BlueOak

Yeah it seems like it lines up from reading that thread. So with the void experience, I felt a zooming out until size and dimension became meaningless, but I still had them as a point of reference. I know what zooming out is for example, I know what a void is, and I can describe it to you. With the white light experience, I can describe it somewhat. I can say the area around me turned a cloudy white, I can tell you I became the reality for a time, that you don't go anywhere to experience it. I can tell you that no sense we have of love currently is close to it, unconditional love is where you become everything, and no word needs to come before love. Its love, no conditions, no process, nothing in the way, just love. With the sorrow experience, I can tell you it was like vast ocean that scared me to touch, like I dipped my finger in it, and it was an overwhelming sensation. I realized all emotions are infinite because we are infinite. So I can get close to an explanation of all of these using references on this earth you can understand in language. if I was trying to describe alien to you, I couldn't give you a descriptor or a word from our language. At least that's how I picture it. The unknowable as they used to call it. The known, the unknown, and the unknowable.

Thanks I'll take a look. My preprogramming to alien means, something not of this earth or my experience. So something that I haven't experienced before (which would be all awakenings) but in a manner I can't comprehend or recognize either from existing experiences. So no zooming out. No white light. No emotional swell from within etc. These are things that are not alien to me. I can describe them, I have sensed them before in different ways.

Can you define Alien in layman's terms leo, to help remove any pre-programming I have in the way of better understanding it? I've done infinite void, infinite love, and touched infinite sorrow. I can set the intent to experience it at some point but it'd be easier if I knew what I was asking/intending to see

1, People don't start off friends, they start off as acquaintances. You have to put the time in to get to know them and relate to them. 2, You have to go to places where people are to meet them, they don't come to you, not unless you are the one organizing the event/night/club whatever it is where you plan to meet them. 3, Its difficult to be good friends with someone who isn't on your frequency. You can relate through the activity you are doing, talking to them but relating to them in a meaningful and fulfilling way is hard beyond that, that's why you use the activity as a social focal point. That sort of overthinking you are doing takes care of itself. Meaning things go beyond that activity or not naturally depending on how you get on.

My father is an alcoholic, he's a functioning one, only requiring a few beers a day, but he has binges too, even at 80. Smokes even more since mum had her stroke. My brother is an opiate addict, and that's his first concern all day every day. Once the opiate is taken, he considers life after that. With my father its more a case that he gets bitter and cranky without booze. It's a lack of them being able to process emotions, or even sit with them. Of course, the physical symptoms come after that. They will both swing to extremes of anger or sorrow without these crutches when their emotional guidance system is felt again. I will say people are many pieces and patterns, so your father is an addict AND X, Y, Z. That's how I deal with them, I realize sometimes its the addict pattern running things, and sometimes its another part or behavior of the family member.

Yes. I fear saying this for the backlash, but it seems the most important thing in the world and requires no qualifications or assessment beyond the basic needs of a newborn being met. I am biased coming from a poor upbringing, someone who was in a healthy household and a good community might have the opposite view I expect. License isn't the word i'd pick as a first choice, more communal involvement through groups and the school system is definitely warranted in a more enlightened and conscious future.

As for suicide, i'm right there with you time to time. For me the more I focus on myself at those points in time, the worse it is. So hopefully this focus on 500 approaches takes you completely out of your head. Focus on someone else, not yourself, when you are at your lowest (which is one reason why companionship with others is such a strength) I am also aware that healing takes focus on yourself, but somedays that's not enough.

Sorry i've not read through all of this. I used to pickup girls so here is my 2 cents. The pressure you put on yourself to get laid is part of the reason you are not getting laid. You are inventing all these cerebral things in your mind. Get off your butt, seriously, stop sitting there and go approach women. Approach 500 women. Make it a game. When you get rejected have a laugh about it, and when you get good, the girl won't feel bad either because you'll develop some charisma. Somewhere around X number you are going to start realising you are good at it, and you couldn't care less if one girl turns you down because you'll just move on to the next. This is a perfect example of what I mean. Picking up women is not a strategy chess game. It's walking up to them, saying a line or two, getting blown off most of the time, and then sometimes getting lucky. It's fairly predictable if you are an average dude or not very attractive. Rarely will you'll get a slap or an ego shot, and sometimes their friend will be the one hitting on you but that's about the only surprise you can expect. If you want a real relationship, that takes time, effort, listening, relating, and persistence. If you just want to get laid, do what I suggest, go approach 500 women. Keep count. You can approach 20 in a night easily enough. Remember when you are doing this, you are not caring what happens, you are just having an experience.

For me, Trump would say the moon was made of cheese if it got him votes, many politicians would. He just courts the ones that happen to be racists, white nationalists, and nazi's as part of his voting base. If these were instead African American, Muslim, or environmental activists you'd see him playing to them. He doesn't care. As long as they say he's great. The danger, of course, is that with those types of people funding you, and on your team, that's the type of policy or flavor of policy you'll see.

