BlueOak

It's interesting and perhaps helpful to think of how consciousness forms into a creation to experience itself in a certain way. You do it every day, and every moment, you reform or change, experiencing infinity differently. It's also helpful and breaks the logical mind to understand now is all that exists. This point in the pattern of your life. We do this X to manifest that Y, but there is no past, or future. You are just reforming yourself right now to be what you need/want/will/are patterned to be.

Do you mean for once, people won't just be talking meme's and weird internet conspiracies to rounds of applause? Have we grown? This was the most annoying thing from American politics because I had to interact with people whose reality was so far out of synch with mine that it made each conversation an exercise in futility, even on the small day-to-day things.

That is the main message I wish I could shout from the rooftops. That the so-called average working man, who puts a hard day's work in, and gives a damn about the woman he's with, does his best by her is so devalued (in his own mind) at the moment it's comical. We have guys looking to Andrew tate or millionaires for how life is supposed to be, celebrities or tiktokers with fake profiles rolling in cash and free gifts, and then the average guy wonders why his head and world are upside down. Ditto the girls who are given completely backward priorities and expectations from the current age of materialism we are in. People wonder why the birthrate is down, and dating for them is a minefield.

Ease up and calm down a bit. I've had too much exposure to good women. I've seen my mother carry three jobs and two kids when my father was near death. I've seen a woman drop a man because a friend earned a bit more. I'll let you guess which I took as an example to look for. Yes a man is a provider, that is a positive trait. I've gone over why in multiple posts as to this filter, and its always served me well in finding good women who appreciate when you provide for them, they don't expect it, it's not assumed, and they all had zero entitlement. Your generation has gone too materialist for its own good.

Women put the time in. So do men. The hours I put in lifting weights, running and learning my trade. The blood sweat and tears of building my self up to be the man she wants, physically, mentally, financially, socially etc, and going through all the hoops I went through to get my life, mind and body straight. Yada Yada. No men talk about this because that's just how it is. Only when someone comes and tells me I had it easy do I bring it up. And BTW, none of that surface-level preparation you just said is what I look for in a woman, it's the lifetime she put into being who she is. Honestly, I think you are too far into the materialism and 'image above all' of the 20's, like most people now with that answer.

I agree that is who I look for. I used to always believe that as an absolute in all things. Recently, there has been a push in the collective for people to be the same more than complimentary in certain ways. Example: (2.30) is relevant to opposites. Nuanced:

I don't do fun and spontaneous. Not that kind of person. I am serious and planned. I loathe the term 'game' for example. Of course, I look at all those things, for me, that goes without saying. Shy smile, touch of the face, and kindness towards others draws my eyes. Are we relating in how we view the world, and are we connecting, does she have depth, creativity, and a playfulness I find initially interesting? That's the next level, and after that it's integrity: Is she honest, loyal to her friends and family? If I've got that far, it's going very well. Then, because I'm a man I'm looking at her beauty again, while the other half of my mind is trying to formulate something interesting that connects with what we've shared. You can say it proves nothing, but you can say that about anything. It's a first date. How she reacts will prove how she relates to me at this point, that's all I've got to work with.

Yeah, we have a chasm of difference in how we look at it, and that's fine. I understand your judgments better because I now understand how you view first dates. I don't mess women around, I am authentic all the time. If I date them I date them. I am not looking to get laid and leave. But they'd know that because I say something similar to them before they'd even met me in person. I don't attract partners who are not serious, and I don't attract people who don't know what they want or who they are: Meaning they have no problem telling me.

That's fine we wouldn't be compatible. The first date for me is a getting-to-know-you date, which is going on from both parties. Part of that is how is she regarding money and expectations. The very fact she'd make it a big deal, for example, would tell me a lot about how I'd relate to her. I am making money more important in my life and have been for some time, and is one of a hundred things I would unconsciously and consciously respond to on that date. Women will be scrutinizing plenty about me on that first date, and I will be with them also. However, the topic of the thread is what it is. Had it been what are the top three things I look for, we'd be having a different conversation.

