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@JosephKnecht Knowing implies a distinct subject/object. Truth is BEING as Bodhidharma says "the godhead is never the object of its own knowledge"

I saw duality as a pure white curtain overlaying true reality, i lifted it up and awareness became centreless and without dichotomies . There is no you that's enlightenment. So love yourself completely as you are perfect , just how god made itself

Data shows that online dating is a disaster has 70% of users are chasing after the top 20%, thats the problem with being presented with countless beautiful people and u get suggested what u like to keep using the app. Swiping culture also has disastrous consequences for peoples self esteem constant rejection leads to unworthiness. Online dating only works if your very attractive

nope everyones moved away, i still keep in touch online though and see people passing through sometimes

It seems like everyone in society is trying to push your buttons and bully you, if they smell weakness they will taunt you, but if you make any jibe back or stand up for yourself, plenty of people take that as an invitation to start confrontation and fights. I don't want to fight because I know that theres always winners and loosers and misery of always being on guard and looking over your shoulder. I handle this by making messed up humour to get them to shutup as I know they have sensitive spots even though they have the tough guy persona. For example Military hard guy sees me minding me own business whos part time at my work through training and says things like he can kick my arse, to get him to shutup so i can go about my day I might say I have links to isis and could get some jihadi bombers on you. Just because its litteraly the only way to get him to shut up, I'm prepared for a shouting match because I litterally can't stand being treated like shit and need some peace of mind. I know if I was ever in a fight I would need to use heavy force with a weapon as I'm short in stature and couldn't fight with my fists not that I want to, because like i said before i dont want to be looking over my shoulder and having to sit with a situation of winners and loosers. I hate being treated like shit, I just want peace of mind and dont want to be threatened.

@Tim Ho Guess i just have to accept it, other people have life worse than me , maybe just laught at them

Pricnce Charles was 30, Dianna was 18, that marriage was a fucking disaster

I have little experience with women so some perspective would be helpful. You neurotypical people with your mindgames and veiled meanings can be quite a minefield to work through. Theres this girl at work and when I've been on shift with her she says in a piss takey , humourous way things like " are you going to be my boyfriend? and her friends say things like "when you taking her on a date post lockdown" and "you two should get married for the tax benefits". I found it funny banter and would reply back with things like " fuck it lets quit our jobs and move into a run down council flat, I know a great one , theres a bit of damp and some rats, but hey free pets right?". This past week I handed my notice in at work as its just mcdonalds thats supported me during university and im moving onto bettter more profressional work related to my career, i have a week left. A few days ago i walk into the office to cash up and she was like " You never told me you were leaving how ,dare you, I like you , you know " I went on saying I would dm her as its hard to tell when people are being serious when they say things like they have and she took my phone number for real as she said I had hers when i told someone my number and she joked I can text you now after overhearing it , but never got a message so maybe she heard it wrong. Have since recieved a hey whats up message Thats the entire situation , this will probably be more directed at women this question, but suppose guys might do it to??? I'm ASD so you KNOW when i like you, im unable to play mind games to complicated. If you joke about your attraction if they reject you, you could just say " god i was only taking the piss, as if i would go out with you, your so dumb" to save face and not look like a fool???

The problem this , this seriously threatens my self image, women are not supposed to be attracted to me as far as I believe and when a woman throws herself at me, I'm like I don't like this uncertainty give me normality. I've had non dual states before when I trully felt like I didn't know who I was and what option to take, its liberating but at the same time it feels like you're loosing everything

@Leo Gura not all of us have the opportunity, so a hooker can be practice well for sex anyway , not so much romancing

Trump would be like " people hate me because of FAKE NEWS"

I don't want to do myself any damage and end up with back problems from being in this rigid position, am I inflexible and just need to stretch and exercise more and tough it out? or is this a legitimate concern? Am I being a softy here?

i could use a chair i guess

on a carpet, the location is irrelavent its my back

Thai massage will do fine

legs dont bother me at all, its sitting upright with back straight

I'm going to much more heavily unplug myself from stimulation and incease my strong determination sits until my mind gives up and surrenders to the boredom. I'm distancing myself as much as possible from loved ones so the mind has nothing to latch on to and I become an empty shell, I can already see how increasing this elimates a lot of your life story if you are not distracting yourself with entertainment. Will I become fearful towards the end as I purge more aspects of my self identity? I know on 5 meo the first few times I had a lot of fear , but that was immediately brought upon me, strong determination sits , self inquiry and deplugging from stimulation however is a much more long drawn out process, where you are creeping towards the event horizon instead of racing on 5 meo, just wondered how it compared.

@Nahm the determination is the higher self Not giving in to the ego , it takes a lot of mental effort to want to sit still and do nothing

I'm 24 and never been in a serious relationship only like a month or so at most. I have stunted social development due to ASD and didnt make a real effort with personal development until I was 18 (time i discovered this channel) and had very little in terms of social skills, I've developed a lot, but feel im years behind my peers, many whom are married and have started a family. I'm not bothered about kids or marriage but a partner and some dogs would be nice. I get that theres so much more to life with spirituality and hobbies/ passions , career, and all the other experiences that come with life. I just feel though its such an awful shame to go to the grave without experincing what so many others in the world have experienced. I feel bad though I had an amazing childhood, although shit teenage years, and amazing university experience, I'm sure graduate work will come eventually although I have plenty to occupy myself with now to earn money and develop myself. I just feel people with ASD are limited in this field and its such a shame. Is it best to forget all about it and if when i meet someone through work or social groups and hit off go for it? Bit hard with the pandemic at the mo. Can't stand dating apps, too tacky and unnatural, u can't know someone through a few pics and emojis, they aren't for people with ASD at all.

I think your early 20's are a bit of a naff period to be dating in, too many people lack emotional maturity, people calm down a lot by their later 20's I've noticed

Reminds me of dmt trips I'd run upstairs because I wanted be somewhere comfy and also because I couldn't stand being around others in this head space, their energy ruined it. It's like being swallowed up in a black hole

I've got my diagnosis, I've said and done things that were inappropriate, originally it didn't even register but I'm much more self aware now, lacked empathy for others, didn't understand jokes and sarcasm, probably got let off a lot because they saw my struggle even if I wasn't self aware. Can honestly say this channel saved me. I agree technology in many ways stunts social development, parents now a days just give their child a screen to use as a babysitter, take your kid to work and give him a tablet or whatever to keep him quiet. I wish someone had helped me back then but no one spotted it.

You have no evidence for this, we're just better at identifying and testing for autism now, I was the one that took myself to the doctor at 20 to apply for a test noone else suggested it, ( my culture and the vast amount of information out there would have been the thing to motivate me ) just thought it could be likely due to my social struggles and i was right. Past generations would have just put people that were autistic down to being dumb , the older generations still belive things like ADHD and autism etc are made up diseases to handwave misbehaving kids away and not deal with them

@DianaFr I mean more in the general sense of growing old, missing out on an amazing part of existence. It feels like your left out of the party

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