Razard86

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I am not sure if this can help those suffering but I will do my best. If you choose to identity with something...and hearing "you are God" "Everything is You" etc. does not resonate with you that is fine. So I will give you something that helped me, take from it what you will. I chose to base my self-identity on something I could control. You see, your entire identity (especially if you are a man in the West) has been forced to be with results. You live in a culture of comparison in which you are peer pressured to work and produce and when you don't fit the cultural narrative you are somehow less than. If you choose to align your self-identity with this...you will be miserable because they are always changing something up, as new fads come in. So my first rule was to identity with something I could control. So I chose to identify with EFFORT. I knew that was the ONE thing I could control. I have since transcended that obviously and believe my value is intrinsic regardless of what I do or don't do but I realize you need to start somewhere. The truth is you have INTRINSIC VALUE. Your value is BECAUSE YOU EXIST. That's it!!! But the interesting thing is....when you give your all in whatever you do....that intrinsic value is REVEALED!!! And the great thing is....you really only need to see it ONE TIME!!! That value....is the strength that is revealed when you REALLY POUR YOUR ALL INTO SOMETHING!!! I now understand as I currently write this why DEVOTION is one of the aspects of Yoga and one of the paths to Enlightenment. Because it reveals the strength you have within. When you pour your all into something....all of you is revealed. Your fears, your desires, your courage, your fatigue, your persistence it is all revealed. You get a glimpse of your limits as a finite human....and a glimpse that you are even more than that finite human. So if you struggle with feelings of self-worth. THROW YOURSELF INTO SOMETHING!! LOSE YOURSELF IN SOMETHING!! Pick a path...and sacrifice everything into it. Through that endeavor you will find your worth and once it is seen IT CANNOT BE UNSEEN!!!

When I was young I suffered from low-self-esteem, and I had bouts of depression every now and then. This was a result of growing up in a family where my Dad always communicated to me that I was some how defective. As an adult I understand why he did it, but as a kid I obviously didn't understand (My grandmother apparently did that to my Dad when he was a child so he continued that pattern when he became a parent) but its ironic. Every bad thing that happened to me actually made me stronger, tougher, and more empathetic. I used my rage as fuel to prove the doubters wrong , but also was empathetic because I knew what it felt like to be hurt. But ironically seeing people complain about their pain instead of fighting it like I did unnerved me, because it was a side of me I never wanted to accept and even now I am still struggling to integrate that aspect....the part that doesn't want to fight. Anyway I am typing this to hopefully help those I keep seeing in the forums who keep complaining about how they want to off or kill themselves. I realize that they lack perspective....and do not realize that every feeling and emotion they carry is their own creation.....you are just torturing yourself. I am not saying life is easy....but understand that every moment that happens.....passes. As humans because we have the ability to hold onto the past and project onto the future we are usually living in the past....or our projection of the future. The human mind is naturally negative....as a survival mechanism it needs to be to keep you safe, but as a result if not controlled it can create a map of reality that is very scary. If this is you....then of course you are depressed. You are constantly living from a perspective that sees life is dangerous, you as weak or flawed in some way, and that things can only get worse. I would hate to live in the head of anyone who views reality that way because you basically are living in hell. While life is not perfect...the average person lives a higher standard of living than their parents and their parents generation. Yet....at the same time mental illness is continuing to rise. Why is this the case? Because we live from the INSIDE OUT. This means what matters when it comes to your quality of life is your INNER world NOT your OUTER world. In fact your OUTER WORLD is a reflection of your INNER world and the problem with the West is they focus mainly on the OUTER world when if you PROPERLY ORIENT the INNER WORLD everything else will fix itself. I have mentioned this a couple of times but I recently got into a car accident and had a near death experience. As a result....I have no car, and my face is scarred. But that event is THE GREATEST thing that ever happened to me. Why? Because I was able to confirm many of the things I had been researching regarding reality. I saw the other side of existence and this made me even happier than I was originally. This revealed to me how so many destructive beliefs that have been placed on us that make us miserable. Here are a couple of them. 1. Comparing yourself to others. If you do this... you are doomed to a life of misery, everybody's journey is different and this is by design. When you compare you rob yourself and the other person (if you are comparing yourself to them in a discussion) of their divine uniqueness. 2. Thinking that society's model of success is the definition of success. Success is a personal opinion. Some people chase what other's tell them is success only to discover that it doesn't make them happy. Success is waking up everyday and living a life that YOU BELIEVE IS FUFILLING. As long as you are in alignment with what you value....you are successful. 3. Being judgmental of yourself. This is a BIG ONE!!! Do NOT JUDGE YOURSELF!! When you judge yourself you open the gates of hell and walk in. Judgment is demonization, so when you judge yourself you are calling yourself a demon and placing yourself in hell. Obviously the same is true of others as well, so don't play the role of Satan in your life or the life of others. Judgement is not to be confused with logic. Logic labels....judgment places value. Value isn't bad per se, but seeing things itself as bad ironically IS BAD. So the only BAD thing is believing that something is BAD. This is a tough pill to swallow....but if you do....you will be FREE. As long as bad exists in your mind.....you will jump back and forth between heaven and hell. I don't know about you....but that doesn't exactly sound fun....but hey to each their own right? 4. Always thinking you need to do something...and your desire to be in control. One of the biggest lessons you will learn if you walk the Spiritual Path is that you accomplish MORE when you DO LESS. I know it sounds counter productive but its true. The Spiritual Path will reveal to you that you are NOT in control...so stop trying to be in control. That you can accomplish more in Meditation, Gratitude, and Loving Acts than you can relentless pursuing your desires. You have no idea how much your desire to be in control sabotages your relationship with others and ultimately WITH YOURSELF!! 5. Seeing life as ordinary. Life is ANYTHING but ordinary...anyone that thinks life is ordinary has never had their awareness risen high enough. Understand that life is ONLY ordinary if your awareness is low. For those whose awareness is HIGH life is an every changing dramatic present moment that keeps arising. For the 2 weeks my body was healing....life was VERY interesting because my awareness was RIDICULOUSLY high that NOTHING looked or felt ordinary. Now that my body is healed....my awareness is normalized to an extent and life appears normal again. The most amazing thing is life....it is so amazing that when your awareness is high you are either smiling, laughing , or crying tears of joy. This is the benefit of the Spiritual path....you get to see how amazing life really is. I will be adding to this post to go in more detail how I avoided falling into the trap of mental illness. Understand that the West laid a trap for you called mental illness.....don't let them convince you to stay there....or that it is normal.....its only normal for those who take in and believe the toxic ideologies. Notice even the rich and famous can't resist mental illness...yet there are poor around the world who smile ear to ear. Your identity, core beliefs, determine the reality you experience. Depending on this you will either live in heaven or hell, and you actually have complete control over this.....To Be Continued.....

