Razard86

Nice long overview and summary of the Buddhist teaching. But while you explained what the teaching says causes suffering, you never described steps for one to stop suffering. You merely said "Buddhists must try to stop craving as much as they can in order to work to end suffering." That tells someone absolutely nothing. The most important component when discussing an issue is steps to alleviate or solve the issue. The missed the most important point. Also I personally believe suffering is a choice. I believe suffering is a perspective. Now for me pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice. I will go further than suffering just being a desire for cravings and such. I believe suffering is the focused attention on what is missing. I can have a desire and shift my focus on the present moment and my being (existence itself) and in that moment all suffering ceases. If I were to master meditation even if I was in constant pain I could shift my focus on my being and again I would cease to suffer. Suffering is just the focus on what you lack. For example being in pain and focusing on you lacking no pain. You desire to not have pain. All suffering is, is just resistance to what is. Anytime I catch me suffering I can always choose to accept the present moment and focus on my being. Its that simple. The answer to the greatest riddle is how to stop suffering? Focus on your being. That's it. The greater you can get at that, the more at peace you will be.

Leadership isn't position its influence. Also its human nature to pedestalize someone. Throughout human history humans have worshipped everything from animals, plants, to humans, to gods they created in their folklore. So if your service....became influential enough people would follow you whether you like it or not. Lol just ask Leo. Once people believe you have something they do not (which is just projection) they will put you on a pedestal and stalk, follow, and parrot you. This is why many Gurus have to keep telling people that they are the Ultimate Authority in their lives. Why? Because secretly most people don't want that responsibility. They want the freedom to make mistakes and blame someone else. Its also why some people enter romantic relationships, so they can blame their emotional issues on their partner and claim why are X people like this? LOL So yeah man if you do too good of a job of serving they will anoint you leader.

Also that is wrong. The number one killer of attraction is ignorance. The fact that you said not knowing what to do reveals you don't know what you are talking about. The key to success in a relationship is understanding the person you are dealing with. The more you understand them the greater success you will have. You need general knowledge to understand how the game works, and specific knowledge to understand how to make the right moves. Everything in life is a game. Everything that succeeds in life is based on systems. This entire website is run on a system. Your language is a system. Your body is a system. This means when you deal with someone to have success with them you need to develop a system. The system should be fluid to incorporate changes but you need a system. Otherwise...it will fail. This is why if you talk to anyone who has been happily married for decades they can explain their SYSTEM. Have you talked to people who have been married for decades? Because what THEY do is DIFFERENT than pickup, and different than what players do. Pimps have a different system, players have a different system, and husbands who have been happily married have a different system. If you don't understand this you will just make mistakes out of ignorance that people with experience will laugh and say "I remember when I did that. Now I know better." Again the purpose of reading is to tune your perspective and improve your clarity so you can see things. Obviously direct experience is the most important but reading allows you to see things as they are. The only reason you need direct experience is for two things. 1. See what level you are at. A book cannot tell you your weaknesses direct experience will show you that. 2. And teach you hot to react on the fly a book cannot teach you that. But a book OPENS your eyes and gives you clarity and insight. Something that usually takes DECADES. You can get something in days to months that takes someone DECADES. Again do what you do. I am merely a resource.

I said 2 not one, that's my point you aren't reading to comprehend. When you see what you want to see in someone's writing you are projecting. This means you are coming into the conversation with a preconceived notion. A full cup cannot receive. Since you know so much....why are we even having this conversation? You are right, why read books. All humans should stop writing books. You should also stop watching Leo's videos as well. Notice how what you say makes no sense? Neile Degrasse Tyson said something profound once. When humanity has figured something out they stop writing books about it. Do you know how many relationship books there are out there? Do you know there are professors who are PAID to talk about Male and Female Nature. Pimps, and Players STILL learn something new everyday about relationships. Its like you don't get it. I claim GENERAL knowledge. Specific, circumstantial knowledge is never ending. It will go on into infinity. You will NEVER know anything completely. So reading books gives you MORE information to learn. Everyone's life is JUST a perspective. The more information you take in the BROADER your perspective becomes. Have you noticed that even Leo takes people's imput before he makes a video? That's broadening your perspective. But apparently reading books is BAD!!! Look man if you don't want to read the book you don't have too. You are just going to have less information. That's on you. Dating Guru write books to save you time so you don't have to relearn the crap that took them years to learn. A fool repeats his mistakes, a smart man learns from his mistakes, a wise man learns from the mistakes of others.

Breathing is love!!! Wanted to beat my man Michael Jackson from saying this first!!

True, can't argue with that.

Attracting women is literally easy. I told you I used what was in the book and had instant success. Everybody I shared the contents of said book both guy and girl agreed. You would have to read those books for yourself to understand. Atomic Attraction works. Its been field tested not just by my friend but hundreds of people The guy who wrote the book himself his entire book is based off case studies. I could go into length how attraction works but I'd rather not. I'd rather people read the book and find out for themselves. All these 3 books teach 3 different methods of raising attraction. Atomic Attraction teaches how to maintain attraction in a relationship. Rom Wills 2 books teaches how to become the best version of yourself. Rom's books I hold in the highest regard because pretty much every woman who reads it is like man he knows his stuff. Players also agree as well that his book speaks the truth. Its really a goldmine. I've consumed a lot of material but these 3 books hit the nail on the head. My friend I'm talking about actually comes to ME for advice and to bounce ideas off and he has slept with over 100 women. These women are drop dead gorgeous also. But like I said, to each their own. I'm not going to force anyone.

Lol I've had two. Got Pictures and everything, not that I'd share it with you. Don't be nosy.

Oh....so you were rapping.....

Good one!!! I personally overcome this by remembering that every action I take comes from good intentions. Along with Infinite Intelligence would never judge you, so why allow the finite version of you to do it? No offense but our finite intelligence is an idiot compared to infinite intelligence lol.

Telling someone there perspective makes you want to vomit in your mouth. Just kidding!! Ignoring the dangers of spirituality. Analysis Paralysis outside of action. One of your favorites Leo: Mistaking achievement for growth. Thinking you got everything figured out. Thinking morality is the key to aspiring to be unconditionally loving. Making promises to yourself and never keeping them. Refusing to self-reflect and instead engaging in projection. Giving your authority away and forgetting that you are the ultimate authority in your reality. Suicidal Ideation. Victim mentality. Learned Helplessness. Living Vicariously through others. Codependency. Imposter syndrome. Pedestalization of Gurus. Cyberstalking. Cyber Bullying. Poor Mental and Physical Diet. Becoming a hermit and not satisfying social desires to connect with others.

Poor guy his starting premise was flawed. He said "It is not simply that what we think happens. We have to choose which thoughts to ACT upon." Choice is a thought. LOL!!!! Poor guy!!! Oh well he will learn one day!!

Your skepticism will stop you from some vital information. I literally got the answer to majority of the questions I had. The reason I did all that research was before I entered spirituality. I wanted answers to things in life so I studied things that didn't make sense. My advice is not IQ based. Literally everything I talk about deals with the emotional. What do you think shadow work is? Dealing with the emotion. What do you think telling a man to integrate with the feminine. The feminine is the feelings aspect of a man. It is his ability to do regular checkups on his emotional health, and be aware of the emotional health of his partner as well. You can't IQ that you have to actually do it. Its something I have already integrated. I'm not perfect but I am totally aware when I am being too logical around a female and have a mental switch where I can be present in the moment. Also I have experience, the two women I mentioned I dated them for over a year. So I have the experience. I told you the techniques work. So then you will ask so why didn't aren't you still with them? The girl is not interested in spirituality. All she wants to do is drink wine, go on trips, and watch low ego movies and gossip. I want something deeper. Also she stole from me more than once. So yeah that relationship was not going to work out. Do you know how rare it is to find a partner who is interested in raising their consciousness? Its not impossible but it is rare. Also I found out what I needed, and I scratched the itch I had. So I no longer desire to pursue a romantic relationship but I understand what makes them work. The majority of the relationships fail because their is lack of accountability between either one or both partners. Accountability is the life blood of all relationships. And when it comes to relationships you need to know how to negotiate. People don't do that and they wonder why it fails. This isn't IQ anything it is tried and true principles that all healthy relationships have. But if you want to run from the advice I have its fine. Whoever can take value from what I have to offer can and who doesn't see it thats fine too.

Well the creator of the universe gotta do something right? LOL.

