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I do believe everyone is entitled to respect, but don't always expect to get it. If everyone wasn't entitled to respect every society wouldn't put such an emphasis on kindness, politeness etc. Even ancient cultures taught respect for all life. So respect is our birthright, and as loving beings we shouldn't tolerate disrespect, but we shouldn't spread it either. So yeah respect is important to all relationships. If you feel someone doesn't respect you, you don't have to stick around and tolerate it.

There is....and Michael Jackson knows it....he says it all the time. Love. That's the workaround LOL. Thanks. What inspired this post was a certain incident you are familiar with that recently transpired. Anyway thanks for the compliment.

This. You can actually suppress your Kundalini Awakening. What Carl here says works. I know from an experience. Got the tip from a guy who went through one years ago. But yeah if you take that psychedelic....you may have a kundalini awakening.

My bad so I am preaching to the choir. Then let us sing in unison.

If you want books that can teach you certain perspectives that will change the way you see yourself and help you I present to you some books that can give you the insight you need. Spirituality will take you further than these books but these books are foundational. Atomic Attraction: This book teaches you the paradoxical relationship between security and attraction. Its a mindfuck as a man, but the author has time tested principles. Also me and my friend have tested some of them...and well let's just say they work. They work because the psychology of this is actually what drives fads, celebrity culture, and the stock market. Attraction is illusion, but an illusion that shapes majority of human behavior. So if you want to understand the Science of Attraction give this book a read. The next book which is a Diamond in the Rough is Nice Guys and Players written by Rom Wills. This book teaches important fundamentals for the Modern Man to understand to put himself in the right perspective and path to be the best version of himself in the Dating Market. The next follow up book, is called Sexual Chemistry written by Rom Wills. The concepts in these two books needs to be studied!!! Rom is all about exuding Masculine Energy and his books will teach you how to do that. He has a Youtube Channel as well so you can check him out here. He's old school but his advice is valuable if you want to crack the code. I haven't met a Guru who knows the game better and I have listened to you don't want to know how many lol!!! Note: Rom Wills is NOT a proponent of Cold Approach. I've noticed majority of Cold Approach people tend to come from the White Dating Gurus. Nothing wrong with that. But most Black Dating Gurus are going to tell you to look for choosing signals. And Pimps....lol they ONLY look for choosing signals. So notice that....even a PIMP wouldn't cold approach. This is not to demonize it, I believe cold approach can be a good way to get out of your shell, but so is doing stand-up lol. Also I'm not advocating or encouraging being a PIMP, but nobody understands female psychology more than a PIMP....nobody. So I bring them up because of that. Ironically if you read about PIMPS guess who they learned about women from? WOMEN lol. Anyway these 3 books can give you the foundation. There is a book that is REALLY out there. It works but you need some cajones if you are going to do it, and most aren't willing to do it. Its called Mode ONE. Mode ONE is effective....its so effective...if will flip your entire view of the dating world. It is literally the secret of not having to take a woman out on a date, and have sex. But...you need EXTREME CONFIDENCE to pull it off. The book is called Mode One written by Alan Roger Curry. I've seen it in action so I know it works. It is also based on HONESTY! RAW HONESTY! Like I said in an earlier post....you guys have no idea how attractive honesty is to women....when done right. I'm not saying say everything in your mind, but I am saying, be bold enough to say something to her that would make the average man sweat and not back down because its how you REALLY FEEL. Masculinity is DIRECT! Femininity is INDIRECT. So the more DIRECT you are in communicating your desire to a woman the faster you will get results. Anyway, for me I am not interested in this stuff anymore because at the end of the day it is all ego games, I'm looking for something more profound in a relationship. But this stuff will really help you out if you still have that itch. And as always... NOTHING BEATS DIRECT EXPERIENCE. SO GO OUT THERE AND SOCIALIZE!!!

Did you read what I wrote? Your response is not compatible...

