BlueOak

So you'd structure a life that started in a philosophical or spiritual family who had those discussions. In any particular country or setting? You don't go anywhere There is no 'where'. *I should add I realise all stages are required, but I'm looking for ideas if I do go around again, to achieve or encourage the main goal.

Here are two or three: https://www.getleo.ai/About https://brave.com/leo/ https://iamleo.ai/ - This may just be a portal to one of the others.

You pick your focus much of the time. It's a current you can direct. Somedays it's external (which is still you). You had a large influence on the circumstance you are currently in, and the internal parts of you come up in the external, so as you alter yourself you alter the reality around you. I realise we are all in patterns but we alter them all the time.

No mind to me means no thoughts. Your infinite half. If you are in a boring or simple job, you can live in no mind by default for most of the hours. It's not difficult if you meditate. Gardening is great for this, but so is shelf stacking or cleaning up, for example. I live in no mind a lot of the time outside of work. There is a space, and then you feel the thoughts outside of that space, or just as flashes. Then some days you have a busy mind where there is no space, and you just shrug and indulge for a while until they settle. This morning I had a busy mind as my business idea is in its full planning stage (I really enjoy this time). I imagine this business will require a lot of thought programming hardware routes and learning a completely new skill, but then when its done and its automatic, they'll just be reminders to myself and more downtime. When I was working at the post office it required a hard mind, everything was focused and double-checked. There weren't many thoughts, but there was an intense focus on getting the amounts and procedures right when handling lots of money. When you said in the other thread it's thought battling thought, I felt like saying, yeah that's all it usually is. Ditto for a busy mind often.

I could quote you healthy secure attachment first. Because this is the ideal, not my personal life: 1) https://www.verywellmind.com/secure-attachment-signs-benefits-and-how-to-cultivate-it-8628802 2) https://positivepsychology.com/secure-attachment-style/ etc. Your question is a bit unclear. I'm not a woman so I can't answer for a woman. I think you mean what does attachment look like when I attach to a relationship? You are attaching to the relationship primarily; this is a key distinction I think you are personally missing, and that may help. I'm somewhat secure in my relationships, but I had a narcissistic parent and one who was codependent, so I got avoidant and anxious traits in there that slowly healed as I did. So my own relationships will only be of so much help as an example. I am supportive of my partner/woman. I consider their needs and my own, trying to help them where I can. I haven't reached the stage of considering their needs as my own needs as Teal Swan would say but I'm working on it. They would ideally be doing the same. I like to say a ride-or-die partner, that's got your back and you've got theirs no matter what. I can be happy with them, or on my own. I tend to feel in a healthy relationship, my life is enriched by having them there, in an unhealthy one it's the opposite. So ideally I look forward to the time with them, as I do my own time to relax. That's the attachment part in a nutshell, it's not required; it's just a better quality of life The avoidant part of me likes to completely break with people (and jobs, education, projects or anything), so I have space, which is why I am not currently dating. I made a promise not to hurt anyone again by repeating this pattern. I have somewhat healed this, but its still there. The anxious part of me, in my youth, liked to people please and feared negative emotions because, as a kid I used to get shouted at and beaten for them (ditto the avoidance patterns to hide). But I'm mid 40s now and not anxious about anything but keeping peace at work, because I've related (linked) survival to jobs and income. I don't know if that analysis helps you.

