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yea man life is so uncertain, you don't know if something is good or not

Did your rate of failure decrease after your first lay?

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Yea I saw this video. Crazy because messages like this I feel like I won't even understand fully until I get the material things that aren't worth while.

I have to try, I don't think I can live life knowing I didn't do it.

Yea see that's one thing I was wondering. Like you said you had to do 400 approaches before getting a single lay with a girl. How do you even do that without losing hope? How do you have faith that it will eventually work out? When should you know when something isn't working? Like I definitely see most people quitting and saying it doesn't work before 200 approaches let alone 400. But that's like not even a bad effort, I would they know that they need 200 more approaches. And by the way, that's the only thing that's giving me hope right now. Like the fact that all the blackpiller may have spent 1000 of hours reading game and probably did 100 approaches, but I don't think they did 400 or 1000.

@Leo Gura The first video I saw of you was in the 7th Grade, when I got into self development. From around that time I believed that I could Get very pretty woman that I am attracted to Become a successful musician Build a life for myself that other people can dream possible. Live life with 100 percent passion. To honour life. I believed I could achieve all of this provided I worked hard and got rid of limited beliefs. That the only thing in my way is myself. Fast forward to now, I'm starting to believe that Woman mainly care about looks the most. The chances of being a successful musician is incredibly rare, most people who try fail. Life is nothing but a game of luck. People born in war-torn countries are fucked. People that have disfigured faces can't get woman. If you're blessed with normal genetics, there's an automatic cap on what you can achieve. If you're a normal guy, maybe you should be realistic, try to do the best of what you got, but don't expect that you can achieve what you truly want. (I really hate having to think like this, I grew up with self help content and was always filled with hope, this type of thinking is painful for me, but then again I really don't want to brainwash myself) There's no free will, so self actualising as a whole seems pointless. Yes Leo, I watched all your free-will videos. I've asked you about this 2 years ago, and you told me that the real question in Do "you" have free will is what the meaning of "you" is. But you must understand that I have not experienced what you've experienced, I have to go on my own personal experience, and right now all I see is material determinism. So yes, I don't believe in free will, because I don't understand your vantage point. I just see evidence that all our actions, desires and capabilities are manifested because of our genes. This viewpoint has been parroted by Sam Harris, Robert Sapolsky and now much of the blackpill community. I hate having victim mindset, but it seems to me that we are victims of life. It's somewhat problematic for me because I intuit that I am stuck between two levels of development. I intuit that my understanding of the nature of self is very primitive and that I must temporarily let go of all the pessimism and the idea of no free will in order to develop. But by doing so I feel like Im gaslighting myself again. Maybe I need permission to do so. I believed I could really do big big shit in my life, like I could work 20-30 years with a company and make a 100 million dollars. Now I'm like, maybe I should be realistic.

Yea and one more thing, like this whole blackpill thing makes sense in the Darwinian sense.

I don't mean to play the semantiv game here, So many spiritual teachers and intellectuals got me confused, what is "you"?

So material determinism is absolute and life is just a big, if its going to happen, it was always supposed to happen

So then there is no free will? Everything that was supposed to happen does happen. So everything is determined yes? Im struggling to understand the implication of this? What does this mean in daily life?

What have you been historically attracted to. Maybe that will give you a clue.

Hey everyone, I've been thinking a lot about marriage and relationships recently, and I wanted to get your thoughts on it. I recently watched a podcast featuring divorce lawyer James Sexton, and it really got me curious about the reality of marriage. In the podcast, Sexton mentioned that more marriages fail than succeed. Even among those that don't end in divorce, many people stay together just to avoid the pain of separation or for the sake of the kids. This made me wonder, can marriages truly be successful? I'm curious about how one can achieve a successful marriage, considering these points. Is a marriage that lasts a lifetime something worth striving for, or should we lower our expectations? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences. Thanks!

Not much. So you're saying that there are 100 pieces that fit the puzzle, and I have to focus on trying to get all the pieces one by one. That there isn't a single reason why marriages work/don't work, that I must focus on trying to acquire skills before I even think about getting married. I hope I'm getting the gist of your message correctly. Yes, the grandmaster example makes sense to me. Alright I'll get to work. Thanks for the reply.

@Leo Gura Whats not Maya? How would you be certain that what you think is true isn't an illusion either, I mean the non-dualists were sure their perspectives were true. I feel like this is an annoying question ahahaha

@Butters don't quit, keep going.

Yes I agree on what you're saying. but let's not pretend that a lot of marriages end for very similar reasons. Like there are defenitly patterns to recognise. But yea I am different from you so my problems are going to be different from yours.

Your post is very well written, and this part really touched me. I think you are right, I am getting ahead of myself.

@Marvelllious Hey man. I read your story twice and you definitely have gone through a lot. I'm 19 aswell, we're in the same age group. I think the fact that you posted in this forum shows that you know intuitively that there's more to life than what you're experiencing right now. That's good news. That's better than most people. I want you to remind yourself the times you did achieve good results in life. The fact that you meditated for two hours a day is great, no-one does it. Take small steps. But keep moving forward. I am super dissatisfied with my own progress and have to keep reminding myself that compared to the person I was 2 years ago I am much better. I have exams right now, but we can get in touch after my exams finish. I'll be happy to talk to you if you think that would help.

Yes I know, I'm not asking you guys to tell me the answer for myself. I'm trying to see your opinions and experiences.

Wow ahaha, I guess you're right. The reason I wanted to know peoples opinions here is because I really want to understand what to expect from a relationship. Like my Parents are married and plan to stay married, but they also have a very unique situation, their marriage was built on sacrifice and they have the same values. But my friends parents, a lot of them are divorced, I mean it was crazy to me how common cheating was. Is it part of human nature to want to cheat? Because if I find out that the cost of marriage outweighs the pros, then I might instead try to have very fruitful relationships that don't last forever. Just seeing what ppl think yamean. Maybe that's more possible. idk.

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@mmKay 3d earth buddhist rat pizza

@mmKay ahahaha damn I didnt think if that. flat earth pizza lmao. wb a 3d earth pizza, tf would that look like.