Optimized Life

It's not black and white. There's more to life than just improving yourself or being lost in thinking. Socialization is 1 of the best ways to improve yourself, and to at least be happy and enjoy life as a shared connected intimate experience vs being a creepy introvert. Meditation you can do for 10 - 30 minutes per day & get benefit from, I'm not gonna spend my life in solitude go fuck whoever if you promote that crap. You can learn think grow plan ect... via discussion. This whole talk is a waste of time & not a priority. It's a biased idea, biased to strong introverts like Leo. I would never trade places with Leo, I have zero envy of him & his life, I don't want his life so fuck this place anyway. He is valuable in specific segments but I wouldn't take life advice from him or most people, I decide how I live my life it's unique to everyone, hence WHY THESE DISCUSSIONS ARE FUCKING STUPID & I HATE MOST OF SELF HELP LOOL. This forum just sucks 90% of the time I've got to admit, so much waffling nonsense.

1 of the dumbest things he's said yet, socializing engages the brain & lack of it makes you dumb in practical life just like not learning to count, read or write or hear would dampen your competence in navigating life. Maybe all Joe Brogans Diet Pollution weed or whisky use rotted his mind not socializing. He is an extroverted guy, of course he likes to socialize just like a straight man likes vagina lol this is absurd nonsense.

Amen on this one, wish I realized this sooner. ^^^

Looool "He asked for my phone number" ohhh wow boohoo. Talk about 1st world western woman problems. "Constantly on the defence", so fucking dramatic. I saw a 1 foot midget recently, she smiled at me but I felt too awkward & walked past. She had a normal even attractive face but disproportionately 1 foot body, I'm sure she'd have craved for normal human life & connection, maybe this stupid woman could stop complaining and appreciate her existence as an attractive healthy western human and drop her undeserved victim complex. I must admit though, asking str8 for the number just from a smile is autistic level game but ironically what that guy needs is lots of approaches & coaching to become the smooth guy women want, he's just confused about social interactions yet this low IQ bitch has to suddenly go into a victim complex & post it on social media for attention ... hunny these guys just needs to learn social skills, we don't need to fabricate a gender war

Retarded posts like these highlight everything wrong with this community. Just be spiritual & have a dating life too, maybe gtfo the internet for a bit.

Wrong Wrong biased answer. Local high street is obviously a bad idea but that's what big cities are for. There's 8/9 billion people, this "red flag" shit is meaningless unless you're a local loony. Girls aren't always more receptive on a night out, they can actually be more receptive in the day, in a night out they're often busy with their friends & the day is less dangerous than the night. Many guys don't want to drink alcohol, sleep 5 Hours, waste cash & spend an hour queuing to some venue, just so they can approach the scraps that 20 other guys competing for. Confidently approaching a woman in the day makes her day, it's not a red flag. If it is a red flag then you don't want that girl anyway. My take is maybe you're being too puss to try do Day game on your own, so then you project that onto charasmatic men who embrace unconventional challenges. Deleted final sentence as it was petty and unnecessary.

Of all the people you could mention, you had to go with this guy lool ... And what is it with this pattern of finding cringe meme cliché youtubers just to put Leo down lol. "This guy is so much better than Leo ect.." I think Leo's how to get laid series was excellent. However, social circle game is a legit thing but Hamza is the last person I'd go looking for advice on it, the gold is usually hidden within people with less subscribers or that you meet in real life, Hamza is just a fucking meme.

That paragraph is fucking overcomplicated & badly written, got bored really fast. Being a creep is not esoteric thing attributed to some complex multivariate equation. It's a pretty simple & obvious thing once you observe it within yourself & others.

World's huge place, careful generalizing from small sample sizes ... your intuition could be right, but you'd have to travel a lot to know, maybe it's the opposite ratio in some places. Also continent/country/city, weather, music genre, culture, ticket/entry system, club's marketing/club promoters/bouncers attitudes & process, prices & many random unpredictable variables.

Thanks but do you have page links? I can't find them

They do that stuff in local Mediterranean & south America. It's more about culture & grandiosity than class, great staff great atmosphere, the social stimulation & vibe u get is well worth the insulin spike. There's 1 restaurant I'll never forget in particular. But ye, I wish I was a man of class already, unfortunately I'm not yet, I'll take the compliment.

You're completely misconstruing and misdirecting my lingo here. When I said occasionally enjoying life in that way I was envisioning u go to a nice resteruant with your friends and they have a special kind of ice cream sundae with artistic presentation & fire and all this and you drink a little, it's a fun celebratory or relaxatory stimilus, and an occasional thing that isn't exactly some lunchtime street corner daily event that u do out of convenience. What I wasn't advocating was just going to some creepy MacDonald's packed with people and stressed out underpaid workers, that's a soulless treat. Use your imagination a little. * P.S ; I do eat at MacDonald's occasionally lol but it's not what I'm advocating as enjoying life.

