

This is interesting because Russian women are the opposite of the submissive woman stereotype. They can be very harsh, even beyond the level that Western men are used to.

Hahaha I know right? Imagine living in Russia for years under Putin with all the corruption maybe thinking about an escape plan and some people elsewhere who have barely been there for half a year idealizing the exact country you are desperately trying to move out of. What a cognitive dissonance.

The Russian culture is rich, but Russia itself is a very low-conscious, corrupted place. Just because the West sucks (and it does on many levels) doesn’t mean that Russia, China, or any Eastern country is ideal. People in the West are so tired and disappointed with the West for various reasons, and I can understand that, but it doesn’t mean that the East is better. I mean, there are some aspects in which the West or the East is better, but idealizing either creeps me out. There is a trend of right-wing people from the West moving to Russia in the belief that it is some conservative utopia, but it turns out to be hell because Russia is not an immigrant-friendly country. It is ironic that the same conservatives in America who resist immigration to the US and demonize immigrants find themselves as immigrants in Russia and receive the same treatment they gave to immigrants in the US. The following is so funny and sad to watch: