Razard86

1. People don't care about large vocabularies, that is your projection. 2. People only care about ONE THING, if what you write resonates with them If you only care about becoming famous you will just copy other people. The key to standing out is your own uniqueness. If you are a carbon copy you will never reach your true potential. You need to focus on developing and finetuning YOUR PERSPECTIVE. I cannot say this again everyone in this forum needs to get this message. BE YOUR OWN FAN! LOVE YOURSELF. STOP TEARING YOURSELF DOWN. The man/woman who tears themselves down will accomplish nothing because they are broken. Build yourself up by speaking good of yourself. Stop all this self-judgment.

Trump, Biden, and Bernie are all within like a year of each other lol.

Democrats are their own worse enemy. They made their bed so now they have to lay in it. The most popular Democrat outside of Barack Obama is Bernie. They keep colluding to stop him from winning. Until the Democrats embrace true progressive solutions and stop being the Establishment Democrats they are....they will lose to Republicans like Trump.

There are ways you could salvage this situation but the truth is she is just not that attracted to you sexually. There are things you can do to change this... but you probably won't like these suggestions. 1. Your woman is treating your dick like its bad. This is not healthy in a sexual relationship. It would be the equivalent to you doing it to her. I often see some men tolerate this behavior and this communicates low value. When you allow a woman to criticize you and treat you less than that causes her to lose even more respect for you and it will continue to devolve. So what is the solution? You need to create some space from her. Look up a book called Atomic Attraction if you want to understand the psychology of that. 2. In truth though I believe you just need to find another woman. The sad thing is your girlfriend is treating you like this because she views you a specific way. If you say had sex with someone else she knew and rocked that girls world she probably wouldn't treat you like this. Most people only treat you based on the image or idea they have of you not the actual real you. This means your woman is not present with you, she has preconceived judgments of who you are and is interacting with those perceptions of you in real time. This can manifest as her predicting you might say this or do that. You probably hear this one a lot. "You always do this." "You never do this." etc etc. So this means you are dealing with a low conscious partner. Relationships like this are a good way to learn boundaries, self-respect, and how to enjoy a relationship short term knowing that it isn't going to last. So in truth unless you do something radical like create space, end the relationship, or find a way to get her to change the way she views you (this is probably not going to happen) you are better off either creating distance or ending the relationship. Nobody deserves to be shamed for their body. Find a woman who is turned on by the sight of you.

lol so you jelly? Whose peanut butter?

Look at all that love Leo is showing. Went piece by piece through the entire long comment. Nice!!

Ok....that's a lot to read. I didn't mean to put your fingers to work with so much text. I apologize if I came off critical. Also...just a suggestion....who cares what Buddhism says... what do YOU say. I care about YOUR perspective, Buddha is Buddha and you are YOU. lol.

Lol good one!!!

The Void.....what some or many feel. The Void....some describe it empty, some describe it cold You may claim to know, but that's not empathy that's null, You might say its too heavy I say let's pull, Is this a stage of illusion should I pull back this wool, Thinking about what could be some say its cool, Maybe I should be optimistic use this as a tool, Maybe I should take this on, make it my new rule, Maybe I want to be lazy, just lay around just drool, Maybe I don't wanna be so serious just play the fool, I don't know what's going on where is this taking me, I can barely hold on just let me pee, So many twists and turns, playing hide and seek, Then I wake up at last and find it was all just me

Exactly....you didn't read what I wrote, you skimmed and attempted to teach me and basically reiterated what I already stated. Notice this....

Pshhhhhh just tell Leo to look at his signature and say Leo....you are me so if I am full of shit so are you lol!!

What one fears the most is self-judgment. What one fears is their being. Not just the capital True Self, but the ego self as well. Notice one spends their entire life pointing their attention outward. They complain about others, wish others were more like them. But the irony is, they don't even like themselves If you were to question someone why they say and do the things they do, they deflect. Why? Because they do not want to look at their ego. They are ashamed of their ego. Their ego is selfish and they do not want to admit it. It is much easier to demonize others, to project your shame onto those around you. Instead of acknowledging your shame and taking ownership. The only time you own your pain is when you claim someone else caused it, but that's not ownership that is blaming someone else as the author of what YOU ARE CREATING. Its funny, as long as you blame others for what you create within, you will continue to suffer. So why do you do this? Because you love to suffer. You would rather choose suffering than facing yourself and recognizing yourself as your own abuser. The pain of that realization is more scary to you than suffering. The lesser of two evils in your eyes so you choose to suffer. Your entire life your abuser has been you, it has always been you. You are sadistic, you refuse to face the fact that you enjoy your own abuse. Your abuse after awhile gets to become too much, even though you are a masochist even a masochist has limits. Your abuse at this point either forces you to face yourself, confront yourself all along. To realize you as the creator of your own reality. Or you run even harder and choose to end it all. The choice is yours, but realize you cannot escape from you. You will exist for all eternity. Better to confront and realize what you are.

