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I've just finished my second year of general community college, turned 20 last week, and don't know what I want to do with my career path next. I'm finding great trouble committing to anything unless someone else directs me towards it or forces me into it. The options I see are college, a trade, or a full time job. These are also being enforced upon me lest I wish to have my transportation, housing, and food taken away at some degree from my parents. I need to choose something but it feels like a brain fuck every time I try and think about what to choose. I don't have any polished skills yet but I enjoy and am decent at producing music, researching and analyzing, listening, working out and training, and some other small things. All of these things feel lukewarm for me with music production being the most viable option, speaking on behalf of passion. Though I still feel left in the dust with all of these and that going into a university dedicated down one of the paths is just a means for me to end up with a shitty or no degree and debt. I can't do that but I need to decide on something within the next month or so. I just don't how to choose with such a neutral passion and no crazy drive in one specific thing. Any help?

@Phil King I understand where Cal is coming from wherein one gets masterful at their work and contentment follows, though, it is that same problem again of what work? I don't want to be a master in just anything. I want to be a master in something in value and in which I can give with. In that regard to Cal, I agree, it's just I feel I must do it in a specific line of work which I have been greatly struggling to find. Once again, I shall review the course just as @Tboy recommended. Beyond this, I have done the blank wall exercise once and managed to get through a few hours of it. Though, not to much avail as I wasn't really picking apart what I wanted at the deepest level. I was more so thinking about career and money so more shallow. I might consider doing it again.

@Tboy So you're encouraging me to just do the value assessments from the course? I've done them twice or so before some year ago, and never was able to get super clear. I definitely found that which I valued, but in regards to having direction and purpose, they were only helpers and not the purpose itself, at least related to career. I understand now that no-one is going to do it for me, and it makes me scared. Though, I always cycle back to this same feeling where "If I just had a drive to do one thing, it wouldn't be so hard." and I don't know how that makes me feel anymore.

So I caved and subscribed to a chick on OnlyFans for a month. My desire was to be able to talk with her, and though that desire has been filled, she mainly speaks on business terms. What is stopping me from going beyond this mode of communication? Perhaps into the territory of a genuine relationship? Doesn't have to be intimate. Q: How might I go about breaking her out of the professional relationship mode? To have her show interest in something outside of getting money? I'm open to any honest response if you have one, rude or not, I simply wish to be humbled on the matter.

What would you recommend instead?

Interesting points. One of the problems with this being an online thing is the inability to verify these things properly. It's kinda like determining whether you like someone or not based on their dating profile, it doesn't work too well. What do you mean by what they're selling is fake?

I believe I have been doing that and if so, have likely gotten my answer. She gives off the vibe of "sorry, I kinda want to but I don't know. Want to buy my nudes though!?"

Good point. I don't. That's part of the annoyance that comes with this desire.

I froze up before even attempting a cold approach today. What is the nature behind this freezing up? I've encountered it my whole life with women. So far, I can see that changing perspective and letting go of expectations can help, but realizing those things doesn't help the fact that when it's time, I can barely move a muscle. Can anyone give some advice? Better yet, actions one can take to break out of freezing up?

I currently work a part-time job that is no longer supportive of my living expenses. I'm a sophomore in college and have most of my current living expenses (besides gas, food, and some rent) paid for me. I need to make more cash, but I'm not willing to simply sell myself to any buisness. As far as my skills go, my most developed skills are in music production and rock climbing. I'm planning to go into several studios tomorrow to talk about job opportunities and my current part-time job is at a rock-climbing gym. It is also worth mentioning that I'm training to become a yoga therapist. I'm stuck on what to do, where to look, if I'm holding myself, or if I'm going about this wrong. Can anyone offer some guidance, experience, or wisdom that I can work on with?

Yes, I'm seriously asking this. How does one teleport their body from one location to another? If not teleportation, any method of such travel for practical uses or for the use of seeing someone far away.