I literally gave you a book to get if you want to know the Secret to Understanding Women. Instead of asking for said book....you are still on here complaining. If you think guys who do pick up all day and are toxic and getting laid are actually happy. Then you have no clue. They are actually miserable and want something deep. Here is what you don't understand. The Nice Guy (The true one not the fake one most people are) is able to connect with a woman on a deep emotional level. He can hold long conversations and is able to make her feel secure and safe. The Player brings excitement to a woman. She feels girly around him, is turned on sexually, and feels the urge to play and be freaky. His confidence is so strong and his refusal to be tied down to anything brings out feelings of insecurity and that makes her want to try harder. The Player is the attraction. He is the chase. The Woman has to work to get him, because if it was too easy she would be bored. The insecurity is exciting because she is not sure she can get him to commit long term. THIS IS WHY IT WORKS. But all that is...is attraction. Most players SUCK at relationships long term. Because relationships is where the NICE GUY excels (if he is a REAL NICE GUY) because he is all about connecting, deep emotional connection. The book I recommended to you teaches you what both types of guys go through and how to incorporate aspects of both. If you incorporate aspects of BOTH you become Mr. RIGHT. Mr. Right is fun, playful, dominant, confident, but can also be deeply sensitive and endearing to a woman. So we as men need to incorporate aspects of both!!! The Nice Guy....is more feminine, and that is why they are able to connect deeply on an emotional level. The Player is Masculine, and that is why they are able to arouse attraction. When a man can embody both.....he will never have trouble getting women EVER.

If you are going to critique yourself be gentle.....you only need to kick yourself in the bum sometimes. Extend a hand of kindness only slap yourself out of stubborness lol. Watch this video by Leo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uk2dvilKdRo

Ummmm lets modify your quote..... "Saw this on discord the other day and thought I would share. It's quite useful. Even though It's not advised to build bombs. But here is a sheet of info for the combinations to look out for, if you decide to build any. I don't think communicating as if it isn't a big deal....that you just posted DRUG COMBINATIONS make it NOT A BIG DEAL!! Ummm sir....what is the point of this action? Do you believe this to be a beneficial action?

Oh boy....he said you made progress....prepare to experience MORE!!!! If you go further!!!! But yeah I know how scary it is man. The funny part is it is only scary because it is an experience you are not used too. What I learned about psychedelics is they teach you how to surrender. It really improves your feminine side of you as a man. You got to learn to just let go....and let what comes....come.

Cool didn't know there were people from that part of the world in this forum. I would love to travel one day there. I hope your culture is a lot more stable than it is over here in the U.S.

That is an interesting take. Sadhguru calls himself a slave. They say when you become a celebrity you lose your freedom. As you can see the creator of this forum....made an entire thread of how Leo NEEDS TO BE. The irony is he doesn't realize that he is being tyrannical and judgmental and trying to pressure Leo to conform to his ideal of how Leo should be. When you become a public figure....people try to force you to fit the image they have of you in their minds. Its very fascinating.

What did you see on 5 grams?

You are a victim of perfectionism. You probably grew up in an environment that normalized this as being tough. Its a form of tough love, and it can serve a purpose....but in truth any judgment of yourself does damage. How you talk to yourself is also how you will talk to others ultimately and how you will view the world at large. You should be kinder to yourself, as a finite being you are going to make mistakes. To be human is to be imperfect, and that imperfection is actually perfection. In every moment of your life seek to become more aware of the different aspects of what you are....and then embrace it all. Allow your life to be a life-long session of love of yourself.

I would make a distinction between cognitive disorders (which are structural problems or chemical problems in the brain) over just normal healthy brain function. If there is nothing wrong with your brain and you are suffering mental illness then that is something within your control, but obviously if your issue is due to structural or chemical issues that isn't on you. It is however the fault of the pollution that we humans have done which would cause someone to be born with those issues in the first place.

I love your self-honesty!!! We need more of this in the world!! Thank you for sharing. Don't worry you will eventually get over your jealousy issue. The day you will, is when you realize that life is an infinite mirror. How you feel about others is only how you feel about yourself. What humanity does not know is that what you fear the most is yourself. By being honest....you are choosing to face yourself. Thank you for being so brave!!!

Personally I have high respect for anyone who takes psychedelics as there is nothing in life that can prepare you for it. The highest dosage I ever took was 5 grams...and that's enough for me especially since I am very sensitive to them apparently (maybe because I have never drunk alcohol or smoked anything ever) and when I took it....the whole fabric of reality was pulled away like a stage curtain. Freaked me the hell out lol. Anyway I came across a video of a girl who took 16 grams of magic mushrooms (faints) I'm like....yeah I am never going that high. Obviously she had a bad trip....you look at the video where she talks about it. Apparently she even tried to kill herself during her trip, but now she says she believes it cured her depression. So I guess it ended well for her. But man......16 grams? She is braver than me.

Interesting video.

The answer... is yes. That was an easy question. But it goes deeper, they don't just smell you, they can FEEL you. Women are naturally more spiritually connected in general than men. Its like their body was designed to be that way. Its why they are more naturally intuitive. It is very helpful for women when they can tap into that part of themselves as intuition is divine communication.

Logic is no where near the most important part of your intellect. Its the same reason the most brilliant scientific minds... are unable to find the truth of reality. I.Q. is not true intelligence, and neither is logic. Logic is only one aspect of intelligence and it is limited. It is limited by memory. There are tons of people every year who are able to join Mensa. https://www.mensa.org/ Which is a high IQ society. The greatest inventors and innovators are not usually the higher in I.Q. or logic, they are the highest in intuition. So if you want to raise your intelligence, start there. Intuition helps you with discernment, which is the ability to figure out what information is helpful and which is not. It helps you overcome your bias, cognitive dissonance and the self delusions your mind will create. Logic will NOT help you overcome this, as the more logical you are, the greater ability you have to delude yourself because your arguments will become even better. Logic is a start....but if you think of it as the holy grail you will lose touch with the other types of intelligences there are. Here is a list. https://www.iberostar.com/en/inspiration-guide/wellness/eight-types-of-intelligence/ What I would add to that list again is discernment, and then lastly Intuition.

Thank you for your kind response although I would honestly say my posts of late have been one of impatience. Mostly I have seen new users come onto this forum and attack Leo's content... and ask lazy questions without putting in much thought and I have been heavy handed with them....so I still have more work to do..... But yeah to answer your question....it showed me. During one of the awakenings I was able to have tantra sex with a girl (it blew my mind) because you can do it with your clothes on and have people around and they would have no clue that you two are doing it. Anyway what it showed me was getting in touch with your feelings...is the key to connecting with everything and everyone. Your thoughts cloud your ability to access your spiritual gifts. That is the only reason you meditate, to connect with your true self. This is why we are called human beings, the human is the physical and the being is the spiritual. Learning to stop all thought, and emotions and just BE is the key. People get emotions and feelings mixed up and we interchange the terms but they are not the same. Your feeling is your dominant state, your emotions is just the fluctuations that happen to you based on your thoughts and the reactions you have. Your feelings as you pointed out can reveal issues with the body, deep seated emotional baggage that is hidden, reveal your interconnectedness, and the other aspects of your personality. What people don't realize is a fixed personality does not exist. We are every personality type that exists, we have just played specific roles so much we think that is us. Anybody that has been an actor or ever tried stand-up long enough has learned this. Or anybody that ever took up dancing, playing an instrument, writing, etc. You do anything long enough your hidden talents will start to emerge and you will realize you literally have every creative talent imaginable, its just how you express it is unique. So yeah the feeling was also teaching me to honor my emotions and the emotions of others....which is something I struggle with since I have been conditioned to be tough and suck it up I have issues seeing too much emotional complaining. I understand from an intellectual level that I should honor everyone's emotions....but so many people just keep torturing themselves and creating an inner hell and do not seem to realize it. It bothers me....because it is blatantly obvious. It is something I use to do when I was young. Anyway keep posting those positive perspectives of yours, it helps me rebalance myself back into a high vibration.

You don't have to be toxic to get girls...its just a lot of the game in modern dating...has become toxic because our culture has normalized and even uplifted toxicity as the creme de la creme. If you want to understand how to get women. Read the book by Rom Wills called Nice Guys and Players. He talks about what Nice Guys go through and what Players go through. The Modern Woman wants a man that displays BOTH characteristics. Spirituality= Nice Guy. Once you go through Ego Death hopefully you have overcome your fear of death/the unknown. Now incorporate the "edge." That book gives you the right perspective. After I read that book...I had women figured out. They are not as complicated as they seem. Women want some of the same things men want...with some differences. Once you find out what those differences are and why....it actually makes sense.

Based on your original text it seems it wasn't telepathy but instead you were able to access her thoughts. So basically you became aware of her thoughts, which is different than communicating your own thoughts to her.

Beautiful post!! I really resonate with a lot of what you post. The key really is for us to regain that child-like wonder that we were born with.....before the conditioning. Uncontrolled thinking is the cause of suffering, and as you say look at life as a piece of art rather than a problem to be solved. So true, to be the Observer. I had a kundalini awakening and one of the things I was told was to stop thinking so much and get in touch with the feeling part of me. To connect with the inner feminine inside of me. Your posts really speak to that, to get in touch with the creative artistic aspect inside of us. The part that wants to create and sees wonder in everything.

He's good. I've followed him over the years, he is good at giving you unique perspectives. If you resonate with his content then use it.

She never looked at you? Never smiled? No verbal or body language confirmation? If not....it didn't happen. You have to get a response. Nobody is going to let you talk to them in their head...without giving you some type of response.

As long as she gave confirmation that she was communicating with you then it happened.

Intuition is never wrong, you really have no clue what intuition is if you say it is wrong. I repeat... INTUITION IS NEVER WRONG. How you interpret said intuition can be wrong, sure. Again you have no idea what intuition is. If you want to understand what intuition is refer to Nikola Tesla. When they asked him where did he come up with the ideas for his inventions he responded "“My brain is only a receiver, in the Universe there is a core from which we obtain knowledge, strength and inspiration. I have not penetrated into the secrets of this core, but I know that it exists.” So there you have it. After the brain receives it, it is up to you to make sense of it. In your attempt to make sense of it....you could make a mistake. But the actual message....was correct.