Hi all,
Sorry this is a long message,
So I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months. I recently graduated from university and now I am going to move to Mongolia for work purpose (I got a scholarship from a company and it is my obligation to work for them now for four years). So, I had told my boyfriend that I was leaving (we currently live in Australia) a few months ago and gave him some time to think whether he would want to commit to a long distance relationship. A few days ago, we spontaneously fell into discussion of what's gonna happen when i leave. He said four years is too long to make it LDR (even though i told him i would come visit him every three months) and that people change very quickly over time. I agree with what he said but I was hoping he would try at least. I know that mongolia is not a convenient place to move to unless you are offered a very good job. So I couldn't ask him to move with me as I want him to have a bright future. So my ego kicked in, and I said we should stop seeing each other now (even though I had taken a month and half holidays to spend time with him before I leave).
Do you think If he really saw me as future wife or something, would he have given it a try at least? I feel like I am punishing him and myself now by making the decision to not see each other so immediately. I am aware that I made such decision functioning on my ego mechanism, to see how he would react to it and know my self worth etc. He was crying but he didn't persuade to me to keep seeing him until I actually leave. Can I be vulnerable now and just tell him how I feel about this and that I prefer to spend time with him until i leave even though we are not committing to the future? or would that be a big no-no? Should I just bear the pain and walk forward?
Would truly appreciate your advice and opinions,
thank you
