Optimized Life

To add insult to injury, they barely measure that either.

I made a Comittment to this journey to only include the cream of the crop but also to only post content and not journal or reflect* I just wanted to make a quick point to myself and brake the rule for this one time : I should probably remove 2/3 of the videos posted on here : Alex hermosis and some others. It's as much about what you don't include as what you do. I remember Leo's point in his scammer video "Make your default NO & be hesitant to say yes, (assume they're full of shit until they show otherwise). It's the same with 99.5% of self help content, movies and everything else. Most people's work sucks, most of it is total garbage and will harm you if anything. The majority of self help content is meaningless platitudes, ideology, self promotion, clickbait & unhinged positivity. Very hesitant to give out praise, but when I do I mean it. Even for Leo, since like 2012 a huge number of his videos are useless and just a waste of time, he wasted a lot of my time when I was lost listening to his boring repetitive & irrelevant bullshit, but his good stuff makes up for it I suppose, because at his best he is valuable, but never have I been a leo fanboy, I don't think he's the "best out there" or some sort of genius, he's highly Americanised & culturally blinded, speaks 1 language, doesn't work out, gone crazy multiple times from drug use, maybe a bit socially retarded. But it doesn't matter, just focus on the quality where it's found and apply it ... of course. The problem I have with Alex Hermosi, and I regret even posting him on here, when he posts a video like "reciprocity is a useful concept according to this mainstream book" like. Bro this is fucking common sense, you work this out by interacting with the world, there's zero need for your childish book on this subject you fucking nerd, with your fucking 3/10 girlfriend who has a horse voice. Tom Beuleyeyeiyue, DON'T GET ME STARTED ON THIS DEADBEAT! This guy is the king of meat grinder self improvement he has debased positivity, he just churns out video after video for the sake of continuous attention and I guarantee you like basically no one has benefited from listening to his crap. His personality is so annoying and boring af as well, objectively the most annoying nerd on the internet after Tai Lopez Leo used to be a lot worse at this in the past and you had to scroll through to find what's relevant but at least nowadays each video has a clear title and a purpose and structure, and the actualized clips is even more fitted for this. There's this twisted idea like from Owen cook that somehow long form content is objectively better than shorter (and while at the extremes like with tiktok memes yes this makes sense) but other than that there is zero reason a 2 hour video is objectively better than a 5 minute one. For someone as rambling as Owen Cook he should make his videos much shorter as he just waffles about 80% of the time, he just looks like a crazy mofo to me majority of the time and 5% of the time is pretty insightful, he's completely and rediculously out of touch with the overwhelming majority of humanity and is lost in this arrogant tai lopez bubble of American 8 figure life coaches, literally laughs at a "$200K salary" as if that's pathetic he is so out of touch has spent majority of his life in his hollywood LA bubble and wants this aura of being so open minded, and loves to play the spirituality wave, I don't see him as someone who's deeply intelligent and questions himself and his ideas but merely talks and talks endlessly, massive red flag there. He also shows zero proof of his receipts with HOT women. Well maybe he's got game? Because at least he's not like David Deangelo or Mark manso, "dating coaches" who settles with a 4/10, it's a complete joke. Never do I like to focus on others or bully others for their personal choices, but these guys are DATING COACHES, THEY MADE