patricknotstar

I have a theory that less physically attractive women are much more bitter and rude towards men due to commonly being used by guys. It seems when guys see an unnatractive girl they see a quick lay but not someone they'd make there gf so they play them and eventually these girls feel every guy is like this and develop a defensive and resentful attitude towards men. Ofcourse this is just a generalization and not always the case. Just my anecdotal experience. Also ofcourse nobody has control over there appearance so how we treat ppl should never be dependant on how they look or whether we find them attractive or not. I am always respectful and kind to everyone, but this is just an observation of mine.

I went on a date with a girl. I didn't find her physically attractive in person, as the date went on I found out she had many personality traits that aligned with me, she was smart , interesting, had similar interests, both academics , great conversationalist. However none of these things made me attracted to her. Within the first 0.01 seconds of seeing her I had already decided I wouldn't be pursuing this girl. Now I ask, do women do the same thing? Guys here talk about game and all this, but if someone hasn't found you attractive in those first 0.01 seconds , is game and being confident really going to change any of that? For me it surely didn't.

Went on a 2nd date and she was very cold. I was confused because if you agree to meet someone again I'd assume there's some attraction but it was just very awkward. No kiss, lay or anything. It was just in my car, could it be my fault for not taking her somewhere nice or was she just looking for attention and never into me? For the date we basically drove around in my car and had a beer. Looking back I should've asked her if she wanted to something to eat but idk I assume if someone's interested enough they won't care then at the end we parked and I kinda wanted to get laid but she was closed off so I didn't pursue and just dropped her back off at her place. This is the 4th date I've been on in my life, before this I would just sleep with random older women I was too insecure to approach a girl my age , so Im kinda awkward and nervous. I'd like a gf tbh, I had one girl show heavy interest she was down for everything but I didn't find her attractive so I didn't pursue anything as I think that is cruel to lead someone on.

I don't get nervous if Im on a date with a girl in my league but what about when you ever so often get someone ridiculously attractive. How do you not fumble knowing this girl has way more options than me and always asking myself why she decided to talk to me etc.. What could I possibly offer her that 100 other guys cant? How do you work around these thoughts and still act confident around those 10's

they want everything , but prioritize different things and will compromise. Some women can't compromise looks , some can't compromise money etc ..

Tbh I've never cared how much money a girl makes , how deep our conversations are , how intelligent she is, her career, extrovertedness, social circle. Really my only criteria is beauty and being nice. I see these rappers that are so ugly but get all these girls and I always wonder how they have sex with these guys , yes they're famous but when ur in bed alone how do you make out with a dude that hideous . For example most men would never sleep with an unattractive woman just because she's famous. Can status literally change how women see a man physically , almost like an alcohol effect. Or do they still find the guy physically unnatractive but like the status. Like for example Charles Bukowski was a genius and great man but he was awful to look at , yet he had all these beautiful women when he was famous and before when he was unknown he had none. But if a woman were to get famous I don't think men would wanna hang out with her and sleep with her if she's ugly , the same way if a woman is broke and dumb if she's hot men will still chase her.

i think when a guy is genuinely interested in you and that feelings mutual it quickly escalates to a relationship , otherwise they just want convenient sex . Just my opinion from personal experience and being guy

She does show very heavy interest she is always asking me when I can come see her and all the things we can do and if I can come sooner. She tells me i'm the most interesting guy she met and how hot I am and she doesn't talk to anyone else

I met a girl while visiting some family across the country. She is perfect, strikingly beautiful , kind etc... We hit it off and have been texting , calling , heart emojis and all. However I get anxious that she'll move on, It will still be another few months before I can go meet her again. Is this a frugal attempt, to expect someone who you only met for a few days to wait for you. Is there a way I can stay in touch without seeming desperate. Like is texting everyday too much. I really like her a lot. Like a lot a lot. One time we were texting and she said "stop showing me affection I might run away, jk" I don't know what that means. But yes it seems tough to maintain a relationship with someone were you can't escalate physically and neither have you known eachother for a very long time in person for example like if you were dating previously.

straight men and women need each others energy and touch , but yeah I don't think it has to be mutually exclusive

It is very easy to villianize someone because that way you don't have to empathize with them, and to empathize can be painful. To feel someone's suffering, it is much easier to paint a negative image. A good example is incels. By definition all an incel means is to be "INvoluntarily CELibate." Many men are incel not because they are inherently bad people , or hate women but simply because of neurodivergent disorders or their appearance. Sex is ultimately the exchange of DNA and women do select men based on genetic indicators of fitness , I'm sorry but if you think only men can be superficial and care about appearances you're severely misguided. It's not even superficial but just evolutionary instinct, sexual selection keeps the gene pool healthier and females of most species are the selectors. ( example Bonobos) Now i'm not saying you have to a model or millionaire to get a girlfriend, but there is definitely a threshold men must meet to enter the dating market and have any chance and some men simply don't meet it. It doesn't matter how kind , intelligent or interesting they are , simply due to circumstances out of their control they will never have much success with women. This is a reality it's not fair , brain cancer isn't fair , dwarfism isn't fair etc... So not all incels are bad people , some are good people who were just dealt a bad hand. The same way many men who have great success with women and dating can be horrible people.

