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Its more like acting on a fantasy rather than reality. You can be a smart person and put yourself in your own bubble of reality oblivious to the outside world. Covid isolation didn't help and nor did his desire to be surrounded by yes men. Even going as far to shape his country around his identity in this way, and making himself almost indistinguishable from his own countries history and it from him. I used to date someone with an IQ of 180 and believe me she still made mistakes but looking through it you can see why. I've seen great film directors ignore all advice around them and make terrible movies or decisions in the same way. I can also call it both sides not wanting to see the other for what it is. The west has been covered well in ignoring Russia's concerns, Russia has demonstrated it didn't want to look at or understand Ukraine or its own status in the world right now. The military plans seem so rigid they can't adapt to the changing conditions. And almost nobody looked (looks) at or understands Eastern Europe, myself included but I am trying. The west also hasn't and doesn't want to recognize the slow expansionist tendencies of Putin. Putin doesn't recognize in the same way we do, where his countries borders end and others start. The west has to be aware of that. Nobody really wants to admit how brutal Russia still is but they are getting a reminder. Russia doesn't want to admit its smaller than NATO and eventually will lose if it carries on. The longer this goes on the more things come to light that everyone was ignoring or couldn't see. Like Russia still thinking its on an even standing to China, or once again reminding us that the west form of democracy isn't best for everyone. The horrors already carried out by western countries in war, came to the surface again. These misunderstandings go through life like a crack. Its also because Putin is older, and the older you are the more you can get set in a certain mindset reinforced by experience. I think everyone buried their head in the same way after Syria, again at Crimea, but things get to a point where they can't. Maybe Putin gambled everyone would just sit on their hands again because they'd done so over and over.

First making changes isn't losing, its adapting so you can win. Stress is cumulative and causes fatigue as the body shuts itself down to preserve itself. It causes loss of sleep, anxiety, loss of sexual drive, loss of appetite, loss of personal drive, eventually depression etc. You will continue to shut down areas of your body/mind and life until you relieve stress. So my first advice is relax in whatever manner works for you, seek out ways to relax and try a few. If you work in high stress environments and have little time to relax, then use that little time to relax preciously. You can do a five minute yoga routine or five minute meditation. You might find a relaxing form of martial arts, or walks in nature, swimming, calming music etc as you travel to work. Whatever it is. Life shapes itself around you too. This is hard to understand at first, but how you react/reflect and act will inevitably shape your life, even if it seems like everything's happening to you, it works both ways. Also why make it binary. London is its own country almost, like many capitals. There are a wealth of places in UK that are nothing like London, many of which are based on tourism. I'd be tempted to go to the coast and the ocean alone is going to make you feel less stressed, along with those around you. Do a bit of research on locations within the UK in your preferred field, especially those related to hospitality. If you want a gold mine in the UK go to Jersey on the holiday season or christmas and earn a fortune in hospitality tips, if you can get in ;). Its not called millionaire island for nothing. *I've only heard this info second hand If you prefer the city life to quieter towns, here are the cities I would look at, but a town might well suit you so have a look along the coast. https://www.tripsavvy.com/popular-uk-cities-for-international-visitors-1661845 Here is a personality quiz based around location: Info: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-31816926 - Test: https://www.bbc.co.uk/teach/where-in-britain-would-you-be-happiest/zkmrpg8 Finally If you want the mechanics of stress I dropped this video earlier. *Also have you spoke to your boss about this, he/she is human (some of the time :D) and might well adapt things to suit you rather than lose you, if you are valued to them.

Why. You have to break this down. Why does shooting jets down equal using nukes. *You edited your post and I agree with the bottom part, I was hoping that was the outcome from the start.

Noam Chomsky isn't a very rational man when it comes to crisis, his take on covid to force unvaccinated people to starve in their homes was ill thought out and terrible. I mean how was that going to be enforced? He overexaggerates the fear. I have fear of nuclear war, but the west is letting Putin dictate to them how to act as well. Here he's again missed the region's perspective entirely, and thus the reasons for the war. Some people just want the NATO vs Russia to blind them from the reality of the region or what's going on. Asking for demilitarization when the entire region is more militarized than ever is never going to happen practically. Asking for surrender when the country is on fire, is unlikely. Asking for no Reaction initially when that would split NATO east to west, or country to country is also unwise. A reaction to neighbors being invaded is inevitable whether its done by NATO or others, at least this way NATO somewhat dictate the reaction. Especially given the history of Russia in Eastern Europe and recently. I heard a great speaker the other night say, there should be no red lines on the NATO side because we shouldn't let Putin know how we are going to react. Nothing should be denied, nothing should be told to Putin that we will or won't do. NATO is making mistake after mistake telling Putin how we will react and giving him confidence to proceed. Airstrikes on the convoys would of course help but are not as necessary as people talk about, Russians are freezing in those vehicles at 0 to -10 at night for weeks with inadequate food. Also russians have started to bring in civilian vehicles to bring food to the front, so taking out these logistic runs is having an effect slowly to erode the frontline. Interception of Russian jets dropping bombs on cities, especially if they are chemical I am favor of. I feel it was stupid politically not to ship those polish jets. If NATO did that, NATO could say we've met their request and we've got no planes of our own in the air. Practically long range missiles are more what's needed to stop chemical attacks before they happen, more drones searching for them and searching for the artillery hitting cities. Perhaps no fly zones over refugee corridors would be an acceptable risk, this is Ukraine's airspace not Russia's.

