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@flowboy I wouldnt want to go to a festival on my own, maybe a day festival but not a weekend one, everybodys off their heads, outdoor music is low quality and the place is dirty and smelly, not the place for a deep connection.

@flowboy lol where do you find these women, women I meet list their hobbies as netflix, drinking and shopping.

The ego likes to engage self doubt and insecurity because it makes it feel safe, anything that is not within its knowledge and control could be dangerous or disadvantageous, neediness is the desire to correct this insecurity, but if you need anything theres nothing to be insecure about you can just authentically act and trust that things will work out by working on yourself

Spiritual people in my city are mostly all middle aged, people my age are too busy seeking, although there is a psychedelic society with more younger people in it.

I like weed, but not during the day, as I would get nothing done

I love playfulness and fun, but i would love to joke around with girl that likes metaphysical topics like, maybe ive been in a coma for 10 years and your just my subconscious or maybe u are actually my doctors and hospital staff and my senses are making you characters in my dream, but most people are like dude are you on lsd right now lol, it does provide alternative humour though even if they dont entirely get it.

@Vlad_ weed is fine if you smoke a little on an evening like having a beer of 2

Women are highly social so deeper stuff probably isnt as much as an interest commonly as its too logical

you aint going to find a girlfriend in a nightclub hate to break it to you

that would be stupid, enlightenment should only be pursued if it resonates as a true desire to let go of attachment otherwise you are just forcing yourself to endure pain and misery for no reason, it kill the ego but leave your mind extremely messed up

go for a prostate massage dont knock a finger up the bum until youve tried it

I find it hard to relate to women because they just like talking about mundane trivial bullshit whos being gossiping about who, who cheated on who, whos sleeping with who, getting your nails done and going to kfc and the movies, its just bores me to death but i crave a deep connection , i dont see the point in talking to a girl about trivial stuff but its hard to find women that are into deep topics.

@Vlad_ im the same, but i dont think most people really deeply question these things, they just do things because they want to make money and live, life isnt really meaningful to them.

@NoSelfSelf stilling the mind

@NoSelfSelf giving up on stories is more of what im getting at , letting go of fear and attachment and just acting

meditation is supposed to be about letting go of attachments, so you could corrupt the benefits of meditation with your motive. I find most women arent interested in metaphysical stuff so i find it hard to relate, maybe just keep your interests seperate from dating

pretty deep conversation for a massage, I wouldn't class erotic massages as prostitution its just a massage thats extra sensual, its not like your having sex with her.

believe in yourself, you can do it

There is only truth and falsehood, nobody realises truth, truth realises itself , nobody can want truth it doesn't offer anything. Truth is ever present whether it is realised or not. Truth is just the realisation of what is always the case

Guys like to bully each other to get to the top, ive encountered it during college and university , it really does make you feel worthless and your life is pointless. I saw one post on here where a guy said someone told him to kill himself because he was worthless to women, when it feels like the whole world is against you, it can make you feel miserable and bitter and when a persons self esteem is so low they feel like uttter crap. Feeling hurt can make people lash out, some people do kill themselves some people just act like a total creep to lash out at the world and in more extreme scenarios mass shootings and paedophilia since they feel like they dont belong with the world of adults but feel angry for not being accepted its form of lashing out to make people think twice about marginalising people like them in the future. This activity is all unconscious but i feel society is just so unhelpful in how they treat maginalised groups. Not agreeing with their actions either but this is where it stems from

@Ulax Status seems to be everything in school, not fitting in is life and death , doesnt really matter in adulthood because people move around so much its a waste trying dominate where ever you are as the person will just quit or go else where if u make life miserable for them and you could find yourself out of a job for making a hellish work environment. This is why inceldom seems to be predominately with 20 something men, they've just left school with all the toxic imprinting from school about being worthless and a misfit so they carry that with them into adulthood and project that onto future interactions with people. I gained a ton of friends at college and uni after school so i got lucky, but people who dont believe they will ever be good enough feel on the outside and have the need to fight back against society. People say just forget about school but it forms the basis of your whole identity going into adulthood and the mind will cling onto it with all its power, thats why we've seen so much loner violence from 20 something men in the past 20 years alongside social media and the internet to motivate them to spread their ideas.

Leo confusing people as usual with his non dual perspective , very zen

High school and college though is where social and emotional patterns become deeply ingrained into identity though so they carry that into adult life, neediness in adulthood is really just trying to fullfil childhood insecurities

Society is so sex obsessed, back when my paerents were my age in the 80s , people still didnt blab about their intimate sexual details with one another, now when I'm at work I can hear people talk about intimate sexual acts with their partner, so crass, it makes people feel like they dont belong in the world if thats normal , theres little barrier between the social domain and the intimate domain

@Noahsteelers34 most of them will be probably on the spectrum, too much of a self focus