MILLIONS FROM IT, so fuck those guys for real full of shit not inspiring I don't want to listen to you anymore all of that work for an ugly fucking wife it's disgusting. doesn't mean never useful not all empty calories, his deluded level of positivity and individualism can be motivating and is much better than the fatalists (Blackpillers, negative ideologists like hasanbi who think everything's scam ... he's an energy vampire). Using "Nerd" I dont not mock curious or ambitious people; I personally love ideas and everything but from my pov a nerd does not equal an intelligent person, a self help nerd is someone like Tom belyeilrye, endlessly pumping out useless content sucking dicks of the endless positivity gods and fingers his areshole to a Tony Robbins painting while his wife is getting pounded by Tai lopez next door ** ANOTHER POINT OWEN COOK When I speak or write, I am highly aware that I am much less concize than I could be. everything can always be trimmed further and further and this is just a skill that develops if you have that intention. This is no trivial matter, this skill is fucking important and if I was better at this skill this whole post could be a third of the words and have more impact. People's time is valuable, and at least Leo makes the effort to hone this skill; you can see now that he talks far more cogently than in the past, his words flow it's like a perfectly minimalist rhythmic dance. Owen cook claims himself as this "ultimate public speaker" but I guarantee you he fucking never analyses his speeches and thinks through his words, in this way he wastes people's time by making a 2H video that could've been 1H and had more impact, less is more. Like I said I am not the most structure writer or talker but I am aware of it, and I make an effort to improve, just intuitively intrinsicly motivated to do this and always intuitively noticed the importance of this froml ike 16 years old, and I'm not even getting paid for this shit, it's just annnoying when people are sloppy and slow with their words. It's such simple concept but always noone works on this core communication ability, because people are fucking stupid and would rather just keep talking endlessly and broadcasting their loudmouths to the internet and say the same shit over and over, also humming and hawing like when a lecturer or someone who' now 50 or 60 still has the habit of "ummm awww erhhh" I'm like BRO, HOW DID YOU NOT CORRECT THAT IN YOUR LONG EXISTENCE, IT'S SUCH A SIMPLE HABIT MEDIOCRITY EWWW DIGUSTING. EW "Introspection" : Getting lost in my head and not taking action, now time for action and practicality, THIS MAKES ME HAPPY, Physical and practical work, doing stuff being useful, deliberate practice and just work in general, and socializing and being in the world. Being on this forum or anything theoretical taking up more than 5% of my time leads to severe mental ilness and degrades me, I am here to live life and be part of it first and foremost and be a proactive human being. workout shower tasks work prep day game waking up early make money provide for others be the provider ... and the lover and creative ideas and work work work and play too, playy but I don't mean xbox or fucking debating on a forum but PLAYY, play with your girl, humour, laughter, sports, play with kids or animals if you want that, the joy of living, anti modern culture, limit my internet use unless it's business or work related, focus. Off forum for 1 week minimum. DO IT. NO RANDOM YOUTUBE EITHER, NO POLITICAL SHIT. OFF. WORK FOCUS. I CAN DO THIS. STRENGTH, I VALUE STRENGTH AND PRODUCTIVITY, WORK AND PLAY PRODUCTIVTY, JUST LIVING ACTUALLY LIVING LIFE, CMON. FUCK THE INTERNET, GO AFTER MY DREAMS. LETS GO. AMBIITION, JOY, WORK, LOVE, HOT SEX LAUGHTER, EMOTIONS, GIVING TO THE WORLD, CREATIVITY, ACTION, SOLVING PROBLEMS, FUN, ADVENTURE, JOY BEAUTIFUL SEXY WOMEN, LIFE, JOY, SUCCESS, PERSISTANCE ENERGY POWER LOVE. BACK IN A MONTH. OR A FUCKING YEAR.