Nah we not letting you off the hook....lol What was that?

Thats the thing there isn't a real distinction between Gender and Sex. I did gender studies in College and I'm like...they could just use the word Sex. All they have to say is that just because someone has designated Sex they don't have to conform to how they express said sexuality. Then they wanted to make a whole new word called gender....I'm like you don't need a new word!!! Just expand the definition of the original word!!! But its just a personal issue I have it is what it is. LOL.

Why does your Avatar remind me of Hank Hill from the T.V. Show King of the Hill?

Well you have already stated multiple times that you love toxicity. So I'll take that as a compliment. Also notice....you have yet to integrate your Masculine. Its no wonder you are so negative when it comes to the Masculine. Deal with your shadow. Its not toxic it is what it is.

Mode One is not for the faint of heart lol. 90 percent of guys won't use it. But no technique gets you to sex faster if that is what you are looking for LOL!!!! I have watched my friend do it. I did a VERSION of it and it worked for me as well on the first woman I dealt with. Confidence is the single strongest trait a man can have around a woman. Nothing is stronger than that.

Yeah I haven't got Sadhguru's book on Karma. But I do have his audiobook on Inner Engineering. The Karma book didn't interest me because I am not that interested in Karma. What insights does the book bring forth?

1. I am interested in spirituality. I do not have a real desire to enter into a romantic relationship. 2. Your critique about emotional EQ is one you can make because you do not know me personally. My ex stated to me "You are the most emotionally mature man I have met." 3. I am on a different path, majority of dating is about ego fulfillment. So I see the forest for the trees. I really only dabbled because I wanted to lose my virginity. I lost my virginity within a week of following this advice. Also my friends who have more experience come to me for advice and have tried out the concepts in the books I have recommended. It works. Any hesitancy you have well its warranted. You have to decide for yourself. But my major talent is in research and getting to the truth. But hey what do I know I am just some guy on the internet? LOL. Also I am far from perfect, but I own my issues. I even know the best way to resolve disputes between people. Look up a book called Never Split The Difference. https://www.google.com/search?q=Never+Split+The+Difference&rlz=1C1VDKB_enUS991US992&oq=Never+Split+The+Difference&aqs=chrome..69i57.4347j0j15&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 Its the best strategy to resolve all conflicts and reach a resolution. But hey... I'm just some guy on the internet.

Now Atomic Attraction is very good at keeping spice in the relationship. It also reveals the paradoxical relationship between making a woman feel safe, and how that lowers attraction, and keeping your woman guessing which increases attraction. Its up to you how you use this information but this book is factual.

No where near as much as my friend. Majority of my experience comes from interviews, and research. But I will say, I used the material I learned ONE time and got results the first time. I used it a second time and got immediate results the second time. I also had a woman who basically agreed with everything Rom Wills pretty much said. Rom wrote a book for women and if I told you what was in there as a man you would agree with what he says to women about what men want. These gurus cracked the code. Their perspective actually works. If you follow what they say you CAN get you a woman who looks like an 8 out of 10 or higher. Problem is....how you choose to navigate the relationship that is on you. My issue is 99% of relationships are started from feelings lack. Majority of relationships among us humans is co-dependent. Co-dependent relationships are toxic and doomed before they even start.

Lol I'm not trying to do that to you but that is what reality is. We cannot escape this game of life. But yeah I think there was a miscommunication earlier. If you go back and read my earlier response I said I don't play these ego games. The reason the beginning of a relationship is games, (and we will take away the context of everything being a game to make this point) is because when people are nervous they are not as authentic. So even if you for example tried to be as authentic as possible in the beginning the other person unlikely to be because they are nervous. Also you could scare them away, so you kind of have to reveal bits and pieces of yourself and let them slowly warm up to you. A guy like me comes on strong lol. I don't like that part, or the other stages that are a part of the dating game. I'm impatient and like to get to the part where both people can just be authentically themselves. So the quote I shared was what I said my friend says. And he is right. If you go to the link a Dating Guru did a good job of mapping out the stages of relationships. Notice it has stages....like a video game!!! LOL. Anyway I seek to transcend the game...but I know that is foolishness. We can't transcend it. All we can do is create a new game.

I agree let her go. If she is for you it will eventually happen.