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  4. Posted

    @Knowledge Hoarder of course, but this is where the problem lies. Most people can’t read non-social cues. Or they just don’t care. 

    Plus If you are adviced to ignore when a woman says no and take it as a yes, or to keep pushing until you ‘close’  as some pickup instructs.. and you are someone with no people skills and a bad reader of body language then you are gonna ignore the ‘no’  aswell.. 

    I just genuinely feel like that advice isn’t good, you don’t know what kind of people are following that advice either. 

    because if you have a girl who is like awkward and saying no, but a guy has been told ‘don’t listen to no, push until you close’. Then if he can’t read her body language he could end up in a bad situation. 

    Hope this makes any sense I’m super tired.

  5. Posted

    Avoid using coercion to get sex.  If a girl has said ‘no’ or said she ‘doesn’t feel like it’ or just seems tired or whatever , then leave it be.  The more pressure you use you might make her ending up doing something just to get you to leave her alone.. 

    I Know pickup teaches to be persistent and to ignore the first few ‘no’s.  Or ‘no means yes’ etc.  This is outdated advice. This is trump style pulling.  Just leave it and find another girl who’s into you.  Don’t risk trying to coerce someone into having sex with you, could end badly. 

  6. Posted

    I feel like being non-monogamous can actually be quite needy and more just about sex. people with high sex drives who need sex and attention from many people to satisfy them.  I don’t expect or think people will stay in one relationship for ever.  But open relationships? yeah I don’t know, to me, it gives off a vibe of never being satisfied so always on the hunt for more. 
    Why not just be single and date lots of people?
    I don’t believe it’s really about ‘free love’ let’s be honest, it’s about sex.  
    I know people in open relationships and they all say same thing: they weren’t happy, they wanted more sex so they opened the relationship.

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    I think at early stage of relationship sharing costs is normal… have you had a discussion about the future of your relationship?  
    Just tell him how you feel.

    But if he’s behaving like a miser and counting every penny, then try and confront him on things.

     If you don’t want to spend much money just tell him ‘hey, I have no income you know, you have more money than me. If you wanna eat at the expensive place then you’ll have to pay..’  

    Show that you’re annoyed by his behaviour. 

    “tbh I’m sick of you counting every penny we spend it doesn’t make me feel good” and then go from there and see what his response is.  

    If married and if there are children involved I think it’s reasonable to expect the man to cover more financial costs - the woman has gone through pregnancy and is staying with the child.  It’s also reasonable since for women they get more tired as they age so it’s harder for them to keep working full time (depending on the job of course),and they become hardened. but men are physically stronger and not as emotional creatures so they can handle it better. 
     

  12. Posted

    Whilst prices have continued to rise and wages remain low, I don't think that's the main cause.  Even in the olden days if a weekly wage was 10 pounds, and a house would cost 30,000 that was still unaffordable to many people (I'm just making up a random number I don't know the exact costs) 

    One issue is down to the way boomers and gen X have parented. They might say us millenials aren't as ambitious, but they were the ones who raised us.. they wrapped us in cotton wool and didn't encourouge us to be independant from a young age!  

    Some other things I've noticed..

    People are in school longer:  the amount of people who go to university now compared to in earlier generations. In previous generations university was for people who could afford it, or you would only go if you really needed to, for example being a doctor or a lawyer.  But now everyone can go by getting a loan and some parental support.  I'm not saying going to university is a bad thing, it of course depends what you are going to do there. The problem is when almost everyone is going.  Sooo many choose to study something that they don't end up getting a job in, but they just chose it because they didn't know what else to do, so then all these people are dependant on parents and running up a debt until they are 24/25.

    Not enough people learning a skill/trade upon leaving school: people don't learn any life skills, working skills or trades that can earn them a living, instead they will continue schooling into their 20s. Then you have a huge amound of people going into the job market with degrees upon degrees and they can't get a job.  Then they end up settling for a minimum wage job because they can't keep being supported by their parents.

    Earlier generations or working class people usually get a job upon leaving school and do apprenticeships and learn skills so they will always have something to make money from which they can fall back on. 

    Life skills: The amount of people in their 20s and even 30s i have met who don't know how to cook and clean is crazy.  They are used to having a parent do everything for them.

    Harder to get a well paying job in your chosen field:  Because there are so many people searching for the same types of jobs, fresh from university, employers need to ask for more and more experience and you really have to be able to stand out.  Just having been to university is not enough anymore, because there are millions of other people who got the exact same degree as you so you aren't special.