Because I don't want to brag. I'm interested in helping people. Every post I ever post is based on that. But you spent all your time debating me about my experience. If you don't like my supposed lack of experience then that's fine but here are things you don't notice. 1. The people I am pointing to have more experience than a single person on this forum. So who cares about my experience, my experience doesn't matter question the sources experience because that is who I am referencing. 2. If you trusted your discernment you wouldn't need to worry about a source, you could tell if you were being fed B.S. or not. Knowledge is based on accuracy not how many years a person has. So I don't care how much skin a person has in the game, I can sniff B.S. very well. Also notice you have been responding back and forth on this writing long texts about how everything I said must be wrong. Ask yourself....what is motivating you to write these long texts? What is stopping you from either disengaging from my posts because "I lack experience" or checking out the sources I mentioned. Ask yourself....is it productive of your time to debate my lack of experience? Notice.....and observe.

Dude, players come to me for advice and perspective and we trade perspectives. I know all the secrets. But hey believe what you will. Its not my job to convince you. I'll continue to hang with 8 and 9's when I feel like it. No sweat off my back. I'm not interested in debating this.

Read this and ask yourself which category you are in. BE BRUTALLY HONEST. Otherwise you will waste your time and experience deep pain. Deep pain however maybe what you need at this juncture but that will be something you decide for yourself. https://www.romwills.com/podcasts/how-women-really-see-men

100 percent correct. I cannot agree more with this post if I could. Leo DO A VIDEO ON THIS!! PLEASE!!! LOL!!! This entire post is the issue nice guys have. Great post!! It couldn't have been said any better!! It was also a lesson I had to learn the hard way!!!

I agree completely except for the part of it not being easy. Its easy to shift the perspective, but I would agree that embodying that perspective will be the difficult part because our fears are literally in the body, as you mentioned some could be genetic. Epigenetics might interest some as a source of study to look into. But I mostly am pushing for people to change their perspective. The embodiment can take time, but the shift in perspective is instant and all totally free will. All we have to do is drop the notion that anything outside of us validates and look to ourselves alone as validation for love. We deserve love from ourselves. The only thing we are entitled to, is love from ourselves. And we deny it, which makes me laugh. Why are we so foolish to deny from ourselves what we most crave from others. Its like having food in your possession refusing to acknowledge you have it, then looking around for others to feed you. Even worse the food you have, you generate it infinitely. So you have infinite food in your possession and look for other finite sources of food to feed you. Thanks for your comment.

The reason I don't watch his Youtube Channel is because he basically repeats himself on end. The book in my opinion is sufficient. Even his book repeats itself. Its like he thinks he needs a million examples to explain the same concept. He basically shows the paradoxical relationship between security and safety and attraction. How the reason a man is friendzone because he gives off feelings of safety and security. The bad boy triggers a woman's insecurity and that raises attraction. Its a key insight most men take years to discover. So for example if another woman is eyeballing you, your woman's jealously over that incident raises her attraction for you. The parallel you can add is just like in movies if there is no tension, no potential pitfall in the story the movie is boring. So a man who is predictable, and lives a peaceful life will bore the hell out of most women. A woman wants a man to sometimes be unpredictable, tease her, go off and do his own thing and have her wondering about him. So yeah its a good book, but my gosh this guy should be called the Pull Away guru. Everything is PULL AWAY, PULL AWAY!!! Lol!! It works though I can't argue with it!!

Nice long overview and summary of the Buddhist teaching. But while you explained what the teaching says causes suffering, you never described steps for one to stop suffering. You merely said "Buddhists must try to stop craving as much as they can in order to work to end suffering." That tells someone absolutely nothing. The most important component when discussing an issue is steps to alleviate or solve the issue. The missed the most important point. Also I personally believe suffering is a choice. I believe suffering is a perspective. Now for me pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice. I will go further than suffering just being a desire for cravings and such. I believe suffering is the focused attention on what is missing. I can have a desire and shift my focus on the present moment and my being (existence itself) and in that moment all suffering ceases. If I were to master meditation even if I was in constant pain I could shift my focus on my being and again I would cease to suffer. Suffering is just the focus on what you lack. For example being in pain and focusing on you lacking no pain. You desire to not have pain. All suffering is, is just resistance to what is. Anytime I catch me suffering I can always choose to accept the present moment and focus on my being. Its that simple. The answer to the greatest riddle is how to stop suffering? Focus on your being. That's it. The greater you can get at that, the more at peace you will be.