I'll repeat what I said in the last one. If you are a provider, and they love that, they are loving that part of you. If that's all they love its a shallow relationship with not much relating or love going on. I gave two examples to filter this: Think of cheap, or better free, but sentimental and purposeful gifts you can give to her regarding your relationship, and see how she reacts when you give them to her. Ask her to pay half on the first date, it's not a perfect filter as people can object for different reasons. but it helps. That first date is all about getting to know each other, often on a surface compatibility level, which can quite honestly be as simple as agreeing (or disagreeing) on a location or activity to tell you something about her. Visual beauty is nice. Spiritual people are often interesting but until you are in close proximity, getting hot under your collar when she's standing 5 feet away, I don't call those things romantic attraction. This is why I detest dating apps honestly and much prefer the idea of speed dating in person. Dating apps can give you cerebral compatibility, but it's meaningless without that biochemical reaction going on.

The lifestyle you provide is part of you. If they love the lifestyle you provide, they are loving that part of you. If that's all they love, it's a shallow relationship with not much relating going on. Some people are shallow, or some people will never relate to you much, so don't get involved intimately with them. For money a fairly simple rule I have would be to ask the girl to pay half on the first date, I understand this puts more traditionally-minded women off but for me, it is a good filter. You can pay for the next 100 dates if she takes that first half/half. Also if she loves simple things that show you care or thought about her, that's a good sign. You can gauge these two very early on.

Quote: As President I hold the power to summon the Dáil as well as dissolve it. So as i said before, I would have all the answers the people of Ireland seek from these thieves of the working man, these disrupters of the family unit, these destructors of small businesses, and on and on and on! These charlatans in their positions of power would be summoned to answer to the people of Ireland and I would have it done by day end. Or I would be left with no choice but to dissolve the Dáil entirely. Stop the train until. The people of Ireland deserve the answers they seek. Point blank. This would be my power as President. I know very well. Ireland needs an active President employed wholly by the people of Ireland. It is me. I am the only logical choice. 2025 is upcoming… End Quote Source: https://x.com/TheNotoriousMMA/status/1831676863334273494 No plan then. Just rage against the machine. We might get a soft 90's anti-establishment repeat in the 30's, as I somewhat predicted, but it'll fall on its face unless AI really takes off to inspire a significant shift. The 20's did have an emphasis on image and materialism in it as the 80's did, but it's not the same energy now at all. More of this I suppose? Chaotic Rage Rage Rage ready to come out for a release.

Money is politics. The two are inseparable. All that can happen is people value different things which gives different people power. That doesn't happen much because the people with money ensure they remain in control. Let's say all large donations were removed from politics, and by determined effort, we could eliminate all financial incentives given to politicians. The people with money are still significantly shaping society and those same politicians and voters in the first place. They are some of the pillars which hold up society too, and keep it stable and functioning in the form it's in, they employ the best and they stay on top because they excel at competition. I guess that is part of the reason why conscious people were encouraging many of us to start businesses 10 years ago, in the hopes that a few people out of the many trying (or collectively) would earn enough money to have more significant influence, but when you weigh that against an oil company, weapons manufacturer, or banking firm who are the bedrock of how society functions, I see the futility of the gambit. Not to say things don't change around the edges, within the populace, or external stimuli, but I don't foresee a time even if we had stage yellow leaders where money wouldn't be the primary catalyst, inhibitor, or foundation of anything significant happening at all in politics or anywhere else.

Although our views are likely different, I have liked following your progress and want to continue to wish you the best of luck with it. Now you know the steps, you've just got to motivate yourself to do it and take the plunge once or twice. You can start small and learn the ropes, on an easier issue like a popular small local thing people want, and work up from there.

I used to regret the loss of information in decades gone by, we lost a lot of nuggets in the earlier days of the internet. All it takes is to mildly annoy the wrong advertiser, or person with someone with minor financial backing. We need to archive information better than we do, it can be very hit-and-miss with the methods we currently use. It is unfortunately something you will come across more with time. Worse, you'll unavoidably lose the people who put out that information also. This of course needs to be balanced as information is improved or updated, and allow for private personal data to still be wiped for individuals.

Can you provide examples of this decline? I see it as a constant, much like every other country. It might be better to say its changing. The core of sides for the latest round of world conflicts are well established now, so these countries mostly focus on those in the middle such as Turkey, while flaring up what each side would call extremism in the opposing territories.

Yes but you are still female. So you are still looking at it like a female to male, understandably so. In this scenario the woman isn't the defining factor, the other man is. The woman could have been anything, car, job, sports team, work performance, whatever. Its not a strong attachment at all as you mention, or the basis of a relationship toward the woman, it is merely how men are with each other, and forms part of their relationship with each other. The relationship with the woman, or anything else, is defined by different things not the competition between the men. (Unless she's into that, it is sometimes what sparks a girl's interest but not much more than that.).

