Ramzi08

my female best friend and I started flirting but when the question of a serious relationship between the two of us arose, she preferred to distance herself because I am a non-believer. It hurt me a lot. So my question is: does this constitute discrimination because of my ideas or just a matter of preference and taste?

@aurum why do I look to you like I don't want a serious relationship? I do want a serious relationship with her.

My female best friend( who I have been friends with for 3 years ) has started flirting with me lately. two weeks during which she told me that she would like us together and that we should get married immediately. I refused to flirt because I didn't really know if I wanted to be with her. as she saw that I was really not very interested, she asked me directly the following question: do you want us to get married? after I said it was a bad idea, she was a little bit disappointed and told me it was just a joke and that she would rather stay single all her life than be with me. The problem is that it's been a week since all this happened, and I feel a little regretful. Is it possible to win back a woman after such a story?

@Felliks what do I want ? Haha , good question. I have mixed feelings towards her . I'm not 100% sure wether I want a relationship with her but in the same time I get jealous when I see her talking to another guy .

the problem is in the title, I am not respected neither by my friends (which I do not have) nor by my acquaintances. no one seems to be interested in talking with me. Every time I start a discussion with someone on social media, they either Ghost me, left me on "seen" or don't restart the discussion and respond dryly. This stuff happened to me 7 or 8 times with 7 or 8 different people in just 3 or 4 months! What I really don't understand is that there are people who are much less interesting than me, and much more shy than me, who manage to find a social circle and be respected. The only person I consider a "friend" is a girl I haven't managed to seduce and who kept me in the friendzone. If you have any ideas to suggest to me, go ahead.

a good female friend of mine posted a selfie of the two of us in which she wrote "when you're trying to get your shit together in life, but there's some people that won't leave you alone" how should I interpret this message? Did she label me as clingy and in the friend zone? Or should I take it as just a joke and stop overthinking? P.S : she was the one who wanted us to meet and who suggested a meeting

@NoSelfSelf she's just a friend, I don't want to f*CK her .

Hello Everyone , My story is that of a 22 years old man , who had enough of his miserable and mediocre life . My problem is that of a young man who consider his self to be at stage Green/Yellow ( Late Green , Early Yellow ) living in a fucking third world country . I feel tired and miserable of being lonely all the time and not being able to live intense and meagninful relationships . It's been many years that i don't have any friend or girlfriend with whom i'll be able to share memories , experiences , victories and even hard times . Folks with whom i can simply FEEL ALIVE . Everyday , i literaly force myself to talk with people with whom i don't share any value or principle because we're not at the same stage of ego development. I feel tired of not being able to implement my life purpose and not being able to have my little contribution in the development of human kind . I FEEL BETRAYED BY MY LAZY GENES THAT DON'T HAVE ENOUGH WORK ETHIC TO WORK 16H PER DAY IN ORDER to develop my skills , to make money and to leave this country . It's just fucking hard to be wasting your youth and your hole life and not being able to do anything about it . Deep down in my heart i know that there's more to life i shoud be experciencing right know . but i simply can't , and i probably will never be able to do it .

@Vrubel One post doesn't define a man.

@StarStruck your understanding of spiral dynamics is very limited and caricatural. Someone who's trying to develop his work ethic, is not necessarily a person who's stuck at stage blue and trying to move to orange. Spiral dynamics is about consciousness and values, not about personal traits and work ethic

@Extreme Z7 Well , first of all , I'd like to say that my circumstances don't deliberately bother me , but i really feel stuck and clueless on how to escape my current situation. I'm not energetic enough to work hard , to fight my victim mentality and to change my situation, this is why I feel demotivated. Regarding relationships : I'm an extroverted kinda guy who really enjoy meeting new interesting people . Unfortunately, i live in country where the odds are against you to meet like minded people.

@Blackhawk i couldn't agree more . Bravo

@Majed this is exactly the problem, not being able to start working hard and developing the skills needed in order to avoid becoming a wage slave ( because I'm still in uni ) is so depressing. One hour a day is a joke when I see other people working non stop . And regarding women and friendships , believe me bro, it's not easy at all to find someone at stage green in a country where 95 of its population is still in stage blue .

@Vrubel if we follow blindly your reasoning , we would assume that everyone of us is capable of working 16h per day to achieve his dream life . this is complete BS. I've tried to discipline my self but it doesn't work, unfortunately. and yeah, i resonate with green and yellow, what does it have to do with my age ?

@Leo Gura i live in Algeria. I watched your videos on escaping wage slavery, and your two parts " life advice for young people" and many others . Those videos are definitely life transforming for those of us who are willing to take action. But I feel demotivated by my mediocre environment, and betrayed by my lazy genes . Every time I try to take massive action, my body just doesn't follow. I've really tried to take action, I've really tried...

@Devin For me , this is complete demagogy. I'm a young man with a lot of energy, i want to experience intensive emotions, to dare mighty things , even though checkered by failure rather than simply enjoying " nature and water " maybe I'll do that once I satisfy my primary desires

@Majed i already watched all of Leo's videos on the importance of taking actions and to stop blaming circumstances . I already did that. But like I said before, i felt betrayed by my laziness and it's so fucking difficult to change yourself.

@Loba yes, she seems a little addicted to the adrenaline rush of the first weeks of relationships. Thank you for the support.

Hello everyone , # I'm in a period of my life where I'm so needy & seeking for love so desperately . i heard Leo say once that i could fill my cup with love through spiritual work and passion. But i wish I had more details on how to become less needy . So , can anyone help me , please ? ## I met a girl 5 months ago with whom I got really attached. we study in the same faculty. we talked a lot and she told me that she loved me a lot. except that in recent weeks, she has become a little distant with me, she engages less actively in our discussions than before. she even told me that she can no longer say "I love you" and that it is a big word for a simple friend like me, whereas she said it to me many times before. I cried for 2 days because I got really attached to her and she was my closest friend. I asked her what was the reason for this change in behavior, she responded by telling me that she wanted to talk with others more than with me and that she didn't really want to talk with me anymore, while promising me that 'she was going to make an effort in the future. what should I do ? should I end my relationship with her or be aloof and cold while still being friends with this girl? I am in pain and I feel very lonely.

@Loba thank you so much. you are absolutely right. I must not invest my energy and my time on someone who is not ready to invest in the same proportion. she used me to spend some time with me, and then she let go of me.

@mememe I admit that I felt she was very direct. she was obviously sincere but cruel. and that's the most disappointing thing. it proves that she just wants to have a good time and she doesn't care who to spend it with. I feel like she used me to spend some time with me, and then she let go of me.

@mememe it seems like a good strategy. like you said, she seems to have a one on one communication personality. she therefore does not voluntarily and maliciously neglect our friendship. I wonder if this friendship is really worth it and if she will really change in the future.

@ZenRising that's exactly the problem, you really helped me understand the situation better. I am ready to make an effort, unlike her who seems happy with her new friendship . should I therefore speak to her about the necessity of making an effort? and above all, how to convince her to do it? because she seems okay with this new situation where we talk less frequently.

You're absolutely right. I noticed the exact same thing. She enjoys meeting new people and giving them attention in the early days of friendship. she told me that she spoke to me less and less because our relationship was losing the excitement of the beginning. and so she seeks that excitement with new people. The problem is that i still feel the excitement of talking to her and I'm still attached to her.

she told me that she lost interest because we probably talked too much together . she didn't tell me that she wanted to end our relationship but she just told me that she didn't guarantee that our relationship will go back to the way it was before. and she also met a new friend with whom she talks a lot these last days but he is younger than her so there is no seduction between them either