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I'm so upset, colombian girldfriend has been complaining because sometimes I dont do the dishes when I should and she sometimes ends doing the washing more often than me. when truth is because I pay for absolutely everything house chores are very little cause I always get takeout or pay for meals at restaurants. cant believe she complains she has to wash dishes from brakefast when its the only meal we have dishes for. I pay for all the food, eating out/take out so we never have to cook, I pay for rent, amazing trips we do and everything else and she complains because out of the only house chores we have: making the bed, breakfast and washing breakfast dishes she sometimes work on that more than I do, it's ridiculous!

Update from colombia: Colombian girlfriend has lupus, I knew this when I met her but her illness was stable, in the last couple months her lupus caused some imbalance in her body. I met with her yesterday after 4 months without seeing each other face to face. she is staying with me at my Airbnb in Bogota. She is now taking around 9 different medications to keep her lupus stable, has a very strict diet, has gained weight and told me she is supposed to gain much more over the upcoming months. A long distance relationship is already hard but a long distance relationship with a chronically ill person which every day I find less attractive(due to the damages that medications and lupus are doing to her body) that seems like a recipe for disaster. I don't want to hurt her but I really think I should end this relationship at the end of this trip for the good of both of us. She has become very attached to me so I'm scared of hurting her. Also she is so nice that makes it really hard even to think about it

In the social realm I think rules are too limited. Better than limited rules I recommend writing a list of values you expect from people in your life. You can write a long list with the ideal values and then select the top 3 or 5 that are an absolute must. For example for me the top 2 values I look in a friend are authenticity and honesty, if a person doesn't have them they are automatically out of my life. If they have those then I pay attention to how I feel around them, if they are honest and I feel good around them then thats enough for me. I perceive some fear of trusting people from your post, if you trust yourself then you don't fear trusting the wrong people Because you don't depend on them and also you trust your judgment on people and you trust in your ability to set boundaries.

you are describing all negative things when you talk about fap and you are saying no fap adds lots of good effects to your life, I think you have your answer. Only you can know what's best for you at the moment.

I like to separate friends by layers: Layer 1: Are my real friends, they are the people I can count on and which I share a history, I Feel lucky to have 2 friends in this category and every minute I spend with them is time very well invested. Layer 2: Other people I may call friends in social settings, but I Don't consider them real friends. We enjoy our time together and they provide me some value but I know these relationships are not meant to last therebefore I don't invest much time here, however I still invest some time to keep them going because they add some value. Also note that I have a minimal set of values that I expect from a person to be in one of those groups, for example a dishonest person doesn't make it even to layer 2.

Just curious are there any known health problems that magic mushrooms or LSD could cause to the brain chemistry if taken too often? For example causing imbalances in the serotonin system, etc. Assuming the brain is already healthy when taking them and doesn't have preexistent health issues. it's already known that for people with certain conditions it can be dangerous.

I have taken several courses on pickup and performed around 500 approaches over the course of 2 years. on that time I went from being almost a virgin to around 14 lays mostly from tinder, but a few from daygame. all this looks good so far. but over the last year and half my results became zero, I had a few months were I did daygame and nightgame couple of times a week and had a few dates but most of them with low caliber girls to my standard(mentally and physically). What changed between the time where I had some success and after is that in the beginning I would devote most of my energy only to pickup and would rely mostly on routines to get girls to my bed where Now I'm focussed mostly on my LP and don't have neither the mental bandwidth nor the desire to think about pickup techniques, so I just show up as my authentic self. I have reached a point where I fear approaching mostly because of the vast number of rejections I received since I started playing as my real self. it's almost unbearable to talk to new girls. when I go out with friends and they talk to girls I almost don't interact with the girls they open because I already assume they won't like me. I know what I should do is just keep going out and opening but can't bare rejection anymore. My current plan is focus on doing psychedelic exploration of myself and try to understand what's going on in that way. I struggled to relate with girls for most of my life except for the short period of my life where I would use routines and manipulation to get laid Just wanted to share it with you and listen to your perspectives.

@integral thanks for your reply, the crazy thing is that I'm in an distance open relationship with a girl I met in Colombia 6 months ago and I'm going to visit her next month, it's my first serious relationship with a girl so this is actually great progress. But because I live in Argentina I became very negative about the fact that it's been 3 months since I came back from Colombia and haven't gotten laid since. Also before leaving to Colombia I spent several months without sex, that's why I left in the first place. My main issue is negativity as I said to Roy above I got some results quickly and maybe I became a little entitled, also I have very promiscuous friends so I wrongly compare with them and feel bad. I will focus on the lots of good things I have and will try to not compare with them, it's hard since they love to talk about their promiscuous lives but will try

@Roy Thanks for your comment. I got used to very good results too fast and after my focus changed my results were greatly reduced and I became frustrated, Also started to compare myself with very promiscuous friends I have and felt bad for spending several months without getting laid. I'm going to work on focussing on all the great things I have

Thank you all for your comments. I have an amazing life that I have built with hard work but this area has been driving me insane for the last couple of years because seems so counterintuitive to how all the other areas of life work that I still struggle to wrap my head around it. Still I will make a conscious effort to focus on all the good stuff in my life.