I do believe everyone is entitled to respect, but don't always expect to get it. If everyone wasn't entitled to respect every society wouldn't put such an emphasis on kindness, politeness etc. Even ancient cultures taught respect for all life. So respect is our birthright, and as loving beings we shouldn't tolerate disrespect, but we shouldn't spread it either. So yeah respect is important to all relationships. If you feel someone doesn't respect you, you don't have to stick around and tolerate it.

There is....and Michael Jackson knows it....he says it all the time. Love. That's the workaround LOL. Thanks. What inspired this post was a certain incident you are familiar with that recently transpired. Anyway thanks for the compliment.

This. You can actually suppress your Kundalini Awakening. What Carl here says works. I know from an experience. Got the tip from a guy who went through one years ago. But yeah if you take that psychedelic....you may have a kundalini awakening.

My bad so I am preaching to the choir. Then let us sing in unison.

If you want books that can teach you certain perspectives that will change the way you see yourself and help you I present to you some books that can give you the insight you need. Spirituality will take you further than these books but these books are foundational. Atomic Attraction: This book teaches you the paradoxical relationship between security and attraction. Its a mindfuck as a man, but the author has time tested principles. Also me and my friend have tested some of them...and well let's just say they work. They work because the psychology of this is actually what drives fads, celebrity culture, and the stock market. Attraction is illusion, but an illusion that shapes majority of human behavior. So if you want to understand the Science of Attraction give this book a read. The next book which is a Diamond in the Rough is Nice Guys and Players written by Rom Wills. This book teaches important fundamentals for the Modern Man to understand to put himself in the right perspective and path to be the best version of himself in the Dating Market. The next follow up book, is called Sexual Chemistry written by Rom Wills. The concepts in these two books needs to be studied!!! Rom is all about exuding Masculine Energy and his books will teach you how to do that. He has a Youtube Channel as well so you can check him out here. He's old school but his advice is valuable if you want to crack the code. I haven't met a Guru who knows the game better and I have listened to you don't want to know how many lol!!! Note: Rom Wills is NOT a proponent of Cold Approach. I've noticed majority of Cold Approach people tend to come from the White Dating Gurus. Nothing wrong with that. But most Black Dating Gurus are going to tell you to look for choosing signals. And Pimps....lol they ONLY look for choosing signals. So notice that....even a PIMP wouldn't cold approach. This is not to demonize it, I believe cold approach can be a good way to get out of your shell, but so is doing stand-up lol. Also I'm not advocating or encouraging being a PIMP, but nobody understands female psychology more than a PIMP....nobody. So I bring them up because of that. Ironically if you read about PIMPS guess who they learned about women from? WOMEN lol. Anyway these 3 books can give you the foundation. There is a book that is REALLY out there. It works but you need some cajones if you are going to do it, and most aren't willing to do it. Its called Mode ONE. Mode ONE is effective....its so effective...if will flip your entire view of the dating world. It is literally the secret of not having to take a woman out on a date, and have sex. But...you need EXTREME CONFIDENCE to pull it off. The book is called Mode One written by Alan Roger Curry. I've seen it in action so I know it works. It is also based on HONESTY! RAW HONESTY! Like I said in an earlier post....you guys have no idea how attractive honesty is to women....when done right. I'm not saying say everything in your mind, but I am saying, be bold enough to say something to her that would make the average man sweat and not back down because its how you REALLY FEEL. Masculinity is DIRECT! Femininity is INDIRECT. So the more DIRECT you are in communicating your desire to a woman the faster you will get results. Anyway, for me I am not interested in this stuff anymore because at the end of the day it is all ego games, I'm looking for something more profound in a relationship. But this stuff will really help you out if you still have that itch. And as always... NOTHING BEATS DIRECT EXPERIENCE. SO GO OUT THERE AND SOCIALIZE!!!

Did you read what I wrote? Your response is not compatible...