Depth, I hear people use it and understand it logically but Infinity doesn't have clear measurements like depth. This is a crossing point to the infinite, so it's more about getting out of one state into the other, or allowing more of your infinite state in. Allowance. Surrender. Big ones. A clear clean room free of electronics. Don't tire yourself out mentally before your meditation, TV, Computer, Games anything cerebral. Eat well, not junk food. Keep moving energy up the spine through yoga, taoism, or just good stretching exercises and meditation, from lower centers to higher centers. (Or the opposite if you need to ground.) Get a comfortable posture and temperature. You can meditate through anything (and it's good practice) but noise is still noise and best off without too much. Did I mention surrender and allowance? :D. Also add gratitude, joy, and love. These are things that happen to me. So you can see I don't really equate this to depth, just things that come. Movements of energy, either along the spine or building up in the mind like a heavy weight, this can be a download of information. Insights or Images. Seeing a purple vortex that looks like a cloudy tunnel, darker in the center and lighter on the outside, or sometimes a cloud flickering as if with distant lightning. I sometimes focus on allowing the day to go more smoothly, or balancing both halves of my mind and being. Out-of-body experiences. Infinite emotional experience. Shrinking or growing my awareness. Healing bodyparts. Setting an intent for something, or focusing on receiving an answer. Even if it comes later. I have become an infinite void, and seen the vortex cloud I see in meditation could be a point in space-time I am related to. There, I saw it as a giant green nebular. I think when I die I'll visit it as if it were a map. It seems significant. Someone once asked people who kept saying they are not incarnating on earth anymore, or if this is their last life, where are they going next then? It's a good question. Well, I have my answer. I've said before some people use a kneeling posture with elbows on the bed for balance, so they can collapse forward in deep states. I meditated standing up briefly a few days ago, I don't recommend it as you have to keep aware of your balance, but it was interesting. I also meditated eyes open while walking not long ago, just trying to balance the hemispheres of my brain before work. I should call this trying to recreate that state my mind goes into while meditating because obviously, it's a different process walking down the road, even if my hands/fingers are still touching in a complete circuit.

The more pro-capitalist parties were a better fit for America's corporate structure. The corporate structure chooses which leaders have successful campaigns. Its really that simple in America, and most of the world that have a strong capitalist foundation. You are correct that the people are the system also, and they lean authoritarian now much more than at any time in my lifetime. Socialism is demonized, and libertarianism is mocked, which means people cut off half of their realities and try to build on what's left: capitalism and authoritarianism. I agree people are sold the lie that cutting taxes for the rich benefits them. It'd be funny to watch the same old thing trotted out every time, if it didn't constantly cost me my quality of life feeding my money to billionaires so they can have another yacht, sports car, or their fifth luxury home. Plus now I have to deal with people cutting immigration, while complaining they are in poverty, reducing the number of workers to increase the age gap and put themselves further in poverty, so they can then blame immigrants! Although both leaders are corporate enough to be tolerated. Now I would say the Democrats are better for stability in business, now Joe and his aging mental state is retiring. Trump is way too unpredictable toward whatever whim is going on next, or whoever talks to him nicely, which is exploitable by anyone with half a brain, but stacks like a Jenga pile about to tip over. I would think if this was a more stable Republican, without all the legal troubles and rabble-rousing, you'd see a clearer rightwing victory. This is incidentally who he's trying to portray himself as now, but you can't change a lifelong image in a few months even with people's 5-minute attention spans. The internet always brings back old videos, images, speeches and controversies etc.

Here are two favorite oldies: Certainty is one of the six human needs, but so is uncertainty.

Love yourself yes. The concept of yourself you have in your head, your physical body, the actions you take. But also the girl on your phone, because that's also you, and that's why you are in a relationship. Assuming that is what we are discussing, not a casual hookup. If you are secure in your attachment to a person, then you are comfortable with them or without, it doesn't take you away from yourself or produce an unhealthy result, it does the opposite. That's what secure or stable means, that's a big chunk of what a healthy relationship is. You are describing an avoidant attachment style. I sympathize as I am. in part, an avoidant also. The video I posted will probably reflect you directly, and I suggest at least a viewing of the initial interactions. Here is more data. Avoidant: https://therapist.com/relationships/attachment-theory-styles/avoidant-attachment/ Secure: https://www.simplypsychology.org/secure-attachment.html If we want to go more meta, non dual etc. Love cannot be taken. You are love. You are always anchored to yourself.

Loneliness is an experience you are generating too. You are finding the loneliness within yourself and experiencing it. You don't have a default state you are infinity. In this reality, you can create an experience of yourself. If you want a joyful experience, you find the joy in yourself. If you feel this life lacks meaning, find meaning in yourself. If you want the experience of being connected, find the connections in yourself. You can have the complete opposite experience you are having now if you want to. You have the controls more now that's all, all that has changed is you've peeked behind the curtain a little. Infinity isn't ONE, or WHOLE either. Its everything. One, Whole, Many, Split, Blue, Red, Big, Tiny.

