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I LOVE (you) ALL for INFINITY

Oh sure it does beloved If you aren't aware of you're ego you are quite unconscious of your true potential

Does shooting yourself in the head count as real ego death for you? Idk, what's the measure here

@Ramanujan How come if there is a sunset next morning there is a sunrise? Btw, if you don't mind asking me, what type of spiritual practices do you do? Meditation, yoga, psychedelics? I keep getting this sense again and again from you that you only do philosophy, this is a trap. You have maxed out philosophy, now you need mystical experiences and nothing can do it but that.

@BlessedLion I would say life itself. Particularly interactions with others. Pay real attention at how you behave in the presence of others and become aware every time you wrongfully do others. One can also learn from its shadows by knowing what others criticise of ourselves or in the best case asking for high quality feedback. If one becomes aware of such behaviours and catches it at the moment, this is more than enough for breaking the shadow patterns and integrating it into the full light of our conscious experience. This is my shadow work habit, maybe you find value in it. That's my humble share.

@Chadders Agree Most optimal barefooted and walking with a wooden stick

Your suffering, your pain, your afflictions are My sorrow. This Body understands everything - Mother

I just did this test and learnt a whole lot about myself! https://www.idrlabs.com/personality-style/test.php I understood many of my neurosis and I was able to put name to my obscure psychological traits. I discovered my compulsive side (71%) and my narcissist side (50%) and how they have played in my favour and in my detriment throughout my life. The point of the test is to be humbled and also honest with oneself, so that Personal Development and real healing can happen. I invite you to discover your dark side! if you dare... It would be nice if we all share our results with the Actualized.org community so that we can link resources for targetting the specific issues we are all facing.

Damn, that's tough I really had no idea of this phenomenon. It surely is very counter-intuitive. I've been researching and is very common. More on this from another article The tickling analogy makes a lot of sense. Yes, that whole processing reasoning is backwards. And I don't support that type of reasoning because it totally comes from the wrong place. However, maybe 99% is fault of the aggressor and 1% naivety from the victim, bad place, bad time, things of this sort. Hope you get what I'm trying to say. Thanks for sharing your experience and it has helped me to understand this complex issue better. I appreciate it, have a nice day

@Buck Edwards You shared that a guy attempted to rape you. Would you mind telling us your experience? We probably won't have a first hand report of an assaulter but maybe we can have a report of the other side. So share what you feel comfortable sharing, if any. Did you know the aggressor? Where did it happen? What did you do afterwards?

Excuse me @Nemra, I didn't get what you were trying to communicate. Could you rephrase it?

French smoker you had to be I enjoyed a lot American Spirit, although lately I have found Marlboro Crafted Selection quite enjoyable also. hum, pretty interesting actually

So you have noticed that many men have sadistic tendencies realted to sex? That could be a genuine observation. Ohhh You more sweetheart!

Rape is horrible sex. There is no connection, high consciousness or real love. It's just profoundly printed primal forces that drive the human to perform in such a way. There is some unconscious, biological and evolutionary ties that make it appealing despite the horror of it all. I can't imagine how it would feel to be raped. Surely it's horrible

Exactly, so raping because of some lack could be more easily treated with well thought policies. However, rapist mindsets, psychopathic and sociopathic tendencies are harder to bend/domesticate given disfunctional human psyches.

I'm starting to assume you do like it rough

I think you're getting to conservative with sex here

That makes total sense. We are on the same page then

@bambi That's a good point

Consider some people like it rough Like real rough. That's what makes them horny/satisfied and I see no problem with it. No shame on them honestly. Could you consider this as a possibility? They could come up both from a healthy space and an unhealthy space, that's true. As far as my research goes on sexuality, a significant percentage of men and women do like it rough.

It can do the trick most of the time. Yeah, that fetish mentality is definitely a rape generator machine

Yes, that could be a factor. I'm trying my best to understand the Rapist Mind I see that

I was thinking this same thing. One can argue that the dominance and aggressiveness is the turn on and not the sexual stimulation

But you see, you can have consented sex with that dynamic. Many women actually love it. So most people could do that in healthy ways and most of them surely do. It's not rare in a man to have dominant tendencies and wanting to fuck the shit out of a woman. The difference is that they find a woman that enjoys being fucked the shit out of herself. As a counter argument to myself, I could say that in its more radical essence the dominance must be with a non cooperative partner, to impose your will forcefully would be the highest turn on for that kind of psyche.

So, I've researched rape in the animal kingdom and this is what I've found: