Razard86

Right now you are playing a game arguing with me. All distinction is a game. Calling yourself the game does not take away from you playing it. Everything you just said is a strategy. Unconditional love is a strategy. Narcissism is a strategy. Solitude is a strategy. You cannot run from a strategy. Right now you arguing about which strategy (set of actions) is better. So now you are moralizing which again is a game. Have you looked up what is called debate tactics? Methods of persuasion? That is called the debate game. Saying I am the game is an attempt to claim superiority to the game. You are the game, and that is why you cannot supercede the game. Because the game is YOU!!! By your own authority you have limited yourself to the game. The only way to not play the game, the duality game is to not exist in this duality. So please...stop it you cannot escape this paradigm. This is ancient knowledge. Even Sadhguru talks about this. Its called the path of playfulness. Enlightened masters would laugh right now at how serious you are being lighten up. Its all a mind game. The game of Universal Mind.

All of life is a game. Literally you cannot escape this. All of life is a game. It is an infinity game that is expressed in the world of duality. If you cannot see this....I don't know what to tell you. Its a mind game, of universal mind. You can't avoid the game, no matter what you do. Everything you do is literally a strategy. A refusal to play games is literally a strategy in the game. So yeah I hope you can actually see this.

Check this video out. The theme is at the root of conflict between men and women lol. If you can figure out this one theme, it will create a paradigm shift in all your future interactions with women. A very logic type man would REALLY need to see this video. Obviously this is an extreme example but sometimes extreme examples are needed to spell things out blatantly lol. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg&t=1s Also....there are relationships where the roles are reversed. The purpose of this video is to teach you to understand when you are in a conversation where the person doesn't want you to fix it, or be in your logical mind, but to meet them in the feminine and connect emotionally. This is my weakness but something I can catch myself doing.

There ya go, that's all I am saying. I was actually in this situation and I am telling you she will find out. LOL. Nobody is a superstar on their first attempt and if that girl is pretty and has had her fair share of romps in the bedroom she will figure out real quick. I use to believe in all the fear mongering that people spread around but after I did it myself and took that leap of faith I found out...it wasn't what everyone thought it was. Besides...after you have sex one time....you are no longer a virgin lol.

Let's enjoy the mystery.

Bliss, Ecstacy, Butters.

It's all conditioning. There is no distinction of anything. All discussion of distinction is ultimately just the game we play, called the separation game. All games are just infinity games, even saying everything is One is itself a distinction because everything comes from Nothing. So to be One means there has to be One Thing. So now that we got that out of the way. Anything we say...will just be a perspective. So....well....I vote its conditioning. I also like Osho's perspective. 'https://www.oshonews.com/2015/10/06/homosexuality-lesbianism/ I think the union of man and woman is the greatest spiritual test because it forces more development. Here is a key insight. The Masculine and the Feminine do not understand each other. They need each other, they complete each other, but they do not understand each other. But if they understood each other, they would be each other. But the cool thing about them is they are able to trust each other, and accept each other, without having that understanding. For a man to truly understand a woman, he has to integrate his feminine. For a woman to truly understand a man she has to integrate her masculine. So the male female relationship presents the most room to grow. With same sex relationships its just issues with personality and values, but outside of that there is no real friction. But hey, if you don't want all that friction and you just want someone who will understand you easier, have at it. Also you have the feminine and masculine within you so you have experience that conflict internally. Where you want to express your love for someone, but logically it will be at a cost to you. Logic= Masculine Desire to express= Feminine. Ultimately what you decide....picks the one you side with within.

I love how men really underestimate how intuitive women are. I'll let you in on a little secret....women like to pretend they don't know. She might have already intuited you are one, and is waiting to see if you are going to tell her. But if that doesn't happen....she will figure out when you have sex with her. So she is going to figure out anyway. The truth will set you free. Lies are bondage. For every lie you tell, you need to tell another lie to cover it. And it goes on into infinity.

No problem I can give you access to some of the deepest perspectives on the game. Before I found spirituality that's where I was spending my time. Trying to crack that nut, solve that puzzle. I understand both sides, the woman's and the man's. The irony is Relationships are actually the highest form of spiritual development you can do. Because every person you meet is going to trigger your shadow aspects. A week of interaction with a broad variety of people can teach you more about yourself than a year of meditation. As long as you are conscious (self aware) of what you are doing, thinking, and feeling in these interactions the hidden aspects of yourself will be revealed. Very Illuminating. Also great chances for us to love those shadows when they appear and potentially grow.

This is pretty much true of everybody. Its one of the most famous traps we can fall into. Good intentions, but distracts from healing meant for yourself. Something I need to work on personally myself.

