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Not turquoise for sure According to the 9 Stages of the Ego Development model he's at stage 2 or 3 imo.

I'm russian even though I live neither in Russia or Ukraine. I have family on both Russia and Ukraine and all this situation is so surreal and brakes my heart. Russians and Ukrainians belong to the same ethnic group, that's absurd when humans are in war with each other but what's more absured is that they are in war with people from the same ethnic group, literaly a familiy, a tribe with the same genes. But I guess that Putin's ego is much more importent than anything. Yes I know that it's part of God's expression and all this spirituality and that conflicts are part of life etc. but on the hunan level, for me as an individual, I can't deny that it breaks my heart.

I'm gratful for feminism. I see what is happening in countries where women rights aren't that trivial like in my country and I feel sorry for those women, I feel their pain. I kiss the air of my country merely because it allows me to do almost whatever I want as a woman. Of course there are some social expectations like to get married, have children while looking like an instagram model, but I don't have to do that and there will be no life threatening consequences if I choose to not do that. Of course there are still incels and women haters and awful men who see women as sex objects only, but at least I have the option to avoid them and complain about them and to get some help if they harass me. Of course there are still areas that have to be worked on in relation to equality, feminism is still highly needed. But, I understand that it can be frustrating when some feminists act in a masculine way, and expect other women to act in a same way as if it's more superior. Some of them even shame women who express more feminine traits in certain situations or choose more traditional life style. It might come with a good intention to help those women but it also might come with dark intention to feel more superior to other women which is a kind of disguised misogyny. There are also misogynistic women who hide behind feminism, or narcissists, masculine and too dominant women who use feminism as an excuse for their shitty behavior. On the other hand there are feminist circles that are very balanced and are very supportive of femininity and talk about things like women sexuality, mutual support, acceptance of the self and of other women, self development and self love, hobbies, compassion to animals and to the environment, trauma healing, LGBT issues, how to have healthy relationships with men etc In fact, most of the feminists are pretty intelligent, feminine and balanced from my experience, they deeply care about making this world a better place for women, and all the hate they receive from mediocre people don't stop them. I mostly encounter masculine women who shit on other women among those who don't define themselves as feminists per se, but it's only my observation.

Sweden people are different in mentality from immigrants who came from islamic countries, especially from war areas, usually with more extroverted mentality compared to Sweden people. They are the complete opposite, of course there will be some conflicts. Broadly It's stage -orange-green vs red-blue It's a green thing to be humane and patient with immigrants, it's not bad, it's wonderful and I wish all countries were like that. The question is, what immigrants you are not ready to accept, where is your boundary, where you mark a big red line, because there must be one. There are differences in cultures mentality and consciousness development, it's not racism to point it out, and it doesn't mean that they can't change or develop in future, it is what it is now, better to admit that than being deluded and act as if there is no problem, or that it's not part of the problem, and then pay the price. As someone pointed it out here, it's an importent part of Sweden development, it's a lesson that stage green has to go through, to realize that it's good to be good, but it can't and shouldn't save anyone and everyone according to some utopian fantasy, that sometimes reality demands you to make priorities. What is the solution? Imo, first to admit that and second, to not allow/to be more strict with illegal immigration for few years (or forever), later to become more authoritarian, make it clear that there will be serious consequences for people who do crimes, no prison ease, no short periods of confinement and in some cases deportation from the country.

We are biased in our favor. The more conscious one, and its survivul isn't much threatened, the more likely he's to care about animals and nature, anything that isn't a human. Some people are so lack in awarness and bothered with their own survivul issues that they even don't care much about other humans, that's why for many people, becoming a vegeterian/vegan sounds so ridicules, because when they don't care much about humans, why would they care about animals? Those are also the ones who criticizes vegeterian/vegan people for not caring about humas enough, they tend to say "first you need to take care of humans, animals later"- what they mean is not that they want you to care about all humans in the world, but only those who share the same values as they are. Usually they are blue/orange in spiral dynamics, usually right wing people who don't really care about humans suffering on the collective level.

