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Just a curious question: Do you think it would be a good move to tell to my friends or colleagues that I read psychology books, like Dale Carnegie and Robert Greene books? In specific, Laws of Human Nature or The 48 Laws of Power?

@Raze Thanks!

Are there any books you recommend for someone who entered the corporate industry? Some books that speaks about, and gives examples of, various persuasive and manipulations that go on in the industry. I like Robert Greene's book "48 Laws of Power", how he outlined the laws and gave examples. So with regards to the corporate book I want, I'd want a law and an example. Thanks

Is there a book you recommend one should read when thinking about switching to another company for a better job? And generally speaking, in terms of career and more knowledge, is a remote job less beneficial? We're just a team of 10, and there's rarely a chat with my other 7 colleagues.

In the event of not being able to directly experience something, what other thing can come close to it? Observation? Or any other? Or a combination of some other things? Or no other way than to directly experience something? Let's say I want to give a public talk tomorrow and I am nervous, anxious, and stressed about it. How can I get into touch with the emotions that I'd feel the next day beforehand? Is something like this possible? As I was writing this, another thought came to me. Is observation is more or less a thought? Observation is knowledge, and knowledge influences thoughts. So basically observation is thought minus the emotional charge?

I'm sorry but what are you trying to say? Who is Joe? Joe Rogan? I am talking about Holotropic breathing which was founded by Stanislav Grof.

Anyone here who practice HB? Do you practice it on a regular basis? In your personal experience, what benefits did it provide you? A bit off topic: Any books you've read on HB?

How long do you...you know like sit and think about the problems that are bugging you? Or how long do you contemplate about something and then document it (if necessary) in your journal? I mean do you after sometime feel bored of the daily dose of self-development work? How long after do you feel like that? 30 minutes? 1hr? Though imposing a strict time period may not be necessary for everyone but I just wanted to know if I'm feeling that as a result of continuous tinkering or becoming lazy too fast, haha.

To be honest, I ejaculate (by watching porn) once a day, and I want to change this. And I read that periodically ejaculating is good for health - the semen regeneration and such. Now if that's the case how do you know that it's time to fap? Let's say you see some hot girl and you get aroused and you may do it. Or you may, after a few days, recall some similar incident and may do it, or it could be after you had a wet dream. I hope you understood what I mean. How do you know it is the right time? Doing it everyday, I do feel the bad effects - mind numb, de-sensitivity to everyday life (so worse that I can't feel now the same affection I had for my pet dog). So it's not an option for me. Not doing it all - I don't know I've tried the nofap way and managed (lot of struggle by the way) to not do it for little over a month. Now I'm thinking "in-between". Others have suggested previously to have sexual intercourse occasionally, but that's also not an option for me. Any input from you guys is wholeheartedly welcomed.

@Butters How often do you relapse?

In what way one decides, or how can I or you come to a conclusion that the person I am speaking with, let’s say the other person is my friend, is speaking out of self interest (you know somehow it benefits them monetarily) or really has concern for me? One thing I came up with is, the one who has concern for me will go into details instead of just vaguely suggesting something? How about a person with a self-interest in mind wouldn’t let the other person (the one who needs help) speak? A bit rushing in tone? Frequently touch the other person’s shoulder while speaking? Yeah, body language alone is inaccurate for evaluation, that is something I noticed.

@Keryo Koffa Happy New Year Now that you say that, I feel that's too much to expect from someone

What do you guys think of this? Does this mean geniuses like Tesla or Einstein's sense of purpose is insane? Or is the creation of nuclear weapons caused as a result or a by-product of purpose? Thank you (once more if you watched the video to answer here)

It's quite interesting for me to read this thread. "Should you judge people on appearance?" No. Not if that makes you feel superior; that feeling, most often, kills empathy. And I ask myself first "Should I show/feel empathy?" My answer is Yes.

Thank you all, going for it.

What do you think of books written by Miguel Don Ruiz? Are they good? Do you recommend? I’m thinking of going for “The Four Agreements”. Have anyone read that? Thanks.

The best strategy I can think of is: Read, and contemplate. Think where in your life can you apply it. Where you shouldn't apply it. When it's appropriate, and when not. As Leo said in one of his videos: If you really absorbed a self-help book you should see a change in your behavior.

Not sure why I shake my legs most of the time. I am well aware that I am not stressed. Then why would I still do it? I tried to consciously shake my legs faster for a few minutes, that is intentionally doing it for a few minutes until my legs start to hurt. Do you think if I do this for a while I would stop shaking my legs at all? My feeling is that since I'd doing it consciously doing it, soon I'd conscious and stop shaking. Not sure what I said makes any sense to you. I just couldn't explain it.

What do you mean by "pulse"?

I know this is an add question to ask, this is something I have to answer for myself. However, here, in this case, I think I like input from you guys. I work, a part-time job. Very decent pay per month, enough for a decent living and more time to study. When it comes to study, I tend to spend about 2 hours or so everyday (I sleep about 8+ hours per day) reading a book (psychology or self-help). I am currently reading the 33 Strategies of War, and recently finished Peter Ralston's "The power of Not Knowing" - lot of stuff to ponder about (the second book) and I will slowly do it I think. My concern is whether these would be helpful? Or am I just wasting time instead of concentrating on studying things related to work? I am well aware that all this comes down to my preferences and my priorities. For the moment, let's say that knowledge of what I do at work, and corporate politics that I am yet to be a part of when I switch to another job or do full-time job, are important. In that case would reading books like "The power of Not-Knowing" a good choice? Irrelevant of all this, the book is great. Very great. I am considering, as Ralston suggested, to re-read the book hear and then - to revisit some topics when I feel the need to. The reason I thought reading these books is actually useful as most books, I think, based on just their titles, discuss things on a surface level. And the two books I mentioned are not like that. They require me to think. To think of myself, not just only "about" others. And I see that I take long time to finish them, my last book took me about 2 months (Ralston's book) to finish, at about 2 hours per day on average time spent to read. My understanding is that at some point I have much better understanding of myself and things around me...Do you think am I in a good path?

@Swarnim Thank you. This is not the first time you're answering my questions! Thank you, once again.

@Ayham You sign up for a virtual credit/debit card. Fund the card. Then you'd use the card to buy Leo's book list. Not sure if prepaid/virtual cards are accepted to purchase book list though.

Got it @Yimpa Reading psychology books (and interacting with people when possible) is a must for me, as I haven't spent much of my childhood and early teenage with my friends (I do not have close friends actually), extremely shy and introverted, I might say, if you ask. And now I'm an adult and there's no general friendliness. Behind the scenes, I see it as a intent (the questions I get asked) to gather information, about how much I earn. You know, it's not at all curiousness or concern for others. I don't know, maybe it's just survival at play. I don't blame any of them. Don't want to attach the good or bad tags. However, I see that I can get manipulated, or I might be trying to manipulate someone. I just want to observe anyone doing it to me, and make sure me not doing it (for silly reasons). Yeah. That's a struggle. It's like trying to become comfortable in the "Not Knowing" state. Anyways, personal stuff aside, thank you for answering. Maybe I should get back to contemplate this thing.

@Ayham Maybe get a virtual credit or debit card? Maybe from Revolut?

Then it applies to me