Because I don't want to brag. I'm interested in helping people. Every post I ever post is based on that. But you spent all your time debating me about my experience. If you don't like my supposed lack of experience then that's fine but here are things you don't notice. 1. The people I am pointing to have more experience than a single person on this forum. So who cares about my experience, my experience doesn't matter question the sources experience because that is who I am referencing. 2. If you trusted your discernment you wouldn't need to worry about a source, you could tell if you were being fed B.S. or not. Knowledge is based on accuracy not how many years a person has. So I don't care how much skin a person has in the game, I can sniff B.S. very well. Also notice you have been responding back and forth on this writing long texts about how everything I said must be wrong. Ask yourself....what is motivating you to write these long texts? What is stopping you from either disengaging from my posts because "I lack experience" or checking out the sources I mentioned. Ask yourself....is it productive of your time to debate my lack of experience? Notice.....and observe.

Dude, players come to me for advice and perspective and we trade perspectives. I know all the secrets. But hey believe what you will. Its not my job to convince you. I'll continue to hang with 8 and 9's when I feel like it. No sweat off my back. I'm not interested in debating this.

Read this and ask yourself which category you are in. BE BRUTALLY HONEST. Otherwise you will waste your time and experience deep pain. Deep pain however maybe what you need at this juncture but that will be something you decide for yourself. https://www.romwills.com/podcasts/how-women-really-see-men

100 percent correct. I cannot agree more with this post if I could. Leo DO A VIDEO ON THIS!! PLEASE!!! LOL!!! This entire post is the issue nice guys have. Great post!! It couldn't have been said any better!! It was also a lesson I had to learn the hard way!!!

I agree completely except for the part of it not being easy. Its easy to shift the perspective, but I would agree that embodying that perspective will be the difficult part because our fears are literally in the body, as you mentioned some could be genetic. Epigenetics might interest some as a source of study to look into. But I mostly am pushing for people to change their perspective. The embodiment can take time, but the shift in perspective is instant and all totally free will. All we have to do is drop the notion that anything outside of us validates and look to ourselves alone as validation for love. We deserve love from ourselves. The only thing we are entitled to, is love from ourselves. And we deny it, which makes me laugh. Why are we so foolish to deny from ourselves what we most crave from others. Its like having food in your possession refusing to acknowledge you have it, then looking around for others to feed you. Even worse the food you have, you generate it infinitely. So you have infinite food in your possession and look for other finite sources of food to feed you. Thanks for your comment.

The reason I don't watch his Youtube Channel is because he basically repeats himself on end. The book in my opinion is sufficient. Even his book repeats itself. Its like he thinks he needs a million examples to explain the same concept. He basically shows the paradoxical relationship between security and safety and attraction. How the reason a man is friendzone because he gives off feelings of safety and security. The bad boy triggers a woman's insecurity and that raises attraction. Its a key insight most men take years to discover. So for example if another woman is eyeballing you, your woman's jealously over that incident raises her attraction for you. The parallel you can add is just like in movies if there is no tension, no potential pitfall in the story the movie is boring. So a man who is predictable, and lives a peaceful life will bore the hell out of most women. A woman wants a man to sometimes be unpredictable, tease her, go off and do his own thing and have her wondering about him. So yeah its a good book, but my gosh this guy should be called the Pull Away guru. Everything is PULL AWAY, PULL AWAY!!! Lol!! It works though I can't argue with it!!

Nice long overview and summary of the Buddhist teaching. But while you explained what the teaching says causes suffering, you never described steps for one to stop suffering. You merely said "Buddhists must try to stop craving as much as they can in order to work to end suffering." That tells someone absolutely nothing. The most important component when discussing an issue is steps to alleviate or solve the issue. The missed the most important point. Also I personally believe suffering is a choice. I believe suffering is a perspective. Now for me pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice. I will go further than suffering just being a desire for cravings and such. I believe suffering is the focused attention on what is missing. I can have a desire and shift my focus on the present moment and my being (existence itself) and in that moment all suffering ceases. If I were to master meditation even if I was in constant pain I could shift my focus on my being and again I would cease to suffer. Suffering is just the focus on what you lack. For example being in pain and focusing on you lacking no pain. You desire to not have pain. All suffering is, is just resistance to what is. Anytime I catch me suffering I can always choose to accept the present moment and focus on my being. Its that simple. The answer to the greatest riddle is how to stop suffering? Focus on your being. That's it. The greater you can get at that, the more at peace you will be.