Find it yourself and keep it to yourself and don't broadcast it. You don't want a mass herd of puas lingering in the same place that's when it gets lame

Just get experience and be observant, do you even need a course really? Socialize over and over and over again and watch peoples reactions to your actions, feel in to your body and your behaviors in different contexts, and watch and observe others. Watch random people walking down the street, interacting in various ways. Watch the confident sauve guy interact, watch the nerdy guys interact, notice everything, notice yourself. Notice how your fake, gradually remove the layers and become yourself, unwire and undo conditioning. Do stuff over and over. This is mostly a right brain process, a bit of both though.

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** IF you combined with, supplementary to approaching a lot, will it supercharge your game buy increasing your vibe, making you more calm and likeable, less reactive, present ect... What do people think, makes no or negligible difference?

I've watched 3 of Alexes videos now and I got the gist, but I want to retain the quiting blueprint in writing so there is a clear plan to revise : First week and even 3 weeks will be horrible May have to intentionally not doing productive anything for a week (Not exactly feasible for me due to obligations) But Ideal would be just go sit in a forest for a week or watch movies After 3/4 weeks should feel good again From this point onwards will realize why I quit and should expect steady consistent energy throughout the day, without extreme morning fatigue, hopefully anxiety, stress is all gone Caffiene is literally just pounding your body with stress and cortisol, supressing gaba & adenosine function so you can't naturall relax and feel tired like you need to Fucked adrenal system > Random energy bursts late at night & unnatural energy & sleep cycle Inability to be happy without caffiene > Dependency, slavery Worse social skills & social intelligence (From my own experience & intuition), harder to relate to others, less patience/listening ability & prescence Like precence how the fuk you present when you're bodies artificially pumping cortisol into your brain and bloodstream? Caffiene & coffee should be seen as like some alcohol : Fun, cool to experience here & there, maybe a fun adventurous routine breaker : BUT NOT THE ROUTINE ITSELF. Being addicted to caffiene is no different than being a coke head or drug addict, stop justifying, normalising , accepting it. It's not natural, it's you're drinking stress poison for breakfast, ingesting toxic dirt juice.

I almost didn't click on this video because I get massive grifter vibes from this guy, but regardless this video is absolutely persuasive and deep. I posted a "Quit coffee challenge" about a year ago and failed miserably at it ; my short-sightedness & love for coffee surpassed my desire to quit coffee, and fuckfaces like Andrew Huberman or Alex Hermosi probably influenced me to justify drinking it. If I had been lucky enough to stumble upon these videos, I probably would've quit for good. This guy has impeccable thought stream here, it is completely culturally arbitrary that we drink caffiene daily, that doesn't mean it's justified or innocent, or any more innocent than smoking or alcohol. So obvious but I never considered how caffiene and sugar are like best friends, or cousins. They merge and promote each other, they're together in most products, coca cola, chocolate, and they merge to form the perfect tasty high, and the use of 1 encourages the use of the other, partners in crime. I went a whole year without any serious intention to try give it up, such that I almost forgot that I ever used to just not drink coffee or consume caffiene, completely unconscious and in denial about all the health and life costs it's given taken from me. This year alone I have probably lost $1000-$2000 on caffiene, hours of sleep and productivity. Coffee is such a sneaky one because even the health gurus don't take it seriously, but I think coffee is fucking terrible for you. In theory if you had it once a month it be ok, but that is irrelevant because caffiene is ... ADDICTIVE, HABIT FORMING, UBIQUITOUS, TRENDY, TASTY (Lattes chocolates chocolate ect..) I need more firm decision. Why did I go so long so unsconious and myopic. Caffiene makes me sweat, stressed, werid socially, sleep badly, probably aging my sking. And yet I kept drinking it ... because short-sightedness, and a lack of commitment to quiting. No. It's last year part 2, I have to do this and I genuinely believe it's worse for me than smoking, i'm sweating my face off as I type probably because of being over caffinated, never again fuck.

https://jamesclear.com/identity-based-habits Decide who you want to be (Connects to Leo's Decision video, Did u ever just sit down & think, what character do I want become, how would I want others to view me and describe me behind my back?) Prove it to yourself with small wins I want to overcome my weaknesses > I want to not procrastinate and be organized and disciplined I want my boss to see this, and I want to provide value to him and earn him money, and in turn he pays me thousands > With this money I travel more and fuck hot girls, and funds my deep desire to be seen as the sauve player type, charming womanizer. And through this I build capital and fund my identity to be an innovative maverick entrepeneur First I start with the more boring step, getting some sales and earning my comission. I use Leos goal setting video to aid in this process, the outcome stage, writing it in my wall today.

