patricknotstar

Entitled, narcissistic, sociopaths exist in all genders. How they choose to enact their revenge is different. With men, it is more violent outbursts with women it is false accusations, defamation, emotional manipulation. Doesn't mean one gender is inherently worse, it means bad people exist in both but just use different mechanisms... You are trying to make it seem one-sided. If you scroll through my profile you'll find I'll argue with a lot of guys in this forum section who try to villainize women. They also speak in the same polarizing and angry manner, so don't think I'm taking sides...

Well it is nice that you offer to dance; nobody is deserving of less respect and compassion regardless of age, looks, gender, ethnicity etc. Now whether you decide to pursue a relationship or not is up to you

bars are a nice middle ground because people come there intending to socialize more so than a grocery store but yeah there's potential anywhere

This is exactly how toxic incels talk as well "women are entitled, women have unrealistic standards." Just coming from the other end. *Sorry puporing I don't know how your post got caught up in this reply and I can't figure out how to edit it out.

That's a very polarizing statement. How people take rejection is individual, Not a gender thing

not heard, what I've observed

indian, punjabi more specifically

I don't think men are more altruistic than women. I've never seen a guy date and seriously commit to a girl out of pity any more than I've seen a girl do it. Unless you think having sex with a woman for one night is a favor because to a woman it is definitely not. Women don't view sex the same way as men they want commitment. Example no guy has ever felt "used for sex" it just doesn't happen "bro she just wants to sleep with me and give me bj's but she won't commit" ; but many women have felt this way. Men and women value different things

thanks bro , going to try and go out again soon

The general synopsis of the video seems to be that by indulging in your lower desires such as sex , validation, money etc one can move onto higher desires as the need for these are exhausted and eventually self actualization. My question is what if one can't meet these lower needs , for example let's say hypothetically one simply cannot get sex due to circumstances out of their control. Would this make burning through karma a lot more difficult if not near impossible in this lifetime? I remeber a quote by Osho saying "you cannot teach a hungry man about spirituality , all that he knows is he is hungry." If one is in this situation is there best bet the next life , will they die just trying to meet their base needs?

Honestly the reason I'm here is not because I want to know the true nature of existence or achieve God consciousness. I just want to lessen my suffering. The majority of my life has been spent in severe depression and suffering because this material world has not given me what I want as a biological human (love belonging needs, certain defiency needs) along with having a chronic pain condition for 3 years. The reason I watch Leo's videos and scour through posts here is not in the pursuit of truth or to understand consciousness , but simply because I think it'll give me the tools to escape my suffering, but if someone said "take the redpill and you will attain enlightenment" or "take the bluepill and you stay in the material paradigm but you will get everything you want (ie, my desired status, how I'd like my appearance to be, etc..) I would take the bluepill. I genuinely believe though if I was in a more comfortable place in life and not still struggling to meet my survival and basic emotional needs I would then begin to care for understanding actualization for the sake of truth and not for survival oriented motives that benefit my ego.

Thanks for your detailed response. I will definetly look into his older videos ?

relapsed on what , gambling addiction?

so you think the person reading this post and typing this response (me) doesn't exist because I feel quite alive, and if everyone from your pov is just avatars what enticed you to make this post , who are you trying to convince if you're the only conscious being in existence why write all this when the only one reading it is you?

I understand that our sense of identity is transient and fragile , that our lense of perception can change. For example I look at myself in the mirror right now and I recognize it as me , as a human, with this given life story but if I take salvia I may look in the mirror and have no idea what that thing is , no concept of what a human is and so forth. in actuality nothing has changed , it's the same shapes , sounds , colours being brought into awareness but the lense of perception, the identification of those forms has changed. I understand this through direct experience (salvia) , however this is not satisfactory to me, because if I lose my current sense of self , even if the awareness continues , this identity will die. I as I am right now will die and never come back. To me this feels like dying forever, I don't want to die as I am now and come back with the consciousness of a frog or whatever. Or am I looking at this completely wrong due to my limited level of consciousness. Is it possible after death to still remeber this sense of self I was.

Women also select on looks but no one addresses that here , probably because it's easier on the ego to believe what women are attracted to it based in behaviour and not genetics, because the man believes he can replicate those attractive behaviour traits , but attractive genetic traits such as height , facial bone structure etc are not in his control

if sex is so unimportant why do you partake in it. Seems patronizing to tell someone something is trivial when you yourself can't abstain from it. Practice what you preach

yes , people need attention to survive. Whether it's negative or positive, the worst thing to feel is that you're being ignored.

I would answer that question but I'm sure you would deny my rationalization due to your limited perspective as to many people sex is something as innate as having access to water , they will deny it could be any other way for someone else and will instead put it on the individuals own shortcomings and not something that could be out of their control. Anyhow I'm more interested in the "or you could just stop caring" do you think it is possible through conscious work to overcome such a deep rooted desire as sex and sexual intimacy , something Maslow has put next to food , water and shelter. That's intriguing , how could one go about eliminating this desire to reduce their suffering.

depends on your life

If I'm in a dream it controls me but once I go lucid I can control my dream environment. The cost is knowing none of it is real, so I have complete freedom with my imagination being the only limit , infinite pleasure but the burden of knowing none of it is real . Seems analogous to awakening , atleast from my conceptual understanding of it as i'm not actually enlightened. Just a thought I had as someone who lucid dreams a lot (4-5 times a week) side note: Tbh lucid dreaming isn't infinite pleasure because when I get to the good stuff my heart rate jacks up and I usually wake up , sigh

I DESIRE , BUT I CANNOT MATERIALIZE ALL MY DESIRE SO I SUFFER. I TELL MYSELF IF I CAN STOP DESIRING ALTOGRTHER MY SUFFERING WILL END, BUT TO NOT DESIRE IS OF ITSELF A DESIRE. THE DESIRER IS THE DESIRE, TO CEASE TO DESIRE WOULD BE TO CEASE TO EXTIST AS A CONSCIOUS SELF. THESE IDEAS OF LIBERATION FROM DESIRE ARE ONLY PROJECTIONS OF THE DESIRER, TO SIT UNDER A TREE IN NIRVANA, ETERNAL BLISS STILL HOLDS THE PRESUMPTION THERE IS A SELF THERE TO EXPERIENCE THAT BLISS BUT THERES NO ONE. THERE IS NO WAY OUT THAT INCLUDES ME COMING OUT ALIVE. Ofcourse this is just how I feel currently with my limited level of consciousness but people who've done more work than me can you explain the flaw in my thinking because I can't seem to solve this riddle. I know to some it might seem silly

my personal sense of self is going to dissapear? well that doesn't sound very nice. That sounds like dying

thanks Leo , this reminds me of a quote by J cole "they tell me this shit ain't as good as it seems , but tell me till you get it how could know." Hopefully one day I'm able to live out my desires and then see if they bring me fulfilment , right now I think they would bring me completion and happiness but if they don't, well that would be quite a trip.

never used any technique just something I've been able to do as a kid and they've started increasing in frequency as I've gotten older. Used to be just once a month at one point.