@Preety_India Thank you. Take care.

I don't think you are dumb, you form your thoughts and relationships or connections just fine. There isn't resistance there to new ideas or concepts. There is genuine self reflection (this thread) and want to improve yourself, which puts you ahead of much of population in terms of wisdom. Heck even being on this forum and struggling with these things says a lot about your character which you can be proud of or grateful for. I think you could do with putting your foot down a bit more. I do see your opinion go one way or the other quite quickly. I too can or did suffer from this which is why I recognize it. We were both abused. This is part of it. Beaten or shouted into accepting an opinion so we do so with less resistance. Part of boundaries is questioning what is in front of us if it make sense for our life, something that is robbed from people who are abused. Do you see where you have taken everything in summary here: Question absolutely everything on that list from your own perspective, Set your own boundary for if it make sense for you. Part of me wants to say there is bravery in doing what you are doing here but there is also trauma in asking others what you need to be. I used to find saying you are enough to victims of abuse, including myself, helped. Repeat that over and over, see if it lets some tears go. You don't need to be anything more or less than you are now. You get to choose, you get to discard or keep, which is why I understand you wanted to make sure the thread stayed open for example. Hope some of that helps. *If the words, I know this Blue Oak, come up or something like that, good that's the boundary showing **Also it occurred to me to mention the reason we don't want to put our foot down or show that side of ourselves can be because that's what our abuser's did.

A calm Eastern European perspective. So far lacking in almost every analysis i've ever seen. Russian, Slovakian and Polish speakers discussing the region in Germany. Their fears, military concerns, refugee concerns and historical preferences. Talking somewhat about the difference between western NATO and eastern NATO concerns.

Should have given you this, better late than never:

Re AI and Mechanics The more stress you are under the more mechanical your response. I dropped a video on the science behind that here: Its given me an understanding as to why being in a very relaxed loving state gives you access to the highest levels of perception.

There are just as many Nazi's in Russia if not more. Almost 2% of the last Ukrainian election according to wikipedia. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2019_Ukrainian_presidential_election If you really got honest answers from many countries you'd see this sort of ultra right presence in all of them, and these two countries share of a lot of culture and heritage. As for being dark, he's not going to be in any kind of relaxed or peaceful state of mind. His life is being threatened, several hundred assassins have been hired to kill him and people every day are coming to him and telling him children, families that are no longer alive. The world is closing in around the man and there is huge fear as people are starving or dying. The AI you are seeing is more a move into a survival response. That's why when people try to give higher reasoning to a war or a wider perspective it falls far short of making a bridge to end it. Its like you are looking into a black hole and time is different for those at the center. The reality they are in is vastly different from what you or I are experiencing. By the way you can employ that relationship to all stress, anger, fear and any other pure instinctive or egoic state of mind. The trick is trying to bridge to it while reaching it and not stopping short. *Also not losing the original intent too much.

Of course its all about world power or influence to many, not every leader thinks like that, for some its much more about quality of life. I think the smaller the state, the more this becomes its focus, and so they elect a leader that represents this. A federal europe just sounded much more appealing. How often have you done something even after you knew you shouldn't. How many leaders have to get voted out or removed by force before they step down? Sometimes people are overly selfish. People who want to lead, find it difficult not to lead, they shaped their lives around it. Leaders cling to power long after they should have stepped down. I think that's often the case. Even when in themselves though know its time to leave. >>>And he will naturally believe that even if the Russia people are influenced by the Wes to want to be more Western, that will weaken Russia because the West does not care about Russian sovereignty or strength. This was insightful into his mindset. Thank you.

@zurew You are correct I can feel I am lying to myself and inventing the fantasy I want to see rather than what is there. In part this is because of the deception given to the 'opposition' in a war, to make the case something is going to happen when it isn't. Interesting thing is I was feeling this a moment ago too on my own. Thank you for taking the time to break this down and persist with the truth. I am hopeful still that maybe people will seize on this to make a renewables case more loudly, that might be one positive. I do believe the UK has made good moves towards renewables, and will soon be selling more excess clean energy. I do believe when they say the remaining 11% of reliance on Russian gas will be slowly removed over the next year, no doubt stalling and toning that down as the time draws closer. *I think they planned a year but I don't remember the exact date.