Notes : (Reminder) Attention Economy > Attention is everything, do whatever it takes to get that attention (Richard Branson's Hot air balloon stunt is an example) Selling .. 1 simple key insight : SELLTHE BENEFITS + SELL THE NEED (Not the features), sell why they NEED your product, play on their insecurities if necessary, talk about what this will do for them with conviction Associate and join community of hardworking hustlers & grinders, DON'T be around losers, control the influence, join forums, live with them ect. Shut up around other hustlers : There's always something you can learn, even if there an addict, if they do a different biz or make good money, there's something they know that you don't, so don't talk so much & listen instead

Career factors that I would consider as not slave labour, *IT'S NOT BLACK & WHITE! (Technically ALL work is slave labour unless you're already very rich and feel you don't need anything, but It's a relative spectrum ... from the physical (think african) slaves who are paid nothing and abused, all the way to complete financial freedom, so even a boring remote job is somewhere in the middle of the spectrum as it ticks some of the parameters like location independence, which is still something to be grateful for alone) Remote Location independent Schedule independent (Flexible schedule or freelance ... but consistent enough to be considered a career (Not just being unemployed & therefore "free of schedule") Fun High Paying Transferable skill building, character developing *2nd Order Benefits Passive Income Fame/status/connection related* (Not going to cover here as I lack enough XP among this parameter) All of these factors are important & generally speaking the more ticked the better my life; fun high paying schedule independent remote job (7 figure creative youtuber) ... awesome lifestyle; very high on spectrum. Still, high paying schedule independent remote boring career like crypto trading might not be as high up, but still a 7.5/10 if it only takes 10 - 20H/week of your time, pays millions and enables you to do whatever you want with the rest of your life (Not saying this is realistic or that I will do this, just that SOME people do pull this off in the world and it works for them & it's technically possible although my enthusiasm for that type of thing has steadily declined). Everyone has to eat and cover basic needs so even boring remote work with moderate pay can be good stepping stone and it might allow you to travel which 1. means more happiness when you're at least not working and 2. Can build social skills and network > which may ultimately lead to your escape anyway. *Included transferable skill building, character developing" because some jobs may even be fucking horrible but if they are a temporary phase that truly leads to important skills or character dev than it can still be worthwhile and you can find peace in what you're developing despite the rest knowing you'll carry it with you

Generally always try to radiate bright energy and mood, but don't just throw out overt niceness cheaply, it's creepy.

I love how blunt and honest he is. Stark reminder that being a nerd is over rated, nerds, just like manual laborers are undercompensated and are slave workers. The golden age of glorious programmers and Bill gates the hero nerd is long gone, and the reality is that the nerds typically don't go that far in life and even the Tech nerds time to shine is either abruptly dissipating or long gone already. It's very tempting for me to try and become a super nerd or start learning phython but I have to remind myself that this is all a neurosis and driven by my lack of direction and desire to find some sort of "guaranteed", middle 6 figure career but I'm not being true to myself. I have to remind myself that I was always an all or nothing guy, risky bold controversial business idea with low odds, I have to stick to my guns and stay true to myself. I keep wasting time dabbling in mid level slave labour.

Man of my word, sending the frame videos later EDIT : SENDING TOMORROW BUSY

https://www.globalseducer.com/ways-meditation-improves-your-dating-life/ (GPT won't summarize the benefits because article "against content policy" ... it's about meditation wtf) 1. No Expectations. No Sorrow 2. Awareness of the Body Helps You to Stay in the Present Moment 3. A Calm Mind Can Have Exiting Conversations 4. Deep Focus Leads to Deep Connections 5. Self-Love Rejects the Wrong Partner 6. A Relaxed Mind Can Listen Carefully women always complain that men don’t listen. Hot girls are used to guys who don’t listen. She’s desperately looking for a guy who cares about what’s behind her eyes and not just what’s behind her thighs. 7. A Terrible Rejection Is Just a Tiny Problem 8. Mindfulness Leads to Mindful Choices 9. Awareness is the Enemy of Jealousy 10. Your Ego Shrinks This is all just theory ... lets go build that awareness.

