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@Leo Gura My position is not fixed, at least for now. I reply to my clients, some are sales questions, and others are technical. I do sysadmin things sometimes. Basically, I am in the cloud computing field. I believe I'm aiming for a DevOps role. If not, I'll be some "Cloud Engineer" or something. And these roles differ a lot based on the company - hence I'm concentrating on learning things (most times thinking about what to learn, based on the common things between any two or three given cloud-based roles). Whatever my role be in the cloud spectrum, I need solid Linux skills, so I am happy doing the sysadmin things.

Must read books for someone working part-time in a startup (less than 20 employees)? Any kind of book that would be helpful to avoid any mistakes most people do when working in a startup. In short, I need a good book on startup psychology. Thanks in advance.

I've realized that my PMO addiction - which I'm suffering from for a couple of years now - is just a part of me. It doesn't make me bad, nor feel bad, not anymore. Now I don't want to see a girl in that way, in that way as in how one addicted guy looks at a pornstar or a hot girl. How can I stop it? To be more expressive, cure it? This, the way I look at them, is not definitely me, but I still do it. Why do I think this addiction is part of me? : Because I tolerated it for years, if it weren't me it wouldn't take years for me to get rid of it!

Does doing PMO cause back pain? Moreover, I feel mentally calm after a PMO session (P + O). Is that obvious? I'm aware I can't seek medical advice from you guys, wanna know if any of you know/have something to say about this. See ya.

@Waves What do you mean by stagnation? Do you mean that if I don't do PMO, the energy will build up?

A quick question: What's the best book on self-discipline you've read or know about? Thanks

@Saraaa Thank you. I will have a look at that.

Not really want to yell or curse here, just want to know your perspective. A friend of mine recently asked me whether I needed help related to some programming concepts as he knows I am learning JavaScript (a programming language) and other CS-related stuff. He too learns CS stuff. So he recently asked me if I needed the course, that he could share it with me if I want. The conversation went on and I came to know he just downloaded the course (several other courses as well through torrents) instead of paying for it. You know what my next question would be. He said he can't afford the course as they are expensive. I know this guy very well. He's a good guy but to the morale he's shown I got a negative vibe. So what do you say? Should not I think about morality here but just as his preference - that he would pirate stuff instead of downloading?

Any books that you recommend? Any book that summarizes or lists common pitfalls newcomers make after getting into the corporate world? Thanks!

@ThePoint Please have a look at easypeasy guide. It's a short one and you could complete it in just a few hours if you're habituated to reading and are a native speaker. Look for some other source if this didn't help.

What's the book that helped you cure your addiction (whatever it maybe - alcohol, sex or pornography)?

Well, I think visualization and self-healing have a connection. There's a paragraph in the book "How to Talk to Anyone" (the one that I recently read) that mentioned that a man who met with an accident had visualized himself running his marathon on his bed (taking into consideration every corner, his breath, how long the track is, and such things all in his mind's eye) for as long as he was in the hospital. He didn't win the race but didn't have the feeling that he didn't lack the practice. Somehow his body healed the "lack of practice" or filled that gap with something else...I hope you get my point. Quite frankly, man, I think you're very positive. Even in this situation, you have enough control over your mind that you subconsciously said your mind "everything is okay" while you've been writing the post. I think you're already healing! That positiveness and optimism you've is the main medicine! As a guy of the same age as you, I envy you for your optimism

Nice read so far (I'm slow at reading, takes a while to fully finish it). Thank you, anyways! The book is awesome! I feel like it's written to fix "my" problem.

Are you serious?

What do people say that books don’t? My dad says: But aren't many people not in the rat race? Does one not withdraw him or herself from a group before taking a decision? Am I not getting many perspectives by reading posts on forums?

Maybe you should read the book: Rich dad Poor dad written by Robert Kiyosaki

@StarStruck I'm sorry if I sounded in a negative sense. I meant "well said" or perhaps I meant "I liked how you said - the taking mindset.."

Here I was 4 days ago watching a talk on YouTube. The Yogi (or guru) was asked questions by the audience and he is answering. This time i saw a girl (she's an adult) who stood up to ask the question she had. As usual, my other self kicked in and quickly started to sexually fantasize, trying to find a pornstar who looks similar to this girl so that I could do PMO. But, all of a sudden, in a split second, the way I interpreted changed - maybe because I did some breathwork before I slept last night - and I intended to think of that girl as she was my daughter and , myself, a good father. I was stunned, and for the very first time I felt the bond between my (the image) daughter and myself (as a future good father) to be the most valuable thing, compared to this experience I felt it seemed that porn is a very tiny thing - that it's no longer a problem of mine. That day when I got to bed I had thoughts of me and my daughter talking to each other. I felt very lucky to have such a beautiful and a good daughter. I just felt that she's a very good girl - kindhearted and lovable. I've imagined that she's making of me while I was driving the car before my wife (I don't know how my wife looks, but I know how my daughter looks)... It's been three days, I am feeling so good. Even, yesterday and today, I fapped but even before I ejaculated I felt an urge "not to do it!" not the other way around. Before, I used to think why I hadn't thought not to do it after I made the mistake but this time the thought came before I am about to make the mistake. I guess it's just out of habit I did it. I liked that I felt "NOT TO DO IT". A slight avoidance (a subtle dislike) towards PMO for the first time. My weiner doesn't get hard when I see hot girls... I think more and more time spending with my daughter will heal me. I am already fortunate to have known the qualities and the appearance of my future daughter! In fact, right now, I feel like I have a daughter that I have to take care of - my mind and body doesn't say I'm faking something. This may sound crazy but a slight change in perception changed things for me. I just wanted to share this with you guys. Thanks to you, and to my daughter

@StarStruck I'm awe-struck after reading the last two short paragraphs. Very true - have been taking and taking for years. Yes, in some sense, I'm deprived of love. Thank you.

How do you take note taking while listening to Leo's videos? Any tips on that - mainly becasue videos are so long and that I had to frequently pause the video in order to take notes?

Any input on this?

Any input on this?

My professional work (the work I do for a living) allows me to have 1 hour of rest, maybe sometimes 2-3 hours or more. As the weekend comes, I enjoy the holidays. But in order to maximize my learning (either work-related or personal development) I am thinking of not taking a holiday at all but take 1 or 2 hours for leisure - to play, to sit alone, or just do things for passing time. What's your opinion about this? Do any of you follow this kind of routine? It's the inertia that I feel for the most part of Monday (as I enjoy on Sat and Sun) and little to none from Tuesday that made me think. Thanks!

Almost at the end of the book written by Robert Greene (48 Laws of Power), a thought struck me. If at all what people (authors) do, generally speaking, breaking down the power tricks seen throughout history or been used by people, is powerful, how could they reach the public? Aren't the great power tricks kept a secret? Do you think we (particularly me, haha) are fooled by these books related to Psychology and Power?

@Leo Gura Oh! So we mostly have the "illusion of power"!? Wow.