Razard86

Exploding isn't necessary but it happens when we have stuff repressed. Majority of humanity has no clue how much trauma they have repressed. It's a defense mechanism of the human mind but what is resisted persists. It needs to come up eventually. The healthiest and most accurate mindset to have at all times (even though it is tough) is that everything that happens is good. Maturity= Suffering. When you physically train you suffer. The more pain you can put up with the more your body can mature in strength. The same is true of intellectual study, and the same is true of emotional growth. If you live a life of comfort you will be the weakest version of yourself. It's why people are good at everything their whole life, or rich, the first time they face failure of any kind it shocks the hell out of them. ^^^^^This is necessary and an unavoidable part of life. I say this with full knowledge of the SUCKAGE you feel when you are experiencing it. But I've come to realize....it is what it is.

Solutions are easy ^^^^ Point out the issue you have with someone and address it honestly and rationally. If they continue ignore them. If you believe they have broken one of the rules of the forums report it to a mod. The following is a list of the guidelines. If you think I have violated them in anyway I suggest you report me, if you think you another user has violated them report them if you so please. https://www.actualized.org/forum/forum/14-guidelines/ Anything outside of this.....is just emotional temper tantrums. You can do that....but it is what it is.

That message is for you and those who need it. I don't need it, I'm perfectly fine as I am. But if you think differently you do. You have that prerogative. But again that's just your bias and fear of conflict. Fear of conflict is the number one cause of dishonesty. It is the number one reason why majority of people are lost and confused because all they want is for people to feed them compliments and hide the truth of how they feel. I don't want that, repression of honesty always comes back to bite you. Best to get it out no matter how nasty it is. Spirituality is therapy or have yall still not understood this? Better you rage at computer screen so it reveals that you are still holding in some deep emotional scars, versus exploding on other people in your life.

^^^^What about what I have said is negative? Explain. Point to the negativity? If you play this game with me I'll just show you as I have in the past that the problem isn't with me its just with your lack of honesty. 1. If you have a problem with me you could just ignore me. Notice how I showed you that you won't and if you do you will still continue to respond. 2. Notice how I repeat the same thing to you over and over and certain times you thank me, and certain times you rage at me. I have never changed the theme of my responses to you. I always tell you, first figure out what you actually know, then figure out what you don't know, then figure out what you actually desire. That's it. I only push for you to be honest so you can have self-clarity. Self-Clarity is an honest observation of where you are in your thoughts, where you are emotionally, and an understanding of either you know what you want or don't want. Now you might respond...well how do you know that's what I want? Easy because you are asking questions. When a person asks questions they are searching for clarity =clear understanding. This is simple. You are very intelligent, you are just not very honest. That's literally the only barrier between you understanding yourself and not understanding yourself. That's all. Anything else is just emotional tantrums.

^^^^You could just follow your own advice. Drama is part of human interaction. Drama on the news, drama in family, it is what it is. It's just one of the brutal truths of this game called life. When it gets to annoying just unplug. Only you know how much of it you can handle.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MEatCKgB6Qc&ab_channel=EckhartTolle

You know what he means....because you are him. Our understanding of each other is only possible because we are one. Since you are in a higher state of consciousness you are able to both know his perspective and what he doesn't know. Whereas he is only trapped in his perspective. Our limitation between each other is just our perspectives. This is why the more you understand where someone is coming from the more predictable they become for you...because there is a recognition of sameness/oneness. It's so funny to me.

He's gonna do it eventually. He'll get so tired of not answering this curiosity he's going to take the plunge. Then when it happens he will bust out laughing at why he was ever so scared. Then he will come to us and brag in a cool trip report about how he can't believe he ever fooled himself that he was just some human. He will eventually trip again...and eventually have a Bad Trip. Then we will console him. Yada Yada Yada. He is just going to go through the same things we all went through. Just in his own unique way. So I'm not worried if anything I'm excited for when he finally does it. It will be beautiful.

Even if you block me you will still read my posts and will respond to what I post from time to time. Can't run from what you desire which is self-understanding. You still haven't figured this out yet huh? It's why you are so predictable you basically tell me what you are going to do. I told you, your like a tsundere anime character.

Lol....he is just words on a screen. So in truth he isn't eating anything. The same way you can predict a character in a movie, is the same way I can predict him. He always says the opposite of what he is going to do. He just refuses to admit it. You ever see does Tsundere in Anime? That's him. You know how many times you have said that? Hell you posted a thread about how you were tired of me, then took it down. Dude you love me, its just I grate on your nerves. Which I do purposefully to get you to own up to what you know is true. The only reason I am so aggressive is because giving you softness isn't going to do the trick. You are tough enough to take it, it just stings is all. Your a smart guy, but you are not honest about what you know, what you don't know, and what you want. So you run around in circles.....I pointed this to you last time....and you know....but you are falling back into bad habits.