Health is mostly a distraction focus on mental health first, it's wayy more related to your life, mind, thoughts, environment, psychology, guilt, lying and bad energy ect.. You are right though ... The compromising of ones authenticity & values to fit with others is what's truly unhealthy, that alone is poisonous and very dark. Any health work is fucking pointless if you don't work on those above which I'm still working on. I've tried being a perfect health nut without working on the mental/social/spiritual side and I still felt like I was in total hell. Mental health environment and social life , always comes first and is 80% of health. Who cares if you die at 70 if you had a healthy mind and happy life. I'm not saying I plan to eat tasty food or junk or get fat ... but it might happen, I don't know I can't predict the future. But I'll ensure with all my heart that I fix the mental stuff, how I relate to others, guilt, lying, compromising, bad environments, bad energy, addiction to negative moods. I'll put 95% of my focus on that, hence I start to wonder if gym is just a distraction these days, all my time really should go into the mental and energetic stuff Also, I didn't even read your paragraph but I agree with the spirit of the question, not with all foods though, but certainly alcohol... People that NEVER drink anything ever are really weird to me, it's not bad if done with moderation and timing, especially if you actually workout and have good mental health, you can still drink and be extremely healthy and get some fun/relaxation out of it ... maybe you'll lose some health points by like 0.3%, but living a boring life is pointless anyway. I drink gin sometimes. Note I'm saying SOMETIMES, like way way less than normal people in society do it, and doing it in a calculated way like finish drinking several hours before sleep, with water and socially like 1/2 times a week ... NEVER EVER Eating an ice cream doesnt fit me , you can't just frame everything as about "craving it", it's about appreciating the experience, the taste and the art of the cooking ... Maybe they used some crazy fire techniques and you see all the cream dripping out and it's all aesthetic and super tasty and you appreciate it with your friends, you tip the waiter handsomely laugh smile, go home have a drink or 2, get it out your system . Why not have these experiences sometimes?

I didn't read your post because I don't have the energy to do it. I believe negative emotions are higher than no emotions, or lethargy. Depression has power > energy can be converted, but not created. Sometimes pain so deep can lead to something beautiful. I think deep depression or frustration is very close on a spectrum to determination, or courage. Maybe I just spewing some nonsense thou, I'm sleep deficient.

There's 2 angles to think about this & maybe you would benefit from no,2 more . (I prefer approach 2) Some sort of mindfulness, attitude or personality shift (which you're pointing to) Focus on improving yourself, set goals and get to action .... your insecurity, hatred and jealousy of other's success might wither away ... I've experienced this phenomena myself ... Instead of thinking my way out of jealousy for others, I just start doing shit with my life & it withers away. In fact ... when u build momentum that jealousy you have for other successful people, it turns into inspiration, you start to enjoy watching people win, you get energy from each other. Another aspect is this ... Be so busy & productive that you don't even have time for jealousy. It's easy to get jealous & crazy when you're sitting around on a forum all day ... I've experienced this myself. Be proactive.

That's embarrassing. You probably had a high paying job / lot of savings as well. 33% if you knew about it from 2 years ago is laughable. Should've made at least 1000%.

If you want to learn or get encouragement about either investing or trading, DON'T go to this forum for advice, lool. You can make a lot of money doing either, investing is the recommended strategy for 95% of people. Most people on this forum have a grandpa boomer attitude to investing and it's embarrassing. As long as you have self control, patience and are good with research, you should be at least doubling your money every year just from investing alone ... But you must focus on generating an income for yourself first. Get good at both, income generation and investing. If you make 50K/year, then you can make 100K + per year easily from investing, a 2X these days is not some crazy casino thing it's actually very moderate, so I have no idea what these grandpas are saying here about "just ensure you beat inflation" lool. Here's some ideas for you for investing : Crypto (very smart idea when the market is crashed, this is when you buy, when the fear index is as high as possible) Stocks (Not my favourite, but if you do good research ... just look at the TESLA chart over the last decade) Oil, Gold, Silver ect... Doesn't take much research to know when to buy these, either buy in the right season, or hold a long time view, look at how much oil has gone up this year, this is pretty predictable if you 1. Look at world events or 2. Learn to read the chart (Not very hard at all, very basic) Companies related to where the future is headed (5 - 10 Years) >> Tech, VR, AR, Self driving vehicles, DEFI ... If you invest in well researched/established companies in these sectors, It's hard to put to words on how much an X gain you could get back, consider how much society will change in 5 or 10 years & these companies will be generating Billions and trillions.