I know the title is silly but I can't explain this so help me out. Everytime I've had a dream where I have to pee (non lucid ones) I am stopped by a dream force. It has been men tackling me or blocking the bathroom, opening a restroom and there's no bathroom in the dream world, people coming in the way to stop me in all sorts of ways. As a kid I peed in my dream and peed myself in person and since then I have these dream guardians making sure this doesn;t happen again. HOWEVER the absurdity is I'm dreaming I have no conscious awareness that peeing in my dream will wet the bed , yet somehow some part of me knows this is the case and I can't wrap my head around. How can I know and not know something at the same time. I know this might seem silly but I'm genuinely curious how this is possible, when I'm not even conscious of the fact I'm dreaming. At the time I think its real life and I'm frusturated they won't let me use the bathroom, but who the heck is "they" if its not me.

I've found with cold approach you have the best success when you approach off an indicator of interest. When girls like you like in a club they will hold eye contact or you will look at eachother look away, then make eye contact again. It's like women signal for you to approach them implicitly. Whereas if you just go up to a random girl who didn't give you an ioi even after seeing you then it hardly ever works. So should we only approach girls who give an ioi? I went to a club for the first time a few days ago. I just kept staring at every girl and they'd look away except for two , I went up and closed , even got a lay from one later that night. Then I tried approaching one who didn't give me an ioi and got rejected. p.s Leo your getting laid series inspired me to go out for the first time, I was shocked when those girls gave me their numbers and insta. It was my first time in a club and it really opened up my worldview , I still think looks matter, but not to the extent I used to think. I saw guys pulling who if they ever went on a forum would get told "It's over for you, don't even try you're too short or ugly or ethnic" and there they were making out. So thankyou for that series I think it is really helping out a lot of guys, I was getting cold footed I didn't wanna go out alone but then I remembered you said "just be social" and the night went great.

It seems status is very powerful in attracting women but how can one go about maximizing their social status. By status I mean more local status like being popular in your community not becoming a rockstar or famous actor. Should you work on your insta, use higher quality pics? Throw parties ?

Why isn't it that when I go lucid all that changes is a shift in my consciousness but the dream continues , instead I unlock the ability to manifest whatever I want into my dreamscape.

this is everyone though, Osho used his status for women, Eckart Tolle profits off his books , Sadhguru has a youtube channel and lives comfortably. Can't escape survival. Ofcourse Leo cares about his business and is pragmatic but that doesn't detract from the value he provides.

It seems for a guy the friend zone is when a girl won't have sex with you whereas for a girl it's when a guy only uses you for sex and doesn't want to commit to you. For example, as a guy, the friendzone is usually a female friend you're interested in where she will use your reliability, masculine energy, attention, etc but it never gets intimate. For a girl, it's when she's interested in a guy but becomes a "booty call' where he doesn't want her as a girfriend but will call her up for sex and she goes along with it in the hopes one day he will get serious and develop the same feelings. Has this been accurate in your experience. Edit: the whole purpose of my original post was to show women can struggle a lot with relationships too and feel frustrated and lonely because incels always tell me " well women can always get laid", but I know girls who struggle in dating that get used by guys and who feel like no one wants to commit to them. They exist and I know a few personally, and I deeply sympathize with them. I don't deny their struggle to find a partner that is patronizing "oh you're a woman you have it easy. " Just not true and I've seen women struggle first hand. It's just what they struggle with that's different, for men its usually sex and for women, its usually commitment but the struggle is ever so real. So we should be more sympathetic towards each other and not make it seem one has it easier and their problems aren't valid. That was the purpose of my post, however, this whole thread has degraded...

this is honestly not a troll post , idk why no one took it seriously. I am genuinely curious wouldn't you be. How can I be unconscious and conscious of something at the same time?

now I just need to figure out how to become conscious enough to manifest sexy supermodels

the whole purpose of my original post was to show women can struggle a lot with relationships too and feel frustrated and lonely because incels always tell me " well women can always get laid", but I know girls who struggle in dating that get used by guys and who feel like no one wants to commit to them. They exist and I know a few personally, and I deeply sympathize with them. I don't deny their struggle to find a partner that is patronizing "oh you're a woman you have it easy. " Just not true and I've seen women struggle first hand. It's just what they struggle with that's different, for men its usually sex and for women, its usually commitment but the struggle is ever so real. So we should be more sympathetic towards each other and not make it seem one has it easier That was the purpose of my post, however, this whole thread has degraded...

yes but bitterness and entitlement isn't male-exclusive... Heck even animals show these qualities. You ever seen the monkey jealously expirement? Check it out. We all need to evolve more. Regardless of gender,race,looks etc... So why try to call out a specific group? Here's an example, women test higher statistically for emotional jealousy than men (proven) . That doesn't mean we should draw broad stroke generalizations that women are more jealous than men... because they aren't it is much more nuanced.

keep approaching

Yes, they should have the same rights to marriage. I think the reason for suffering mental health among the LGBT community is largely a product of ostracization from society. It is classic causation vs correlation, if you are treated poorly and given fewer rights due to your sexual orientation you are more likely to suffer from mental health, it is not that suffering from mental health leads to it. Just my opinion of course.

If I say for example that a particular ethnic group is involved in more violent crimes than another and proceed to describe them as bitter and entitled and explain that my people aren't like this. You don't see something wrong with that... It's the same thing you're doing , disguise it behind whatever context you like. It creates nothing but tension between people... Why does it have to be "men need to learn to be more respectful, because us women already are" Why not just say us as humans in general need to be more respectful and considerate towards eachother. You see what I mean?

"I never said that one gender is inherently worse."... true you didn't say those exact words, instead you just wrote multiple paragraphs explaining why it is the case. Own your words and ideas.