Leadership isn't position its influence. Also its human nature to pedestalize someone. Throughout human history humans have worshipped everything from animals, plants, to humans, to gods they created in their folklore. So if your service....became influential enough people would follow you whether you like it or not. Lol just ask Leo. Once people believe you have something they do not (which is just projection) they will put you on a pedestal and stalk, follow, and parrot you. This is why many Gurus have to keep telling people that they are the Ultimate Authority in their lives. Why? Because secretly most people don't want that responsibility. They want the freedom to make mistakes and blame someone else. Its also why some people enter romantic relationships, so they can blame their emotional issues on their partner and claim why are X people like this? LOL So yeah man if you do too good of a job of serving they will anoint you leader.

Also that is wrong. The number one killer of attraction is ignorance. The fact that you said not knowing what to do reveals you don't know what you are talking about. The key to success in a relationship is understanding the person you are dealing with. The more you understand them the greater success you will have. You need general knowledge to understand how the game works, and specific knowledge to understand how to make the right moves. Everything in life is a game. Everything that succeeds in life is based on systems. This entire website is run on a system. Your language is a system. Your body is a system. This means when you deal with someone to have success with them you need to develop a system. The system should be fluid to incorporate changes but you need a system. Otherwise...it will fail. This is why if you talk to anyone who has been happily married for decades they can explain their SYSTEM. Have you talked to people who have been married for decades? Because what THEY do is DIFFERENT than pickup, and different than what players do. Pimps have a different system, players have a different system, and husbands who have been happily married have a different system. If you don't understand this you will just make mistakes out of ignorance that people with experience will laugh and say "I remember when I did that. Now I know better." Again the purpose of reading is to tune your perspective and improve your clarity so you can see things. Obviously direct experience is the most important but reading allows you to see things as they are. The only reason you need direct experience is for two things. 1. See what level you are at. A book cannot tell you your weaknesses direct experience will show you that. 2. And teach you hot to react on the fly a book cannot teach you that. But a book OPENS your eyes and gives you clarity and insight. Something that usually takes DECADES. You can get something in days to months that takes someone DECADES. Again do what you do. I am merely a resource.

I said 2 not one, that's my point you aren't reading to comprehend. When you see what you want to see in someone's writing you are projecting. This means you are coming into the conversation with a preconceived notion. A full cup cannot receive. Since you know so much....why are we even having this conversation? You are right, why read books. All humans should stop writing books. You should also stop watching Leo's videos as well. Notice how what you say makes no sense? Neile Degrasse Tyson said something profound once. When humanity has figured something out they stop writing books about it. Do you know how many relationship books there are out there? Do you know there are professors who are PAID to talk about Male and Female Nature. Pimps, and Players STILL learn something new everyday about relationships. Its like you don't get it. I claim GENERAL knowledge. Specific, circumstantial knowledge is never ending. It will go on into infinity. You will NEVER know anything completely. So reading books gives you MORE information to learn. Everyone's life is JUST a perspective. The more information you take in the BROADER your perspective becomes. Have you noticed that even Leo takes people's imput before he makes a video? That's broadening your perspective. But apparently reading books is BAD!!! Look man if you don't want to read the book you don't have too. You are just going to have less information. That's on you. Dating Guru write books to save you time so you don't have to relearn the crap that took them years to learn. A fool repeats his mistakes, a smart man learns from his mistakes, a wise man learns from the mistakes of others.

Breathing is love!!! Wanted to beat my man Michael Jackson from saying this first!!

