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For how long did you use it in total? Did it help at all withe your baseline emotional/mental state, trauma work, or energetic blockages?

Why do you not use it anymore

My posts should be pretty easy to cognise for a logical wizard such as yourself

You didnt read or understand anything I wrote. Where did I say there are no patterns in behaviour?

You guys are so deluded lol. Most men are not sleeping with young petite supermodel girls, and plenty of guys are still having sex or in long term relationships. Also that all women are emotional and men are logical is a total myth thats been disproven again and again in modern development psychology. I have tons of male friends who are 0 logical, and plenty of female friends are hyper logical. People here are just interested in perputating their anecdotal nonsense then they are on actually understanding the reality

No, your post actually supports my point. Perhaps there was a misunderstanding. Let me clarify: I'm referring to the difference between a small subset of specific traits that are universally attractive (generic attraction) and a diverse set of traits that are only attractive to particular individuals (specific attraction). This is why most women tend to be attracted to the top 20% of men who possess these widely desirable traits, and the same concept applies to male attraction. This pattern isn't unique—it's consistent with the types of distributions we observe in many systems Notice that many counterarguments take the form of saying, 'While I am somewhat attracted to the generic traits, they don't necessarily supercede the specific traits I also find attractive.' This actually reinforces my point: there are universally appealing traits that many people value, while we all also find our unqiue individualized traits compelling

Most women or men, will be attracted to the top 20% of their preferred gender within stereotypical biological/sruvival attraction categories for either sex. So most women on avergae will be attracted to the well known, tall, good looking, confident, rich charismatic man Most men on average will be attracted to the cute, smoking hot, attractive, stereotypicall femine females All this is saying is there are a small set of traits that are broadly attractive to most humans of opposite sex. And that there are a broad set of traits that are more specific in their attractiveness to the opposite sex

I am friends with hundreds of men, but what exactly do you mean by groudned insights, how does this follow anything I have written. What Leo was saying is pretty much all men will be attracted to msot of the 20% of women. This is not saying there is 0 attraction within the other 80%, just it becomes more varied and personal. Attraction is a spectrum too, so all of these discrete categories to me are ultimately pointless. Like I said to emerald, all this heurisitcs are ultimately meaningless when it comes to the individual. Life is about you, your preferences, your attractions , and what you want

Why wouldnt it be obviously true? The main issue is conflating attraction with pair bonding. You do not need to be the most attractive mate of either sex to have a fulfilling romantic partnership, you simply need to be attractive enough to some of the opposite sex to enable the pair bonding mechanisms

I would say Im near the top percentile in this regard

You are not understanding what I am saying. Let me try to be more clear: Your whole gender dynamic perspective is totally flawed. This rhetoric of women are x and men are y is incorrect and is a false dichotomy Humans in general have preferences and criteria that are unique to the individual. But all humans are comrpomising to some degrees some of the time with all relaitonships. I cant see how you are struggling to see this. Whatever generalised anecdotes you can make are not helpful and are ultimately not useful to anyone. They tell you nothing about yourself or any individual that is interesitng or meaningful. Even within your biological paradigm, all studies are showing that women still have selection criteria: hypergamy, so the rhetoric that women are natural and organically selecting partners is no more true then saying so for men. Both sexes have unconcious selection criteria derived mainly from survival instincts but this criteria is mutable as most modern studies are showing. This means the only thing you can say is: women or men have tended to in the past chose partners based on x according to yz studies. But the reasons for any choice are complex, unknown, hypothetical, and seemingly mutable to varying to degrees in modern emergent trends. However when factoring in levels of psychological development, surival security, individual differences/preferences, whilst controlling for societal conditioning and influence, the spectrum is hugely diverse

This is so deeply flawed and closed minded its pitiful humans are thinking like this in the 21st centure. Do not let Emerland corrupt you If you seriously think 'all women are emotional, all men are logical' you are so deeply conditoned and full of stereotypical thinking, you have many years of healing ahead of you. Heres some of the issues you and Emerald are facing: Overgenerazing and stereotyping based on gender Essentialism - reducing men and women down to fundementally different qualities, which counters most modern research. And misses the complexity of what influences, men wome, stereotype and cultural conditioning False dichotomy of emotions and logic, as though theyre mutual exclsuive Ignorance to the impact of social conditioning effect your views Ignorance to gender diversity and the wide spectrum of personalities that make up male and females Fallacious thinking -> false attribution as percieved correlation as causation Ignorance of modern research -> most modern reasearch shows women can excel in areas of logic, science, STEM etc etc. And men can posses high degrees of empathy. All the traits are prevelant across genders, they are mainly gender agnostic The thinking and attitudes displayed in this thread are archaic and ultimately constrcuted from bias and ignorance

