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It really is, but also I haven't really been looking... When Leo first mentioned psychedelics I just realized eh, they'll come, I'll find someone who has them or something eventually.. Never happened (well, there was a chance I had with a girl I was seeing but in the end it just felt sketchy as fuck, sketchy ass sellers.) So, I'm really taking it completely into my own hands and really going for it now. @Leo Gura I know I'm 150% ready to jump into psychedelics. I feel I've set a really good foundation with all the meditation and contemplation I've already been doing the past 3 years. It's just over the past year or so I've sort of desensitized myself to the value and growth I can get from psychedelics after not getting any, knowing I'm on the slow path, knowing there's a quicker path I'm not on (that everyone else is on) and me playing the victim.

Thanks for your reply! I deeply look forward to explicating my experiences on psychedelics. Thanks for the tips and vote of confidence @Space already did

ahhh yes, I have the book on audible and the comic love it.

Talk about confusing the map for another map It's a movie, I think you'd enjoy it, I don't want to give anything away but lets just say he's a force of nature, a strategic mother fucker and he's literally too smart for his own good.

Yep, you've got it, you've realized past is just a tool for your survival and ego, and it's your

although I'd disagree here, choosing can imply limitations and fragmentation, but it also piggybacks on ones strengths and weaknesses. Also it doesn't necessarily mean fear/confusion, it could merely point to doing what someone is competent at doing and what someone is incompetent at doing, yes it can lean to contradiction, conflict and perpetual suffering, but that's just the nature of strengths and weaknesses. Obviously the ultimate goal is to be competent at everything, and that will take years and decades.

Probably your new favorite hero https://youtu.be/uW6HbZXI9Y0

@Krishna Siva is there a reason you shouldn't be having an "i" thought or a "me" thought? Is this really a problem?

Both. They both merge like delicious soup of priority and growth.

@Faceless mmm, you sound like V at the beginning of v for vendetta

I got into my first serious relationship at 22, overall? the most I've grown in my life, the sex was amazing, the understanding of her and understanding of me and relationships as a whole was incredibly insightful, the relationship collapsed because of my neediness, definitely a healthier form of neediness I've seen people be in, but regardless, we broke up and the relationship got 100,000x better, the sex was better, the detachment was better, everything was better. Ultimately ended because I moved, but my point is --> Getting into a relationship is not really about what you can get or even what you can give (well, kind of about that), but it's mostly about just experiencing it all and making the most of it. All the bullshit, lying and cheating, manipulation, having all that shit happen to you and still leaving her better than you found her or still willing to care for them, hug them, talk to them, this is one of the greatest things I've learned from being in a relationship. You can still come out on top of that and take those hard won lessons and everyone can still be happy. That's what life is about, it's about growth, experience, truth, especially in the beginning, experiencing a good relationship is something I think we all should experience, I remember crying because I was so happy at one point, I'm telling you, you have to experience a relationship!

The map is not the territory. Why can't self improvement be what you consider to be "self destruction"? --> Sounds like carving your own path to me. This is the core of self improvement right here. Ego death as a way of life, that's what entails becoming the best version of yourself. The hero's journey in a nutshell. of course, not focused on materialism or success but on your spiritual journey. Yes. this is also what self improvement entails. Overall --> In the end you're still doing this all for pleasure, it depends on your quality of pleasure and how much that shit will come back and bite you in the ass. if you're aware that it will bite you in the ass would you still do it? maybe, that's the freedom of choice and the freedom of your existence. Do whatever you want, 5,000 years from now no one is going to give a fuck, that's even if humans are still existing.

Is now happening? how about 2 seconds ago? create a distinction between now and 2 seconds ago and you tell me the difference.

Affirmations are helpful if you know how to use them, affirmations will help you step into this new state of being (independent of the good or bad opinions of others) There's actually a process for you to actually be completely independent to the opinions of others. - Challenge your old paradigm/ways of thinking (noticing how you're NOT independent to the opinion of others) - Accept your new state of being, you've accepted that this is already who you are. (constantly reminding yourself with affirmations, this is where affirmations really do their magic, constantly waking yourself up out of your old ways of thinking, but it's still just manifesting, you have to go through the next processes to make it solid.) - then you proclaim it, tell people this is who you are, tell yourself this is who you are (if it still feels like a lie then continue to challenging it and accepting it) - Then you get feedback (this is where the obstacles from others and from yourself really comes in, you start building evidence and proof for yourself and others, if it doesn't feel true yet it will, because this is who you already are. ) - Keep doing this until it feels like it's just a fact, until it feels just true, and it's not even a big deal anymore, you can say " I'm independent to the opinion of others" or "I don't really care what people think of me." and that will feel true deep down. that's when you know it's working, no more evidence, no more proof, it's just a simple fact and no big deal anymore.

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It's a belief that success = happiness, and being stuck in that like a hamster in a wheel without realizing you don't need success to be happy.

this do anything for you?

did you realize you didn't exist? or did someone tell you so?

Always put your problems/challenges in the past tense and get comfortable doing that.

I've taken 3 tests from different types of frameworks/adjudications people have created, Myers Briggs, Personality Hacker and Josh Pellicer's Hacking Yourself Seminar. INFP INTP ENFP So it appears I'm definitely a perceiver, and definitely an intuitive, and I combine thinking/feeling and more introverted but slightly extroverted. Gaging my weaknesses is very clear now, ESTJ is clearly my weakness. I'm curious about the extroverts, Sensors (Present Moment Big Picture Understanding) and the judger types. So I got questions for ESJ types. @Empty @WildeChilde @Argue @Driven @MonikaBcn @Robert @QandC or anyone else that has E,S or J in their type and these are all excluding non duality, I'm looking for which world you're more in. Extroverts --> Which is more real for you? the inner world? or the outer? Sensor's --> Is being present what's most important to you? or having big picture understanding? Judgers --> do you feel more free in your internal world? or external?

I appreciate you teaching chimps calculus, it's changed my entire perspective on life. As for the guy's post, Just the fact that someone is denying anything should tell you that they don't take into consideration the whole or maybe open themselves up to the idea that maybe there's something bigger than themselves or their thinking going on here.

love you for posting this, made my day lol, love that movie, haven't seen it in a while

Yep, that's conscious incompetence at work. And that's unconscious incompetence, mindfulness is the best strategy for sure. Conscious competence feels like total control, it feels like Confidence, it feels like Steez. Unconscious competence feels like second nature, or doing it first try.

Probably one of the best strategies that I've found that help me get it consistent and help it get easier and easier and becomes just really fun to do is creating a routine. For example, every time I'd come to the skate park I'd do my usual tricks, but I'd also do a routine --> Melon grab over a spine, front side ollie on a vert ramp and nollie inward heelflip over a hip bank. (these were all right after each other) This routine was so fun for me to do, and it always allowed me to switch things up. Obviously do what's within your skill range but it's the same basic principle. Find a routine, get consistent with that routine and take it to the next level when you feel conscious competent. Forget conscious incompetence, that's the "Ugh! I suck!" mentality which has NO use for you other than taking the lessons (there's nothing more painful that the feeling of hitting your head against a wall or being stuck on a plateau). Your unconscious incompetence are the things you're messing up but not sure why yet, and your unconscious competence are the things that are already a habit (staying stuck in the routine and not moving to the next level) "We are what we repeatedly do, excellence then is not an act, but a habit."

That's good to hear because you're gonna fail a lot lol. What tricks do you know? are you more vert? or flatland type stuff? I think you'll like this dude, he has a ton of video's showing the process. Of course the tricks he's trying are a lot more technical but it's the same basic gist as far as the big picture goes