@StarStruck I'm glad he helped you and gave you that final touch towards realizing a more whole and powerful version of yourself. I find this with Andrew tate and other fictional or mythical guys like Batman (not trying to be cringe here). Because ... Only when I can integrate a darker and more hypermasculine version of myself do I feel full power, I need that in order to create firm boundaries and really keeping going after what I want and persist despite obstacles, external shame or others gaslighting me, I need the extreme potent energies of masculine archetypes to cut through any realistic wall or barrier, just doing some petty self help from some basement dwelling nerd on youtube talking about "productivity" doesn't cut it for me, they don't influence me in the same way. Thanks for reminding me, I am stuck in a rut at the moment and have got myself into unfavourable conditions. I need extreme masculinity again.

Not entirely true though, there's many good self help content online with helpful advice. Maybe you just mean specifically the "Industry", but if my uncle sat me down and gave me a wisdom chat for 20 minutes or spoke about his experiences I would consider that "self help", and it would probably benefit my mind.

charge a justified price relative to the clients needs, situation and problems. You could have a system for inquiring about the client before suggesting your price to see what they can really afford. For poor or super young clients, Anywhere from $40 - $100 per hour for each client seems justified. And then, rice the price up for wealthier clients. If you're dealing with multi millionaire clients then you could charge the $400 per hour instead and it doesn't affect them. It's not high price tags that make me sick, but coaches clearly manipulating people who are actually poor and have like 5K or less in their bank account to go and pay 2K for coaching, there needs to be ethical responsibility for the type of client you're dealing with. Self help industry in general does not take accountability for this problem. If you're young and poor then the 5K you have in your bank account can mean the world to you, be the difference between mental illness and being a bit optimistic, starting a business or buying that camera gear or doing that travelling you wanted to, it's the guys with 5K in their bank account that shouldn't even be allowed to buy certain self help products, there should be a physical barrier to them spending 1K as it's 20% of their net worth.

Top of the list like Tuna, maybe even worse? (Lead Arsenic Mercury ...)

You're saying that from a lot of direct experience + a clear direct causation between the meditation and your results in all this? (Not just what you think might be true)

People don't know you yet Understand what they feel Be ok inside yourself People Like : Great emotions Status Validation to our ego Better places to go Recap Respect for other people Where they're coming form Dose of your personality * MAYBE DELTE BOTH POSTS OF THIS VIDEO : I ONLY WANT CREAM OF THE CROP, I FEEL LIKE HERE HE IS JUST SHARING COMMON SENSE STATING THE OBVIOUS, I NEVER CLAIMED ALL OF OWENS VIDEOS WERE 9/10, SOME OF THEM ARE JUST OK, SOME ARE EVEN CRAP. I THINK ANY VIDEO THAT IS ANYTHING OTHER THAN EXCELLENT IS BOTH BORING AND A WASTE OF TIME, I ONLY SEE EXCELLENCE, THAT'S WHY I DON'T POST ALL OF LEOS VIDS, ALL OF ANYONES VIDS, BECAUSE NO ONE IS PERFECT BUT LIMITED TIME ENERGY WE MUST DOUBLE DOWN ON THE EXCELLENT RESOURCES OUT THERE.

I will rewatch this video once per week. Chat GPT 4 Video Summary : Reciprocity Consistency Social Proof Liking Authority Scarcity

I'm open minded but remember that from my POV this just sounds like cope hippie nonsense and confirmation bias (Hippies say this because they want it to be true) Also I thought narcissists and selfish dudes got girls?

If you're inner game is so consistently solid then why aren't your results consistent? (In your own words) "My games decent but it's not that consistent, I'm intermediate" ... Or did you improve rapidly in the 8-12 months or so gap between when you shot the videos (and said that quote) and wrote this comment? I am asking because you have also said how inner game is so important and is the biggest part of game, yet this contradicts slightly the fact that your game is apparently at max intermediate despite having elite inner game?

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-convincing-charismatic-speaking-conviction-amy-hume/ Making conscious + unlearning negative habits Making conscious + Learning (Deliberately Practicing) positive habits Waay too much to process : My sticking points TO WORK ON for this entire month To eliminate : Filler words & sounds To do intentionally : = PAUSE + EYE CONTACT