I did not do it justice to generalise all these countries together. There is a move and there is political will to slowly come off Russian gas now. It will get people elected to make moves in that direction, balanced by not damaging economies too much. For example: Germany, Bulgaria, and Italy of course have a hard time while France and Poland have some reliance, Spain, Portugal and the UK have much less. I would drop a link of exact percentages but they contradict, that's the overall impression I get from the numbers. It is really anyone's guess who benefits, Iran, Saudi Arabi, Nuclear Power, Renewables, American or Canadian, Oil and Gas Lobbies, probably all of them. Russia is going to lose, how much depends on the negotiations to come. They will sell the difference to China and Asia for less profit overall, that's almost a guaranteed dip in their GDP, and handing more of their economic power to China as a result. So China and Asia benefit. Unless renewables get a big push, big losers will be the environmentalists. Honestly though and I am always talking about the environment, I think we never take it seriously enough. I don't mind in the short term for world stability and to remove the chokehold Russia has on Europe. If this moment isn't used as a way to get off Russian gas slowly we never will. With them taking Crimea and parts of Ukraine they control even more gas. Of course it also removes our ability to ever in the future threaten them with not buying it, but as one poster said much earlier in the thread, countries have to become more self sufficient. That goes for the EU as a whole as well, I hope the EU continues to draw closer together and generate their own energy supplies.

@Fleetinglife Hopefully Great news! I won't get too excited but that is promising. Thank you for sharing. Just as the US comes off Russian Energy and more of Europe is pressured to. Call me cynical but that seems like a factor. Maybe the men with money in Russia were finally moved to ask Putin for some kind of compromise.

Thank you for that information it helps to know that it's less likely. I wish it was as simple as someone saying NATO will disallow it. There often comes a point where there is an incident that drags people into war. We can hope that doesn't happen. It remains a possibility in Moldova that I hope we never see, but my hope doesn't mean much when the Belarus president was telling us that was their original intent. Hopefully Putin will be pushed back enough and lose enough he doesn't ever go there. As people stack more and more troops on the border, and take new defense postures, moving from deterrence to defense as the Estonia president called it, the potential for an incident happening increases. People were already worried when a NATO jet went down early in the war, but it was technical and weather related apparently. I hope I worry over nothing. I hope you are 100% correct and the Romanians in Moldova live a long, happy and peaceful life.

Slightly better take than i've seen elsewhere but still not fully universal. He's not full taking into account Eastern Europe, or Ukraine but is he more aware realities of war, NATO and somewhat of Russia. It will be a miracle if Russia invades Moldova that Romania completely hold their cool. Just like if this drags on Poland is likely to be further drawn in to Ukraine and by definition their allies. I think America and to an extent Russia being so massive fails to see Eastern Europe more like states reacting to other states. The relationship is not that simple but its closer than America reacting to Russia would be given the Europe countries proximity, shared cultures, and families that live over borders. I love that he calls out people's careers being made on war, and more reflection on the military industrial complex being a driving factor would be useful. I love that he calls out people viewing it like supporting a sports team from the comfort of their home. Its an ugly truth that people see excitement or careers made from sensationalizing war. A horrible one but if people don't look at it, it will never change.

Even completely ignoring the wider picture. The main thing is at the moment Russia still doesn't understand or admit the reality of what its got itself into. Going as far as to shut itself off completely from all outside sources and live in a bubble. Saying just stop fighting is impossible now, even if every country told the people (on both sides now) it will not happen for the next 20 years. Unless they negotiate officially and stop, this region is destined to be a warzone and it always was the second that war was declared.

Ukraine took back a small city: Its not all one sided if you watch channels like this: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheEngineeringWorld You'll see numerous successes from Ukraine. Several Russia senior commanders dead (Actual generals), supply lines cut and many desertions. More foreign fighters are arriving, more equipment is arriving. Ukraine is fighting for many countries now not just itself. If Russia's army is broken enough here it will stop Putin invading anywhere else for the next few decades, or maybe the rest of his life. If they roll over they won't have a country just constant rebellion and suffering. If they fight they will keep the west of Ukraine and perhaps more than that. China is watching this and Taiwan is next. That's a given. Other countries also. Suffering is going to happen whether we like it or not. All we can do is contain and limit it. *And by the way the longer this goes on the more likely someone takes down Putin. People can deny that all they want but its an increasing chance from global and internal pressure.

