Truth

KISS is like a perfect exemplar of Orange.

Extreme Blue vs Orange

Well, that's just people that you just don't really connect with. It happens, we all grow up different, have different tastes etc. and it's awesome when you find someone who understands you, but that can be rare, but it's also what makes it so awesome when you have someone like that in your life. That's just life, just get out there and start making more friends and find that person (not dependent on them.) and have something awesome with them. This is all the inner work that Leo teaches. Self reflecting, life purpose, getting your life on track, direction, knowing your values, knowing what you want, knowing what you don't want, understanding yourself, understanding people, truth, understanding happiness, what fear is, what your insecurities are and why they're there etc. Yes, you don't need anyone. I never said live completely alone. You connect and engage with other people cause you enjoy it. Not because you need it. Just like you eating cake. You don't need the cake. You ENJOY the cake. On the other hand if you need people's help financially or dependent on your parents then that's understandable, you can work your way out of that to improve your independency. You reep the BENEFITS of being in a relationship with people. you don't NEED the relationship like you need to take a shit or you need to eat. That would be like trying to turn your shit into more fuel. or like trying to eat to fill yourself up so you never starve again. It's not gonna work. Enjoy the relationships, enjoy the cake, don't need the cake or be dependent on the cake trying to fill yourself up so you never starve again. it's never gonna work.

Yeah man, going green is tough, even if you're courageous enough to be open with all your insecurities, fears etc. it still comes off as you being kind of a vag. You're basically saying "Here's all my problems and emotions. What do you think?" and girls don't really wanna hear or deal with that, they already have their own problems and insecurities, and in fact (if you're playing the male gender role) then it's your job to be able to handle her emotions and take care of her the best that you can. Not vice versa and this can kill the relationship.

The book itself won't if that's what you mean lol. That book is only going to TELL you how to dependent fully on yourself and be fully happy with yourself instead of being dependent on other people. To actually not be needy will require practice with actual partners/relationships/dating scenarios.

With friendships, this shouldn't be a big deal. if you want to hang out with your homies or even a girl that is your friend, no big deal. they're probably just busy, just keep making that effort in a detached way. If you have a girl that is your friend, there's a chance she probably feels like she's leading you on and can feel guilty about that especially if you guys never really had a talk that you're just friends, so be mindful of that. If you start ignoring a little as you said "trying less with her." then that's her making an effort to keep you around because 1 she either likes you for a potential boyfriend, or 2 she really doesn't want to lose you as a friend. I think what you're calling "connect" is really neediness, because if it was just a "connection" then it wouldn't be a big deal, you're unplugged, you're okay, you're plugged in, you're okay. but if all of a sudden you find yourself not wanting to unplug after you've plugged in or haven't been plugged in for a while and really just need that connection again, then you can guarantee that you're needy and they can feel that, which means your insecure, which means you depend on them, which means that you can't be happy without them, putting all this pressure onto them to keep you happy, and when they can't or don't make that effort it leaves you feeling like shit and dissatisfied. I think you should really look at what you call "connection", because it's I'm pretty sure that it's 100% neediness, and as Leo and all the great teachers teach, is that your dependency on anything other than yourself for your happiness will toxify your life and could toxify the lives of other people.

No prob. But yeah, then just drop it, she's with you now, focus on building something awesome with her instead. Make her feel good and better about being in a relationship with you. Not worse. If you're stuck on her past I can guarantee you'll make her feel worse, and you'll feel worse, and everything will just fall apart.

If you're just dating and you haven't made her your girlfriend yet then your jealousy/insecurity (with being with other guys) will ultimately kill the relationship you currently have. If she's your girlfriend and you guys are dating monogamously, then who the fuck cares? She's with you now. Not that other guy anymore.

there's no way this can happen if you don't have pretty solid social skills and are really internally grounded. awesome to see though.

stage Green seeing the limits and toxicity of Orange

Stage Blue triggered by Red/Orange

...Care to elaborate? Or are you just gonna play the role of the bullshit guy?

lol and you think waving your intellectual dick around is any better? I'm never laughing at people, we're talking right now, you can't talk to somone who doesn't listen.

Thanks for making me realize how pointless talking with you is

@Joseph Maynor @Faceless You guys are arguing over your own definitions, meanings and interpretations, just stop. Stop replying, and challenge yourself to not "help" each other because it's not gonna work.

Yes. Your perception of ego is immaculate.

well, you can "make" a cake or you can "let" the cake make itself. but, you can make whatever distinctions you want as long as they're helping you and you're not just doing mental masturbation. heres some other distinctions that contrast what you're pointing at. Low Consciousness Vs. High Consciousness Lies Vs. Truth Lower Self Vs. Higher Self Resistence Vs. Acceptance/Integration (of the present moment) Fear Vs. True Confidence Impulsive/Reactive Vs. Being Conscious Dogma Over Understanding & Scope Status Quo/Comfort Vs. Growth Easy Vs. Emotional Labor Stagnation Vs. Perseverance Dependecy Vs. Independency Blaming/Projection Vs. Self Reflection Victim Vs. Hero Incompetence Vs. Competence Fighter Vs. Creator

I don't understand how much one can benefit from creating journals and journals re-posting Leo's videos saying "I appreciate this video" lol

Multiple Perspectives & Unique Perspectives A Form of Practicing Humor A Form of Practicing Self Expression Sharing & Helping Practicing Explicating Feedback That's about it for me. @Joseph Maynor is the only person here who I just can't understand and it kind of bugs me lol.

whatever happen to the idea of "sticks and stones may brake my bones but words will never hurt me."? I'm sorry that they still hurt you But in all honesty, assume I'm this ungrounded, uncompassionate, low-conscious, unloving person who doesn't know how to talk to others. If you actually looked at what I was pointing at you'd see that I was saying people aren't taking their lives seriously and would rather create an echo chamber instead actually doing the work, self reflecting and not distracting themselves with threads like these. (no offense to @Ether <3) My language is so strong for you because I actually care that people not distract themselves and I like to cut through all the BS. I think it's important people be harsh with themselves with compassion as to recognize when something is not working or not going to work and especially when they're wasting their time doing pointless crap, and I guess you've shown me I need to work on my compassionate part of my language, so thank you. I'd rather people looking at my text and seeing the message I'm trying to bring instead of projecting their dogma's onto me.

I was being facetious. if you're not putting in the work, then what the fuck is anyone here doing? lol To me thats obvious, and all I see this thread turning into is a giant circle jerk.

psshhh.. no its all about his incredible shine and that mustache for me.