mr_engineer

I have found this to not be the case, I've found people I can trust. And you're advocating the opposite of that, which tells me that you don't want to be one of those people. Which is fine, just telling you about a reality you don't know about. You cannot live without men! You wouldn't survive a month without men. Then why don't we combine men and women's categories in sports?! A power-imbalance is not codependency. You can choose which authority-figure suits you based on your needs. And you won't be codependent on any one of them. Life is relationships. You need to grow up. The solution to this problem is to go out and find more people, have an abundance of people to depend on. Not to become independent. In society, we depend on each other. That is the reality. And, believe it or not, other people decide what we're worth. That's what they give us. If you decide you're worth a million dollars and if nobody else had that power, you could snap your fingers and you'd have a million dollars in your bank-account. Unfortunately, that's not how this works. Projection.

@Tyler Robinson It's like me saying to you 'Women can be strong and independent!! They don't need the law created by men to protect them. So, if you say that you have this need, you're WEAK!!' What would you say to me if I said that?! You'd say 'You don't know how to protect women, so you think women shouldn't need it', right?!

What this tells me is that you don't know what femininity is and what the need for connection is. This is stuff that other women offer to us men. But, you don't get this cuz you don't offer it!! You just judge other men from a 'morally superior' perspective. This tells me that your self-worth is low. I'd work on fixing that instead of lecturing men on 'how to be independent'.

@Tyler Robinson What you're saying tells me that YOU don't have that much to offer to a man. There are other women who we really love and adore! I'm just telling you that it happens. And you could change this for yourself too.

@Tyler Robinson

They don't tell you cuz they know you won't believe it.

I'd say that most 'driven' people are not positively motivated, they're negatively motivated. If you really envy them and their lives, maybe talk to them and watch as they open up about their struggles. My point is that being driven is not going to solve all of your problems. There are lots of people who run in the rat-race all their lives and once they retire, they regret having done that with their lives and not done what they really wanted to do. It is perfectly fine to have a slower life and smell the roses along the way. Productivity is not everything. I think you're doing fine.

Blue or Green? A part of me thinks that they just hate men. And they exclude trans-women from the feminist conversation cuz they're biological men.

A lot of religious people say the same things about people who are atheists. 'They just read the scriptures to prove it wrong and miss so much of the value and good stuff in it'! Without realizing that their way is not the best way or the only way of growth. If I were you, I'd ask myself the following questions- how does she grow herself? Is survival more important to her than growth? Or is growth more important? Cuz if survival is more important, that could be a dealbreaker for you! Cuz such a person will not support you in your hero's journey when push comes to shove, they'll oppose it. And, once I understood how she grows herself, I'd show her how to apply spirituality there. I'd use those examples to teach her spirituality!! Most people primarily care about their lives and their agendas. And, the reason you don't have a clear-cut answer as to why you care about spirituality, is that you are unconscious of this about yourself. You maybe haven't gotten tangible results in your life from this work yet, so you can't prove it to her. So, before explaining it to her, I'd figure this out for myself first if I were in your shoes. Then I'd show her how she can apply it, to improve the results of her life! Spirituality can be a big strength in relationships. You just need to know how to use it. HTH!!

The way I see it, this is Magnus taking a step out of the rat-race. Because what was driving him was not his greed for success, it was his passion for the game, his intuition, his creativity. It looks to me like the chess-world will start moving into Stage Green because of this decision from Magnus. It won't rely on so much cut-throat competition for prize-money and it'll rely on more co-operative endeavors like brand-deals, sponsorship, coaching, chess edutech, etc. Thoughts?

https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/2022/7/15/23218969/sri-lanka-organic-fertilizer-pesticide-agriculture-farming From your favorite news-site, Vox.

The art of chess is to find the right move in an exceedingly complex, strategic battle. Chess is not something that has been solved by computers. Humans don't view it as a puzzle to be solved. So, the way we think in chess-positions, even the best of us, is very human! It's 'This is the position. That is my strategic objective. This is my move in that direction.'

Just in case some of you didn't know, chess is not just about moving pieces and creating patterns. That's not the 'art' we're talking about here! Having different patterns on the board. There is a big strategic and intuitive element to it that only players above a certain level get. You can call it an acquired taste. And, it's about playing a human opponent and winning. I'd argue that it's even moreso about the fact that you're playing a human opponent than about the position in and of itself. Cuz humans make mistakes. And, about concentration - chess is one of the few activities that will make it so your left and right brains get exercised at the same time.

