Toby

Almost everyone has this. It's not personal.

Do you have a website that is optimized for search engines regarding your practise as a psychologist? That would be the first thing I would do.

I never admired Eckhart Tolle for his attractiveness though.

Be happy that you never get approached. This means you also don't get approached by men that you don't want to approach you. It's really hard to say anything without knowing how you look and what vibe you have because that is most important for getting approached. I would try online dating if I were you.

@PureExp Totally agree. From my own experience I would keep things as simple as possible. For me I was thinking that these energetic symptoms were wrong and everything should be fine and I made the "mistake" to treat it with even more spiritual practice or energy work. Looking back I would do things as simple as possible and not overdo things but still follow what resonates. I attended one retreat where the teacher recommended to someone (with some energetic symptoms and overwhelment) to skip the meditation sessions and go instead into nature/the woods and hug trees (this is no joke and the teacher is a really popular one on this forum).

That's actually true. I didn't read most of it. No interest in it.

You could also take a "tantric" approach. "Fap" and be present with it (without porn or fantasies). You might enjoy it or loose the taste of it. Going into fantasies only fuels the addiction imo.

If you break it down meditation is surrender and not sitting or breathing or concentrating in the right way. It's just surrender to what is.

So, did I understand it correctly that you never even met him as he lives not in close distance?

@Prabhaker The "problem" is, that there can be phases where this is not appropiate. I don't know the exact situation but if there are strong energetic symptoms it would be wise not to shake or open up more energy. It could demand more simplicity and maybe even less or no practice (meditation, yoga...) at all. @NutellaTC could you be a bit more specific on the symptoms and on your background (where did it start, what kind of practices did or do you do...)

Do you want to share opinions or do you want affirmation in your view points?

I'm not interested in arguments, I can only share my point of view. For me, the question "where does this thought come from? Where does it go to?" made a lot of difference. If such a question does not resonate with you, it's ok.

Once you see where thoughts arise in and also go to, there is no need for speculation. You could argue that thoughts are triggered by emotions or sensations, but then again is the question where do sensations, emotions or the body arise in and subside to?

Is he in a state of depression and motivated by this? Or is he really fine and just is fine with transitioning?

There are many different point of views on this. One is this:

I don't know everyone who uses "life purpose" in his/her work, but more often than not it is used like this (I don't know Leo's course or view point on this though): hey, do you feel unfulfilled? That's because you are not living your dreams and your purpose. You just have to follow your passion and as a byproduct you will make good money with it. You might not have found work that really fulfills you, but trust me, it's out there, just follow your dreams. The problem is there might be things that are more aligned to what a specific person is, but the false assumption (aka ego-trap) is that something (external) can fulfill you (and anything that doesn't completely is wrong and not the "life purpose"). It seems very strong even in relatively conscious people. Maybe it's because in the past people were their job and that's still part of the human psyche. Edit: for me this whole life purpose thing was very very strong, maybe even till 3-5 years into my spiritual path. It certainly has been a trap for me in several ways.

"Life purpose" is imo one of the biggest ego-traps in "new age". To answer the question: both equally "important".

Of course they are. Everyone's nature is real love and that love peaks through no matter what the conditions are again and again from time to time, even if you are not enlightened. Living as an embodiment of love however only goes hand in hand with enlightenment imo.

You could have a look at developmental lines in Ken Wilber's model. There might be people that are highly developed intellectually but very "low" spiritually or even morally, e.g. politicians, leaders of certain companies and so on. It is also possible to be very "high" spiritually but very "low" on an emotional or relational level. Happens also frequently because a lot of people start their journey as an escape in certain domains.

Enlightenment = meditation 24/7

Imagine either one of these two scenarios: 1) You are terminally ill of cancer and are about to die in weeks to months. 2) Someone or some group has caught you and is going to kill you in the next hours or days. What would you do if you find yourself in both or one of these scenarios?

The only women I am not open to date are muslim women that have a fundamentalistic family and would threaten to kill me or her. And I also would not date a woman that has criminal friends which is also a "culture". Other than that I am ok with different "races" or "cultures". I only dated one girl so far that was of a different "race" (black), it didn't work out well, but it had nothing to do with "race".

I would see that "spiritual" states or experiences as just a natural coming and going of "highs" and "lows". The buddhist have this image of the wheel of samsara. Sometimes you are up, sometimes down, I would investigate more on what does not change or investigate who or what had the experience, because that is not defined by states or experiences.

That he wants to destroy the world (made up by the mind) that people live in and deliver them into the truth?