Brent Rothwell

I’m interested in making YouTube videos that explain and demonstrate various mind and body exercises. Because I’ve been going to the gym and lifting weights now for almost two years and have built a nice aesthetic physique from consistent training and healthy eating and combining this with meditation exercises too which I realized turned out to significantly enhance my progress, and most people probably don’t know about this. But I’ve noticed that speaking on camera to share my knowledge is much harder than it looks because I can’t say anything without having a complete script pre-written beforehand. But then I just sound robotic reading directly off a script like a news reporter, and if I try to go without a script then my mind just goes blank and I don’t know what to say.

@Chadders I've already started making progress on fixing the unemployment issue for myself so things are looking good right now. I just enrolled and secured a spot in a diploma of nursing course which is being offered completely for free here in my state and it's just in time for their mid-year intake too. I'm quite hopeful that this is a good decision since nurses are apparently in high demand and was told that it's easy to get a job after graduating.

@Michael569 Hi Michael sorry for the late reply but here is the information you were asking about me and thanks for helping. Highest attained education: "The Victorian Certificate of Applied Learning" (Year 12 high school equivalent here in Victoria Australia, technically meaning I finished high school but not making me eligible for University.) Job Experience: shopping mall cleaner Store cleaner call center worker Yes, I can operate a computer to a reasonable degree. Yes, I can use Outlook and Excel to some degree. Other programs I am familiar with are: Capcut and Da Vinci Resolve and ChatGPT 4o along with it's it's extensions and other AI software like Eleven Labs. What am I good at outside work: bodybuilding/health and fitness daygame/cold approach long hair maintenance and styling. meditation (to some degree) fashion Where do I live: Melbourne, Australia. Minimum accepted annual salary: $40,000 USD Current financial situation: Living on welfare payments of about US$255 per week with no debt, bonds or shares in anything. How much am I willing to spend on additional education per month: Perhaps up to US$100 Relocating to a bigger city is not really an option but probably not necessary because I already live in the biggest city in Australia.

I need some advice on how to escape this really depressing situation that I seem to be completely trapped in because I’m currently 25 years old and have been unemployed for almost my entire life. And at this point, I’m really noticing how this is severely holding back my personal development and self-actualization. As a result of this, I’m also still living at home, and just barely managing to get my basic needs met. I’m reaching out on here almost like a last resort because I’m not able to get any valuable help from anyone in my life. I technically have not been completely unemployed this whole time though, because I have had a few unskilled janitorial roles in the past. But when I finally was able to get hired, I was only able to hold these jobs for a few days to a few weeks before quitting because I was unable to deal with huge amounts of stress that came from bosses acting abusive and aggressive whenever I did not do everything exactly the way they wanted. And now it has been almost a year since I was last employed, and not only does it look like I can’t get a job (because I've applied for hundreds with no response). Even if I do, I don’t know what is going to happen and whether or not I’ll be able to handle it because I’m very easily prone to anxiety and depression, which I’m too financially poor to even get treated by a therapist for. (Although I have tried in the past with no success either.) I also can’t really go to university either because I have never really been an academic person and I got extremely bad grades back when I was in high school and ended up dropping out. But getting some basic wage slave job is not all I wanted to do career-wise. I was just planning on doing that in the meantime until I find something else that I'm really passionate about that I can then monetize. But the other problem is that I just don't seem to be passionate about anything, probably because I'm too focused on trying to get my basic needs met.

@Mada_ Actually things seem to be really working out for me since I made that initial post because I actually hooked up with another girl just now who I started talking to on tinder. And this happened immediately after that last painful rejection from the other person who thought I was an incel. And I'm pretty sure I did well because this time I got a text message after the date thanking me for such a good time. And I was also paying very close attention to her body language the whole time to make sure she was comfortable with the escalation and asking if she was ok with what I was doing. Although the main issue that I'm having now is that I was very tense and anxious for the majority of the date because I was expecting things to go terribly wrong at any moment if I made a wrong move, like with previous encounters.

@Raze Does mentioning terms like incel, pick up artist and red pill automatically cause most people especially women to make negative assumptions about misogyny, toxic masculinity and being far right? Or is this mostly dependent on their political views because I have pretty much only been able to attract people who are LGBTQ and they tend to be far left. I kind of just thought that incels are mainly guys with social anxiety and shyness, and view pick up as about improving your social skills to become more attractive. And that they're not directly related to the stigmatized labels mentioned above but it can be easy to see them that way because of the loudest voices saying the most controversial things which can easily grab attention.