PS You are creating the alone feeling too :D. Pick a different one. Smile and laugh for a while. Love for a while. Be grateful.

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@Fleetinglife NATO made plenty of bad decisions. Ukraine did too. We can all see them if we look. But if the objective was to not get Ukraine to join NATO invading the Crimea showed a lack of understanding of Ukraine or Eastern Europe's perspective, a common theme through almost all commentators and people speaking about it. The west didn't understand Russia's perspective and Putin sure didn't understand Eastern Europe's either it seems. You can watch documentaries on the coup and see students being arrested then, all the violence, the resistance, the community coming together, the church getting involved and people shot. The government in the coup brought itself down with its own actions. When the governments' opposition party sent a spokesman to speak to the protesters before its fall, he was so out of touch with the people's anger after all the violence I was completely stunned. All of the government were so far out of touch it crumbled. You;ll be never able to convince me that the USA somehow convinced the church or the local population to do something it didn't want to do. That anger wasn't there and boiling over toward a government that didn't reflect the population at all. Just like any puppet government won't this time, because nobody seems to ever want to recognize that you can only rule a country with a government that it accepts or expects. Russia meddles in the western countries' politics in the same way, but if people don't have the opinion in the first place, nothing can come of it. All they can do is expose what is already there and give it a voice.

I would guess if he used the word fiesty it was a compliment yes! I see that but I feel The Masculine for me is steadiness, protective, providing, disciplined. calm and rational. The feminine for me is creative, spontaneous, playful, passionate and expressive.

Well we all have preferences, so to generalise observations and my own: Nothing sexier than a strong willed woman. I like a woman I can talk to like anyone else, and that challenges me. Fiery personality, because I have a strong personality a meek woman and I never last. I find that sort of fire in someone exciting. I also am attracted to spontaneity a lot because I am the opposite, dependable, reliable and steady. Clothing, mannerisms, and voice softness are sexy. Think a whisper in the ear, a hand on the shoulder etc. A man often has either the harder edge to them, logical way of thinking, the stern or competitive nature. So to balance that I think many prefer draping clothing, bracelets, scarf, earrings, men often are attracted visually at first so not dismissing that side of femininity is important. I personally like women who like touch, but everyone has their own way of expressing love. Some its gifts, some its voice, some its actions. For me a girl resting her head on my shoulder or sitting across my lap, those kind of things are love to me. Also again for me personally because I am overly serious, I like a partner that isn't. I like to be with someone who makes me want to joke with them, mess around and let my guard down. I find that kind of openess attractive in people generally, not just romantic partners. Picture a fiery personality, who was joking with me, while we discussed something we both enjoyed sitting in our favorite spot together, and you'd see my ideal woman. - Togetherness. I need to her reflect companionship. Damn now I want to start dating again, enough of this fantasy. Hope it helps.

You see one side of the fear. The fear of and from Russia if they lose. What you don't see is the exact same thing mirrored in NATO and Europe, especially in the east. Both will have the same result unless both can be seen to come out with a 'win' because this is a zero sum game all countries currently play. Like most. You completely miss what the Ukrainians themselves want and that there will be no peace because a Russian government will not represent the people. Russia will not adapt. Even if everyone but Ukraine worked for Russia to secure Ukraine, there will still be rebellion, until Ukraine's perspective is given the most attention for their own country. There has just been a revolution, now their country is at war. Putin is making a bad decision after a bad decision, based on a fantasy that doesn't exist, ignoring the reality of his own country which is in decline not the old USSR. Recent Bad Decisions: Invade Crimea, Ukraine moves closer to NATO Start a proxy war, Ukraine moves closer to NATO Invade Ukraine, Ukraine almost completely aligns with the western perspective. NATO is more unified than ever, the EU even drew closer together from a disjointed mess. Demand the disarmament of the population, it makes every soldier your enemy. Send 150,000 troops when he needs a million. Not supply his special forces when they needed it so many die in the first few days. Send generals to the front so three of them die. Not acknowledge he's in a war, so not plan or execute one. Underestimate his opposition Underestimate Eastern Europes reaction and so NATO's reaction. Not prepare his forces for the reality of what they will face, so they stall, their morale breaks and many conscripts run. By far the biggest mistake was invading the entire country in the first place. He is now purely in reaction and has lost many of his options. He's closed his country down into soviet times and become like Stalin. He didn't understand or like almost anyone I see speak on Ukraines own perspective, or that of eastern europe. He didn't know how the people of Ukraine would receive him I could do the wests bad decisions and the post would be about as long. In fact just swap the words over and you've almost got it. Unprepared, not realising the danger, underestimating, not acknowledging reality, fear ruling their decision making. Also add some arrogance and even more warmongering factors like an entire industry dedicated to it.