The last couple of decades: Leftwing Policies: What do you need? Rightwing Policies Who do we hate? Obviously, there is more to this, the right wing generally favored the wealthy and business, and the left generally favored the working class and worse off. That used to be true. Most are substandard policies because they are afraid of the word socialism, for example. https://www.politicalcompass.org/ Recently, the supposed left in most Western cultures have become center-right or rightwing parties, which explains dumb things like this: For something to be stable, it needs: Authoritarian, Socialist, Capitalist, and Libertarian pillars; the more of these it has in balanced quantities, the more effective it will be. Obviously the balance tips depending on the issue, but it still needs a balance. For example, the balance here in the video no matter the goal, is way off. Think about all the steps you could go through for an internet site or group, before you make a law. From social engagement with communities or therapies to closing the website or group, to better understanding the problem and helping individual people. (Teaching family values) No it's a law, and it's stupid. *This puts aside my bias of wanting to hear all views BTW, which is far preferable. If no calls to violence are being made, or criminal damage of some kind, then people should be able to express any opinion.

A pretty good summary, he expands on what I said with more information; there is not a lot new but it is well structured. For the Russians, a Mobilization from their preferred ethnicities or leaving the Donbas offensive.

Here are a few other perspectives, with a pro-Russian one at the bottom. Should leave Ukraine with some territory for trade, or at least a lot of damage to the Russian war infrastructure in the area.

Armenia leaves CSTO It's early for this news. but I've seen one pro-Russia source confirming it, but that's it so far. I imagine that much social unrest will suddenly happen in the country under pressure from Russia and BRICS, don't be surprised if that's the case. Two different sides of the story.

An Anxious Attachment Style: Video that might help: https://tealswan.com/legacyworkshops/n2018/stockholm1/?t=1330 More data: https://psychcentral.com/health/anxious-attachment-style-signs The video is specifically the kind of person you might attract, which might help to see the often attracted opposite (avoidant). YouTube has quite a lot of examples of Anxious Attachment styles, or the other types: like disorganized and avoidant etc. Hope it helps. For balance: It's not a bad thing to enjoy communication with someone you are interested in and look forward to them messaging you. That's part of a romantic relationship. I also understand anything can be taken too far, and if you crave and chase attention then yes that would be unhealthy. I felt it was important to try to put that in context for you.

I will say that if you meditate regularly and you have a busy mind-day, you can have thoughts and be peaceful at the same time, its almost like you have two minds at that point. The small chatter, but I can also feel the peace and my mind filling with an energy that feels like space or harmony which often stays with me through the day. I don't know what it is like for others, I tend to like to reach the color vortex, my mind's eye tends to be blue or purple when my focus is there.

Allow the thoughts for a while. Be present with yourself, don't need to run, or resist. Feel what's there, go through what is in your mind or body, and allow it to fully be expressed. Realise you are allowing these thoughts and feeling, and your focus determines them, so focus on letting go, acceptance, love, supporting, being a friend to yourself, or breathing (other examples: whatever you need - want - can learn from - assist with - reassure - help or be helped by). Bring your thoughts and focus to this, don't fight it, surrender to it. Get in a peaceful environment free of distractions, or at least a peaceful space. - Eventually, this matters less, but I still like the back garden as it is pleasant, anything remote near water, or the clean room with no electronics indoors. It is mostly allowance, and surrender. Giving the self to the selfless. Experiencing more of your infinite self, and feeling/experiencing/being that. It can start as simple as bringing the mind to your breathing, and allowing whatever happens to happen. Some days I have a lot on my mind too, and that's okay, I am there with it. Infinity is there alongside the bill I have to pay, the emotion I feel, or the thing I wish had gone differently. Peace is there too and you become the peace, the stillness, and surrender those thoughts, those feelings and stresses to yourself. Don't fight it though, or else you'll experience fight, the stress of resistance to what is.