I have one more reason. It is that 'play' is fundamental to the nature of reality. When you are God, nothing is serious anymore, because nothing can threaten you. So, 'play' is fundamental to the nature of God! This is why we have a play-impulse. It is God creatively expressing itself in certain forms. Now, why sports and why not have this attitude towards work itself? The reason for that is that work is done for an outcome. So, the average human needs sports in order to access the part of them that will do something, that will express itself for no particular outcome.

@assx95 In India, rapport is impossible. Therefore, pick-up can't work here. Either use your social-circle, old friends from school and college, work-circle or your cousins' friends or something. I'd recommend chasing success and getting some social-status and using your work-circle. Cuz women here want commitment right off the bat. It's not going to be possible to get any other kind of sex-life in an ethical way here. Cuz you have to be a bit of an asshole to get someone to be a friends-with-benefits. And one-night-stands are too risky. Too much risk of getting falsely accused. So, if you want any other kind of sex-life, get out of here!

To all the people saying that it's 'too boring' - in my experience, people don't say that because they see chess as this boring, predictable game that one human has absolute mastery over and is just passing down to the rest of the chess-world. Like our grade-school. It's because it's so complex for them that they personally don't understand it. With all due respect, Leo, you're the first reasonable-sounding person I've talked to who thinks that chess is boring. All the other reasonable people I've talked to about this say that it's too complex for them. (And the unreasonable people think it's boring because they just suck at it and don't want to admit it.) But, if your solution to the fact that it's boring is to make Fischer-random a thing, which is also something I haven't heard much of, it's not a very popular opinion, this means that you think it's too simple/simplistic with the same starting-position. In which case, let me assure you - it's not! Humanity has not outgrown the first starting position of chess. And there is so much growth happening in chess the way it is right now, it's ridiculous. Computers can't solve it with calculations as deep as 20 or 30 moves. And I mean, calculations into every possible position those many moves deep!

@Leo Gura Lol!! The next thing you know, Leo starts calling the hierarchy of international masters, grandmasters, super-grandmasters and the rating-ladder in and of itself a cult. For me, personally, it is a very good hobby. Gives me practice in thinking. I wouldn't do it professionally, though, cuz I don't find it meaningful to find the best move in every position.

They do have Fischer Random tournaments from time to time! Kasparov plays in them. I think the resistance to making a full switch will be from the opening theoreticians. Who have spent their entire lives researching and mastering one opening. Most of the chess-world hasn't really mastered all the openings in the traditional starting position! When we do that, I think more starting-positions will slowly be introduced. If you notice Magnus's objections, they were relative to the time-controls. He said that he wanted a faster time-control to spice things up. But, the World Championship is so traditional and it has such a long-standing legacy that people don't want to let go of it. Change is very slow in chess. I guess things may change now.

I don't think all he cares about is winning. Cuz a winner would play the WC no matter what! For example, a Kasparov or a Bobby Fischer would want to reign the world of chess for as long as they can. Kasparov was the reigning champion for a good 20 years or so. It's never happened in the history of the game that a World Champion doesn't defend his title because the rat-race is too much or too boring for him and he's not motivated to do it.

@integral He did say that he'd play if Firouzja won the candidates. Because he would like to play an opponent who is young and inspired and creative. And Nakamura thinks that Magnus would play if he won the candidates! Apparently, he's not playing cuz he doesn't want to play against Nepo. He is one of the best artists on the chessboard. They call him the 'Mozart of chess'. And he did say in his documentary that his intuition plays a huge role in his games.

This will happen if you don't have kids.

@Bojan V Kid, in case you don't know, you need food to survive. So, you don't axe your own food-supply like that! You know what? Do what you want. Just don't come for my food. Or else you will regret it.

If you really want to resolve the environmental situation, I'd suggest constructing an environmentally conscious business that's more economically viable and out-competing the problematic systems in the free market. Rather than oppressing the people who produce our food. I mean, talk about the insanity of supporting that, man! Do you want the rest of the world to become like Sri Lanka?! Is that what you really want?!

My point is that the people in Sri Lanka are starving because of the government's restrictions on the fertilizers they could use. Not because the farmers are self-biased! And now, the Dutch government is doing the exact same thing to the Dutch people.

Tell that to the starving people of Sri Lanka.