She's going to find out. It didn't make it awkward for me because she didn't believe me lol. Because I was so honest it made her trust me more. Actually ended up making us more intimate because I was so honest with her. But hey to each their own.

Having game....means understanding the game, and playing it better. So having game means you are good at playing games. I refuse to play lol, but I understand the game very well. Also click on the link, its good stuff.

That is called a lie of omission. Its still a lie.

You can certainly do that if you want, but then you cannot complain about lies, or other games your partner may play on you. Be the partner you desire, or suffer the partner you are lol.

My friend has a deep saying which I think can answer your question. "At the beginning of the relationship people play games, and at the end of the relationship people play games." Here is a dating guru who explains this concept very well. https://www.themodernman.com/blog/the-5-stages-of-a-relationship.html

I studied the dating game for 2 years. I know a friend who is a player, I communicate with one of the best dating gurus, I talked to women and men about their experiences (interviewed people), read thousands of articles, watched thousands of videos, and went out there myself through personal experience. So when it comes the relationship game especially between men and women I see it clearly. I know the best books a man can read to give him the right perspective about the game. I know the best book for a woman to read to give her the right perspective about the game. The game is simple but deep. But here is the kicker, all regular relationships pale in comparison to spirituality. If two highly conscious people get together their relationship will be deeper than any regular relationship. So you shouldn't even seek regular relationships with people who aren't into raising consciousness. But you can if you want....it just won't be at the same level.

1. You are a player. Players do not have long term relationships. They jump from girl to girl. The rules to being a player, are different to the rules of having a long term relationship. Just like the rules to being a pimp are different than the rules to being a player. A player engages in ego games, which is why he is so alluring. Women by nature are drawn to players especially in the ego centric playing field of the modern dating game. I am friends with players so I know the game as I have seen it firsthand. I write a book on it if I wanted too. What players don't tell you. Players play mind games on women. So guess what happens? She plays mind games back on you. Players see women as disposable, so guess how the women see you? As disposable. The player game is a short term strategy, so you constantly have to jump from relationship and relationship. What also isn't taught is eventually every player turns in his player card because the game gets old.

She will find out when they have sex. You know a lot of guys told me this nonsense and I told the girl I was a virgin. Guess who was still able to have sex with her multiple times after that? ME

You see what you want to see. Being afraid of losing someone is being co-dependent. As a result you will try to manipulate them to keep them. All controlling behavior stems from feelings of wanting to be in control. If a man is afraid to lose his women he will lie, threaten, and engage in power plays to keep her. If he is okay whether she stays or goes, he will tell her what his standards are and allow her to either agree or disagree. Its called choice. But again you see what you want to see.

1. Lying will beget more lying. You are basically giving him permission to kill his relationship. 2. Unless she is a virgin she will know how a man with experience has sex. Men who have sexual experience take charge. They pick the woman up, they use different positions, they know how to really intensify the sexual situation and DOMINATE the woman. A virgin is going to be nervous, and even if he is confident he won't command the same presence as someone with experience. She will pick this up. Most women are empaths, which means she will pick up on ANY emotional disturbances he has. ANY. Nervousness, second-guessing will ALL be picked up. If he lies to her during intimacy and she finds out he lied to her about sex she can take it MULTIPLE WAYS. Why didn't he trust her? Is he afraid or full of shame? etc. etc. Having the balls to tell the truth will always set up apart as a man.

Lol..... I needed a good smile. Hey she is going to find out anyway. He might be able to wing it if she isn't a virgin, but if she is a virgin she is going to find out. But yes....we are all the same as coffee tables ultimately lol.

That is just your projection. If you read what I write I want both parties to listen. Point to one part where I actually said that. You won't find it. If you notice all my posts are about personal responsibility. Taking ownership of your thoughts, and emotions. But you are welcome to try to find what you claim I have done.

Sex is a social construct. Its why I hate the way the word gender is used. Because its just another word to describe the same thing that is claimed to be different. Sex is a social construct. If you argue this, then you don't know what a social construct is. I'll give you a clue....language is a social construct. It was "constructed." To aid in socialization.

LOL you already know the answer.....and he does too.

The answer really is as much as you are capable of. I will also say the cool thing is each aspect influences the other. The better in shape you are from weightlifting the more confidence you can have and the more options you will have from women. So one can make the other aspect easier. Education can also help in that as well. Meditation has the biggest influence out of all the things you lifted because it teaches you how to calm the mind. Since majority of suffering is caused by this, you can dramatically improve basically every other aspect with meditation. So yeah just pick a path and go all the way!! Rooting for you!!