I'm lost in the world of direction, meaning, purpose, etc., and trying to figure out what I want with my life seems to induce a lot of suffering and confusion. I've tried contemplating on the matter, opening myself up to others methods for clarity, waiting, meditating, and sleeping on it among other things. Honestly, I haven't gotten anywhere. It seems consciously trying to figure out direction/purpose is only making things worse in regards to my direction in life. Is there another way to go about discovering/creating authentic direction? Someway which doesn't involve becoming more confused? If I'm chasing my own tail here, please attempt to break my veil.

Thank you. That actually made sense and lifted some weight off my shoulders. I'll take your words wisely.

Very well. Thanks for the feedback.

What do you recommend I do to investigate what I'm passionate about? I've had your course for some time. I'll go back and utilize the tools you provided.

I keep seeing the number 333 and have found myself seeing other numbers in the past in odd patterns. I've never been able to relate them to anything, just that fact that they consistently appear over and over again and do not seem coincidental. I've tried journaling and contemplating the number but I haven't a damn clue what it means, if anything. Can anyone bring some light on this phenomenon?

I don't know, thinking is a bitch. Sitting for an insight or something like that seems to be the way to go.

How did you come to discover that meaning?

Does anyone have any experience with doing 10 days of nothing? Or any other amount of time for that matter? Any tips or recommendations? I'm going to do it, however, I'm asking this question to become aware of possible traps before going in.

I feel like this is a silly question, but I'm having trouble discovering what's authentic within me, especially in regards to what I want in life. I ask myself questions, sit and contemplate, observe periods of silence, journal a little, and I still get answers in which I'm not sure about. Am I missing something here? How can I get to my core answers or to that which is authentic inside me?

I've been here and there searching for my life purpose for the past two years and have found a progressive upgrade in suffering overtime. The suffering is related to not having direction or purpose and usually comes up when I'm thinking/contemplating about what I want in life (purpose). Is this a normal part of the process of uncovering life purpose? If yes, why is there suffering? If no, what am I doing wrong? And what would be a better idea instead?

I've spent over a day trying to take this in for you wrote a lot which spoke to me. From the first paragraph alone, I was able to see that I might be living my life based on someone else's desires/ideals. Though Leo and many others have taught me a great deal, I've inevitably adopted unoriginal ideas which have ruled my subconscious for some time now. This is of course no way to live if I want an authentic life. I think before I start looking at whether my desires are inwards or outwards, I need to first learn how to discern my desires from other desires. I know I have a lot of beliefs about needing to pursue enlightenment and this and that which I may have adopted from others. This is where the questioning you had spoken of comes in. I'll start doing that. The big thing here for me is when you said: "What is the issue with not knowing what you want?"... That sentence alone has been my greatest trouble for over a year now, ever since I discovered conscious life purpose from Leo. Like you said, I do actually feel that if I don't hurry up and figure out my purpose so I can start mastering it, I'll be missing out on something. If I'm honest, I find it very hard to rest in a state of not-knowing, at least in regards to knowing what I want in life. If I don't try to find a purpose or have a purpose, I feel like I'm wasting my time here on earth. This could very well be the beliefs I've allowed into my head but it is so hard to gain clarity here. I'm going to ask for more advice. Deny me if you wish. However, what would you recommend I do to help gain clarity on what I actually want versus what I think I want based on inauthentic beliefs?

Thank you for your concern. I do see you point and after observing the matter, I'd need more time to plan it. Not only that, but it would most likely be a max of 7 days based on my schedule.

Clarity by means of a removal of all distractions. There are other ways to go about it, yes. Could this way be foolish, yes. Am I open to other ways of gaining clarity, yes. However, at some point, this practice of just existing will have it's rightful place in helping me to become clear on something.

At what level would you interpret the saying? I understand the importance of taking the saying as it feels natural to me, however, I still seek your point of view on it. Taking time away to sit in nothingness is powerful but take too little or too much time to do and there would be consequences. So, maybe what I'm asking is, what do you recommend in terms of getting the clarity on what you really want? I think it's still useful to go above experimenting and seeing what I like and don't like, even if I do figure out my core desire/s to avoid becoming stagnant. Even so, it seems that overall you're alluding to a mix of both time in nothingness and time in conscious experimentation no?