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100% agree. Destiny did not suddenly change. Melina admits that it's just like that from the very beginning. That her that changed and realized that she may not be comfortable with that way of living. He was very open from the beginning about how important the freedom is to him. And secondly, yes you can change any time in your life and then make your relationship contracts invalid. You always evolve (especially on a spiritual journey and actualization journey) and also of course there will be hurt. No need to call anyone self centered, it is the matter of priorities. Melina is self centered about her need to have peace in life. Destiny is self centered about having freedom and crazyness in his life. No one is wrong.

Well yes. And he is stuck in either: 1. changing the way that he wants to live life for the sake of relationship 2. living the life that he wants and loosing the relationship That is the reality of relationships, people change and their priorities change. Him changing the way that he lives is not more right than Melina just accepting him for who he is. He communicates his boundaries, and they can just break up. No need to dramatize over it. No need to say who "should" change. You deciding that him dialing it down by 20% is more right and easier than her changing and accepting the "crazy" is arbitrary. No need to point who is guilty. There is no guilt. Okay, and the same way Melina constantly wanting him to change and demanding it from him is probably hurting him as well. He obviously cares, and I don't think he ever communicated that he does not. He cares but the freedom in his life may be more important and he has a right to make that choice.

Destiny's approach to relationships is extreme, but I actually respect it that he is setting his boundary with Melina so clearly. It's just so simple and honest: "I am going to live my life in this way, it is really important to me, and if that is too much for you then you are free to leave". Most people see it as cold and manipulative but it is actually the opposite. He clearly says that crazyness in important for him. What would be egoistical and manipulative would be to say that he is going to turn it down a little bit but still continue to do that. I respect him for stating that so clearly even though he knows it probably hurts Melina.

In my journey sceptical atheism was certainly much higher than dogmstical religion. In my case it was: Religion -> agnostism -> atheism -> spirituality -> God So you can't really generalize like that. I am sure there are muslims with higher state than some nondual trachers. It depends on each case.

@Leo Gura did you play Witcher 3?

@Leo Gura In that state of Insanity: - was Love and Beauty obviously there as fundamental properties of Consciousness? - was your perception of "Other" still seen as just figment of your imagination? - was there some understanding of ability to change your body with Consciousness (like you tried to heal the body in the past)? - on some non-linear scale - what state felt higher in Consciousness - the quirky mouse or the Insanity?

Do kriya yoga, 1 hour daily for one year.

There was a video posted in the "Freaks of Nature Mega-thread" of children with rare sickness that made them feel no pain at all. The parents were literally crying saying that they would give everything to make their children feel pain. Think about that. A loving parent would give EVERYTHING to make his own child that he loves FEEL PAIN. One girl literally scraped her eye out with her fingers.

I scrolled through last day with and put "Leo Gura"/"actualized" in ctrl +f and there was nothing. Maybe they deleted it

In what way do you think he would disagree with it? I don't think so.

I think the only real option is to just vibrate. Smile after taking the deep breath. Let them intuitively feel your high frequency. No words will do justice.

Just wanted to share my notes. God is always here. He is closer than I think, right by my arm always ready to guide me and show me That this show is inteligently guided. It is not only inteligently designed like perfect marble machine and let go. It is actively designed each second anew. He is me, and he plays this double game with me, always guiding towards him and always deceiving himself/me that he is the ego inside the illusion. God wants you to expand. Each moment is trully divine and God is giving clues every time if I am open to listen. It is actively managed each second. Play this game with God/Me to show myself how powerful I am willing to become. THE POINT OF THIS GAME IS TO MAKE GOD PROUD. YOU WILL MAKE GOD PROUD.

Memento Mori.

If you start to be a master of yourself and be happy just by yourself, and you will let go of the idea that you need a relationship to be happy -> then natural intelligence will come. Your lack/neediness covers your natural intuition. When you are fully self-sufficient it is much easier to spot little red/green flags.

Self. It's like saying: "Hypothetically, if God not God..."

"I'm well beyond no self says the separate self ?" says the self that has no way of knowing other-self's experience.

I totally agree. I am just trying to reconcile "our" terminology with terminology of @axiom and @RMQualtrough as I believe we try to point out the same. They could say analogically to your sentence that I quoted: "My whole point is that reality does not exist apart from appearing. Why? Because appearing IS reality." And I say: "hey guys, I think that the best word for appearing is actually "I" and we say the same!"

Dear @Ramu I am not sure what I wrote that made you think of me as in materialist paradigm. I am genuinely curious. But we can both be happy that it is not the case. I had lots of experiences on psychedelics and I totally agree that reality is a dream dreamed by Me/I/God.

Great part of the video. Answers are obvious really but always comforting to hear them in a concise way. Reassuring. Thank you.

Do you mind sharing what some of those investments were? I am curious.

Chronic fatigue may be caused by over-consumption of caffeine and sometimes is alleviated by simply quitting it.

I don't really understand how do you even put them in one question. I don't see any similarity other than wakefulness and ability to focus. Modafinil is just like purer form of coffee, makes you focus, whereas lsd make your thinking much more inteligent and abstract and non-linear.

Maybe I am naively optimistic but I still believe we try to point to the same insight. I think you and @axiom based on your interactions with people - that did not have solid understanding of reality and still had a lot of ego left - you see the word "I" differently than lets say me and @Breakingthewall. Based on the teachers we were listening to and the people we interacted with we may have the same insights in different words. For you "I" can be the sign of someone still clinging to the ego and for me it may be the word for the pureness of appearing. I will try to reconciliate that with the following. You say: "It is as possible for the "direct experience" of I to cease to exist as it is for red to cease to exist. Red ceases to exist blue appears. Nobody finds this odd. I cease to exist blue appears. Suddenly nobody can comprehend it. That it happens identically." Believing that you have profound insight I assume that the feeling of that realization you point to is the same as the feeling that I point to with "only I is". So I would have to conclude that "appears" is the same as "I" for me. Then I have to use "I" as verb. And it is exactly the direct experience. When I really focus into the redness, so much that whole ego is forgotten about and there exists only redness, no time, no space. Then I would argue that better sentence than " redness appears" is just " redness I " or even just "I". Only "I" is left, but it just so happens that this "I" is redness at that time thanks to focus. Analogically you could say that "redness appears" can be purified into " APPEARING" or just "Redness". And I really think what you mean by pure "APPEARING" is what I call " I ". And you are right that many folks still hold ego there in the "I" so then they are deluding themselves, but please open to the possibility that someone just maybe can say "I" and have no ego at all in a certain moment.