I can’t tell what I’m doing wrong but I have this issue where I seem to have found someone else I’m compatible with and we get along well but then during the conversation I say something that totally offends them, and they suddenly want to get away from me and I never see them again. This has happened at least four times to me now. The first was a girl I dated from cold approach who acted as if she was attracted to me and interested in seeing me again. But then after the date I get a long, angry and hostile text message about how I should not have kissed her because she did not want me to and my behavior was totally inappropriate. Even though she did not say stop. And she also claimed that I insulted her multiple times too. Although I don't know exactly how because she continued being nice to me during the date as if everything was fine. The most recent times this has happened were people that I matched with from tinder. One of them was a guy I hooked up with (I’m a guy) but he walked out on me immediately after sex when I told him I was feeling physically sick. And claimed he felt hurt by this. The other was a nonbinary person who I was spending hours each day video calling and having very long texts messages with getting to know them and we were planning to go on a nice date. But then they immediately unmatched and blocked me after I told them that I used to be an incel and watched pick up artist videos. They must have interpreted our great chemistry this whole time as some kind of pick up artist manipulation scheme because they told me that I made them think that I was the only one for them. And I need to completely drop pick up and incel ideology. (even though I only briefly mentioned these things and don't take them seriously) Oh and another girl I messaged on tinder who got offended when I asked her if she needed help losing weight (because she is plus size and I'm into fitness), and she proceeds to tell me that she is only going to date me if I have a big dick because that’s what you need for the sex to be good. Otherwise have a good day. These rejections felt much worse than just approaching someone and they say they are in a relationship and then I just leave. Because they were prolonged interactions beyond the initial approach. Making me think this was leading to a relationship. And I was still being polite and friendly the entire time, so I don’t get it. What things could be causing this?

I get confused about this because it's seen as toxic masculinity if your a guy that suppresses your feelings and keeps them to yourself but then there are other people on the internet giving dating advice saying that women lose attraction and respect if you communicate openly about your feelings or cry for example and they will end up leaving or cheating on you. So you basically need to act stoic and tough like your always in control. And I'm a young guy so I don't have enough experience to know what's true, any advice?

Make lots of Youtube videos related to the skill you're good at until the channel reaches monetization status.

@something_else Do you think there is any possible way to make daytime approaches look totally natural or is it always going to be at least a little bit awkward because it's outside social norms and you just have to not give a fuck? I still want to use it as my main way of meeting girls even though it's harder and I really want to perfect the approach because I like it when I get super positive reactions.

@Ulax Yeah, I think that sounds like a pretty good explanation. So it sounds like that puts a huge amount of pressure on pickup guys then because they are risking being ostracized and losing a lot of status in the eyes of others. Which would have been a risk to survival during primitive times. Do you have any theories to explain why we do it anyway despite the risks?

@Leo Gura What is the best way to respond when stuff like this happens though because I don't really see any dating coaches or PUAs giving advice about what to do when interactions go seriously bad? Are you just supposed to maintain the fun and flirty vibe no matter what happens?

I'm referring to stuff like what happened in this video at (2:30) where some onlookers step in and act as if they are saving the girl from being a victim of sexual harassment and accusing the guy of being a creep just for approaching a girl and trying to flirt. But I don't think he did anything wrong and I can relate to what happened to him because of how I've experienced situations similar to this where I'm being totally friendly and respectful on the approach but then the people that were nearby watching start losing their minds and act as if the girl is a victim and I'm somehow the aggressor. Even though I'm still trying to be socially calibrated but it's still not good enough for them. And it's like they just don't think that it's ok for a male to talk to a female on the street for any reason as if it's a crime. So I'm wondering what is the psychology that is fueling these hostile reactions that people give when seeing a guy cold approach a woman and does it actually have anything to do with feminism like the title of the video suggests?

@NoSelfSelf Every approach is relatively the same but I will change the lines that I say after the girl looks at me and I still get the same responses. Like this: Me: "excuse me" Girl: looks at me Me: "I think you're beautiful" OR "I think you're pretty" Girl: "oh thank you" Me: "So I was wondering if you'd be interested in getting to know me" Girl: "that's nice but I have a boyfriend" Me "ok then" Girl: "Have a good day" The girl's responses will vary but I've heard them say the same few things over and over again, it's either "I have a boyfriend" or "I'm gay" or "no thank you" or "i'm not looking for a relationship". And on extremely rare occasions they say "ok" and we actually have a conversation but it feels like it had nothing to do with me and I just found a lonely girl that wanted someone to talk to.

I'm getting close to 400 cold approaches now ever since I started doing daygame. Almost all my approaches end in instant rejection where the girl says she has a boyfriend or she's just not interested, and I will occasionally get rude responses where the girl walks away without saying anything after I get her attention and give her a compliment like saying she's pretty or beautiful. It still feels like I have zero game, and every approach is very awkward and I'm probably making girls feel uncomfortable or offended even though I'm not trying to. I don't know how to tell what I'm doing wrong and getting more infield experience doesn't seem to be enough to help me improve from this point. This is also making me feel really frustrated and confused because I don't know what to do and I keep on returning home empty-handed over and over again. I'm beginning to question if it's even possible to improve in this area now. Only 1 in every 100 girls is actually willing to go on a date with me and it just feels like a complete numbers game. The main way that I have benefited from doing this is that I now have a much better ability to deal with stress because I had to overcome approach anxiety so many times but besides that, I still can't really attract any girls. Does anyone have any advice that could help me out?