This woman is the best I've seen on this issue. You can search on that channel for more narcissism related videos:

@LordFall We already do receive infinity. Not slices. Try not to think in terms of purely size, infinity is also tiny. This moment is all that exists in your reality, you are experiencing it in its entirety right now. Which means you are experiencing infinity (yourself), and that is all that exists. Then we invent things in our mind that are possible or potential, but these don't exist because they are outside of our reality, they are concepts. I'll touch on this more in the ending below. Are there states of being where you can recall more information, yes. Are there states of being where you can perceive more, yes. But the receiving of infinity you are doing in its entirety right now. It is altering your bodies, your mind, your cells, your relationships, your choices, your distinctions etc. As we do to the AI (and it does to itself in its self-learning). If we want to fix on size or complexity (which is perhaps more helpful) Its true there is much stored outside of the memory to recall. I've touched on some things, the unconscious has a vast amount of data for you to access, and how and where things occur in life is crucial to remember as a factor, all the things that make your mind and your reality yours. So while I agree we can create anything. It doesn't make it more or less towards the absolute, because infinity doesn't have a size, dimension, form, amount, or nature, in its totality. Humanity is part absolute, part self, these are the two things we are talking about, the self can be fashioned in many ways, but the absolute half remains unquantifiable.

This touches on subjects that are hard to quantify (obviously ) Infinity, and put in a way we've not discussed much before. So there'll be obvious gaps here in my communication, but that's fun too. 1) Part of me wants to say all that exists is the moment you are having and if you are reading text, that is the universe. Along with the page, what it evokes inside you, the air around you, your emotional/energetic state, the feel of the paper, how and where it unfolds in life etc. I experience that all that exists is the observation of the current moment, if that's 1's and 0's then that is what it is. 2) Part of me wants to say that the potential of infinity is infinitely greater than the written word or an electronic impulse. If we consider AGI to be the process of adapting the AI itself, that we are doing to it, then I can consider we've reached it now because we are altering the shape of the machine internally and externally in its entirety in the ongoing process of receiving infinity. However, there is no 'superior' in an infinite state, the term doesn't make sense. If we consider AGI to be a fixed state you that you are trying to example to me, no, because no fixed form is able to receive infinitely. I've been wanting a way of wording this for a long time, and this is the best I have. In order to receive infinity the form has to be infinitely changing.

The responses a human produces are somewhat predictable and follow an ever-evolving pattern. The input a human receives is infinite. Our reality uses both these things to be what it is. Infinite complexity, infinite subjects, infinite connections, infinite variables, infinite calculations, infinite ways to structure the data etc. Yes also the output a human makes is infinite even if you can recognize a familiar tone or way of being. Receiving an infinite amount of something is not going to be possible in a fixed form. You are not a fixed form. Until they can make the AI actually adapt itself physically to receive infinity, just like your body, life, cells, social groups, mind, distinctions, consciousness etc does, then it cannot receive infinity. Vortex maths is far superior to regular math; It may require using life's building blocks to better imitate life. Imitate, because that can still be patterned, modeled and improved. The process of improving AI is the closest we'll get to an AGI imho.

Good luck to you. The word you picked: Deal. Makes me want to say be easier on yourself, and be a good friend to yourself.

Anything can be expanded in your mind to infinity and forever. Don't just think in terms of physical size, the reality you create to experience and understand is a lot more than a physical dimension of size. A quick example: This topic can be expanded forever or it can be ended by a moderator right after this post. Everything 'can be' infinite, because you are, it can also end because 'ending' is a concept in infinity that we've defined. So yes, whatever concept of god you want to label can be infinite, so can the emotion you are experiencing, or the business you want to run, your love for a sport, the relating you can do with someone or toward something, the ways to perceive a planet or the nature of the universe, understanding the living ocean, etc This is all done in your head. I am not pulling strings in your head. So it's in one mind. Yours

Yes on the deepest level there is no life. If you do nothing, there is nothing but the experience and observation of it. The response above was great advice for how that person creates meaning in their life. So how will you create meaning, purpose, passion, experience, connection, significance **** insert the noun here, in yours? https://www.tonyrobbins.com/blog/do-you-need-to-feel-significant https://tealswan.com/resources/articles/relationships-and-the-six-human-needs Most of the time those six needs drive emotional reactions in us, and depending how well realised and chosen those behaviors/patterns we are running to achieve them are, dictates where we place on the emotional spectrum.

Look at a problem you've solved in life and then find a way to sell how you did it. If you haven't solved any at all, think harder, if you still can't think of one then solve one!