True, can't argue with that.

Attracting women is literally easy. I told you I used what was in the book and had instant success. Everybody I shared the contents of said book both guy and girl agreed. You would have to read those books for yourself to understand. Atomic Attraction works. Its been field tested not just by my friend but hundreds of people The guy who wrote the book himself his entire book is based off case studies. I could go into length how attraction works but I'd rather not. I'd rather people read the book and find out for themselves. All these 3 books teach 3 different methods of raising attraction. Atomic Attraction teaches how to maintain attraction in a relationship. Rom Wills 2 books teaches how to become the best version of yourself. Rom's books I hold in the highest regard because pretty much every woman who reads it is like man he knows his stuff. Players also agree as well that his book speaks the truth. Its really a goldmine. I've consumed a lot of material but these 3 books hit the nail on the head. My friend I'm talking about actually comes to ME for advice and to bounce ideas off and he has slept with over 100 women. These women are drop dead gorgeous also. But like I said, to each their own. I'm not going to force anyone.

Lol I've had two. Got Pictures and everything, not that I'd share it with you. Don't be nosy.

Oh....so you were rapping.....

Good one!!! I personally overcome this by remembering that every action I take comes from good intentions. Along with Infinite Intelligence would never judge you, so why allow the finite version of you to do it? No offense but our finite intelligence is an idiot compared to infinite intelligence lol.

Telling someone there perspective makes you want to vomit in your mouth. Just kidding!! Ignoring the dangers of spirituality. Analysis Paralysis outside of action. One of your favorites Leo: Mistaking achievement for growth. Thinking you got everything figured out. Thinking morality is the key to aspiring to be unconditionally loving. Making promises to yourself and never keeping them. Refusing to self-reflect and instead engaging in projection. Giving your authority away and forgetting that you are the ultimate authority in your reality. Suicidal Ideation. Victim mentality. Learned Helplessness. Living Vicariously through others. Codependency. Imposter syndrome. Pedestalization of Gurus. Cyberstalking. Cyber Bullying. Poor Mental and Physical Diet. Becoming a hermit and not satisfying social desires to connect with others.

Poor guy his starting premise was flawed. He said "It is not simply that what we think happens. We have to choose which thoughts to ACT upon." Choice is a thought. LOL!!!! Poor guy!!! Oh well he will learn one day!!

Your skepticism will stop you from some vital information. I literally got the answer to majority of the questions I had. The reason I did all that research was before I entered spirituality. I wanted answers to things in life so I studied things that didn't make sense. My advice is not IQ based. Literally everything I talk about deals with the emotional. What do you think shadow work is? Dealing with the emotion. What do you think telling a man to integrate with the feminine. The feminine is the feelings aspect of a man. It is his ability to do regular checkups on his emotional health, and be aware of the emotional health of his partner as well. You can't IQ that you have to actually do it. Its something I have already integrated. I'm not perfect but I am totally aware when I am being too logical around a female and have a mental switch where I can be present in the moment. Also I have experience, the two women I mentioned I dated them for over a year. So I have the experience. I told you the techniques work. So then you will ask so why didn't aren't you still with them? The girl is not interested in spirituality. All she wants to do is drink wine, go on trips, and watch low ego movies and gossip. I want something deeper. Also she stole from me more than once. So yeah that relationship was not going to work out. Do you know how rare it is to find a partner who is interested in raising their consciousness? Its not impossible but it is rare. Also I found out what I needed, and I scratched the itch I had. So I no longer desire to pursue a romantic relationship but I understand what makes them work. The majority of the relationships fail because their is lack of accountability between either one or both partners. Accountability is the life blood of all relationships. And when it comes to relationships you need to know how to negotiate. People don't do that and they wonder why it fails. This isn't IQ anything it is tried and true principles that all healthy relationships have. But if you want to run from the advice I have its fine. Whoever can take value from what I have to offer can and who doesn't see it thats fine too.