That's because you are looking male to female, rather than male to male. It's in the male nature to compete with other men over anything. The male relationship to women is different but toward other men anything can have a competitive element in my experience. Often this can be as simple as a friendly banter checking people, or a more serious rivalry. It's also at work or in social circles for example. It's not in me as much but I can play along, I see it everywhere, and some people are naturally more competitive than others.

You don't need: To dominate others (yourself) for money. External pieces of yourself for validation. Popularity to feel good. You can have these things, but you don't need them. If you are seeking these things externally from the reality, then these are pieces of yourself that are actually thumping away inside your chest already, that you are either hiding from, running from, or fighting. Go within. Whatever it is in you that is seeking this sit with it, sit with that emotion in that state that comes up when you are feeling it. Don't do any of this, or that or the other, until you are okay with that part of yourself, and not just okay but you've completely embraced it internally. Embracing it can come in different forms, sometimes feeling it out, comforting it, learning from it, protecting it, and listening to whatever it's saying. Whatever it is for you, but don't freeze/fight/run from it. I allow visualisations too when I feel an emotion lodged in my body regarding something, often using inner child work, and if it's a chronic subtle state that can take some awareness to see it. Sometimes its me in the parent form, sometimes the kid is an equal, sometimes its running the show, have fun with it. Then see if the desire is still there, or if you are at a point of neutrality and balance. The reason I know you haven't embraced it internally is because you are still asking if you should do something. You are going to the reflections of yourself and asking us to structure your identity for you, rather than doing it yourself. I sympathize as my parents left me with no secure self identity whatsoever, and most of my life I was either imitating survival instincts or doing what you are doing: mimicking. You don't need any validation from anyone here whatsoever for your own identity. You build that from within by your own feelings and experiences.

What are you trying to connect to? This. I understand the culture war in society makes this less appealing, but meditate on this. Infinite love requires loving the part of you that wants this too. You are running away or pushing away something you are feeling and its causing you to splinter. This is how everyone divides themselves.

This is a good synchronicity; it's what I am watching right now at this spot.

It would kill whatever is left of the populist left, and probably hurt a populist center brand. The corporate left and center sure, they can grift. It's also about how ideological vs career someone is. A lot of these right wing personalities are just raking in whatever money they can, whereas a lot of the leftwing personalities are taking small donations with no major backers (with some obvious exceptions).

6 Commentators in total including: Dave Rubin, Tim Pool, Benny Johnson, and Lauren Southern https://www.vox.com/politics/370323/tenet-media-russia-what-happened-tim-pool-dave-rubin-benny-johnson-lauren-southern Though it spreads through the rightwing media outlets, to nobody's surprise. The video sums in up in the first few minutes who they are connected to.

Russian agents, bought and paid for. They are just more open about it now, or we have access to better data about their finances. The Russians have done a good job in the media space, better than people gave them credit for. But China, America, Europe etc do an even better job, as you usually aren't aware who they have paid to say what. It sometimes comes out who the Chinese agents are in England for example: https://bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-59984380 But it isn't common.

The problem with free speech is it isn't free. 1, The platform dictates the speech. Money dictates the platform. 2, He who shouts loudest drowns out others. The internet and communication is designed poorly as a pyramid, as with most of society. 3, Luck and money dictate what is put into the public consciousness and what then becomes largely accepted reality. 4, People don't understand the power of 3. It literally changes your life every second of every day. 5, Skill and expertise is a far greater benefit than a loud voice or a big bank account, thus free speech as an absolute is a detriment to society. 6, I have touched on crisis situations but this applies to all situations with a risk factor. Poor information gets people killed, ruins their financial savings, families, and health. There is a lot of terrible information on social media. I don't mean opinions I disagree with, I mean objectively inaccurate information. 7, Then we can look at all the collective problems absolute free speech encourages, such as the breakdown of social order and cohesion. The polarization of society exists because too much emphasis is given on the individual not the society as a whole. If this were free speech, individuals need to be balanced with collectives in the public discourse. Not at a ratio of thousands to 1 in the information we are given. Because information isn't given relative weights of importance, its often purely egoic in who we like the sound of.