Vercingetorix

How old are you? Did you see her in real life before? Can you go and take care of her for a period of time before deciding? Is this a romantic relationship? There is kind of consensus about relationships that they tend to not work if the man put the woman before anything else, that a man should have something more important than his woman, otherwise she will resent him. Leo in his dating videos and David deida in "The way of the superior man" advice so.

I would suggest doing the Life purpose course as there is definitely a lot of focus on motivation in it. It would also help you understand yourself and whats important for you, and that can really help in your indecisiveness. If you see yourself wasting your time doing unproductive things that sure as hell you should do it instead.

@Vibivub thanks, sounds interesting right now I'm just a hopefully Videogame Designer

@Live Life Liam Thanks a lot, I'll check out Journey and "the Stanley parable". to be honest I too do not own now any gaming equipment and the height of my gaming career was 10 years ago, but many of my best memories were during those days (games like the Gothic series ;D ), and I still feel a huge excitement thinking of being involved in quality games.

@Alphard If you have different view on the subject, can you share it?

@Leo Gura seems wise So for the sake of communication, someone who experienced a "no ego experience" is an enlightened person and someone who transcended his wife completely is "fully enlightened"?

Eckhart tolle enlightenment experience for example would classify as "complete enlightenment" in your book?

you are a hero and you are on a heros journey, with obsacles and monsters and boses and a holy grail in the end. This moment that you reached right now is maybe one of your boses. Its here to test if you really want to achieve what you want in life, its here to test your resolve, how badly do you want to achieve what you want in life. Its compeletly up to you to overcome it if you want.

what are your thoughts and feeling when you try to converse? Basically you think something and see it as a "truth" - you believe your thoughts. what if I told you your thoughts live in a different dimension than reality, they are just in your head and you don't have to believe them! So there is reality and you are projecting on it your own thoughts and creating a different reality that is usually very negative and thus demanding a negative emotional reaction. But it is not reality! because just as easily you could have noticed a positive observation about the situation. So you have to recognize that thoughts are just in your head!! they are not the reality, and then you can react to what's really happening and not to the distorted reality that your mind invented that required the awkward reaction.

You have to ask her how she views the relationship. It's very bad for you to be in love with someone in a relationship.

@Sarah_Flagg haha I see! But doesn't such things seem to contradict Leo's approach? when you die the ego dies, how could it communicate with the living world if it doesn't exist anymore? and anyway why would someone be interested in such things even if they are possible? isn't it just another distraction in your way to higher consciousness? do you know of the One Million dollar paranormal challenge by James Randy? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One_Million_Dollar_Paranormal_Challenge

@Sarah_Flagg I am also a skeptic simply because haven't experienced anything "extraordinary" in my life, and the fact that such claims are seem to be easy to prove scientifically, and if you can prove them scientifically you will get a Nobel prize, a lot of money and recognition and on top of that you will help science advance to it's next stage! what are your thoughts on that?

I have these periods of quite intense suffering, I guess It can be called anxiety? mostly it's when I'm alone, and don't talk to people for a few days, and my negative thoughts are getting the better of me. I tried a lot to solve this through mindfulness and being aware, not identifying with my thoughts/feelings, just watching, but so far my conclusion is that somewhat I only worsen the situation by doing so, my attention keeps energizing the negative thoughts/feeling. Only trick for me that seems to work, most of the time, is seeing my negative thoughts, and telling myself, well yes maybe theses thoughts are true, but it's not for me to to tell if they are, it's not for me to judge them (the thoughts or people/situations). it must works together with an emotional "giving up" as well. (Then sometimes I follow it by saying, don't worry, trust the universe (or I guess god works too if you believe) , it will take care of you! It must work in a emotional level to work of course). why I think it works? our mind is a tool to solve problem, doing a great job when used correctly. The problem arise when It try to solve a problem that he can't solve, or a problem that doesn't exist, or a problem that he is the own culprit of. then he keep trying and trying and trying, without success because he can't solve it, and the frustration and suffering and anxiety arise. The the solution is to make him understand that he can't solve it, and for me it works by telling him it's not his job ("it's not for you/me to judge"). thoughts? does this resonate with anyone else experiences?

I am just finished my undergrad Physics degree and this bothers me as well. I am not sure if I should continue with Physics or find something that A) I am more passionate about B) Suits more my "enlightenment" goal, if such thing exist ;), I guess a work where practicing mindfulness is easier?

Just an hour ago I realized something Eckhart Tolle said, That you can be happy only in the present moment, never in the future when all your expectations will come true, so my reply might be colored by this realization. But if you realize this, you stop caring about something that was in the past and might influence your future, because you know your happiness is not there, it will never be in the future, only in the present moment, so you stop caring for the future or past, you focus on the present moment and the joy it offers. You stop wasting energy on the future because it has nothing to offer you.

There can be lots of "mini Enlightenment" or realizations in the spiritual path, But as I understand it only one Ultimate Enlightenment, the realization that there is no self. You are talking about this one right? that you have no more sense of self? well congrats

Are you nervous, on guard when this situations happen? maybe you need to learn to be relaxed, laid back and in peaceful/humors state? (to know you are in this state: you won't care if someone thinks you give bad vibes because you know you are peaceful inside).

can't you use and and enjoy it with your partner? doesn't he appreciate and enjoy your femininity?

Enlightenment, higher states of consciousness - at all seems and feels true. But shouldn't there be some objective proofs supporting it? if so what are they? Another question - why such things should exist, can it be explained scientifically, via evolution? Or in order to explain it I must suppose there is consciousness in the universe that wishes to evolve? Why I'm asking I guess I'm asking because sometimes I lose faith. In the past 10 years I spent 100+ of hours practicing meditation, but I could never achieve a state of "no mind". (Sure I could just do it wrong, ). I also practiced, and continue to practice, a lot of mindfulness, like I can watch myself for long periods of times, I mostly try to be conscious when I feel bad / Suffer but I feel that I only perpetuate the suffering this way, like I keep energizing the negative thoughts this way even though I "watch" them. I guess that means I continue to identify with my thoughts / emotions while still being aware of them?

@drelamore well I set and sit down a lot, lack of practice isn't my problem. But I agree there no more much to discuss. @jjer94 well in the way you describe things nothing is true, only the present moment. So if do Spiritual Autolisis that would be my conclusion, how do I benefit from this?

@drelamore yeah I can see that! isn't it true also for the spiritual map? and I've made experiments in the lab the confirm physical law, so I can attest that those part of the map are true.

@drelamore I can repeat the experiment and get the same results, otherwise its not considered a law. That's the idea of science: everything this is proven you can repeat @ your home/lab and get the same results. do you think science is a conspiracy? than how come be can build planes, go to the moon, have laser surgeries...

@drelamore well I am well aware that enlightenment is a subjective phenomena and science deals with objective phenomena. Still there are stories of extraordinary things happening around enlightened people, maybe someone here exprienced such things. scientific for me means objectively true - such knowledge that doesn't rely on others, only on your self to know it is true. Such knowledge can motivate in my spiritual path, which right now I believe is true but can't know for sure until I experience something to validate it.

@drelamore you mean if science is reality? no. but what's your point?

@drelamore well but you don't need faith for science, it just works (Physics, chemistry...) maybe its because I have a degree in Physics but I think what it can describe (so called objective reality) it describe accurately. I remember Osho for example agreeing with this. @Grasshopper well yeah it's the subjective world, science can't say anything about it!