"I have no philosophy of life, I have life itself"

It's nice as long as village's people are young and healthy, but the situation might look different when they are old or sick and need some help from someone who's younger and healthier who cares about them. They will die without any future generation to appriciate and develop all their previous artistic, spiritual and intellectual development. It will be as they have never really existed. Children are a symbol of continuity and hope. They are manifestation of God, expression of God. Having children is a big sacrifice on the personal level, it's a noble thing imo. The problem arises when people have children unconsciously, or out of duty, especially if those people are poor and not mentally healthy or that self aware, which includes many people in our society, or most. Our society isn't that safe for children, it isn't that safe for adults either, we are very confused about our future and there are many struggles in the modern society. Unlike in the past, today we get the choice to have kids or not, so I understand why many people prefer not to have.

A week ago I talked about her and inside my heart I wondered what if she will pass away soon

LOL You contradict yourself too much. I'm not even going to continue this discussion because it will lead to nowhere. Good luck.

I don't belive that most of them were aware enough to even experiment it. In order to experiment it one should doubt gender differences, and their own biases regarding gender roles. As long as one beliefs in gender differences as an inherent truth and isn't aware to his own biases, like people used to in the past (more than today) they won't even try to check it. That shit really sounds traumatizing, seems like from your pov adults treat girls more positively. Maybe you still have some resentment from your childhood towards your dad who humiliated you and your girl cousin who was treated better than you. Look at it and see how it impacts your way of thinking and seeing the world. Our early experiences design us but not always in a positive way. Check if there is any wound to heal or any false believes you hold. I'm sure there are. I sense it in you. I don't understand it. You want women to become more of a men but you don't want to be more of a woman? So how change is even possible? You want to get compassion and kindness from women, but don't you think that they also want to get it from men? In order to get to common ground and change the family system from it's roots as you've mentioned, we need more men who are willing to quetion man's gender role, we need cooperation between men and women and it's only possible when men are connected to their feminine side. If women will be more of a men while men don't want to be more of a women, we will live in a world full of men. We live in this world now and it's awful. We need more men who are willing to connect to their feminine side. If the idea of connecting to your feminine side triggering you, it means that this is exactly what you should do. Feminism is hopeful about men. It's attacking toxic masculinity only because it believes in healthier form of masculinity. And it's true, there are wonderful and healthy men. It implies more on your level of consciousness and spiritual development level than wether you are a man or a woman. The more conscious you are, the more beings you care about.

It's one book written by one person with her own biases. Have you read the critics about the book? Have you checked the researches she based her book about? Have you read contradictory books? I don't say this book is accurate or not, I also don't really know if gender differences occur since birth or by socialization. I tend to belive that it's more of socialization and in reality people are much more complex. I did read that parents tend to treat boys and girls differently since birth, so it might have an impact on boys face recognition abilities. Iyo, are you still dumb af emotionally? What did you do (or still do) to overcome it? for me my main struggles were periods of depression and social anxiety in my adolescence, childhood trauma and neglect, poverty, cluelessness about myself and the world, being an easy pray for abuse, self doubt, a constant feeling of detachment from this world and society, being an outsider and feeling misunderstood. It took me many years to have the insights and the understanding I have about myself and the world today. It was very tough this entire process and I could end up differently. Your view, where women born goddess and men born monkeys. Let's say that it's true. What are the practical steps women should do now as a collective in order to get to the fixation and rescue men from their own emotional dumbness? And if they do that and take the steps collectively to improve or "fix" men, what promising that men will be listening and willing to change? What about feminism? Many men ignore that because it comes from women and don't serve the patriarchal agenda. Are you as an individual ready to have outer female authority to guide you? Will you take it seriously? Won't it clash with your ego? Do you aware to the female inside you? Do you care about connecting to your female side?

