Sangoku

Hello there, love to tell that your videos helped me really much in my live. So much more Joy in my Life now. As i am a Developer my self i can really relate to your way of point of life Leo. As same i have a big problem with staying my ground with friends, i am now on the level where i can notice i am suppressing my own wishes to compulsively please my friends. But the problem I get aware first after a talk. Not while i talk to them.... Any suggestions how I can be more aware while ppl make requests of me. Later i am able to correct those mistakes with talking but i would love to lessen the strain on me and my friends so i can stand my ground while talking.... Any ideas are welcome. I am trying to be more aware but it is like my consciousness is laging behind my ego.... With eternal gratitude Sangoku

@Consept Wow really deep and true toth! Thank you this helps me much

Hello. So i have a bit of a problem. A deeeeply rooted problem. Fora long time i had problems with remembering names. It takes me somtimes about 6 months to remember a name. But as i started to become self aware i noticed it is not the usual difficulty other have. it is psyhological by nature for me. As i am coming from a people pleader background and crave for emotional response due to lack in my family i think i developed a realy nasty emotional snack habit. Always when someone is engaging me in an emotional way when we get to know eachother my brain instinctlivly knowing the person will respond emotionally to me forgetting their name / look and it is a easy snack it duos exactly that. So after 30 years of doing it i am stuck without nasty conditioning that when i dont concentrate my brain tends to delete the ppl i find emotionally engaging. I have no idea how to approach this emotional problem because i have no positive feeedback look to change my sbconcies behavior. Any advice?

Sorry for the late response. I was really busy in getting to know my self. @Anna Thank you for the good advice, the result of my question is that i watched this video. And at that time i was not still ready to let go of my pleasing ego. Now i am more down the road and the friends i tooth i wanted to keep safe at all costs started to show different colors when confronted with my NO. Also i noticed i had a pretty strong filter about what a definition of a friend is. that was on other topic a reason for my inner anger when i had confrontations with them because the reality was not the one i wanted. Thank you