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@jakee thank you!

Hi Vlad, I've been struggling with sexual addiction all my life. This in combination with the fear of rejection might be a sign for you to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. They can help you give practical tricks and advice on how to control your addiction. They can also follow up on your healing process and how you deal with the advice, what works and what doesn't. I've been going to a psychologists for almost two years now and I am 9 months clean Also when you stop watching porn, women you encounter in your daily life will definetely attract you again. Your brain is just used to the distorted images of pornography and only links arousal/attraction to that type of body type, let's say. I wish you all the luck in the world, it is time to take full responsibility!

Hi All! I recently watched Leo's episode on the 9 Stages of Ego Development and just started reading the paper for a deeper insight. It is so fascinating. In the mini-series, Leo told me a useful thing about this theory is that you can pinpoint self help literature in a stage and consequently find out what books would serve you better. The point is of course to read literature that would be categorized one or two stages above your 'central stage'. So my question to you, does anyone know any good literature that would fit in the Strategist / Autonomous Stage (5) ?

@Preety_India Dear Ms. India, thanks so much for the reply! It was about a girl had actually just met and see saw my messages on whatsapp and then just did not reply for a two days or something, and she ended up not talking about what I said. But we are still talking now and good friends. I think I was triggered because it reminded me of a previous girl I was in love with and who ignored me alot. The new girl was just busy, the old girl is someone who is indeed not worth my attention. I agree with what you say, you just have to find out what type of person they are and if they are genuinely interested in you! I learned my lesson and I am learning to let go, sometimes people are just dealing with some tasks and goals etc. Warm regards, Sijs

Hi everyone! Does anyone has some advice for when you are being ignored by a friend or partner? I feel I have difficulty dealing with this and often take it personally, especially when I am attracted to the person or have care on a deeper level. I think the best way is to just let it go, but I feel often it really triggers me. Anyone that can help me with this and share experiences? Much love, Newbie Jongsijs

Of course they can be friends! As a man, I feel I can learn so much from women and I really love female energy in my life, not necessarily on a sexual level. I feel often women are way more emotionally developed than men. Read, often, not always Finally, I believe it is the responsibility of the person realizing he or she is getting more attracted to communicate this in a respectful way and then see what the other person wants. If I personally would be too attracted, some distance may be necessary, when the other person does not want to intensify the relationship. That's life.