Lol No one was born a human. We become humans, we are trained to be humans in a way our culture define "being a human". Look at the abuse stories of the kids, boys and girls who has been raised, in a complete solitude without proper socializing, or those who had been raised with animals without any interaction with a single human being. They all act like animals, or monkeys if you wish. We all start there, and gradually develop to be less of a monkey alike or animal alike. You might feel helpless and ineligible but it doesn't mean that all men feel like you and it doesn't mean that some women don't feel like you. You're projecting your self bias upon all men in the world, including the wisest and strongest men in the world. It's just like I belive that I'm helpless and ineligible and project it on all the women in the world, including the wisest and strongest women that is there. That's only projection, an illusion that has nothing to do with reality. Reality is much more complex. I don't compare myself to you because obviously, regardless gender we are different people, but, do you think that I didn't put efforts and attempts to be what I am today? You bet that I struggled, a lot, and it took me so much trial and error, time and experiences to be who I am now. And who I am now isn't even the final version of me, I have so much more where to develop and grow. It's life time learning process. Boys and girls were socialized differently. Girls were socialize to be tuned to the emotions of others and boys were socialized to be individualistic and detached from the emotions of others. But both genders socialize to repress their own emotions. It's a big problem. As a grown man with much more awareness than you had as a child you can learn to reconnect with your own emotions. It's a personal process that no one can do for you. No one is able to reconnect to your own emotions, no man or woman in this entire world. Only you. Here's a guide: People have corrupted brains for survivul purposes and it become less corrupted as their level of consciousness rises. What is your definition of smart? Do you mean to emotional intelligence? It's only one kind of intelligence out of many and you can develop it. Here are some tips to improve your emotional intelligence: More types of intelligence:

Given the opportunity, women are great leaders. Your view is biased. Emotions don't make you less of a leader, and the fact that some men are ignorant of their emotions, doesn't mean that they aren't exist or don't affect them in some way.

There is a difference between toxic masculinity and healthy masculinity. When women talk about their will of being protected by men they talk about healthy masculinity. Toxic masculinity isn't protective but either controlling of the woman or too dependent on the woman. Women can try to "touch man's heart" as you say, but if he isn't willing to help to himself or is too biased against women it's almost impossible. One should take the responsibility to be a better version of himself and not wait until someone saves him. It's important both for men and women. A child doesn't live in a vacuum, he lives in society and it also has an impact on the child, some will argue that it has much bigger impact. Also, a father, whether he is present or absent, still has an impact on the child's psychology, character and future. I don't agree that men are barely monkeys who hunt for food. If men are that, women also that, we all started as monkeys who spent hours for hunting and gathering food. You might be dismissive but hunting animals for food isn't easy as it sounds. Watch some documentaries about Hunter-gatherer tribes and you will be amazed by the complicity of it and the things you need to take into account in order to have a meal for one or a few days. It is much simpler to go to the supermarket and buy your food. There are intelligent, sensitive, complex and strong men in our world and that's a proof that men can get far if they will, with or without women. A man can choose consciously what kind of man he wants to be and work for it, as much as women can. It doesn't matter if women are those who are responsible for your failure or not, let's say that women collectively responsible for you being suck, why should you wait until they will take the responsibility and fix it? Better to take your power now and be the best man you can be instead of creating story narratives and excuses like "man is barely the monkey around that hunt for food" and miserably believe in it for the rest of your life.

1. Women and men give birth and raise women and men. 2. Men, for the entire history acted as if it's their world only, and the rest, including women, is their property. 3. Women know well how "man's world" work, this is why many women are suspicious of men. On the other side, men don't understand women that much. 4. Women seek men as protectors... mainly from other men. 5. It's not that men don't have emotional intelligence, or the captivity to have it. Is that many men are too biased against emotions to develop it in the first place. 5. The "authority" that women gave to men to "run the world" never was given, it was brutally taken. So you blame women for your toxicity? Isn't there any self accountability?