    You need to do a lot of work for free just to get some experience.  So again people are kept in low wage jobs because there is too much competion/not enough options in chosen field.

    So all these things combined leads to people still being like children in their 20s, so no wonder they aren't ready for children until mid to late 30s.  it seems now that mid to late 30s is  when people start to become an adult.  It used to be "ok your'e 18 now you are an adult. early 20s, get married have a kid by 30"

    But yeah, these are all just things i've noticed.  It is so hard to save money on low wages and also be independant.  I don't really know what the answer is except do your best to learn a skill that can make you more money and decide you are going to be an adult asap lol.

     

     

  13. Posted · Edited by Pavement

    3 hours ago, Antor8188 said:

    if you are handsome it’s considered flirting if you are ugly it’s considered harassment what do you think of this statement? Do you think women have double standards?

    And if an girl you perceive as ugly flirts with you then you reject her and if a pretty one flirts with you you’ll be attracted. 

    the only different is that for a man there is no fear that the girl he’s rejected/not attracted to will harm him or creep on him 

  14. Posted

    Unless you’re addicted to porn I would see no reason for women not to masturbate, unless it was interfering with your life.  Women don’t ejaculate like men so it’s not loosing as much energy.. but yeah idk I thought the whole thing with no fap was about ejaculation sapping your energy, usually it’s body builders or men who lift weights that do it but now it’s becoming more of a thing. 
    I think if guys could orgasm without cumming thered be no need for no fap lol but maybe I’m wrong. 

  15. Posted

    1 hour ago, K Ghoul said:


    Riding a cock-carousel while playing hard to get games, all at the same 

    Being in a committed relationship yet cheating on that person, not being able to stay loyal.

    Having transactional relationships - withholding sex unless he gives/does something for her (exchanging her sex for his spending money on her)

     

    And who are you to judge them exactly? Do you have anything to bring to this thread apart from misogynistic judgemental comments and vulgar language, why bother?  

  17. Posted

    If you have to coerce a girl into sleeping with you by being overly persistent she’s likely just giving in because it’s easier for her than keep rejecting. I agree with @Preety_India Pestering women for sex reeks of desperation, especially for a one night stand, 2 hours is a long time to be trying to get into someone’s pants - sounds like she just gave In because it was easier than keep saying no. It’s just alot of pressure.  No doubt she regretted it the next day, but as long as you got what you want who cares right? 

  18. Posted

    2 minutes ago, lostingenosmaze said:

    @Pavement To be fair, that last line wasn't there initially until later on when Leo discovered the video potentially spreading. Leo and his moderators can edit their posts with no restrictions and no notifications that they did so.

    Ohhh ok, I didn’t see the post until hours later.  But yeah you are right, they can edit stuff without the the rest of us being notified. 

  20. Posted

    8 minutes ago, Gregory1 said:

    Thing is, where is the love in porn? It's just loveless naked bodies, rubbing against eachother. Love is missing that's what you feel. Porn is a transaction, true intimacy is love.

    I suppose thats the point.  With porn there is no fear of opening up to love or being seen by someone.  It’s a way to get your kicks without having to reciprocate. 
     

    2 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

    ? Tbh, you just hit the nail on the head. Noone will ever convince me that sex can be worse than porn, ever.

    Lol. Yeah and I mean, sure it’s nice if you’re feeling lazy, but to reach a point where it’s actually better than sex then that could be the point of no return..

    although I can also understand it is probably better than going out on pursuit of one night stands. 
    One night stands are never that great, sex gets better over several times with the same person. 

  23. Posted

    Leo:  “I’m taking down the video because people are too immature and I won’t talk about it anymore”  

    …meanwhile, in the dating section…

    Leo: “You're never going to get sufficient sex in real life to replace porn unless you got a rotation of 5 girls. Nor will the quality of most girls you get match that of porn. Most girls suck at sex. ” 

    Lol.

  25. Posted

    11 hours ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

    For the next 15-20 years of my life (at least), my answer to the question "Are you talking to other women/someone?" will always be "Fuck yeah I do!"

    What if you get a girlfriend in that time or will you want an open relationship?

    1 hour ago, Lyubov said:

    Dating for 4 years and engaged for a year” wtf ? 

    ?  You think that’s not enough time?