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/01/15/opinion/leonhardt-trump-racist.html Here are a few that stand out to me, some others seem guilt by association, or a reach, but this list seems strong enough to argue it: During a White House meeting in 2018, he referred to some undocumented immigrants as “animals” He spent years suggesting that the nation’s first black president was born not in the United States but in Kenya In July 2019, Trump suggested that four minority Democratic congresswomen, all of whom are American citizens and three of whom were born in the United States, should “go back” to “the totally broken and crime infested places from which they came.” He has retweeted white nationalists without apology. He called some of those who marched alongside white supremacists in Charlottesville, Va., last August “very fine people.” Trump has endorsed or praised politicians who have made racist statements, defended the Confederacy or associated with white supremacists, including Roy Moore in Alabama. In the 1990s, Trump took out advertisements alleging that the “Mohawk Indian record of criminal activity is well documented.” At the time, he was fighting competition for his casino business. In a 1993 radio interview, he suggested that Native Americans in Connecticut were faking their ancestry. “I think I might have more Indian blood than a lot of the so-called Indians that are trying to open up the reservations.” Trump has trafficked in anti-Semitic caricatures, including the tweeting of a six-pointed star alongside a pile of cash. In a White House meeting with a Korean-American intelligence analyst briefing him on Pakistan, Trump wondered aloud why she was not working on North Korea policy.

At first, I replied as if you were at work not school. School is still your best bet, but not everyone makes good friends at school. Rather than worry what's wrong with you for too long, meet more people and make an effort. These sorts of social skills come with practice. I live in an isolated village so I know the difficulty. There are trains and buses. Maybe get a part-time job, or a cheap method of transport. Even if you are distant, you could do an electric bike for transportation or a regular bicycle, alternatively, i'm not sure what the laws are around you for cheap mopeds. I joined a writing group, for example, and met people. You have to get out and do it. These experiences don't come to you. You have to make the effort to approach situations, hobbies, groups of people, and places to hang out. Right now it sucks because many of the easy hangouts are dying off. When I was growing up there were more places you could go. Places still exist but you have to google for groups in your area, or just hobbies, activities, or clubs you've thought about or that complement your interests. Even if you really don't want to try anything new, and are, for example anti-social, you still do things with your time, and those are things others will want to do too. For example, at LAN parties, I used to love them, and they were alongside computer nerds just like me. I used to be popular at school for being one of the guys that got people together interested in going out. I even turned that skill into a small business opportunity by organizing a club night with a DJ and bouncer. It just took asking people, many young people like to do things so it wasn't hard, I even got them selling the tickets for a %, free drinks, or a free ticket.

Friends come about by spending time with groups of people and developing relationships. Then, after hours (across different days) of getting to know someone, invite them out to something they or you enjoy and see if there is a friendship beyond the activity you both attend. This is easiest done when relating by doing an activity, or hobby. Pick two and attend them weekly. You may just make acquaintances, or you may make friendships. If after several weeks you've not made a friend, pick different activities or hobbies in your area. At worst you've expanded the experiences you've had in life and tried different things. Friendships happen to you because of many hours of shared experience, so that's what you need to do. This can happen through work, school, hobbies, or sometimes if you are fortunate enough, areas in your locality that the locals visit often.

That was pretty good. Next: You are not anywhere, so you cannot be separated or divided. Every moment/thing/pattern is unique aka infinity. You are realising here: I’m aware ~of~ thoughts so separate from them, but simultaneously it can seem I am in the thought. This is true of all things. You are in them and out of them, watching them and experiencing them. There is no difference. These are just labels you are giving things to make logical sense of it in a reality you view as a sequence of events, or experiences. All that exists is the experience happening, that's it. There is no you. No timeline. No separation. No distance.

Yes, an equalization of the world to bring shared values or understanding, a way to increase birthrates and stop people from dying or suffering alone, and a step towards stage green community outcomes. I am sometimes envious of the larger families from these regions. There are many positives aside from just economic, people are social beings and many of the issues we see are down to people not having healthy family structures, friends and a supportive local community. Its shells of being, internal, body, room, home, local community, wider community etc.—all functioning as you and what you experience. So I understand this, I hate this shift that's been going on all my life personally but I understand it. I like my privacy and I haven't dated in a long time, nor do I wish to. So it's just one more pressure I resist, but I can see the necessity of it for the wider world. It does bring a lot of negatives too, a lot more relationship dynamics for example, where we see constant conflicts being brought into the spotlight and people having to address them, and a loss of individual liberties and freedoms. It often feels like we are being squeezed, in work, at home, in relationships etc. Interesting topic overall.

Here we go. It had the completely opposite take to what I am used to.

I watched an interesting video recently that made the complete counterargument, I had a slight amount of resistance to its topic, so I continued watching. Living alone is not going to be normal in the years going forward. Living with a family, your family, or friends will be the norm, and those on their own will be on very good income. I can see where he's drawn this conclusion, given the cost of living, and whether you think things will improve or get worse. If I can find the video I'll post it, no luck yet.

A repeat of my previous comment on it: Activism achieves nothing without overt display. It achieves little with overt display but something is better than nothing. People only remember spectacles or grand gestures. It's a very basic way of approaching a problem, but some of that energy is required for any change to happen. Most climate protesters then have no further plan, which is why this doesn't change a lot. But again, something is better than nothing. You can relate it to the emotion or anger you might feel upon encountering something you don't like in your life. As people point out they still use cars, planes, and/or energy, and the same systems we do. Over time some will realise they can make progress from inside these systems more effectively, as opposed to always being outside of them, some won't. They will have to learn to adapt or make small adjustments where they can within those systems to achieve any lasting or measurable change. The spectacle is useful to get through to people who are completely unaware that anything is wrong or needs attention, especially given how our media operates, he who shouts loudest or makes the most spectacle is listened to the most. *Going beyond this sort of gesture activism does require some personal sacrifice of ongoing time and energy. Also a realization that things won't ever be as you want them in your lifetime, even in the rare case that the majority of society were moving in that general direction. You have to be willing to do things for others, as you won't necessarily experience the results. Climate work, or the work to better it, can be a good example of that ethos.

Every AI I use is still improving its usefulness to me, so for me personally this is objectively false, but I understand my sample size is only 1. I use Chat GPT 4 (Free), AI Dungeon (Currently subbed to Mythic on the Mixtral model), and Novel AI occasionally. What you have to remember is, as with the millennium supposedly ending all computer systems, AI will not end all jobs, its just what people do, they make things overly dramatic.

Though I'll take a shot at this. Stop and think what this means. Really think How? How can they possibly win without needing voters?

Well if this obvious statement is being excused, I see I need to keep highlighting America's slide into fascism a bit more yet. Apparently, he made these points four times during his speech there, at least that's how Vaush covered it.

Infinite love is unconditional. Whenever you are saying: Is love this? The answer is yes. Realisation of this is all. I say all because to give it a descriptor or condition wouldn't help. I could say journey, path, process but all of those would be conditional. You are already love, you are all of this. Realisation is the best word I have for it.

Well finally he's making the point for me I guess, so there's that. I don't have to shout into the void over and over to highlight what is happening to America and most of the world. Now people can see the choice they can make it, which is all I can really ask for.

I realise another visual example of what I am talking about might help: Here is an auditor, someone who either pushes buttons, pushes boundaries, or does a variety of different things to test security, police, companies etc. Whatever you think of them, him or what he's doing is irrelevant to my point: We have two security guards, who I actually think had a point when they initially approached him, his bike was on their land. One guard is trying to fight the auditor, and the other is not only acting as a calm security guard protecting his site, but he's also having to keep his own employees in check, so he's dealing with three people, himself, and the other two. This is what I mean about personalities that are a good or bad fit for a position of authority, its perfect exemplified here in the extreme duality.

You need a certain mindset in these types of jobs, where you engage with things that will stress you any moment of any day. No matter your emotion, you have to be able to contain it, and often calm other people's too. There are always anomalies or things that blindside even perfectly healthy or well-adjusted people. There are people who carry personal tragedy and still perform well under stress: I was just working with one guy today, something broke down, people were getting frustrated, and I was in his ear with questions too. Later, I realize he was going through a breakup with a kid involved and getting no sleep, yet he kept his cool and just needed a break afterwards. Then there are some personalities who make situations more dangerous or add to stress not less. That is why the people working with men or women involved are best qualified to make these calls. My father, for example, explodes every 5 seconds at the slightest thing going wrong, he'd make a terrible police officer yelling all day every day at everyone. However, even in your example of someone having a rough time: The person might lose their cool, then realise and correct themselves, the wrong personality wouldn't and would carry on in anger, that would be the difference. What do you do when stress hits, calm it down, let it run, or indulge in your anger?

Yes but reasonably easy to see when stress-tested. The right type of guy will try and calm the situation, the wrong type will agitate it. You can see this going on in all types of police or security videos. Which is incidentally why I love the auditor movement on youtube. Not because they will achieve any measurable lasting change, beyond some minor photography awareness or procedural adjustments, but because they stress test people in positions of authority on camera before they are tested in situations with serious consequences. When you work alongside someone like this you know it, you see them day to day; If I can see them in a 5 minute youtube video losing their cool, while their partner is the one settling things down, I can see who the right and wrong man for the job is. These people work with them for many hours a day, they can see patterns. if the police force or security company was run correctly, they'd never be the ones holding the guns.