@Danioover9000 it's impossible to pause AI development at this point because how to train them is well known by all AI people, even I could train LLMs if I had thousands of dollars at my disposal. It would be like stopping drugs or prostitution, we have opened a door that can't be closed. If a government like US tries to impose a pause, it would slow down progress for more responsible companies like microsoft and openai and the bad guys would have more time to also gain traction

as amazing as it is GPT-4 is not AGI, and no one knows whether improving on the current paradigms(ie: gpt-5, gpt-6) will get us to AGI. As an AI engineer my intuition is that such an approach won't become AGI. Still it's an amazing tool that can greatly benefit society and I feel optimistic about it. Also I think it's good that a lot of people are worried and are asking for more government control. This is a very powerful technology so it's good to have as many eyes on it as possible so together as a society we can build the framework to work with this technologies in a healthy way. It's the first time in history that such a powerful tool is available to anyone a not only to certain elites. a very interesting time to be alive! TLDR: it's good to be concerned but I feel very optimistic

If you keep trying eventually some girls will start replying to your messages, after that most will die in texting but you will eventually will start getting dates, most dates will be bad specially when you have little experience but if you keep pushing eventually will start getting some good dates. In order to be able to push through such a long process you need to enjoy it. Try as much as you can to enjoy it and eventually it will start working. and you will remember such process as one of the coolest/best things you have done in your life

I'm 27 years old, I used to cry a lot as a child until someday at age of 8 my father told me that man don't cry and I started repressing it. Now I feel I have developed a shell that doesn't allow me to cry even if I want to. I would like to brake free of it since I feel it blocks me from being truly free emotionally. Also I have serious problem connecting with Women and I have a feeling it may be related to this. Do you recommend taking Magic mushrooms with this goal? if so which approach would you recommend I follow? I have already taken mushrooms 2 times in the last 3 months and last time I got close to crying without it being my goal but because I was doing the trip with a friend at a public park I got inhibited and repressed it. Next time I would do it alone in my home.

Do you know any good and practical courses or sources of information that teach the basics of a good diet/nutrition ? I'm looking for a course that is targeted for people who have a busy day and can't spend 2 hours a day cooking or sourcing for ingredients, I feel like a lot of the recipes I find online are too hard/take to much time to cook. I'm trying to create a diet that is easy not only to follow but also to prepare. Any advice is highly appreciated!

Yesterday I had my first psychedelic experience, I took 1.5g of dry mushrooms in a forest with a friend and it was a wonderful and deeply profound experience where I felt in a space where I was deeply loved and accepted by nature I also felt grateful for all the things I have in my life: I have good friends, family, a career I like a lot(don't love it but like it a lot), I'm good financially wise and young(27 years old). However today I feel sad because I deeply miss that space of acceptance and love. even though my life is good it also requires a lot of work and it's hard/boring a lot of the time, compared with the space where I was yesterday my life feels like shit I feel like wanting to live in a park taking mushrooms every day and not working anymore or doing the bare minimum just to get a stable income to pay for food and housing Have you guys experienced this? how did you approach it?

I have no experience with psychedelic drugs, I only smoke mariguana twice a year when I'm in the mood. I have a very active mind and unless the setting is very chill I have bad trips on mariguana, I usually have good trips when alone or with one friend but have bad trips when doing it with bigger groups of people. I have done meditation, therapy and read personal development books for many years but deep in my heart I still feel uneasy, a little sad and struggle with social anxiety. I want to dig deeper into my mind since I've found a limitation on how deep I can go with regular practices. I'm planning to do my first psychedelic trip to explore these issues deeper. I would do the trip in my flat with a friend to baby sit me but still have questions like what's the safest drug to get started with to reduce chance of bad trips and how to frame the whole experience, ie: how to prepare, what to do during the trip, etc. Do you have any recommendations? maybe there is a guide somewhere for newcomers to the psychedelic world?

@Breakingthewall thank you so much for your advice. yesterday I had my first trip on 1.5g of dry mushrooms and it was a wonderful experience just like you described it was a psychedelic experience which I could still control so that gave me a sense of safeness