No it has nothing to do with logic. Attraction simply isnt a choice. Its just that most partners are having more depth then surface level attraction qualities when it comes to long term partner choices. Gender is a false dichotmy here too, both sexes equally comprimise on surface level attraction mechanisms vs long term relationship compatability. Most men are not dating supermodels for example Your view is incredibly myopic and archaic in my opinion. Its rife with arbitrary gender dynamcis and fallacious thinking You speak in broad general gender categories that are highly innaccurate, and you arent seemingly aware of the heuristical errors implicit in your paradigm. Both sexes i.e. humans in general are making complex and unique choices based on their situation, personality, value profile etc in partners for long term relationships that supercede initial and surface level attraction. You are totally ignorant to the subconcious compromises both sexes are making within the romantic and sexual field. I would urge you to reconsider your prevalant and ultimately flawed binary dichotomies and sweeping gender heuristics when it comes to sexuality. Becoming more open minded in this regard will allow you to see more nuance, complexity, diversity and ultimately an accurate depiction of reality

I disagree with this. Women may end up dating or being in romantic partnerships with people equally matched, but this isnt attraction. Most people from both sexes arent with their most attractive spouse. This becuase the factors considered for long term partnership are much more comprehensive then mere attraction

Got it. Have you not been sexually active in 5 years? I guess my main point is; you dont need to repress sexuality to not engage in sex. As you say, its perfectly fine to having sexual urges, thoguhts without acting on thdm or repressing them. Its also perfectly normal to define healthy and unhealthy sexual expressions to me

But how are you rationalising your desire to fuck lots of men when you are married, isnt this a form of repression too?

Its so wierd, after all my trips and experiences I still have never experience any of this femine and masculine stuff everyone goes on about. I feel like I am missing out on the party, I dont resonate to any of it whatsoever, feels like a total false dichotomy to me, maybe I need to try ayuasca

10/10 summary skills

Okay I will take responsbility for the fear, the shame and low self-esteem is all yours though

Untruth? What is untrue about the statement we barely speak? Do you think we speak alot or consistently? this is another delusion

Thats a great start. You shouldnt hide from your fears. Attack your fears, shame, low self esteem, and heal. One day you can join the conversaitons free from the trauma lens, and you can contribute some value. I look forward to this. I wish you well on your journey

Yes exactly, most of the people here - 80-90+% are circle jerking each other, correct. I am not harrassing you, we barely even speak. I open a thread, I see someone post utter nonsense, I am free to participate in the conversation It just happens that you post alot of nonsense in the threads I open. And seemingly you are claiming no one else is calling you out on this. Thats a shame

Yes thats why I used the word trite my friend. The fact you feel the need to even say this or type it out, shows the deep degeneration of your psycho-emotional-intellect, and further screams how traumatixed you are. The OP and every other member of the forum are well aware of all this type of double standards. It has nothing to do with the OP and thread

Precisely, no one else can be bothered to call you out on this nonsense, and I am doing it to you for free, with no reward. This is giving you some grace my dear. I said promiscous as you have stated your a sex worker, so I inferred you are seeing multiple men in a sexual context, which is what promiscuity is.

Becuase her post has nothing to do with the OPs original intent. She basically interjected with her own personal issues. She does this constantly, its wierd and needs to be called out. She is a traumatised sex worker, patrolling the dating section, projecting her personal gripes, traumas and issues into places it isnt conducive. All she has to do it is own this and then she can heal. Your position is that this is fine and normal, as she isnt explicitly offending anyone. I am not saying she is. She is however imposing all of her own gripes and trauma informed issue into posts, without acknowledging it. This is dishonesty. Her first post is literally isolating one point out of the OPs post and then responding with trite of how women who are sexual promiscous (her) are basically looked down upon and shamed (her trauma), and how men who sleep with lots of women are praised (her gripe). Great contribution.