TomKay

Of course there is no "we", but right now you're just playing with words. I've tried to keep it simple and maybe show the way for further realization, but I honestly couldn't give a bigger fuck about words all that much. My goal is to give perspective. Tell me more about "mind games" please.

I can only fully agree with what @Pinocchio has written. You @Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj have mentioned detachment. The truth is there really is no detachment at all. We are all one, we are all connected. The thing is people are in different phases in their lives and so you may experience lack of "connection", but as @Pinocchio said, that's all mind games. Practise more self-love in its very essence and you will see that "others" are just reflections of your own self. After all, you make your own reality so ultimatelly there is nothing like "others". It's just you in different phases. Be very mindful of that and be happy that you can actually see that. Work on yourself even further and you shall see "better" reflections in your life.

@kris4114 Hey there, I'd like to give you a bit of advice which helped me some time ago: Go and identify your most "negative" bad habit and deal with that in the first place. You've mentioned that you have a drinking problem, so go with that first. Also take a look on the things you eat. Most addictions are born of not being able to cope with the reality itself. Funny thing is, to be able to really cope with reality and really "own it" for yourself (which is all there is actually), you must first get rid of "quick fixes" and things that cloud your vision. Alcohol, sex, drugs, junk food, social medias are most common and maybe even considered normal in today's society. So my friend, just start with the "chemical" ones like alcohol and food. Mind what you eat, mind what you drink. Be in a present moment and KNOW things shall get better. They most surely will become better, of that I can assure you. You will know when you are strong enough to make next step(s), just be patient. Remember to take "baby steps" with focus on keeping your mind clear as much as possible. The blueprint for YOU and NOW is simple: get sober, start eating healthy. Good luck, take care of yourself and most importantly, don't give up! Namaste. - TK

It seems to me that you try to change your surroundings with the knowledge you think you possess. I can only give you one advice: Put yourself in some better surroundings. Changing your surroundings is extremely difficult and mainly long-term process in which you are not in full control most of the time. Focus on yourself and the things that YOU can actually do for yourself. Take action! - TK

Hello there, my awakened (hopefully) friends, I'm new here and this is my first post, funny how I've just stumbled upon this particular topic which has been my daily routine for a few weeks now. So let me share my 50 cents on this I started taking cold showers on 5th January 2016. It's actually been my tool/mechanism for staying on-track with NoFap challenge, which I actually accomplished pretty comfortably in the end. I know deeply that cold showers have helped me tremendously with this quest, but I could not have ever imagined how significantly it would change my (perception of my) own life. To be brutally honest (as Leo often says), I didn't think I would hold on to this habit for too long. I just wanted to accomplish NoFap and cold showers seemed to me like a beneficial tool. I started off during winter season with as-cold-as-technically-possible water, the first time I've actually tried I literally couldn't catch my breath, I felt tremendous pain everywhere, my brain was frozen and my shower time was less than a minute long. But I've never taken a warm/hot shower since then yet. Today it's exactly 52 days of strictly cold showers for me. The benefits for me are (in no specific order): Super strong immunity, no illness whatsoever. Willpower level 9000. Confidence level 5000 and still going higher every single day. Great skin, great hair. Refreshing thing in the morning and sleep-inducing in the evening. Sort of meditation technique for me. After a rough day it seems to put me in a balanced state of mind. Before a rough day it makes me feel like a superman. I can do anything & everything. It turns my body into a lean and fit shape, no workout required. For real. And these are just the ones I can think of right now. I also noticed that I turn myself into an action-taker, I am (almost strangely) calmly confident, happy, positive and level-headed. More loving & caring as well. It goes hand in hand with bunch of other stuff that I also do (namely being a vegan for a few months now), but still, cold showers are for me The Catalyst which hugely helps me GROW myself every single day. And it's free! I write this post for you right after a cold shower, I can now take freezing cold water for up to 15 minutes straight with a smile on my face. I can really enjoy my time in a cold shower now, it's just amazing what it does to you when you surrender and let go of being slightly uncomfortable. My balls are ice cold even now (30 minutes later) and I start to become really tired now, but that's allright, I've done a lot today. I'll just do some self-improving reading and then go straight to bed (around 10PM). I should also note that cold showers helped to get me on my feet at 5AM every single day, something I wasn't capable of doing in the past. Lastly, I can give you a few tips on how to start. First, go with ice-cold water right off the bat. Do not be a pussy. Better go with 30-60 seconds of ice-cold shower and enjoy your time doing something better instead. Second, start with feet, then add your genitalia and then go straight for the head and the rest of your body. Breath out as hard and long as you can, it seems to help with the pain. Third, keep in mind that it's just a water. Water can not hurt you in any way (unless you try to drown yourself, of course). After all, you are mostly made of water, so what's the big deal? The ego holds you back, your body holds you back and your habit of being stuck in your comfort-zone holds you back too. So just go and beat it, it's definitelly worth it. I am proof that it can literally change your life for the better. You'll never go back to warm showers again. Good luck, stay healthy, enjoy your days. Don't forget to smile! - TK