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@Rafael Thundercat The biggest reason women are attracted to bad boys is because of movie-conditioning. A movie's hero has a six-pack, smokes cigarettes and 'protects her from bad guys' by physically taking them on. This is a cultural definition of 'masculinity' that everyone is being conditioned with. Another big key is that if she has self-worth issues/body-image issues (because of movie-conditioning of what a woman should look like) coupled with an emotionally unavailable daddy in childhood, she's going to have a strategy of using sex to get a man to be emotionally available. (Because it works in movies.) So, if a spiritual man acts loving and emotionally available towards her, she will wall him off and reject him because he's not acting narcissistic and selfish and looking to use her for his pleasure! Cuz that's the idea of what a 'man' is, that her father conditioned her with. This is the problem at hand. So, what's the solution? You have to recognize that all of these cultural ideas of 'masculinity' are patriarchal and that these are the ways in which the patriarchy benefits you. When you see that, you will see where this leads and what your future holds, if you keep going in this direction. You have to see the religious roots of these ideas of 'masculinity' and why religious authorities designed it like this, for collective human survival. (If you're a spiritual woman, you can see this bigger picture.) When you see this, your ideas of 'masculinity' will come into question and you will start to open your mind to alternative ideas of 'masculinity', which are based on New-Age spirituality and which hold authenticity as a core value. You ask yourself the question - In an ideal world, what role would men play in my life? And, what would his value-system be, why would he do what he does? Because you've learned about masculinity and you've seen real-life examples of them, you will know who aligns with your values and who doesn't. And, because you know the traumas you've gone through, you will know what you need from men. This way, you will be honest about what you want from men and your expectations will be realistic. Then, you ask yourself - how would a compatible relationship work with me? If you know the kind of man you want, then you can answer this question. And, if he has the right value-system, you should be able to convince him. And, once you can do that, your daddy-issues will start to get resolved, because your self-worth issues will start to get resolved. And once that happens, you can start to question your attraction to bad boys and you can psychologically wean yourself off of them. Potentially with your man's help. TLDR: She needs to develop a better understanding of men and masculinity. That's the solution for her.

India. First, please explain to me whether your idea of 'love' is a consensus or not. Then, once we've established that, when you explain this statement, I will probably understand what you're saying.

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How many laughs do you usually get when you say something like this about romantic love? If you get more laughs than not, most of them agree with you. The reason I'm asking this is that if this is the consensus on 'romantic love', that's incredibly scary. 'Romantic love' is different from absolute love. It's a human idea of love between two individuals who choose to be in a committed relationship.

Is this what most of the world thinks 'romantic love' is? Out of curiosity?

Find a way to involve her in your business. (Officially or unofficially, depending on what she wants.)

The 'nakedness' that you see is a symbol of asceticism/monkhood. In India, people who want to dedicate their lives to the pursuit of God leave civilization, go to the forest and spend all day every day meditating, without caring about where they'll get food, water or shelter. They say that synchronicities happen for their needs to get met. In Hindu religion, when you touch someone's feet/bow down the way Modi is doing, you are showing them your reverence for them. And, it is customary in the religion to show reverence to monks/ascetics.

If you look at your life/your childhood, you may see that you are missing individuals in your life who had certain feminine qualities/abilities. 'Romantic love' from the male perspective is felt towards women who have those feminine qualities. By the same token, 'romantic love' from the female perspective, is felt towards men who have certain masculine qualities, which they specifically need individuals in their lives to have. These are the type of individuals you will be drawn towards.

Whatever you do, don't have a God-complex. Never ever justify anything you do by saying 'I'm enlightened and they're not', never think that being enlightened makes you better than anyone else. It does not. And, if someone tells you that you have a God-complex, take that criticism very seriously. If you get really good at what you do, you can tune out all the other criticism. But not this one. This is something that only other people can tell you. Only other people can tell you whether you're acting out of a God-complex or whether you're actually grounded in reality.

It's about connection, love, empathy.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/invalidating-you Leo, I have a question for you. What did you hope to achieve by saying this?! From society's perspective, telling someone who is suffering that their suffering is an illusion, is a mean thing to say. Try going to a funeral and telling people that the deceased person who they're cremating 'never existed to begin with' and watch how they react.

Masculinity, fundamentally, is about giving. That's why Life-Purpose is core to masculinity. It is about actively giving and sharing your gift with the world. Culturally, masculinity is about achievement. Which is a problematic thing to believe, for yourself and for others. It gives rise to an immature dick-measuring contest which, broadly speaking, is the materialistic rat-race. It leads nowhere, there is no end to it.

Please don't. I say some offensive shit here. I would much rather you laugh it off and move on.

The question at hand here is - what is it that women think a 'wholesome life' is? Vs. what do women think is 'weird'? If you're playing a numbers game, these become important questions. What would this 'wound' be?