About 95% of men including myself are not at the stage yet where we can be picky with anything other than looks. Like Leo said, "you gotta settle for something". I'll never settle for looks (< 7/10) but I'm not going around with a checklist, not at my current stage or SMV ... I'm sure Leo DiCaprio has a tight checklist. If he's fucking a 8 then I want to emulate something he's doing. Ultimately, He's a funny ass guy, and we all need some genuinely funny guys who don't give a f*** in our lives. All these serious "High conscious" people, and all the serious vampire normies flooding society, it just drains me of energy. I respect people of charisma because that in itself is valuable and uplifting.

I can 100% intuit what you are saying from some past experiences. Long Tangent (Past Experience of this energy) : There was one time where (after a long dry spell) I was travelling and I had 2 dates at the same time (They weren't actually that attractive & now would be below my standards, but crucially I just felt like a player at the time) . I was riding along this E scooter on a hot day, and my body language & aura just felt like a man of value ... As I was riding, this genuinely hot girl (like 2X hotter than the girls I was dating) was walking opposite (some distance away on the pavement) ... and I noticed her looked over me at least 3 or 4 times, except it wasn't a normal look, hard to put into words, but a combination of intense intrigue, sexual attraction ... It was like I I had this giant magnetic field around my body or "energy body" ... Unfortunately I didn't have the genuine confidence, mindset, boldness or approach habit so I didn't approach and kept riding. I think due to this I lost that state as I started to realize I missed an oppurtunity & pussied out. 2. How can this be achieved ... Especially around "scary hot" women, or people who seem higher value, are smarter more successful ect.. I'm assuming there's no quick fix, probably a mix of solutions right? 3. Also, How do you constantly maintain this energy after harsh or constant rejections, some bad interactions or a horrible night out? @JonasVE12

Too overcomplicated, it's just too much for me. Yes tags are such gem that I've overlooked. I "used tags" but in a messy way basically ruining the point of them with my old journal. This time I will decide to internalize a tag system in my mind and lay it out, spend hours just thinking about this 1 thing. this is like the most important feature tbh. What do you mean by that? Like section groups? or ..

I feel like looking for "More books" on the topic is just avoiding time spent applying the concept. Leo Explained it pretty well. But it's gotta be a muscle that you build I reckon, so far I only understand it via massive experience of doing the inverse (Rigidity) , and then tracing the consequences of that and how it made me stuck ... of course Watching leos blog and seeing summary notes of it, helped me gain this awareness. My next step is to actually apply the concept more and get a taste of the results. "How could I use more requisite variety in my life?" >> Let your mind fill in the blanks. Or : "In what ways am I being rigid/repetitive in my life?" "What alternatives am I overlooking?" "How is my paradigm/lens/outlook on my problem limiting me?" It seems like a concept which only has meaning when applied to your unique problem and circumstances.

Take the good, leave the bad ... Andrew Tate is the type of guy I need when I'm feeling demotivated, complaining about my life or doing minimum wage jobs. He has such a strong internal locus of control and self - discipline, he's probably barely read a self help book but he gained that through discipline since a young age. He is enjoying himself and he has many of the things I want : Discipline, charisma, money, freedom, masculinity ... He escaped the matrix. However, I wouldn't carelessly recommend him because young impressionable guys who can't think for themselves might blindly internalise and agree with everything he says ... which would be a bad thing. Like 60-70% of His view on politics, and family are wrong. About 50 - 70% of his attitude on women are completely wrong and toxic. Having said that, I'm not judging the guy, I'll just learn what I need from him ... Take the good, leave the bad. The funny thing about Andrew Tate is ... It would be wrong to cancel culture or completely dismiss this guy, he's got something going, he as leader qualities, he's funny he's charasmatic. I also resonate highly with his perspective on escaping the matrix, getting multiple passports, becoming your own man ect... He's clearly a leader and helping others escape that want it, it's shame he also has so many stupid ideas though ... If he just a bit more self awareness he could at least let the clearly toxic parts of himself die out ... and he'd just be all raw value. Yet ideology stubbornly persists and much of his mental energy is consumed by that nature of him.

Remove Coffee from that sentence. Coffee ages your skin. Coffee makes you sweaty and dehydrated. Coffee ruins sleep, increases cortisol, reduces creativity. It's time we all stop promoting coffee in the self help world. Huge social matrix trap. Trying to quit myself ... my life will improve dramatically.

Only YOU can decide what's a waste of time ... Not Leo, Mr guru, Tony Robins, Obama, Trump ... your mum, best friend. Real self help is just ... obtaining what YOU want right? Can it really be anything else? We all want different things, we're all different.