He can't help it anymore than a racist can't stop being a racist, until they do. It's not his fault. And I believe honestly he will do it because he will get sick and tired of wondering. Notice he can't stop thinking about it? It means he will eventually do it and then he will understand that I am just HIM telling to the stop the bullshit. I am no different than the voice inside his head that he thinks is him. No YOU do that because I AM YOU. And ask yourself why I have properly predicted you so well? When you claimed you awakened conceptually to Absolute Solipsism I told you that you couldn't and you argued with me. I was right. When I said you weren't really hear for awakening but something else you argued with me and then you finally admitted you just wanted to go get laid. Again I was right. When you said you would leave Actualized.Org I said you wouldn't. Again I was right. Have you not figured out that I got you figured out? Why? I wonder why I can predict your every move? Maybe just maybe I am YOU!!!! Just like I KNOW you will eventually take the plunge...because you are tired of wondering....you just use all of us here to give you the confidence and talk you out of your shit.

I'm glad, and I will continue to call out the bullshit you post on here until you take the plunge. LOL.

Analyze what he says, compare it to your direct experience and you will have your answer.

Sigh....you might be the biggest game player ever. No man. Look go smoke some damn weed or eat and edible, sit and meditate/contemplate with deep intention. You don't intuit this shit. You will literally become God if you want to become God because you are it!!! Stop this nonsense. Ain't nobody intuiting shit. My Gosh you been doing this shit for 2 years man. Just take the plunge. Face the existential crisis, face the fear of annihilation and losing your mind. Just do the shit.

This area is both simple and complex. The simple part. Understand what mirroring is and why it works. Really investigate it. I'm starting to realize its better to give people breadcrumbs and let them figure it out. Understand that everyone is on a Narcissistic Spectrum. Understand that the most important clashes will be about your conditionings/cultural upbringing. The more diverse it is the more clashes. The most important component overall for the relationship outside of similarity of world view is also the maturity level of the partners involved. How do you handle conflict, how do you resolve it. Things like health, work life balance, family and friends also play a role at various levels of influence. Awareness is curative, Accountability is essential, and Patience is a must. A relationship is a construction, a self-construction between differing perspectives. I could add a feminine perspective to all this but I'm not in the mood. One last thing....the secret is to realize you never have direct control of another, but you do have indirect control in the form of influence. As long as you have influence you have power. Your influence comes from respect, if your partner respects and trusts you then all is fine. One of the biggest issues most people have is they get in relationships with people with trust issues, or dysfunctional relationships on what a healthy conceptualization of what makes a male partner respectable. ^^^As such you are probably going to strike out with most 20 year olds in modern societies as far as having functional relationships. I'm not saying they can't work, I'm saying they will be a LOT OF WORK. Depends on how much burden you wanna carry,

Think about it. ^^^

Oh yeah I agree....but that is where the concept of love comes in. Consciousness is love, which I will substitute the word care for egos that hate that term. Consciousness is an intelligence that cares. It cares about every detail of experience onto the smallest degree and that is why all form seeks to expand in ever more complexity. Evolution is a manifestation/expression of utmost care.

Well the question isn't about consciousness. Consciousness is totally free to be the way it wants to. Nothing can stop consciousness from choosing or not choosing because it is all there is. But the Original Poster is just asking about the human character and unfortunately the human character only gets to experience the illusion of choice, but it never actually has it. If you zoom onto the tip of your finger you can fool yourself that you are a finger making decisions, until you zoom out and realize the finger was being controlled it wasn't the controller lol.

This is what God is up to. wants to experience everything.

I think Christoph Werner did.

Awakening to God....is a form of suicide. You drop attachment to the body without harming it. It creates the same fear someone will experience say falling to their death. A fear so intense....you cannot move.

That's what people aren't getting...only you from your perspective decide what is real and not real. It's that simple.

I predict that majority of the top economic/social countries based on things like standard of living, happiness index, and economic sustainability will start pushing culturally for more freedom of expression and non-judgment. Feminine love will start to become embraced more and more. This will push a new mecha of sharing of artistic vision and some of the breadcrumbs of this being realized is happening now. This change will push men and women into solitude as these cultural dynamics will challenge them to find deeper intimacy within instead of seeking it in interpersonal relationships. Births will decline, past/traditional family structures will be shaken up, we may even have the birth of label-less relationships with no particular destination in mind. There is going to be a lot of experimentation into deeper forms of connectivity and the birth of new types of ideologies surrounding what true love is. A lot of it will look messy, chaotic, contradictory, and the purpose of these expressions will not be to make sense but to be an experience. Artists will create non-sensical safe spaces in which to express the chaos which is their mind all in a collective effort to bring out the divine in a unique mix of sense and nonsense. We are headed for a very wacky world when it comes to the arts.

Another perspective from people who have killed.