The dream is not separate from reality, it is a part of reality. So, the pain is also a part of reality. It is real. The God-self You experienced it in reality through the other body. And, as a conscious, empathetic human, you were able to access God-consciousness and you were able to actually feel that pain. This interpretation of it as 'bioelectrical signals' - this is your attachment to your materialist-paradigm coloring your interpretation of the experience of pain. It's the idea of 'bioelectrical signals' that's the illusion in your mind. The pain is an experience. Therefore, it is real! If you see yourself as Consciousness, you are the experiencer of something. And, all of life is an experience that you are experiencing. The experiencer is prior to everything. So, as the experiencer, reality is what you experience. And, because pain is an experience, from the point of view of Consciousness, it would be 'real'. P.S. I understand the importance of this 'bioelectrical signals' analogy. The point of it is to show how thin the line between 'material reality' and 'dream reality' is, to someone who's very attached to the materialistic worldview. It would make sense to such an individual. Having said that, it has its own limitations and I wouldn't hold on too tightly to it. This I agree with.👍

@Leo Gura, I'm going to tell you my issue with you taking this stance publicly. This could open the door wide open for zen-devilry, i.e. narcissism disguised as 'enlightenment'. People can weaponize this idea to justify not being empathetic towards others who are suffering. At least, that's what I think, this is my humble, inexperienced opinion. Am I right or wrong? If I'm wrong, please correct me. Thanks.

It's because we have desires and unburned karma. Those require us to impose certain limitations on the world outside. But, because we are God and what's 'outside' is what's 'inside', the limitations also get imposed internally. It's because they're unconscious of what God is. If they were conscious of what God is and if what they believed were actually true, i.e. if God really were separate from yourself and themselves, they would, in fact, laugh, call you silly and go about their day. You can't be serious. Ask someone who's been stranded in a desert for a couple of days how much they 'loved their suffering'. Consciously, we are moving away from pain and towards pleasure. Unconsciously, when we move towards more suffering, it seems like we love our suffering. We really don't, it sucks. No, it's not 'keeping us from boredom'. We chase pleasure, consciously, because we think that that's the answer. When it turns out to not be the answer, we surrender to the suffering. Then, we realize that the ego that was running from it was an illusion and that the suffering was caused by the perception of separation. Then, we become free from it.

The immediate experience you're having in your present moment - that's 'reality'. (I'm ignoring the upper-case and lower-case letters right now, for argument's sake). If you want my opinion of it, there you go. Others may not agree, though. Here's my question to you. It's a very simple question (spoken like Arnab lol). If you stub your toe and you feel pain in there as a result of it, is that pain 'real' or 'imaginary', according to you? I think that no matter how enlightened you are, if you stub your toe, you will feel pain. We have a reflex in our eye that closes the eye when a fly comes near it. Are you saying that this reflex goes away once you become enlightened, because you realize that 'your body is an illusion, the fly is an illusion, so we don't have to protect the body anymore'?!

Couple of questions. When you say 'everything is an illusion', in the 'everything', are you only including finite forms? Or, are you also including Infinity/The Formless? Let us assume, for a second, that survival is real. That the ego is real and that survival is a real concern. Would trauma/suffering/pain still be an illusion, if this assumption were true? Or, would it have to be real?

My original question was - what's the point of invalidating someone's pain/trauma? If you're not even going to tell someone that their pain is an illusion, what's the point of this insight to begin with? To 'see for yourself' that their pain is an illusion for you?! I mean, it already is! And it doesn't take a genius to see that, just some narcissism. Let's not talk about other people's pain for a second. Let's talk about our own. Say, you have a health-problem that's causing you pain. What is the point being made here? Is it that the health-problem is an illusion, or the pain is an illusion? If you say that the health-problem is an illusion, that would make sense. Because the definition of a 'problem' would be biased. But, I seriously doubt that the pain that's being felt is an illusion.

No, I'm not. He made a statement, I'm asking a question. They're not the same!

Sir Isaac Newton answered this question in the 1500s.

He is Ranveer Singh, an Indian actor. He is notorious for his unconventional wardrobe-choices. His social confidence is on another level, which is why he can carry anything. We can safely call him the Russell Brand of India.

It's not the print on the shirt that determines whether you look masculine or not. It's your body-type, the fitting of the shirt and how well you carry it that determines whether you look masculine.

What if some of them get screwed cuz you had to pause operations? What if they don't forgive you for doing so? Lay-offs are a part of the problem here. And many couldn't have. Time tends to be a huge factor when it comes to a lot of companies' USP/competitive edge. All of the high-efficiency businesses go to shit, the moment efficiency goes out of demand! Market-conditions get changed forever when something this big strikes. Which is why it takes creativity to 'resume' after the pandemic. You have to start afresh, honestly. Those who had real skills before the pandemic would be fine, those who were resting on their laurels are in deep shit.