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Mental grasping is trying to figure out what is happening with every moment , what my actions and other people's actions or communication mean. How do I achieve my goal? How do I fix something in my life or with this interaction . The sense of control is needing things to be different , to know how something works or how to get there ?

you have think about why she is there? if its not somewhere people go to be social, you can assume they are not there to chat to strangers.

@StarStruck self-love should be unconditional nothing good can come from hating, you have to own who you are and work with what youve got and where you are at otherwise you're in denial of reality

This is awful misogynistic shit , women are human beings not something to be used they're my friends, loved ones and people I admire and respect , men are responsible for over 90% of violent crime , women have lovely personalities

I'd stick to approaching people in settings where people actually go to meet people as thats what theyre there for. I mean dont take it as an absolute you can strike up conversation with people anywhere if it feels natural and she seems comfortable but also be respectful and read when to back off. When you approach someone randomly they dont know your intentions or who you are as a person, but in more social settings its obvious you're there to connect,

it would be useful for him to find the source of this insecurity with the help of psychedelics, therapy and contemplation. Projecting that insecurity will only ruin the relationship as he becomes ungrounded. Remember that everyone is their own unique person with their own unique strengths and qualities and shouldnt compare themselves to other people.

As long as your respectful I dont feel like you can go wrong, just be easy going and strike up a nice conversation, people are more open to you if you're nice and relaxed carefree and confident

@nhoktinvt is there such a thing as normal? You are unique in your own way, own that

I'm proud to be autistic , proud to be different, my special interests give me so much passion and devotion exploring them really shows me the beauty and fascination of the world. I love the zany friends I've developed that I wouldn't have if I was neuro typical , I get to relate to the world and other people in a whole unique way adding to the beauty life has to offer . Just practicing self love alone makes me more calibrated to wanting to get on with others and hyper tunes my social skills to build something with other people I'm not so concerned with myself anymore therefore I just want to give to other people, I have so much to give , I don't need anything instead I view relationships in terms of building something amazing rather than solely my own selfish needs to make me feel complete

@Javfly33 "self esteem is the disposition to experience oneself as being conpitent to take on the basic challenges of life and being worthy of happiness" Nathaniel Brandon

Due to low self worth I had this belief if i try hard enough i'll be good enough, i'll be a high quality human being if i do something to attract her if i make her fall for me. Happiness needs to come from the inside by loving yourself and feeling like you have a lot to give and by appreciating your strengths whatever they may be. When you go into a relationship you are creating something, thats bigger than yourself, only when you love yourself unconditionally can you truly love other people. When you are relaxed, happy, carefree and not concerned whether you get into a relationship or get sex you will communicate that you care about creating something high quality and amazing between you and another person thats not about yourself. You will know you are ready for a relationship when you no longer need one. Love yourself regardless , even if you feel like a virgin socially awkward guy, i mean you got to work with what you've got, dont let it define you, you are an amazing beautiful person with lots to give where ever you are at right now. Go out there and socialise get to know some people and see if you can create something amazing. Being loving means giving up on yourself

Niceness is trying to hard and not being your authentic self, you can be kind and compassionate without being a people pleaser pushover so dont think you cant be loving either. Be your authentic self, if you love yourself then you can let people in. All this theory is too much, Love yourself be kind to other people but dont try and make someone like you, if they like you back then great, if not better luck with the next one

Andrew tate doesnt love himself he reeks of insecurity thats why he has to put on that toxic masculine persona to cover up his perceived flaws, he will call you a pussy and fight you so you dont question his abilities. Having high self esteem and self love means you dont feel the need to be better than other people and put them down , you see yourself has having the ability to give and create something amazing with another person. When you love yourself you can radiate out love to other people. Now that is attractive.

a cancer cell is part of my body as well.....

When toxic masculinity is taken to the extreme no respect for anyone just full blown narcissism

Think about how a close friendship developed, did you act needy and insecure with them or did it just naturally blossom? You shouldn't need to care whether they like you or not because the right one will, then you can just relax and be your authentic self. People are drawn to people they feel they can resonate with so if someone likes you they'll make it easy for you.

This seems to blow my confidence and stops me from loving myself, I feel like im behind and a loser for not having loads of experience, ive kissed a few girls and had the occasional one night stand but nothing within a loving relationship and im 26, its the only thing that stops me from letting go and letting the worlds love in, it just makes me feel worthless, I wish i knew hot to let go and let the worlds love in.

@RebornConsciousness neediness is a state of being, if you feel it, you are it

@StarStruck your right i dont feel the need to date a model, i get on better with the girl next door type

fucking bullshit more like, treat people with respect. Dont understand people that play games, grow up!!!!! i mean sure dont text her like the same night or at 3 am have some common sense but playing games is stupid

I love women that are very sweet, very warm and loving. Women that friendly and love playful banter and flirting. I just love it when i smile at a girl and we make strong eye contact like your both staring at each other and its a mutual recognition that you both find each other attractive. I want a woman thats social, but not too loud .

not replying for 3 days is just rude, she can't respect you that much if she waits that long, sometimes i forget my phone and reply like 12 hours later, but i'll apoligise and say i left my phone at home. I wouldn't be so hung up on someone that waited that long to reply. Respect yourself, you are valuable.

Online dating is great if ur attractive , but everyone is shopping for a 10 on there . I don't like how it reduces people to a shopping list , it's very mechanical

@NoSelfSelf I can tap into easily, but the ego still reminds itself its behind, people have told me its not a competition and treat as not important