mr_engineer

What if two needy people want to be together? Is that illegal, in your books?

Would you sue someone who's being needy? Would you call the police on them for 'being needy'?

I was being persistent with a question that I knew people would not take seriously, because I wanted an answer. It got answered. If I cared about you perceiving it as 'needy', it would not have gotten answered! What's your answer, by the way? Is it illegal to be needy?

So, nobody has the courage to answer my question. I knew it. There are no ethical considerations relative to the issue of 'neediness' either. Therefore, there is no logical reason to not be 'needy'!

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Another way of putting it is - can you get sued for 'needy behavior'?

Answer the question, Leo. Is it, or is it not, legally punishable?

I'm gonna keep bumping this question until someone answers. I don't care.

Just answer the question. Is it illegal or not? Yes or no?

I'm not kidding, this is my actual question. Is it illegal to be needy or not? Is there a legal reason to 'not be needy'? Is 'being needy' a crime?

Mods, it's not illegal, right?!

@Consept You're not answering, so I'm assuming that you agree that it's not illegal.

Not illegal, right?

My question was more along the lines of 'What is this nonsense concept of 'neediness'?! WTF are people going on and on about 'don't be needy'?!' There really is no logic behind it, it's pure nonsense.

And yet here you are, spouting it as a scientific fact. It's a dogma that's held by the entire online dating-world and it has totally destroyed dating. It's making people less and less straightforward with each other about what they want. There is a special place in hell for people who propagate this lie.

Saying 'having emotional needs is bad' has really, really not worked for me. It doesn't even make logical sense. I'm still waiting for you to explain the logic.

Dating-coaches love to invent new problems to solve. It's one of the oldest business-tactics. And now we have ordinary people spouting their propaganda like this.

No, it's a contradiction. Aka, BS. When you make 'neediness' or 'the desire for a relationship' a problem, this fills your mind with conflicts. Is dating a good thing? Is it not a good thing? Is it a sign of 'neediness', which is 'bad'?! When you just accept that you want a relationship and you have the balls to tell people that 'these are my needs in a relationship' and 'this is how my life would improve if I entered a relationship', things are just made easier, don't you think?!

Why would you even date if you're happy being single?! It's one of the biggest internal contradictions in this rhetoric.

Having needs from something/someone external does not necessarily mean that 'you're not good as you are', right?! For example, if you need food to survive, does this mean that you're not good as you are?

If it feels like the right step, you shouldn't worry about it hindering your personal growth. Marriage is full of problems. The experience of facing and tackling them will definitely grow you.